ELIAS: “Now; the most easily accessed method, so to speak, or exercise in addressing to conflict is to be allowing yourself to play the no-conflict game. This is an exercise that I have offered previously which offers you the ability to be accepting of self, to be not judgmental of other individuals or situations or circumstances, but also offering yourself a manner in which you may view conflicts and confusions and eliminate them. You are not eliminating the belief systems that influence these conflicts, but you ARE eliminating the conflict itself.” [session 445, August 13, 1999]
ELIAS: “There are many, many forms of opposition. It is not merely expressed in aggression. You can express your opinion and not be opposing of another individual. If you are expressing your opinion from the position of sharing and participating with another individual in cooperation with the other individual, you are not expressing an opposing energy. You are also, if you are cooperating, you are not challenging the other individual. You are not setting yourself as right or that there is any wrong expression of the other individual.
“Agreement is not a requirement for cooperation. ‘Like’ is not a requirement for cooperation or acceptance. It is not necessary that you like an expression or that you like a behavior or that you like a manifestation to cooperate and to be accepting.
“As I have expressed many times previously, difference is the most challenging expression to accept. You generate automatic responses to difference in varying degrees. Difference generates an automatic threat, which generates an automatic response of defense. Defense is one of your strongest expressions of opposition. If you are defending in any manner, you are projecting an energy of opposition, which is threat to the other individual – which is generally matched with opposing energy, for you create and you reflect what you are expressing. This is how you generate your indicator of awareness of your energy.” [session 1861, October 22, 2005]
BONNIE: “... Elias, you talked about dissipating fear by using appreciation. Do you have a suggestion about how to dissipate an argumentativeness or an opposition that you feel rising?”
ELIAS: “The same, appreciation. In the moment that you are experiencing that rise within yourself and you are beginning to generate a conflict with another individual and you feel yourself becoming agitated and judgmental and are moving into that argumentativeness, allow yourself momentarily to disappear the other individual. They do not exist momentarily. Turn your attention to you and evaluate what the threat is – why you are being argumentative, what is motivating that, what are you attempting to instruct or prove? Allow yourself to appreciate some element within yourself, regardless of what it is – that your hair may wave in a particular manner in that moment. It matters not. Reappear the other individual in your perception, which you may generate this action in merely a moment. Once you reappear the other individual, move your attention to an appreciation of any element of that individual, regardless of what it is. Perhaps you appreciate a button upon the other individual’s shirt; it matters not what it is.
“The expression of genuine appreciation itself interrupts aggression and it interrupts your attention. It immediately alters the energy. It immediately alters your energy; it immediately alters the other individual’s energy also.”
BONNIE: “Thank you.”
ELIAS: “You are very welcome.” [session 1861, October 22, 2005]
CATHY: “... in my confused state, I’m very well aware that in this present now, I’m choosing to make no objective movement to do ANYTHING. I suppose I guess it’s because I put the judgment of duplicity on it, that what I DO do will either be good or bad, and that’s not how we’re supposed to be playing the game here! That’s not why you’re interacting with us. I’m supposed to be figuring this stuff out because I asked for your helpfulness, and I’m in such a state of being ... well, it feels to me, in my perception, that I’m more non-accepting, judgmental – you name it – untrusting of myself now than ever before!
ELIAS: Let me express to you, Shynla [Cathy], you are correct that you have asked, and you are correct that I have chosen to be responding.
Now; beyond this statement, I shall express to you that the point is to be avoiding trauma. It matters not, in my interaction with you, that you shall be applying ANY of this information that I offer to you to yourself. I merely offer information, that you may glean from it any of that which shall be lending to your avoidance of trauma.
Therefore, it matters not. I do not offer this information to you, that you may become enlightened beings and hold the secrets of the universe! I offer this information to you, that you may offer to yourself no expression of trauma within the action of this shift. Therefore, that which offers you trauma or conflict, I offer you the suggestion that you eliminate.
In this, what I am expressing to you is, if you are experiencing conflict, examine that which is creating of this conflict, and you may be choosing a different direction of attention, and you shall eliminate your conflict. THIS is the point.
Individuals confuse themselves, for they view this information and my interaction with you as their opportunity to become spiritual, enlightened beings. Do not delude yourself in this area, for this is your own expression of objective confusion. You are already enlightened, spiritual beings! You do not need or require my helpfulness to be accomplishing of that! You are already expressing of that action.
What you have inquired of – as to my helpfulness – is merely an engagement to be lessening or avoiding or eliminating trauma that you may be creating in conjunction with this shift in consciousness, and this be the reason that I offer you information. And you, within your physical focus and your intellect, complicate the information which is offered to you. It is not as very complicated as you perceive it to be!
I have offered you your scenario of your no conflict exercise, and in that, you have offered to yourself the engagement of this no conflict exercise, and you have validated yourselves that you may be accomplishing in this. I merely offer to you other information to be validating of your own expressions, for you allow yourselves to be caught within your aspects of duplicity to the point that you become entangled within your own webs, and in that expression, you block many of your own choices and do not allow yourselves to view all of the choices that are available to you, but you may simplify many of your expressions by returning to your no conflict exercise.
What is offering you conflict? What is not offering you conflict? As you identify what creations are creating conflict within you, you may be also identifying that if you are discontinuing those creations, you shall be discontinuing your conflict!
CATHY: Well, I understand the no conflict game, but sometimes when I think about the no conflict game, sometimes I wonder if I’m just going to an area of avoidance.
ELIAS: Ah! You are incorporating your knowledge of psychology. You are allowing yourself to be incorporating your psychological aspects, and this also shall be reinforcing of your conflict, for this holds you in the expression of conflict, for you do not allow yourself movement for fear that you shall be expressing a suppression of other elements of your focus. I am expressing to you that your no conflict scenario is quite efficient.
In this, as you allow yourself to be expressing this no conflict game, so to speak, what you are accomplishing is a reinforcement of acceptance of self, a lack of reinforcement of certain aspects of duplicity, and you are allowing yourself to lessen your hold upon your own energy field. For as you are creating conflict, you are holding to your own energy field and you reinforce your conflict in many different areas, for you continue to hold very tightly to your own energy field in the attempt to be protecting of yourself.
In this, I express to you that this little game of no conflict scenario may be more healing to you than you realize.” [session 370, March 09, 1999]
ELIAS: “There are many expressions and reasons for conflict; many. I have spoken with you many times of how you manifest conflict. I have spoken many times with you of how you may discontinue creating conflict. As you widen your awareness, you also widen your options. This becomes confusing!
Within centuries that you view to be past, you expressed to yourselves, ‘Life was simpler. Man’s consciousness was not as intellectual. He was not as intelligent. He had not as much information available to him.’ Incorrect! All information was always available! Belief systems were held tightly to. There was much less of an allowance of questioning. The accepted mode was of religious belief systems, which set forth ‘rules.’ Within these rules, you were accepting, and willingly ‘closed off’ your options; therefore allