accepting self (belief systems), pt.2
Note: this is the second of two parts on accepting self. Go to accepting self (belief systems), pt. 1.
KATIE: “I also had another recent dream. Actually, it was more like a month ago. I dreamt that my father was with me, and he was holding me and praising me for all of my accomplishments and loving me in a way that I never experienced with him in life, and then he told me that there were some coming challenges, but that he would be with me throughout those. Was this actually my father, or was this imagery I created for myself?
ELIAS: This is imagery that you have presented to yourself in conjunction with tapping into energy deposits of this individual – not necessarily connecting with the focus itself, but connecting with aspects of the energy of that focus which are deposited within consciousness – and you have offered yourself this connection to be reassuring to yourself and to be validating yourself in the area that you may be receiving helpfulness through consciousness regardless of the situations that you may be encountering and creating within your physical focus.
KATIE: Okay. The challenges that he described – actually, that he didn’t elaborate on, but mentioned – are they related to some of the difficulties I’ve been having lately, particularly with my roommate?
ELIAS: Partially. This would be an example of these types of challenges as they relate to the identification of belief systems and the movement into the area of viewing and interpreting and beginning to be accepting of the aspects of belief systems, which may be a difficult process, in your terms, for these are the very elements of this shift in consciousness that we identify as being those elements of trauma as associated with this shift in consciousness, which may also be viewed as challenges as you move through these areas of viewing and allowing yourself to be confronting, so to speak, these different aspects of belief systems.
KATIE: Okay. So how am I doing at moving through these? Because right now it sure doesn’t feel like I am, (Elias grins) particularly with regard to the difficulties with my roommate.
ELIAS: (Chuckling) Let me express to you that as you allow yourself to move more fully into the area of viewing all of these different aspects of the belief system of relationship, you may offer yourself more helpfulness, and you may also offer yourself more elements of acceptance of yourself.
In this, individuals may be becoming confused in certain areas related to this subject matter. In your experiences, you may also, in like manner to many individuals, move in the direction of attempting to be accepting of OTHER individuals and their behaviors, and in this action, if you are not viewing the aspects of the belief system that YOU hold, you are defeating the point! (11) For in viewing the aspects of the belief system that YOU hold and addressing to these, you also automatically become less affected by the actions and behaviors of OTHER individuals, recognizing that they have not moved into the area of viewing these particular aspects of belief systems.
Now! I caution you in this, that you do not allow yourself to be moving into the trap of what you in physical focus term to be self-righteousness, viewing that you are more advanced than another individual within your movement, for this also is defeating of the point, for it is merely creating a judgment in another direction. It is merely altering your viewing of one bird and distracting yourself into the viewing of a different bird, but you have not allowed either bird to fly free from this cage of belief system.
Therefore, I express to you that your most helpful engagement with yourself in this area is to be allowing yourself to view each aspect of what you experience in the area of conflict and irritation, and each time you are experiencing these elements, you may express to yourself that you are confronting yourself with an aspect of the belief system, and in that, you may address to the aspect of the belief system that you are viewing and allow yourself to be accepting of that, and therefore lessen your own conflict. As you hold to these aspects of the belief system and justify within yourself, you merely reinforce the belief system and all of its aspects, and in that action, you are moving yourself into what we have designated as the trauma of this shift, which we are offering information to be avoiding that action.” [session 343, November 29, 1998]
JAN: “You’ve mentioned to me before that I hold issues in sexuality, and that these issues are blocking in tension with my partner, and I’ve been trying to identify those issues, and I was wondering if ... and I’m having some problems doing that! What are these issues that I’m holding?
ELIAS: This would be an area that you may be engaging a time framework to be dealing with, for these issues are concerning your own view of self and your acceptance of self.
You are moving into areas that you allow yourself more of a trustfulness of yourself, but you equate trustfulness and acceptance as synonymous, and they are not. For there are many times that individuals may trust their abilities in creating and within their movement, but this is not to say that they are not continuing to grapple with their own duplicity and their own acceptance of self.
In this area, you hold issues and difficulties, many of which are what you would term to be underlying deeply in areas that you do not necessarily allow yourself to view. For surfacely, it appears that you may be quite efficient and quite accepting of yourself in the manner that you are pleased with how you have created your reality, for you offer yourself many objective reasons, in physical terms, to be pleased with how you have created your reality. But these are outward expressions and they also are camouflage expressions, for they camouflage a fearfulness that lies underneath, so to speak, in the lack of acceptance of self; that there is not held a genuine worthiness of self, a genuine adequacy of self. This also manifests itself outwardly in a continuous driving force to be creating of perfection.
If you are allowing yourself to view ... if you are allowing yourself to be viewing and nurturing self, recognizing that it is a beneficial expression to be creating what you term to be vulnerability.... Vulnerability is the same as openness, and as you allow yourself this expression of openness, of vulnerability, you may also view the wondrousness – and I may express to you also a wordage that I do not offer often, but I shall offer to you this day – you may view a sweetness within your focus that you may develop an affection for within self, and this shall offer you more of an ease in acceptance of self.
You block as you do not allow yourself to accept the worthiness of yourself and the viewing of yourself that you are equal in your abilities and in your worthiness to all of those individuals that you view to be more than yourself. They are not. They also are not more efficient than are you. You merely view this in your perception, for you are not accepting of the wondrousness of yourself.
In this, let me express to you, allow yourself to view this sweetness, for I do not express this word in the manner of pleasantness that you attach to, but in the sweetness of nectar ... that although it is pleasurable, it also holds its own quality of sensation and sensual affectingness, and you hold these qualities also. You merely need be allowing yourself to view them.
JAN: That’s wonderful. I will try, but I won’t try too hard.... (Cracking up!)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha!
JAN: I will hope that I can allow this to occur. Thank you, Elias.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.” [session 350, January 03, 1999]
BOBBI: “Well, I have some questions today that I’ve been thinking about for quite a while, and I’ve managed to confuse myself pretty well about them, (Elias grins) and so I was hoping for your input.
My first one would be in the direction of, I’ve had an issue with my weight for most of my life, and I’m really tired of thinking about it, and so instead of thinking about dieting and all that stuff again, I would just prefer to be accepting of self and accepting what I’ve created here, but that’s not been particularly easy either. I know there’s imagery presented in the body type that I’ve created, but I would like to know what exactly the issue is in my case. I’ve identified many of the beliefs I hold about it, but in accepting it and understanding it better, I’d like to understand what exactly it is I’m accepting!
ELIAS: What you are offering yourself the opportunity to view is an expression in objective terms of the acceptance of self, and in this, you present yourself with an issue that you have held for much time framework. The issue of physical form – and aligning with the mass belief systems as to aesthetic beauty concerning physical form – is that which is creating of the belief system, as you are aware. But within this time framework, you are moving in the direction of the realization that in addressing to this issue, it is not necessarily the presentment to yourself to be altering your physical form, but rather to be accepting what you have created and moving yourself outside of the mass belief systems.
This is an element of what you may term to be the process of accepting aspects of belief systems, allowing yourself to move outside of the influence of these mass belief systems and the officially accepted reality, for in moving outside of this, you no longer allow the influence of energy for yourself in these areas, and this allows you to be liberating of yourself in allowing yourself to be accepting of your own creations regardless of your choice in how you are creating them.
Let me express to you that I have recently offered information to other individuals in very similar manner in this same subject matter.
In this, the base line of the acceptance is to be recognizing all of the aspects of the belief system which you are involving yourself with, and in this, as you recognize the aspects of the belief systems, not to be placing judgment on any of the expressions, but rather to be moving in the direction of acknowledging your own movement, your own alignment with certain aspects of the belief systems, and recognizing that you are much more affecting as you allow yourself to be accepting rather than forcing energy in what you term to be ‘against’ certain aspects of the belief system.
Let me offer you an example that I have offered to other individuals also. If you are holding an aspect of the belief that certain elements that may be consumed shall be creating of weightiness within your physical form, my suggestion to you is not to be moving yourself into a thought process of denial of that alignment with that aspect.
Such as: If you view that sausage shall be creating weight within your physical form if you are consuming this element, addressing to this efficiently would not be to view this aspect and express to yourself, ‘This is merely an aspect of the belief system and it matters not,’ for underlyingly, you are aligning with that aspect.
Therefore, as you fight with that aspect, you merely lend energy to its perpetuation. Therefore, if you are consuming of this sausage, it shall be producing of weight, for this is your expectation, regardless of what you are expressing to yourself objectively within your thought process or within your language.
You may express to yourself and to other individuals, ‘I do not believe that this holds truth, and I shall view myself in the mirror, and I shall will myself to be holding a thin physical form,’ and you shall continue to create the physical form that you hold presently, for your underlying expectation is not in alignment with your thought process. In this, as you allow yourself an acceptance and not the judgment of your alignment with certain aspects of these belief systems, they become less and less affecting and less and less important, for you are lending less and less energy to them.
What I am expressing to you is that each time you are concentrating upon the issue of the weight – each time that you are moving in the direction of attempting to be altering this situation objectively without acceptance of self in this area – what you are accomplishing in actuality is perpetuating the creation that you have already chosen. You are reinforcing the aspects of the belief systems and lending energy to them. You are also reinforcing your own expectations.
But as you allow yourself to relax your focus and your hold upon your energy in this area, and therefore allow yourself to be accepting of your creation without judgment – for in actuality, it matters not – subsequently you may be altering of your physical form, or you may not be, but it shall in reality matter not to you, for you shall be accepting of your own choices and creations ... and you shall not be placing judgment upon yourself, and in that, also reinforcing your own duplicity. Are you understanding?
BOBBI: Yes. So, I would guess or I would imagine then, as I am accepting of this and issues come up, then I would just deal with those one at a time, those beliefs, and move through it that way?
I was wondering if there was one particular belief that was ... I guess I’m looking for the key to the whole thing. I don’t know that there is one particular issue that I have with this that’s sort of the basis of the whole thing. I guess that’s what I was wondering.
ELIAS: The key is what I have expressed to you. The basis of the situation and the key to this creation is the expression of lack of acceptance of self, in whatever you are choosing to be creating.
You are placing judgments upon your creations, and this is creating conflict. If you are accepting of your creation, then it shall matter not the physical appearance, for you shall be accepting of that also, in recognition that however you choose to be physically manifesting yourself is worthy, adequate, and glorious!
It matters not that it does not fit into the officially accepted reality and the confines or the narrow parameters of your societal beliefs. These are merely the perceptions en masse that are lent a tremendous amount of energy, but I express to you that although perception may be projected en masse and this IS creating of mass realities, they are all influenced by individual perceptions. Let me express to you that perception itself is highly individualized, and each of you is creating of your reality as through your perception. In this, it is greatly influenced in how you view yourself and if you are accepting of yourself and if you are not accepting of yourself.
I have expressed this many times, and individuals – and yourself – continue to not quite understand that this is the base line to all of your creations and all of your conflicts in every area, involving every aspect of every belief system. The key is to look to self and to allow yourself to begin the acceptance of self in every area of your expression. In doing this, it shall matter not, and you shall eliminate your conflict.
BOBBI: Well ... I do understand that. It’s just difficult putting that to work sometimes.
ELIAS: Quite! [The] most difficult task, so to speak, is to be accepting of self. Individuals are inquiring and questioning of me continuously to be offering them a method of what you term to be easy routes, so to speak, in accepting belief systems, but the key is to be accepting of self FIRST, and subsequently you shall allow yourself to also be accepting of belief systems. But this is the area of the most conflict and the most difficulty, for this is quite unfamiliar to you all in acceptance of self. Although you objectively offer yourselves information and express to yourselves and to each other that you are quite accepting of yourselves, in actuality, you are not!” [session 358, February 01, 1999]
LISSETTE: “I started the vegetarian thing because of health, and now I realize it’s all in your head. It’s not what you put into you physically, but what you think it will do to you. So in a way, I feel vegetarian people come here expecting one thing and I’m giving them another, because I cannot with a passion defend vegetarianism any more, because I believe more in what your beliefs do to you than what food does to you. Is that what you’re talking to me about?
ELIAS: Yes!
(Vic’s note: Elias starts to get a little ‘cited up here)
LISSETTE: Okay....
ELIAS: You are very correct in this area!
But view now that you hold the opportunity to be using this method, so to speak – which you have developed – to be offering helpfulness to other individuals, and this presents a very good example as to what I have been expressing to you within this session.
Other individuals hold beliefs also. Therefore, you may be helpful and instructive to them in ACCEPTANCE of their beliefs, and offering information and helpfulness to them WITHIN their beliefs, and NOT DISCOUNTING their belief systems, for this is their reality!
(Deliberately) This is the type of different angle in approach of which I am speaking to you of presently.
In this, you may be approached by individuals that hold very strong belief systems in this area, and in these beliefs, they incorporate actions in alignment with responsiveness to what they consume physically. You are correct that this is a belief and is not necessarily in actuality what is affecting of them, but nonetheless, it is their reality, and that is quite real! The action is filtered through their belief system.
Therefore, you may offer to them information coupled with the belief system that may be helpful to them in widening their awareness, and not placing judgment upon whichever method they choose to be helpful to themselves, for in actuality, it matters not. If an individual chooses to be moving in the direction of vegetarianism with the thought process that this shall be helpful to them, they may proceed in this direction and they may be affecting of their reality, for they BELIEVE that they are affecting of their reality, and your beliefs are quite influencing of your perception, which is the element that creates your reality!
Therefore, think to yourself and realize that you may be compliant within other individuals’ belief systems and accepting of this, not placing judgment upon their creation of their reality, and simultaneously you may be helpful to them in offering them more information COUPLED WITH their beliefs.” [session 391, May 04, 1999]
ELIAS: “I offer information generally to groups of individuals, knowing that I am interacting subjectively with each of the individuals that shall draw themselves to the information, and that they shall apply this information to the areas in which their attention holds within each moment.
In this, in general terms, I express repeatedly to you all in literal terms that there is no good or bad or right or wrong. These are influences of your belief systems. I offer this information for the express purpose that you all recognize IN CONCEPT that the reality of essence and consciousness outside of belief systems that you hold within physical focus is that experience is experience. Choice is choice. They are not attached to judgments in the direction of right or wrong.
Now; understand that individually, as I speak to you each, I also hold the awareness that your reality IS real – it is NOT an illusion – and your belief systems are an intricate part of your reality.
Therefore, although I offer you the knowledge of the CONCEPT that you hold a belief system which we term to be duplicity and the CONCEPT that there is in actuality no right or wrong, I also acknowledge simultaneously that within your physical reality, you create a reality which DOES hold right and wrong judgments, and you have moved in the direction of lending very much energy to these judgments for so very long that these actions and behaviors are automatic to you and they are very much a part of your reality.
Therefore, in working within the framework of your belief systems, there is also expressed an understanding and an acceptance of these beliefs and their affectingness within your daily creations of your reality.
In this, I encourage individuals to be allowing more freedom within their expressions, challenging those aspects of their creations and experiences that they deem as bad or wrong and allowing themselves the expression of acceptance in turning that judgment into a right and good judgment temporarily, for as you are aware, within your reality, you all lean in the direction of creating in the manner of the pendulum. You shall swing far in one direction and you shall swing far in the other direction, but eventually you shall swing to the middle and you shall balance.
But prior to your balance, you also are engaged in your method of readjusting your thought process, and in this, you are incorporating new messages and information, swinging now to the other direction with your pendulum, allowing and accepting ALL of your expressions and experiences and deeming them all as good, holding the underlying knowing subjectively that this action shall facilitate the eventual balance and the genuine acceptance which shall swing the pendulum to the middle, and in that expression, you shall let fly free the expression of right and wrong and good and bad, and it shall matter not, for you shall recognize that in actuality, genuinely, your expressions, your choices, your experiences are merely that, and that they are not right or wrong.
I am expressing this to you to be clarifying that within this present now, your pendulum begins to swing to one direction and is not yet in the manner of settling within balance in the middle, for you are addressing to the expressions of duplicity which have gripped you for much of your focus in negativity and judgment, in the direction of bad and wrong and unacceptable behaviors, choices and experiences.
Therefore, you counter that information and those aspects of beliefs with different aspects of beliefs, and lean in the direction of expressing to yourselves the other judgment of good and right and acceptable. This is beneficial temporarily, as you allow yourself to be more accepting of self and more trusting of self. Once you have accomplished the acceptance of self and trust of self, this action shall no longer be necessary.” [session 397, May 18, 1999]
MIKE: “Now, what am I distracting myself from? What has come before me that I’m not ... what is being presented to me that I’m not paying attention to?
ELIAS: You are not being presented, for you are not presenting to yourself, for you are not noticing. You are distracting. In this....
MIKE: I’m what?
ELIAS: You are distracting.
MIKE: Oh, distracting. I thought you said slacking!
ELIAS: (Chuckling) I am not expressing to you or any individual that you are, in your slang terms, slacking! Ha ha ha! This is quite amusing!
MIKE: Okay. That makes a lot of sense, because yeah, I have a conflicting definition as to the word ‘effortless,’ one being what you just described, as something that you don’t put effort into, but it doesn’t mean that ... yeah, everything that you said, but I also believed somewhere in there that it meant no action and whatsuch, so that clears a lot up. So now that I’m realizing of this, doesn’t that kind of poof it out?
ELIAS: Not necessarily! You may be realizing and recognizing of certain behaviors that you hold and actions that you engage and experiences that you create and belief system that you align with. This is one element of your process, so to speak. You may be noticing and you may be identifying, but the noticing and the identifying is not the addressing to.
MIKE: Okay.
ELIAS: You may be distracting yourselves and not choosing to be engaging the actions of addressing to issues and beliefs and movement, knowing objectively and subjectively what you are viewing, but also choosing not to be engaging those beliefs and issues or movements and continuing to not be creating what you are seeking.
Noticing is important – identifying is important – for this affords you the objective ability to be addressing objectively to these areas, but noticing and identifying are not addressing to. They are not engaging the action of altering the behaviors and the situations that you have already created.
MIKE: Okay, um....
ELIAS: This is also coupled with your belief system with regard to effortlessness. ‘I shall notice, I shall identify, and POOF! My beliefs shall fly away, and I shall not be engaging any action in this area, for it is effortless.’ (Chuckling, and Mike cracks up)
MIKE: Oh gosh. So basically, by addressing to this new aspect and whatsuch, I’ll start presenting myself with areas to be moving into that won’t be distracting myself?
ELIAS: If you are so choosing.
Let me express to you, Mikah [Micahel], that noticing is very intricately involved in this process that you have designed for your widening, for even within the action of addressing to situations, belief systems, experiences – all of your creations and issues – you continue to be noticing all of your own created behaviors, all of your responses to not merely your behaviors and creations but to other individuals’ behaviors and creations, for this offers you information also, and to be noticing all of the imagery that is presented to you daily, which also offers you more information as to your own movement.
I may not be repeating of this to you enough, and I continue to repeat this to you and shall continue to repeat this to you, to the point that you genuinely understand and begin implementing this type of action. Within this present now, you continue to not entirely objectively understand what I am expressing to you.
Your thought process moves in the direction of expressing to you, oh yes, you do understand! (Mike cracks up) I express to you that I may access your energy and subjective movement, and I may express to you that objectively, oh no, you do not entirely understand what I am expressing to you, which I understand that you do not understand, and therefore I continue to offer to you repeated statements, for as you continue to objectively receive this information, you shall allow yourself to assimilate this information.
One of your most important actions is to be noticing, noticing all that is within your reality – your behavior, other individuals’ behavior, your creations, your lack of creations, your imagery that is presented to you through yourself, through other individuals, through your world. All about you continuously, you are presenting yourself and drawing yourself to imagery that speaks to you in a constant manner. You are merely accustomed to ignoring this information and not noticing. You have placed yourselves upon automatic response, and in this automatic response, you do not notice all of the information that you offer to yourselves.
You do not even notice your OWN creations, your own behaviors. You automatically create behaviors; you automatically excuse behaviors; you automatically justify behaviors. THIS is the area that I direct your attention to, to be noticing and to be identifying WHAT you are noticing.
Once you have noticed and identified, you continue to be noticing, and in your noticing, you also begin addressing to what you are noticing while you continue to be noticing in an ongoing manner within the time framework that you are also addressing to the situation.
Let us look once again upon our shoes. I have offered the analogy of the shoes and widening your awareness.
Now; let us look to the shoes. As you place the shoes upon your feet, you are noticing that they are holding tightly to your feet. They are creating uncomfortableness upon your feet.
You are noticing. You notice that you are uncomfortable. You are identifying that your feet are uncomfortable. You are identifying the reason that your feet are uncomfortable – the shoes press upon them tightly.
Now; in this, you implement action. You do not merely concentrate upon the shoes and poof them away! You implement action, and you engage acquiring another pair of shoes.
In this, you experiment with the new shoes, and you place them upon your feet. You are continuing to notice whether these new shoes shall be creating comfort or discomfort, and if they are not entirely comfortable, you shall discard them and you shall engage another pair of shoes, and you shall continue to be engaging more pairs of shoes until you acquire the pair of shoes that affords you the freedom of movement with no restriction.
In this – the acquiring of the new shoes and the exchange of shoes and the action that accompanies putting the new shoes upon your feet, experimenting with the new shoes – all of the actions that you engage in conjunction with each pair of new shoes is addressing to the situation. But throughout the action of addressing to the situation with the shoes, you are also continuously noticing and identifying.
It is not a situation of one follows the other, and once one has been accomplished, it is disengaged. You are continuing with all three throughout your process. Are you understanding?
MIKE: Yeah, I’m trying to assimilate it. It sounds logical.
ELIAS: Once you have acquired the pair of shoes that you may place on either foot, regardless of left or right, and it shall be worn comfortably with no restriction – you may wear them backwards and forwards, you may wear them sideways, you may wear them on your right foot or your left foot and vice versa – once you have acquired THAT pair of shoes, then you have accomplished the widening.
MIKE: Okay. (Sighing) Notice, notice, notice. Okay.
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha! And we return to the onset of these sessions within physical focus, in which I expressed that very statement to our initial group of individuals – notice, notice, notice! And I continue to be expressing of this same word now – notice, notice, notice!” (Chuckling) [session 398, May 18, 1999]
MIKE: “The whole thing with the acceptance of the belief or the aspects of the belief – just by acknowledging that you hold the belief and that it’s neither good or bad, right or wrong, better or worse, it allows the bird to fly away and it neutralizes it?
ELIAS: Not necessarily.
MIKE: Okay, now I’m confused, because there’s always something new about the belief systems and stuff that I read in the transcripts, and I just continually confuse myself with it. Please explain to me how you're to be accepting of a belief other than what I just asked.
ELIAS: At times, this may be all that you require within yourself. You may be in actuality – at times – accepting aspects of belief systems merely by recognizing, identifying, and acknowledging them to yourself, but this action occurs merely at times, for I express to you that many of these aspects you hold very strongly.
Now; this is not to say that you may not be accomplishing this very action with a very strongly held aspect of belief systems, but you also hold other aspects of beliefs that express to you that you must be engaging a process and a method to be accomplishing accepting belief systems.
Therefore, although you may be spontaneously, instantaneously accepting an aspect of a belief system, you also may not necessarily allow yourself to be accomplishing in this manner, for it is not expressing of a method or a process, and within physical focus, you have created quite strong aspects of beliefs that express to you that all that you accomplish within your physical focus is requiring of a method. Therefore, as you are moving into the area of neutralizing these aspects, accepting these aspects of beliefs, I express to you that within your process, within your method, you move in what you term to be steps.
Initially, you notice. Once you have allowed yourself to be noticing, you begin your process of identification. You begin to recognize the aspect of the belief system. You are not merely noticing that it exists any longer, but you begin presenting yourself with imagery and situations that shall demonstrate the aspect of the belief system that you are viewing at that particular time frame, and you shall begin to recognize the different forms that that particular aspect may present itself within.
In this, as I have stated, you may be continuing to view the same bird, but its presentment may be offered to you in different angles. You may be viewing different elements, different sides, different positions, different angles of the same bird.
This is expressed objectively in different situations. You are continuing to be viewing and presenting to yourself the same aspect of a belief system, but you are offering it to yourself in many different situations.
This offers you the opportunity to view the aspect fully, that you may not necessarily delude yourself into a thought process that you have accepted this particular bird, and subsequently it may present itself once again with a different face.
Therefore, you create a process or a method of presenting yourself many different situations and behaviors and actions and events that shall present imagery to you, viewing all of the different angles of each particular aspect.
Now; once you have allowed yourself to be viewing different angles of the aspect of the belief – not merely noticing its existence, but viewing and recognizing the aspect in different situations – you move subsequently into your next step, which is to be addressing to the aspect.
Now; this is the area that you become confused, for YOU identify in physical focus that your addressing to the aspect is the action of recognizing. Let me explain.
In recognizing and in the presentment to yourself of any aspect of the belief system, as you offer yourselves these types of situations, you also offer yourselves the expression of conflict, confusion, and difficulties. You may at times express emotional expressions in conjunction with these recognitions of the aspect.
In these situations, you THINK to yourselves that you are addressing to the aspect, for you are involving yourself in what YOU identify as motion or movement concerning the aspect, for you are responding to it. You are creating conflict, confusion; you are creating emotional responses. In this, you think to yourselves that this is the action of addressing to the aspect.
I express to you, this is merely you presenting yourselves with the opportunity of recognizing the aspect, and as you are continuing to be expressing RESPONSES to the aspect in conflict, you are not addressing to the aspect. You are recognizing it, and you are offering yourself many different situations to be recognizing it.
Once you begin your next step of actually addressing to the belief, to the aspects of the belief, you begin to notice a lessening of your conflict.
Addressing to the belief is not the objective action, in a manner of speaking. It is not the DOING – in your terms – [of] some action concerning the aspect of the belief. It is the ALLOWANCE for the aspect to be recognized, and figuratively speaking, in your terms, it is your allowance of yourself to be giving up with the battling of that aspect. Therefore, what you are in actuality moving into is the letting go of holding to the energy with respect to that aspect.
Let me offer this to you in another manner that may offer you a clearer understanding.
First you are noticing. ‘There is a belief that exists. This is not an absolute. It is not some element of my reality which is unchanging or unchangeable. It is an aspect of a belief.’
The next step is the recognition in situations; the presentment of the aspect. In this, each time you are presenting yourself with the particular aspect of the belief, you shall notice and you shall recognize. You shall not merely notice a belief system is in place, but you shall move a little further and you shall allow yourself the ability to recognize, ‘This is a specific aspect of a belief, and this is the identification of this aspect.’
Once you have identified the aspect of the belief system, you begin to present yourself with many different situations and circumstances that shall be offering you reoccurrences of the presentment of that same aspect, that you may view it over and over, for this is your choice of method.
As you are viewing, as you are identifying the aspect, as you are recognizing the aspect and you are presenting it to yourself over and over in many different situations and behaviors, you are experiencing responses in conjunction with it.
Now; in your idea of addressing to the aspect, you think to yourself that you ARE addressing to the aspect of the belief, for you are responding to it. You have already noticed, you have already identified, and now you are responding. This is your logic and your rational thought process in your identification of your method.
Now; I express to you that you are not yet addressing to the aspect in this stage of your method. You are continuing in the recognition stage, for you are continuing to be responding. You are continuing to allow the affectingness of the aspect.
As you move subsequently into the next step of addressing to the aspect of the belief, you begin to notice that you are not responding and reacting to the aspect within each of the situations that it is presented to you. It becomes less and less affecting of you. NOW you are beginning to be addressing to the aspect of the belief.
Addressing to it is the action, the implementation of letting go of your hold upon its energy.
This be the reason that I have offered the analogy of the bird and the cage, for within physical visual terms, it is quite easy for you to identify in these terms. You may view that you have set your sights upon one particular bird. In this, let us express, you have chosen a bright red bird.
You notice the belief system by noticing the cage and that it exists. Now, you are not addressing to this cage, and you are not creating any movement in the direction of acceptance of all of the aspects within this cage. You are merely noticing that the cage exists.
Once you have acknowledged to yourself that the cage exists, you view more closely, and you recognize that the cage holds many birds. Now you have recognized that the cage is quite full, and you choose to set your sights upon a particular bird that you wish to be allowing to fly free. Therefore, you begin to open the cage.
In this, you are recognizing this red bird. You are viewing this red bird. You are reaching within the cage to be engaging this red bird, that you may be removing the red bird from the cage. But in the process of removing the red bird, the red bird is flying all about the cage and you are attempting to be catching the red bird, fumbling with yourself to be grabbing at this red bird, and occasionally you are capturing this red bird. But the red bird is also pecking at your hands and it is squirming within your grasp. Therefore, your grip upon this red bird slips, and it may be escaping your grasp.
Therefore, once again, you are presenting yourself with situations to be recognizing, ‘Ah, yes! The red bird has now moved from this location to this location, and I shall move now to be capturing the red bird here.’ And once you have moved here to capture the red bird, it flies to another location of the cage, and you present yourself with a new situation to be capturing the red bird.
Once you have moved through your maneuvers with this red bird, you express to yourself exhaustion in attempting to be pursuing and capturing this red bird. Therefore, in your physical terms, you give up, and as you give up and are not in pursuit any longer, the red bird flies to you and lights upon your hand, and there you hold the red bird.
Now; once the bird has flown and has been allowed to light upon your hand, it is no longer bothersome to you, for you are no longer in pursuit. NOW you have moved into your next step of addressing to the aspect. You are now holding the red bird, and in this, you now offer yourself the ability. As it becomes calm and you are not reacting and responding to it any longer, you offer yourself the ability to be moving outside of the cage with the red bird, holding this bird, and once outside of the cage, allowing your hands to open and for the bird to fly free. The addressing to the aspect of the belief system is not the engagement and the pursuit of it. That is the recognition of it. This is the stage, so to speak, that you move through in your process of conflict, confusion, (coughing) irritation, much pursuit, repeated presentments of different behaviors, of different movements, of different angles, of different locations of the aspect.
Once you have fatigued yourself sufficiently in your pursuit, you shall then allow yourself to be addressing to the aspect, in which you expel much less energy, for it is unnecessary to be creating the vast expelling of energy with respect to the aspect of the belief system, for you are now addressing to it, and in that, you begin to let go, and as you let go, you allow the bird to fly free and you neutralize the effect of the aspect of the belief. If the bird is no longer within the cage, it shall not be affecting of you, and you shall not be responding to it, for you shall not be engaging it.
MIKE: Okay. So what you're saying is that I’m fatiguing myself by going after them, or I’m supposed to allow myself to become fatigued so I expel this energy when I actually get to the addressing of them?
ELIAS: I am expressing to you that this is the method, the process that you have chosen; not merely you yourself, but many, many, many individuals within physical focus. Generally speaking, this is the method that is commonly accepted within physical focus by individuals to be moving into the acceptance of a belief system. Therefore, you, merely yourself, are not singularly the individual that is creating of this type of action alone.
But as to you yourself, you also are engaging this type of movement. You align with this type of creation in methods and processes, and in this, this is not a bad creation! It is merely a choice of movement that you understand. It is merely a familiar choice of movement, and there is no thing that is wrong or bad with this type of choice.
Therefore, in this, I express to you that it is not a question of what you SHOULD be creating, but what you ARE creating, and what you ARE creating is the situation of the recognition of aspects.
You are within your second step. You have noticed within your first step certain beliefs, and you have moved into your second step of the identification and recognition of aspects of the belief, but you are also continuing to be chasing the bird throughout the cage.
Therefore, you have not quite moved into the position of the addressing to the aspects of the belief systems, which is your third step, but you are moving closer, for you are fatiguing yourself in your pursuit.
Therefore, you are beginning to express to yourself that you are tired of chasing this bird, and you are allowing yourself to become ready to merely STOP, and to sit and to wait for the bird to light within your hands, and in that step, you shall allow yourself to move easily outside of the cage and to let go of the bird.
MIKE: (Sighing) Okay.
ELIAS: I must express to you, Mikah [Michael], that you are creating of your method quite efficiently!
MIKE: Yes! (Laughing)
ELIAS: For you DO present yourself with your imagery quite often and consistently over and over again, and you ARE creating of your situation quite efficiently, that you shall BE becoming quite tired of re-addressing and re-addressing and re-addressing to the same situations!
MIKE: (Sighing) Okay.
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!
MIKE: (Laughing) I'll work with it.” [session 415, June 15, 1999]
ELIAS: “... I have expressed previously that within acceptance in your movement within physical focus, the process that you have chosen to be incorporating – not merely you, but ALL of you as individuals within this physical dimension – is to be initially noticing – these are your steps that you engage – and once you are noticing, then you allow yourself to move into the step of recognizing and identifying, and once you have allowed yourself to be recognizing and identifying, then you move into your next step of addressing to, and subsequent to your addressing to, you begin acceptance.
Now; you have allowed yourself the noticing, for you engage quite obvious objective conflicts and confusions. Therefore, you may express to yourself that you shall be noticing regardless, and that you have created interactions that are so very obvious objectively that unless you are engaging your action of subjective motion of coma, (Paul laughs) you shall hold a noticing and an awareness of what is being created within your interactions of your relationships. Be they intimate relationships or not intimate relationships, you hold an awareness of the noticing of conflicts and confusions that are created within these.
Therefore, you have engaged your first step of your noticing. Now you have moved into your second step, but you create many obstacles in this second step, and let me express to you that this second step is the most difficult step for ALL of you within physical focus – the recognition and the identification of what you are noticing.
This is an unfamiliar area. It is also uncomfortable, and in this, there is a tremendous allowance for duplicity, and therefore you do not hold a tremendous willingness to be moving into the recognition and identification. In some of these areas you hold a recognition, but you are not entirely identifying, and this is the area that you do not allow yourself to clearly identify to yourself where your confusion and where your conflict lies. In concept and in theory, you may offer this to other individuals, but within self, you retreat and you express to yourself that there is much more ease in identifying situations and creations within other individuals than you shall afford to yourself.
This be the reason that you approach me and you do not formulate a question. (12) I engage addressing to this specifically, for this holds importance. You may not be addressing to your beliefs and your creations and your interactions if you are not allowing yourself to be identifying what they are.
Many individuals may be noticing of many actions within their physical focus, but if they are not identifying what these actions are – how they are being created, why they are being created, what is being created – if they are not identifying these areas, they shall remain in the step of merely noticing and they shall not be addressing to the issues that they hold, and I shall express to you quite realistically, many individuals remain within the step of noticing and do not allow themselves to move into the step of addressing to, for they shall not enter the area of identification, for in this is the presentment of YOUR responsibility, and this is the most uncomfortable area for individuals within physical focus – the recognition that it is not what another individual is creating or how they are expressing themselves or how they are engaging you, but how you are receiving and your responsibility in what YOU are creating. THIS is the identification and THIS is the difficult area.
I express to you quite bluntly, it matters not what any other individual is creating within your physical focus. What shall matter is how you receive it. Any other individual may be creating of any expression within your physical dimension, and you may be engaged with them and you may be interactive with them, and they may be projecting energy in any manner that they are so choosing within your physical focus, and it matters not. What shall be the determining factor is how YOU choose to be receiving and how YOU incorporate that energy, and recognizing – key words! recognizing, identifying – recognizing that you hold choices, that you are not victim, that you are not dictated to, that other individuals do not choose for you; that YOU create your choices, that YOU create your responses, YOU create your reactions, YOU create your thought process, YOU create your emotional expressions. ALL of your physical reality is created by you and no other individual.
Other individuals may be expressing to you and may be projecting energy to you, but you ALWAYS hold the choice of how you shall be receiving that energy and what you shall be incorporating with that energy, for you hold choices in every situation, in every encounter, in every action, in every event, in every interaction. You choose how you shall be responding, or if you shall be responding, or when you shall be responding, and why you shall be responding.
THIS is the direction that I shall offer to you this day to be engaging your thought process in, for you have developed quite keenly your process of evaluation through thought. Therefore, direct your thought process to self and to this concept – that regardless of another individual’s perception, of their reality, of their interaction, of their projection, you always hold choices, and you may be creating the choices that YOU wish to be creating regardless of their expression.
PAUL: ... I do have a question referring back to some of your comments you were making about noticing and recognizing and identifying, and it’s very ... well, it’s clearer. It’s more clear to me that in terms of my own personal relationship issues, that I’m in the second step of recognizing and identifying, and I just wanted to be clear, or more clear anyway, that coming out of that stage of the interaction ... is that when the addressing to begins? Once the beliefs are recognized and identified, then you can address to them?
ELIAS: Yes. You shall notice that as you are continuing to be recognizing and identifying, you shall also continue to be incorporating confusion and conflict, and as you move into your step of addressing to ... and this is NOT an action that necessarily incorporates a thought process or a concentration upon!
But you shall notice, in the action of addressing to these elements within your reality, your conflict and your confusion begins to lessen, and the more that you move into the addressing to, the more the conflict and the confusion dissipates, and as you move into acceptance of any aspect, you move into the genuine expression of it matters not.
PAUL: That’s very clear and helpful to me. I also have a sense that these three steps are not a linear process in terms of cause and effect, but in fact a simultaneous action. Each aspect of noticing, recognizing and identifying, addressing to, and then accepting are all happening in different layers and different parts because we’re addressing ... well, we’re dealing with so many different beliefs in these situations.
ELIAS: You are correct; you are addressing to many different aspects of belief systems simultaneously. Therefore, you may be engaging all of these steps, of which in actuality there are four, for as you incorporate the ‘it matters not,’ you are moving into your step of acceptance.
In this, you ARE engaging all of these steps simultaneously within different layers as you address to different aspects of belief systems. You also, within ONE aspect of belief systems, are addressing to the incorporation of all of these steps simultaneously in different layers, but you are not necessarily actualizing them within your objective awareness simultaneously.
PAUL: And that’s clear. I just have a sense of different ... well, for example, I was talking to Vicki last night and using an example of saying, ‘There’s two hundred and fifty-seven beliefs that you’re dealing with in a situation that you’ve created, and perhaps you can notice or recognize and identify seven or eight in any particular instance, and how you DO move around that bird cage in different parts, in linear terms anyway, as you’re objectively processing the information.’ It’s a struggle, obviously, at times, and there is confusion, as you’ve stated, and that is verified by my experience, but it is at least a clear framework for focusing on self and looking in my mirror of self at me and concentrating on myself, and so it was very helpful.” [session 455, August 25, 1999]
VICKI: “What I would like to discuss is something I picked up in the last transcript I worked on. I’ve noticed a few times you’ve talked to people about holding within their energy in order to not allow oneself to move into the expression of duplicity, and I feel ... this really stood out to me because I’ve had some trouble in this area recently. I think I have some confusion about the difference in holding to one’s energy ... let’s see. How do I say this? In some ways, we talk about it as being a negative thing. In other words, in holding to one’s energy, you can perpetuate a situation. But at the same time, you’ve talked about holding within your energy and not allowing yourself to move into this expression of duplicity. So, that’s not really an actual, absolute question, but if you could maybe speak on that subject, that would be helpful to me.
ELIAS: In wishing to become more efficient objectively in addressing to the subject matter of duplicity?
VICKI: Yeah, that’s a good way to put it, and also in defining what you mean when you say ‘holding in your energy’ to accomplish that.
ELIAS: You are correct in your distinction within your expressions in physical focus that you do view holding to your energy as a negative and as creating an obstacle for yourselves many times within your movement, but you may also at times be holding within your energy. This is a different action.
In this, there is an awareness that you may lean in the direction of duplicitous expressions which also many times reinforce a discounting of self and reinforce a lack of acceptance of self.
Now; as I have spoken recently to individuals in explanation of the steps that you create within physical reality in moving through issues and belief systems into the expression of acceptance, this particular expression of holding within your energy at times may be helpful in conjunction with these steps that I have offered in outline, so to speak, of the process that you have chosen to be implementing within your movement into acceptance.
I may also express to you that this movement within these steps is also created not merely within addressing to belief systems, but in the area of acceptance of self also.
As you are aware, I have offered previously the identification of your first step as noticing and your second step as identification and recognition of WHAT you have noticed in correlation with your belief systems.
In this second step, individuals experience conflict and confusion. This is your objective indication to yourselves that you have moved into this second step within this process.
In this second step, as you begin to allow yourselves an awareness in identifying and recognizing the aspects of belief systems that you have offered yourself noticing of, there is an automatic expression of duplicity which couples with all of these different aspects of other belief systems, and also with your movement in addressing to your acceptance of self. Therefore, this element of duplicity, as we have discussed previously, interweaves itself within all other belief systems. This at times within this step two movement creates much difficulty.
As you are identifying and recognizing, you are already experiencing elements of conflict and confusion, but as you couple the duplicity with the existing identification of the aspects of belief systems that you are viewing, you also create a frustration that merely creates another obstacle and lengthens your process in this step two.
Now; as I am expressing to you – to any of you – to be holding within your energy, what I am expressing to you is to be holding in what you already recognize within yourselves in elements of acceptance of yourself.
Now; be remembering, Lawrence [Vicki], of our analogies of feeding the different dogs. (13)
In this, as you hold within your energy – in moments – and you hold to the elements of acceptance that you have allowed yourself already, you prevent, in a manner of speaking, yourself from moving into a direction of perpetuating the aspect of duplicity.
Therefore, you turn your concentration and your attention to the small dog. It may be small, but it IS present. You are turning your attention away from the large dog and viewing the small dog of the acceptance of self.
In this, you continue to be creating your movement within this step two. You continue within certain elements and expressions of confusion and conflict, identifying the aspects of the belief system that you choose to view and that you choose to be addressing to, but you suspend a further movement of reinforcement of the aspects of duplicity.
Therefore, you move your attention into the identification and recognition of one aspect of a belief system, and you do not complicate that movement with the expression of duplicity. You suspend this action temporarily, allowing yourself to hold in the expression of acceptance temporarily.
Now; within your perception, this may be considered quite shaky ground! (Smiling) But I express to you that even within the expression of your shaky ground – for your acceptance of self may be thin within the moment – it serves as a suspension for the element of duplicity, which merely increases your difficulty and your conflict and your confusion.
In holding within your energy, you do temporarily suspend what you would term to be your forward motion, in a manner of speaking, but at times, suspending your forward motion allows you the opportunity to relax, and as you relax your energy, you also offer yourself more clarity objectively, and in offering yourself more clarity objectively, you allow yourself more of an opportunity to be moving in your forward motion, in a manner of speaking, with less confusion and less conflict within this step two, for this particular step, as I have stated previously, is a very conflicting step. You experience the majority of your conflict and your confusion in that particular step.
Now; look to your storms, your whirlwinds. Your step two is, figuratively speaking, similar to your whirlwinds.
Your attention is confused and easily moves in many directions, for you are creating a movement of the noticing into a movement of recognition and identification. You are coupling your noticing and your experience and your objective imagery with the identification and recognition of the aspects of belief systems that correlate to what you are creating.
In this, as you become confused, figuratively speaking, you scurry about viewing all of your bird cages and furiously investigating every bird, attempting to be identifying which bird correlates with which aspect of imagery. This is the whirlwind, and as you are scurrying about, attempting to identify which bird is correlating with which experience or which element of imagery, certain birds within the cage of duplicity are furiously flying about, in and out of all of the cages, following you and confusing you, and in this, as they flutter quite furiously, they also gain your attention and turn your attention away from your investigation and turn your attention to self, in the questioning of self. This, as I have stated, is the whirlwind, and this creates a tremendous expression of conflict and confusion.
Now; in the whirlwind, as you move into the eye, into the calm, you stop; you hold. You do not necessarily create forward movement; you merely hold temporarily. You return to the motion of the whirlwind, but in holding momentarily in that shaky ground, you offer yourself an expression of reinforcement of your acceptance, and this allows you the ability objectively to be moving back into your whirlwind, viewing more of your choices.
In a manner of speaking, in your quite physical terms, it is your offering to yourself to be regrouping. You offer yourself a respite, a momentary period in which you allow yourself to relax, and in this, you are holding WITHIN the energy. You are not holding TO the energy. You are not pulling your energy to yourself in tightness. You are continuing to allow movement of energy within you and about you. You are merely ceasing to be directing of it temporarily, allowing it to flow free.
This is a different movement or action from that which is expressed in holding to your energy, in which we have discussed previously, individuals that are holding to their energy many, many times are creating of expressions of uncomfortability and what you identify as negative. I express to you that this is not to say that this holding of their energy is not beneficial to them, for it shall offer to them an avenue to be noticing, but it IS creating of conflict. In this, as you have requested, you seek avenues to be eliminating conflict.
I shall continue to be, as I have expressed many times previously, expressing to you each and to you all repeatedly that your KEY is acceptance, and as I have stated recently, you may view – although there are no absolutes – that within your physical dimension, the acceptance of self may almost be considered a prerequisite to the acceptance of belief systems.
In this, I shall also express to you, acceptance of belief systems is a very similar action to that of acceptance of self.
Therefore, in movement into acceptance of self, shall each of you be eliminating of self to be accepting of self?
VIVIEN: No, we’re moving out of judgment, right?
ELIAS: But you express continuously the thought process and the idea of eliminating your belief systems, and this is your identification and definition of acceptance of belief systems.
I express to you that the movement into acceptance of your belief systems follows quite similarly to that movement of acceptance of self, and you shall not eliminate self to be accepting of self!
You shall continue to create your reality. You shall continue within physical focus. You shall continue to identify yourselves as yourselves, but you shall move into an acceptance of yourselves without judgment, without justification, and within trust.
And as you move into the expression of acceptance of self, as it is almost a prerequisite for the movement into acceptance of belief systems, you shall find that your movement into acceptance of belief systems proceeds much easier if you hold the acceptance of self, for MUCH of your expressions of your belief systems are very influenced in how you view yourselves, your perception of yourselves.
It is not merely a one-way avenue – that you create belief systems and your belief systems influence your perception and your perception creates your reality. This is in actuality what you create, but the other element in this process is your acceptance or your lack of acceptance of self, which is also QUITE influencing of your perception and moves your energy in your attention in the reverse – to be influencing of your beliefs and reinforcing your beliefs and creating NEW beliefs! (Grinning, and a pause)
VICKI: I think I understand part of that. (Ben cracks up) I don’t understand all of it, so let me ask you, just on a totally personal level, what I’ve been experiencing a lot recently is very much of a noticing of how automatically ... of an automatic thought process in me that is very discounting of me, which I correlate with duplicity.
It’s something I’ve never really noticed to this extent in my life before – maybe when I was a teenager – and what I find is, just in the course of ... it could be anything, a day at work, that these thoughts are coming up that I’ve never had before. I’ll be getting ready to engage a group of people, say, and I’ll have a thought that says something to me like, ‘Well, these poor people have to deal with ME today!’ (Laughter)
These aren’t the kinds of thoughts I normally have, but I’ve had them quite extensively for the last month or two, and this is kind of why this has jumped out at me, because I do think that this probably ... I mean, this experience I’ve been having, is this similar to what you were talking about a few minutes ago, these birds all flying around?
ELIAS: Yes.
VICKI: Okay, so this is the whirlwind.
ELIAS: Yes.
VICKI: Okay, and that’s what I’m experiencing.
ELIAS: Yes.
VICKI: And if I ... and in that, to hold within my energy, I can turn my attention and focus on areas in which I have accomplished some sort of acceptance?
ELIAS: Yes.
VICKI: And this will be helpful in the experience?
ELIAS: Yes. Look to your individual expression within your questioning and what you express to me. Your identification moves merely to the duplicity.
VICKI: Right.
ELIAS: And you are not viewing the aspects of other belief systems that are COUPLED with the aspects of duplicity. You merely identify [that] these experiences, these expressions, these thoughts, these feelings are identified within duplicity, and you express quite broadly in merely identifying the cage – not even the bird of the duplicity, merely the cage! This is quite encompassing!
There are many, many, many aspects of duplicity, and they couple themselves with all other aspects of belief systems. Therefore, duplicity is not a belief system that moves independently of all other belief systems.
This one belief system of duplicity moves differently from other belief systems. This one belief system – this one cage holding all of these birds – does not limit itself to itself and does not express itself singularly within itself. It is continuously in motion, merging with all of the other cages and intermingling all its birds with all of the other birds. Therefore, in addressing to duplicity, you do not separate this one cage and view this one cage singularly and identify all of its birds singularly, for all of its birds are intermingled in and out, in your figurative terms, with all of the other cages.
This may be expressed as your ‘magic cage.’ It is quite good at camouflage. It is quite good at disappearing and reappearing, of merging, of superimposing. It may alter its form. But this one particular belief system does not express itself singularly.
VICKI: And I’ve been viewing it singularly.
ELIAS: You are generally viewing the cage and expressing to yourself, ‘This is my identification of duplicity.’
What is duplicity? Which bird within this cage of duplicity are you viewing? Which bird has it coupled itself with within other cages?
But you have not allowed yourself to be identifying and recognizing within step two the response to these questions, for within the whirlwind, your attention has been caught by these birds all fluttering and confusing you, and there are so very many of them that you are merely viewing the entirety of your scene, so to speak, and expressing to yourself exasperation and frustration – which is what I have stated to you, which you shall create – and in this frustration and this confusion, what you create is a holding to your energy in protection, merely viewing all of the chaos that is being created in this whirlwind, but not identifying which aspects are in actuality coupled with the imagery. This is the reason that this step two is quite difficult within your movement.
In this step two, you move within your greatest time framework, your most lengthy expression. You may be continuing within step two for much of your linear time framework. You may engage step two for years within your linear time framework! You may move through step one, in noticing, in what you term to be relative quickness, and once you are moving into step three, of addressing to these aspects of belief systems, you also allow yourself relative rapid movement, for your conflict dissipates and you create less of a thickness, and therefore you allow yourself much more of a rapid movement within step three, and in step three, you move yourselves closer and closer to step four, in ‘it matters not,’ and this is the acceptance. But step two is your quicksand!
VICKI: This is probably why so many of us are presenting ourselves right now with such not only similar but very affecting imagery in situations and experiences that are triggering a lot of different aspects, I guess, like personal responsibility aspects....
ELIAS: Quite! You are moving within an accelerated expression of energy, as I have stated repeatedly. You engage a very strong wave in consciousness, which is not dissipating! You also move, within this time framework of your final year of your century and your millennium, in a heightened intensity of energy, which allows you all the opportunity to present yourselves objectively with the identification of all that you engage automatically as influenced by your beliefs – your automatic behaviors, your automatic expressions, your automatic assessments of self, your automatic expressions in conjunction with your belief systems – and in this, you are lent tremendous energy in this time framework to be pulling surfacely, objectively all of these expressions.
VIVIEN: We do have so much conflict in the world right now, like problems in other countries. Everything is going on right now – [Hurricane] Floyd, hurricanes, all kinds of stuff going on – and there will be more, I expect.
ELIAS: These are YOUR objective outward expressions of YOUR energy. Look to what you create within your reality presently! These are not accidents! These are not expressions of energy within the cosmos! These are not movements of energy that you do not participate within! You are not victims of all that is created within your environment and within your reality!
You yourselves collectively are creating this, and as you are experiencing these whirlwinds within yourselves individually and you are holding difficulty in identifying and recognizing the aspects of belief systems that you are attempting to view and you are creating of confusion, you are also creating of frustration, and this frustration is exhibited outwardly within your atmosphere, within your expression of weather, of your planetary conditions, of MASS EXPRESSIONS. (Pause)
VICKI: Okay, I think I understand better, but just to be sure I do understand, because it’s important to me, in this ‘holding to’ and ‘holding within’ the energy, when I start to notice these automatic thoughts, because they happen quite often these days, if I’m holding to my energy, I’m focusing on those thoughts. I’m trying to do what we call ‘deal with them.’ (Elias grins) I’m focusing on a singular thing. In holding within my energy, I am shifting my attention to focusing on, say, things that I do accept about myself.
ELIAS: Correct, and you are RELAXING your energy.
Holding TO your energy is creating a tension within your energy field. Holding WITHIN your energy is creating a temporary stop-point and allowing of a relaxation of your energy.
VICKI: Okay, thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.” [session 472, September 19, 1999]
JENNIFER: “Elias, Mary and I were talking coming over here about acceptance, acceptance of self and of others, and we were talking about when others are presenting themselves with conflict, and detaching from that to a certain degree.
And it seems to me that in detaching, one can still be accepting, because you’re acknowledging what’s happening in their conflict, but also choosing not to get involved in their conflict. And yet, in being detached, which is the place that I seem to feel stronger and stronger as this year closes, it seems that one is pulled away in the manner that makes it hard to be involved. So my question is, if one is detaching, is that a form of acceptance?
ELIAS: This terminology of detachment or detaching holds quite a negative connotation within your physical dimension, within your language.
In this, I offer to you that what you are creating in actuality is not an action of detachment. You are all interconnected, and detachment is an action of separation.
Now; I am understanding that within your perception, you view in part that you are creating an action of separation, but in actuality, I express to you that you are not necessarily creating an action of separation. What you are accomplishing is the beginning movement into acceptance, for you are turning your attention to self.
In this, you are allowing yourself the expression of acceptance within self, recognizing your choices – recognizing that you HOLD choices – which is, within your physical terms, an accomplishment within itself! (Chuckling)
In this action, you offer yourself permission to be accepting of yourself and your direction, and you also move yourself into the beginnings of acceptance in conjunction with other individuals, for as you turn your attention to self, you may allow yourself the expression of a recognition of other individuals’ choices regardless of your perception, and this creates an allowance.
It is not entirely an expression of acceptance, but it is a movement into acceptance, for prior to this type of action, there is not an expression of allowance.
As you are viewing other individuals’ creations and their choices and their behaviors, and these may be conflicting with your individual perception and your beliefs, there is not an allowance. There is a judgment which is placed, and there is an action in which there is no allowance created for the expression of other individuals’ choices and their reality.
But as you move yourself into a direction of turning your attention to self – which I have been expressing from the onset of this forum – you discontinue concerning yourself and holding your attention in the direction of the other individual.
You view this as detachment, but in actuality, it is not necessarily a separation of yourself and another individual. It is merely a movement in turning your attention and not concentrating upon the creation of the other individual, which creates an allowance with the other individual and also creates an allowance within yourself, that you may be accepting of yourself and your choices, and recognize that an allowance is not necessarily an agreement for participation.
JENNIFER: So the other individual could view you as stepping back or less engaged with them.
ELIAS: Many times this may be the perception of another individual, for they also are not turning their attention to self, but looking to you, and this is the point. This is the reason that I express to all of you so very many times, over and over, that you be turning your attention to self.
It matters not what other individuals choose to be creating. They are their choices, and their choices are merely their choices. Each individual chooses their experiences within this physical dimension for the purpose of experience, and they shall gain their experience and their value fulfillment within the guidelines of their individual intents, and all of their reality in all of that is expressed through the tool of their perception, which creates their reality.
As I have expressed many times, perception is highly individualized, and in this, reality is highly individualized, and as it is very individualized, one individual’s reality shall be quite different from another individual’s reality, and your definitions for your realities are all different. But you perceive that you hold common definitions, for you look to your reality, as I have expressed many times, as an absolute, and it is not an absolute.
But as you view your reality to be an absolute, you hold thought processes that express to you that you hold common definitions for certain actions, certain expressions and perceptions, and you do not. Your definitions vary. Even in those expressions that you may view appear to be common, they hold individual variances.
As I have expressed previously, no may mean no within your common definition, but each individual’s interpretation of no and each individual’s perception of no may be quite different dependent upon the circumstances and the expression and the situation.
Therefore, even those terms that you view to be absolutes are not absolutes and do not hold an absolute definition, and this is the area that you create conflict and confusion, for you continue within the belief that there are absolutes, and you continue to attempt to be creating your reality within the guidelines of absolutes.
And once again, this is the attempt of placing the square peg within the round hole, and it shall not fit!
I express to you, many individuals within this time framework are creating much conflict, and many individuals are creating tremendous challenges in struggle with the concept of acceptance.
This, I am understanding, is a very difficult concept within this physical dimension, for it is very unfamiliar. You think in terms of absolutes – black and white, right and wrong, yes and no, good and bad – and I am expressing to you a concept of acceptance which is not an either/or, and this creates confusion.
I have expressed previously to individuals and I shall offer to you also this evening, in the concept of acceptance – with individuals, with situations, with belief systems – I have expressed many times that in the area of belief systems, you are not creating a situation of eliminating belief systems. You are moving within the action of this shift in consciousness into the acceptance of belief systems, and this presents tremendous difficulty in the understanding of individuals within this physical dimension.
Now; let me express to you, I may also say to you that I am encouraging of you to be moving into acceptance of yourselves and of other individuals, and this shall automatically move you into more of an acceptance of your belief systems.
Now; in this, create a thought process now within yourselves: As you listen to myself express to you that you may be accepting of yourselves, do you perceive that I am expressing to yourselves that you be eliminating of yourselves?
As I express to you, ‘Be accepting of your belief systems,’ your automatic direction is that you be eliminating of belief systems, and this shall be creating of your ideal reality. I have expressed many, many times, you shall not be eliminating of your belief systems in this reality, for your reality holds its base in belief systems.
Now; therefore, if I am expressing to you, ‘Be accepting of your belief systems,’ why shall you move in the direction of creating a thought process to be eliminating of belief systems? You do not create a belief system or a thought process within yourselves as I say ‘be accepting of yourselves’ that you shall eliminate yourselves. This is not acceptance.
The reason I am expressing this to you is that detachment also moves in the direction of elimination – it is what you may term to be a softer term of elimination – and all of this moves together, that your idea of acceptance is to be removing some element.
If you are removing of some element or eliminating of some element – the bad element, of course (grinning) – you shall hold the ability to be accepting. What shall you be accepting of if you are eliminating of the element?
Allow yourself the recognition that as you turn your attention to yourself and you are accepting of your choices and you are opening to your awareness, you are not shutting out other individuals’ choices. You are not detaching or removing yourself from other individuals’ choices or their reality, but you may be in acceptance and you may be in allowance, and this is not a dictation to you that you need be participating in the manner that the other individual is creating.
You shall continue a participation regardless that that be expressed objectively or subjectively. You shall continue a participation, but your participation need not be dictated in the direction of the other individual’s creation. YOU hold this choice, and you hold many more choices than you view ... YET.” (Chuckling) [session 488, October 20, 1999]
MIKE: “Now, I would like to ask you, if you will so indulge me with an answer without a specific question in mind, (Elias grins) what is it that’s been affecting my reality so much that I’ve been employing questions that are distracting? What is it that ... you know.
ELIAS: (Chuckling) You are quite distracted, are you not?
MIKE: Yes, I am! (They both laugh)
ELIAS: To the point that you may not even formulate your question!
MIKE: Exactly! (They both laugh)
ELIAS: I shall express to you that you have allowed yourself to move into an area of much confusion, and in this, be remembering of our discussion of your steps into the expression of acceptance.
Now; as you have allowed yourself, to a point, to move into step two – the recognition and identification of certain aspects of belief systems that you engage and that you align with and that you manifest behaviors and movements within – you have also moved into a position, so to speak, of confusion, for you have temporarily allowed yourself to be recognizing and identifying certain aspects of beliefs, but you have also moved your attention into an analyzation of those aspects to the point that you have created a confusion within yourself.
Therefore, what you have also created is a type of little whirlwind within yourself, and you within your attention have placed yourself quite in the middle of this whirlwind, and you may figuratively visualize yourself as sitting within the eye of this whirlwind and continuing to view it moving all about you, but not quite recognizing any particular individual movement, merely just the entire movement, which appears overwhelming and confusing, and therefore you have chosen to continue sitting within the middle. (Chuckling)
MIKE: Yes!
ELIAS: Now; let me also express to you that this action is common. This, within the movement of identifying and recognizing aspects of belief systems, is a temporary situation, and it is also quite commonly experienced. For as you begin to view one aspect, your attention moves to another aspect, and then to another, and then to another, and soon you experience an overwhelmingness in which you are expressing to yourself, ‘I know not which direction I shall pursue and which direction I shall hold my attention in, and I know not what to be creating in conjunction with ANY of these aspects! Shall I feed these birds or shall I starve these birds? Shall I be creating movement amongst them or shall I be quiet amongst them?’
And in this, you become overwhelmed, and therefore you discontinue your movement and you sit in amazement!
I express to you that you shall allow yourself movement, and distraction is not necessarily a negative. At times you may be distracting of yourself, for you ARE experiencing an overwhelming feeling.
Therefore, I express to you once again, you are pushing upon yourself and you are not allowing yourself to relax, and if you are allowing yourself to be relaxing, you shall also discontinue this feeling of overwhelmingness and confusion, and in that movement, you shall allow yourself more clarity.
Let me express to you, Mikah [Michael], you hold a tremendous expression of personal responsibility, and as you allow yourself to turn your attention to this expression of personal responsibility, and allow yourself to be relaxing and not continuously pushing so very intensely upon yourself in this area of personal responsibility, you shall also offer yourself much more clarity.
MIKE: Okay. So pretty much, the only way to be relaxing ... what area am I holding personal responsibility in? I mean, I don’t even know anymore. Where am I holding this personal responsibility?
ELIAS: (Firmly) You hold personal responsibility in the direction of any and all individuals that you encounter and you choose to be establishing any type of relationship with.
MIKE: Oh geez!
ELIAS: You also hold a tremendous expression of personal responsibility in the area of relationships of family.
MIKE: ARRGH!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha! Let me express to you, Mikah [Michael], YOU create your reality, period! YOU create your choices, period! Other individuals create their choices and their reality, period! You do not create other individuals’ reality, period! You do not hold responsibility for the creation of other individuals’ reality, period! Are we understanding each other??
MIKE: Yes. (Laughing)
ELIAS: HA HA HA HA! (Grinning)
MIKE: So, that’s pretty much the only way to be relaxing myself then, is to start letting go of this personal responsibility?
ELIAS: You may be allowing yourself to relax, and that shall be influencing of your letting go of these expressions of personal responsibility.
Let me also express to you that this is a very STRONG expression. This is a very common creation within your physical dimension, and it holds a tremendous expression of energy. Therefore, I hold the awareness of the difficulty that is associated with the action of moving through this issue. Therefore, I am not expressing to you that I hold an expectation that you shall immediately disengage this action, or that you may be expecting within yourself that you shall immediately be disengaging this action.
What I AM expressing to you is that you may be allowing yourself to be noticing each time, in the moment, when you are experiencing or expressing personal responsibility in conjunction with another individual, and in that moment, allow yourself to relax. Allow yourself the recognition that this is what you are experiencing, what you are creating ... and do not be discounting of yourself!
I am not expressing to you that you create a noticing and express to yourself, ‘Ah! I am noticing, within this moment, I am assuming personal responsibility for this individual. Very bad bad bad!’ No! Merely be recognizing.
Notice how you are automatically moving into that expression and recognize how it is affecting, of yourself, of your behavior, of your expressions, and in that, allow yourself to relax and offer yourself permission, merely within the moment, to STOP. As you allow yourself to practice with this type of exercise, you shall also allow yourself more and more of a relaxation.
(Intently) Not holding personal responsibility for another individual is not synonymous with not caring.
You may be quite interactive with other individuals. You may be expressing the fullness of emotion in conjunction with other individuals, that which you identify in physical focus as caring and loving and compassion. You may be expressing and experiencing all of these elements and NOT be expressing personal responsibility. (Pause)
Let me also express to you, Mikah [Michael], a statement that I suggest that you allow yourself to ponder quite seriously: There is absolutely no element within your reality that is broken – not yourself, not other individuals, not situations, not circumstances, not actions, not feelings, not emotions, not thoughts. No thing within your reality is broken. No thing within any other individual’s reality is broken. Therefore, there is no element within your reality which needs be fixed, and there are no mistakes.
Therefore, each action that is created by yourself, by other individuals, each action is quite purposeful. You may not hold an objective understanding of all of the actions that are created within your objective reality in conjunction with other individuals, but they are all purposeful and they are not mistakes and they are not broken.
MIKE: Alright. I will ponder that, and I will most definitely keep that in mind in my interactions. (Elias chuckles) Okay. Is there anything else that I am distracting myself from, if I were to proceed with other off-the-wall questions?
ELIAS: You may proceed.
(Firmly) My message to you this day is to be looking to self and [to be] noticing, and to allow yourself to discontinue the intensity of pushing that you create within yourself. You push very hard, and the harder you push, the more obstacles you create.
MIKE: Okay. I suppose all of this, especially with the pushing, has been mirrored objectively by my overwhelming fatigue, and not even being able to get up some mornings.
ELIAS: Quite!
MIKE: Okay. Alright, kind of along those same lines, because this state of being is tremendously boring to a point ... I mean, it does have it’s good points. I get to set myself aside and really look at my reactions and interactions and whatsuch, but it does get boring, and I’ve been wanting so bad to be finding something to want to do, to be creating of a job that I would enjoy, and it seems that every time I come up with a brilliant idea of a place to work, I either get sick or the car breaks down or I miss the day to go in for like an interview or whatever, so it’s like even when I find a place that I may even consider, it doesn’t work out. So I was wondering, why?
ELIAS: This is also in conjunction with what we are discussing this day, and this issue of personal responsibility and this pushing that you create within yourself.
How may you engage a direction that shall be fun and pleasurable within yourself, and how may you identify what that direction is, while you are holding your attention so very intensely outside of yourself?
Your attention moves in the direction of responsibility in conjunction to other individuals and what they are creating within their reality. Your attention moves in the direction of your responsibility as an individual in conjunction to other individuals.
And as you continue to be viewing and holding your attention in the direction of other individuals, how shall you be creating what YOU wish to be creating?
You are not paying attention to your own voice, and in the moments that you DO pay attention to your own voice and you DO begin movement in response to your voice, you thwart your own efforts in creating obstacles for yourself, that you may continue to be pushing yourself in the direction of personal responsibility in conjunction to other individuals. (Pause)
This is expressed quite simply in the differences between the ‘wants’ and the ‘shoulds,’ and the identification that the ‘wants’ are not necessarily good or responsible, and the ‘shoulds’ are.” [session 495, October 28, 1999]
ELIAS: “MUCH is occurring within this time framework, in what you would term to be physically as the end throes of your year, your century, your millennium.
Extremes in energy are occurring. Individuals are experiencing new and unusual movements. Some individuals are experiencing extremes within conflict. Some individuals experience extremes within surprise and new wonders, and throughout your planet, there is a heightened awareness to movement in energy.
This manifests in many different types of expressions, in conjunction with the individuals and also collectively, but there is an objective awareness occurring in heightened manner within you all that there is movement happening, so to speak.
In this, you present to yourselves many examples in imagery of your belief systems. You bring to surface awareness, so to speak, many different types of manifestations of expressions of your beliefs.
This allows you the opportunity to view, examine, and evaluate your belief systems. It allows you the opportunity to be assimilating more information in conjunction with your belief systems. It also allows you the opportunity to view some of the limitations that you place upon yourselves in conjunction with your belief systems.
But it not merely allows you the opportunity to view the limitations, but it allows you to view the opportunities that you may be presenting to yourselves in widening your awareness and eliminating many of your obstacles that you place before yourselves in conjunction with your beliefs, and eliminate many of your limitations.
In this, you also open yourselves and your awarenesses to new avenues of acceptance. There are also tremendous expressions occurring that you are collectively creating in rebelliousness in conjunction with this widening of awareness.
The widening of your awareness in this physical dimension, in the terms that you have constructed within the design of this shift in consciousness, are unfamiliar to you, and what you have created to this point within your linear time framework IS familiar to you.
The acceptance of belief systems is an unfamiliar movement. Movement within your belief systems and the perpetuation of them and the expression of them is quite familiar to you. Therefore, there is an element of comfort in the perpetuation of your belief systems.
Now; in this particular meeting, we shall also be discussing three of your terms – of acceptance and of tolerance and of patience. These are terms that you have incorporated for much of your time framework throughout your history.
Many essences – many individuals within physical focus that you identify as teachers or masters or whichever designation of label that you assign to them – have incorporated these particular terms, and you in this time framework, as the energy of this shift in consciousness is accelerating, attempt to be incorporating these particular terms into your focus in what you identify as a type of working manner, in your vernacular.
GARY: This is incredibly apropos for us in terms of my nephew, who has suddenly decided that because we didn’t go to his wedding, he can’t stand us, and he’s been sending me horrible emails, and I have to just ignore that and ... I’m not sure what, but being patient and so on with him is, I guess, something I need to do. (Elias chuckles)
ELIAS: (Loudly) Now; I shall express to you that these three terms appear to be quite difficult for your incorporation within your physical experience. You incorporate conflict in your attempt to be manifesting patience or acceptance or tolerance within different situations or circumstances and moments of your focuses within this physical dimension. They appear to writhe against your natural inclination of movement within your focus.
Many of your beliefs express to you in one manner that you SHOULD be incorporating these actions, and many of your beliefs express to you contrary, for they express to you – or you express to yourselves – that you should be NOT incorporating patience or tolerance, but you should be affording these attributes to self and not incorporating them in conjunction with other individuals.
‘Look to self first. Identify the importance of your expressions first, and do not concern yourself with the expressions of other individuals.’ I myself have incorporated language in similar manner with many of you, expressing to you to be concerning yourself with self and not concerning yourself with the expressions or the movement of other individuals.
Now; in this direction of information, this is correct, for as you are looking to self and incorporating these actions – for these are terms for actions – you shall be also incorporating elements of the same expressions with regard to other individuals as a natural byproduct of the action of acceptance and tolerance and patience within self.
These three terms hold very different meanings – they are very different actions – and one of the difficulties that you experience within physical focus is a lack of understanding of each of these terms. You express to yourselves that these are virtues and that these are elements that are desirable to be incorporating into your focus, but you do not hold an understanding in objective terms of what these movements are.
What is your identification of patience? (Pause)
LENORA: Accepting?
JOE: The ability to watch and learn over a long period of time without passing judgment.
JUSTIN: Giving the person the benefit of time.
ELIAS: You also identify with patience, waiting; to be allowing yourself a time framework of a lack of movement, a lack of action; a waiting period, so to speak.
I express to you that patience is an action. Patience is a movement.
In this, I have expressed to individuals within different time frameworks that they may be exercising patience and this may be helpful within their movement, and as the movement of this shift has intensified, it has become increasingly clear that within physical focus, your identification of the definition of this word of patience is lacking.
Therefore, it may be expressed to you that you incorporate this action of patience, but you hold a lack of definition of what you are being instructed to be doing. Therefore, how shall you be incorporating the action of patience if you do not hold an objective definition of the instruction?
Patience is an allowance. Patience is an objective incorporation of movement; an intentional, objective action of allowance for the natural flow of energy. Patience is a direct implementation of action in conjunction with the selection of probabilities.
You are continuously choosing and creating probabilities, and in this, each probability that you choose within every moment may not necessarily be immediately or spontaneously inserted into this physical reality, for you have created this physical reality with a linear time framework.
All probabilities are actualized, but all probabilities are not necessarily actualized within this officially accepted objective reality within this physical dimension. You choose one probability to be actualized into this physical reality in conjunction with each direction of movement that you incorporate and in conjunction with your experiences.
You may set probabilities into motion, and in that choice you may be creating the movement for the actualization of a probability, but it has not entirely been inserted into your actual physical reality within the linear time framework yet.
The action of patience is an active participation with the probabilities that you have set into motion in your physical dimension in an allowance of what you have already chosen in conjunction with your acceptance – for acceptance is a different action – and this allowance creates a free flow of energy.
The lack of incorporation of patience is a movement of pushing, which you incorporate in an action of forcing, so to speak, energy that you manipulate.
In this, many times you may place a probability in motion, and you may alter the manifestation of that probability by not allowing the free flow of the energy.
Therefore, you may hold a thought process of an objective want that you wish to be creating and manifesting within your focus. Within the moment of your recognition of that want, you have already set into motion a probability to actualize that want.
You may also alter the actualization of that probability through your lack of trust and acceptance within yourself and your pushing of energy, which redirects the flow of energy, and you may not in actuality manifest that want, for in your lack of patience, you have created an alteration of the direction of energy.
Individuals perplex themselves many times within physical focus in expressing to themselves, ‘I want to be manifesting this particular thing, and I am concentrating and concentrating my energy in this direction to be manifesting of this thing, and I am experiencing frustration, for it is not manifesting, and I know not why it is not manifesting.’
And you also express to yourself perplexities that what you want is not being actualized within your physical focus, for you express that you have received information that you shall manifest what you concentrate upon. Therefore, if you are concentrating, you should be manifesting.
Concentration is not necessarily objective thoughts, but you equate concentration with thinking.
Therefore, if you are thinking, thinking, thinking of what you want, and you are objectively expressing to yourself repeatedly, ‘I shall manifest, I shall manifest, I shall manifest,’ you believe you shall manifest, for this is your expression of objective concentration, and you create what you concentrate upon.
I have also expressed this to many individuals, but your concentration is not necessarily your thought process. Your concentration is the expression of your beliefs.
Your thoughts may not necessarily move in conjunction with your underlying beliefs. One of the most strongly expressed belief systems within this dimension, as I have expressed many times, is that of duplicity.
This particular belief system is quite cunning, and YOU are quite cunning in how you create camouflage within yourselves and how you fool yourselves with your thought processes that you may believe one direction, and in actuality you may hold a very different aspect of beliefs underlyingly. This is the area in which your concentration lies. Your concentration is that which you genuinely believe.
Now; returning to the term of patience, you may substitute the word ‘allowance’ for the word ‘patience,’ for the action of incorporating patience is merely the action of allowing yourself to move naturally and to flow within your energy without complication.
This is also a reason in which you experience difficulty with patience, is that this is a simplification of movement, and you are quite fond of complicating movement within this physical dimension! (Grinning) It is fascinating to you to be complicating ALL areas of your physical existence!
GARY: ... What is the importance of a healthy physical self?
ELIAS: This would be a relative question. It is relative to your intent and your direction within a particular focus.
Within your society, within your belief systems, you place great value upon physical health, but this is merely a choice.
There may not necessarily be an importance to holding health, within your identification of it in physical terms, if this be not your intent for your experience within this focus.
This be the reason that there are individuals manifest within your physical dimension who do NOT incorporate physical health in the manner that you identify as good. This be the reason also that individuals may create dis-ease and NOT move in the direction of cure.
Some individuals DO incorporate that type of movement, to be creating a dis-ease within their physical manifestation and to be uncreating that physical disease within the same manifestation, and this is an experimentation also, and is created for the reason of the individual and what they choose to be experiencing and experimenting with within this physical dimension.
Some individuals choose to be incorporating different elements of dis-ease or dysfunction quite purposefully, and do not alter their manifestation throughout their focus.
Therefore, this question is quite relative to the individual and their perception and their beliefs and their intent and their direction of their manifestation within their physical focus.
It is, once again, an example of mass belief systems that express guidelines that you ‘should’ be manifesting in a particular manner, and this is acceptable, and there are certain expressions of manifestations that are not acceptable within your officially accepted reality.
And this shall bring us full circle to our discussion of these terms of patience and acceptance and TOLERANCE, which is the one term that we have not been discussing this day.
Tolerance is a term that you interchange many times with acceptance, and these are very different expressions. Tolerance is NOT an expression of acceptance.
... You view tolerance to be a noble expression. You strive to be expressing tolerance in conjunction with other individuals, and also at times with yourself, and as I have stated, you equate tolerance with acceptance. If you are being tolerant, you are also being accepting, and I shall express to you, these are very different expressions.
You may be tolerating of behaviors or actions or situations, but tolerance is an expression of temporary. Acceptance is enduring.
Tolerance is an area of expression that you may allow yourself to move into temporarily with yourself or with other individuals, and even with situations and circumstances.
You allow yourselves to move in conjunction with certain aspects of your reality and not be struggling against them temporarily with an anticipation or an expectation of an alteration, a change.
You may be tolerating of another individual or hold tolerance in conjunction with another individual temporarily, and also be holding an underlying expectation and anticipation that there shall be incorporated a change of some element that shall allow you to be accepting. Tolerance incorporates expectations and anticipations. Therefore, it is not synonymous with acceptance.
Acceptance is the lack of judgment, and also incorporates a lack of expectation, for acceptance is a genuine expression of ‘it matters not.’ ‘It matters not’ is not incorporated into tolerance, for there IS a mattering in your expressions in the area of tolerance.
There also is an underlying expression that accompanies tolerance.
If you are tolerant in conjunction with a specific group of individuals, you are also intolerant of another group of individuals, or you are intolerant of certain expressions in conjunction with different individuals. As you incorporate tolerance in certain areas with yourself, you also incorporate intolerance with other areas of yourself.
Acceptance is not partial. Acceptance is inclusive, and is incorporated into all expressions and areas of yourself. It is not separating or excluding of any of your creations or your expressions.
You may be expressing ideas and even behaviors of tolerance in conjunction with other individuals, and you may express to yourselves an acknowledgment of your nobility in these types of expressions and behaviors, and you may be expressing to yourselves that you are quite good that you are expressing of certain elements of tolerance, and that other individuals are deserving of your tolerance.
This creates even more of an expression of nobility within you, and you may elevate yourselves to saintliness in your nobility, that you may be incorporating such tolerance in situations and in conjunction with other individuals, or that you may be incorporating tolerance of yourself.
Now; I shall express to you that your incorporation of tolerance to self is quite different than your incorporation of tolerance to other individuals.
Your incorporation of tolerance to self is a shifting of attention, turning your attention from one area that may appear unacceptable, within your perception, into another area of your expressions that you may be acknowledging of yourself within. This offers you an expression of partial validation.
I am not expressing that the action of tolerance is bad. I am merely offering you an explanation, that you may hold within your objective awareness more clarity as to WHAT you are creating as you incorporate these three actions.
Therefore, you shall not be deluding yourselves or fooling yourselves into the thought processes that you are moving into expressions of acceptance in your behaviors and your expressions when you are not.
This allows you the opportunity of less misunderstanding of your own behaviors, and allows you to recognize what you ARE creating in your expressions and your behaviors.
As you express outwardly your definition and your evaluation of tolerance that you assess you ‘offer’ to other individuals, you are also creating judgments, and this is not an expression of acceptance.
You express that the action of tolerance is good and intolerance is bad, and as you express your temporary movement in the action of tolerance, you hold expectations that either the situation shall alter, you shall alter your perception in conjunction with the situation, or another individual shall alter. Therefore, you nobly afford them the expression of tolerance temporarily, but there is an expectation that accompanies this action.
You may look to a religious group of individuals. You may express to yourself, ‘I am quite tolerant of these individuals and their choice of expression. It is non-affecting of me.’ But as you move into your definition and your designation of how you are tolerant of those individuals, as you encounter another individual that is not affording that same expression, there is a judgment placed. There is an automatic lack of acceptance.
The expectation is that tolerance is right, partially. The expectation also is that within your perception, other individuals shall follow your expression, for your expression is tolerant, and tolerant is right. Therefore, there is an assessment of how each individual shall be creating their reality, and there is a reinforcement of duplicity in these expressions.
Now; I offer to you this information in conjunction with tolerance quite specifically, for within this time framework, as you ARE aware that there is great movement in energy and there are many expressions of what you would term to be upheaval and much conflict, there is a leaning of many individuals in the direction of the expression, ‘I may not be moving into an expression of acceptance. Therefore, I shall move into the middle step of tolerance first, and this shall move me into the expression of acceptance.’ Expectation, once again.
This is important. Each time you are expressing to yourself or to any other individual that you are moving in the direction of tolerance, you also attach an expectation. Tolerance is a temporary expression with an expectation of an outcome. Tolerance is not necessarily an expression that shall automatically move you into an expression of acceptance.
I am not, as I have stated, expressing that your creation of tolerance is bad. It is not, but it may be camouflaging of certain movements in energy with you. It may camouflage beliefs that you do not allow yourselves to objectively view.
Let me offer you an example.
You may express to yourselves that you hold tolerance in the area of a group of individuals that may be manifest within a particular race. Within the framework of this society that you occupy – this physical location, this country, this political association that you hold in this particular reality of your society – in that framework and context, let us express that all of you present within this room may be expressing that you hold tolerance to individuals of African race.
Now; attached to that tolerance that you so generously afford to these individuals that manifest in the design of the race of African, there is an expectation that this is right, and therefore other individuals should be following this same expression.
Therefore, we introduce another individual into your group that may hold different alignment of beliefs, and this individual may not be expressing tolerance in conjunction with those individuals manifest of African descent. This individual holds very strong beliefs and is expressing those beliefs in opposition to the manifestation of the individuals of African descent.
Your response, in conjunction with your tolerance and your expectation, is to be turning to this individual and expressing a tremendous lack of acceptance – and judgment – and expressing that they are wrong, that they are bad, and they are unacceptable.
The individual is no more acceptable or unacceptable than the individual that you hold tolerance to. They are the same, and in the context of the lack of separation of consciousness, they are YOU.
Your expressions of tolerance or the lack of tolerance are mirror expressions of your acceptance or lack of acceptance of self.
Those areas, those behaviors, those expressions that you deem within yourself to be acceptable and right and good, those are mirrored in your expressions of tolerance. Those areas of self that you deem to be the ‘dark side’ of yourselves, those are unacceptable and not tolerated, and these are expressed outwardly to other individuals in an expression of a lack of tolerance.
This moves in the direction of preference, which is influenced by your beliefs also. Your beliefs move in quite specific directions, and in those directions you create preferences, and within those preferences, some elements of your reality are good and some are bad. Some are deserving of your noble expression of tolerance, and some are not.
You shall not be tolerant of the individual that strikes another individual. You shall be tolerant of the individual stricken, but you shall not be tolerant of the individual striking. They are merely choices. There are no victims.
Each time you place yourself in the position of a victim, you limit your choices, for you are not creating your reality any longer, in your perception. Some other element of reality is creating it for you – a situation, a circumstance, another individual.
I express to you, you are creating all of your reality, and you are also creating of all of your choices, to be limiting or not to be limiting.
But I also offer to you the suggestion that you allow yourselves to be noticing and allow yourselves an awareness of self – of your automatic movement and actions and behaviors in these time frameworks of much movement of energy and acceleration of this shift – in your expressions of tolerance, and do not confuse your expressions of tolerance with an assessment of acceptance, for they are quite different.” [session 510, December 04, 1999]
FRANK: “Well, today, the subject I would like to discuss primarily has to do with my employment situation, where there’s currently, I guess, quite a bit of conflict for me, but I think also an opportunity, hopefully. So for starters, maybe I could ask you a few questions.
First of all, on a subjective level, I am curious to know sort of what is going on. Why did I create the situation that I’m currently confronted with, which as I said, contains both difficulties and opportunities?
Secondly, what I would like to know is if you could give me some very specific advice on what is my best course of action of going forward in the next few days.
ELIAS: Offer to me your impression of what you are presenting to yourself.
FRANK: Pardon me? Can you repeat that?
ELIAS: Offer to me first, what is your impression of what you are creating?
FRANK: Let me see ... okay. I am in a situation with my employer where I commenced working at this company about nine or ten months ago based on a certain agreement about how we would work and what my compensation would be, and just how everything would develop in terms of my relationship to this company. Since then, many, many things have changed within the structure of the company, and now we are sort of in a dispute as to what should the financial arrangements be, and other arrangements. I am in a situation where I am trying to either A, work this out with them, or B, maybe leave the company and go off on my own and start my own company.
Whichever course I choose, there’s a lot of questions as to how this should be worked out in terms of the financial arrangements and other arrangements, and that’s basically what the situation is.
ELIAS: Now; listen to my question once again, for I have offered an inquiry, and you have offered an explanation of the situation.
My inquiry is, what is your impression as to what you are creating and how you are affecting yourself?
FRANK: Hmm. Okay. Well, I guess I am creating a situation where I feel to some degree trapped in this particular situation, and I guess to another extent, I feel sort of unappreciated. I guess those would be the two main things.
ELIAS: Very well. Now; let us examine this situation.
Now; you have continued to offer to me a description of what you are experiencing, and not offering your impression as to why you are presenting this scenario to yourself. Therefore, let us examine this situation, for this shall be a beneficial exercise to you in offering you the recognition of what I have been speaking of previously – in noticing, in holding your attention within the now, in recognizing and identifying your beliefs, in allowing yourself objectively to be assessing why you are creating certain actions, why you are creating certain responses. For all of these move in relation to your beliefs, and your beliefs thusly influence your perception, and your perception, as I have stated previously, creates your reality.
Now; in viewing the scenario, your perception is that you have entered into an action in agreement with another individual. Your perception now moves in the assessment that that particular agreement is not being complied with. Therefore, you also are creating responses within yourself. You have identified specific responses that you are creating in feelings.
Now; you have also stated that you hold some recognition that you may have created this scenario as an opportunity. If you have created this scenario as an opportunity, express to me, recognizing what you are creating in your feelings in response to the situation presently, what do you identify as the possible opportunity that you are presenting yourself with in this creation?
FRANK: Well, this is sort of a situation that has come up in the past, no surprise there, and whatever it is, it’s obviously something I need to get over, to move through, or it would be best if I would move through it, and so on the most obvious level, I think it’s that. Now, what exactly it is, I’m not sure, but ... I don’t know. Perhaps it’s a lack of confidence in myself?
ELIAS: Let me stop you momentarily. I am not asking you to identify right now what the belief systems are that are influencing of your perception. We shall address to that subsequently.
What I am asking is, how do you view in any manner that you may be offering yourself an opportunity by presenting yourself with this scenario? What would the opportunity be?
FRANK: Well, on an objective level, I think there’s an opportunity for me to be quite a bit happier doing what I’m doing in a different manner; in other words, moving away from or changing the situation. I think, again objectively, it would make me much happier to do that.
ELIAS: Very well.
FRANK: Does that answer the question?
ELIAS: Yes.
Therefore, you identify that in addressing to this situation and identifying the beliefs that are influencing of your perception, you shall allow yourself the ability to be eliminating conflict and not re-creating this type of situation futurely, correct?
FRANK: Correct.
ELIAS: Very well.
Let me express to you, this is purposeful that we have engaged an examination of these elements which you have involved in this situation, for within the steps that I have presented previously of the movement into acceptance, many of you, yourself also, hear the terminology that is offered to be engaging these steps, and you objectively, automatically express to yourself that you understand what I am expressing to you.
But in actuality, you hold tremendous difficulty in actualizing this method, so to speak, for you are not quite understanding what I am expressing to you, for you are continuing in your automatic thought processes and you are not genuinely allowing yourself the opportunity to be recognizing and identifying.
In these steps which have been presented as the method, so to speak, in movement into acceptance, first of all, as you may be recalling, step one is to be noticing. You have allowed yourself to be noticing that you are experiencing conflict. Step two is, as you may recall, to be recognizing and identifying WHAT you are noticing.
Now; this step two is the area in which you have deviated.
You may be expressing to yourself that you are recognizing and identifying, and I shall express to you that in actuality, you are continuing to be noticing, for in your explanation, you are replaying this scenario. That is the noticing.
The recognizing and the identifying is to be viewing the scenario and allowing yourself to question why you have created that situation – why you have drawn yourself to the situation, why you have created it, and what is influencing that creation.
Now; as you allow yourself to be within the now, and as you allow yourself to be paying attention to self – listening to your own words, your own descriptions, identifying your own feelings – you also offer yourself objectively the opportunity to view what influences that feeling and that response.
The struggle involves trust in your ability, and acceptance of yourself in value; trusting in your ability to be accomplishing certain activities and tasks, which subsequently you look for an acknowledgment of those accomplishments.
Now; hear this. In an expression of genuine trust of your ability, there is no necessity for acknowledgment from outside.
As you create a feeling that you wish for another individual to be recognizing and acknowledging of your ability or your performance or your choices, the reason that you feel this draw, so to speak, and are wishing for the acknowledgment of another individual is that you are expressing to yourself an element of a lacking in your own expression of trust in your ability and acceptance in your worth.
Therefore, you look to outsi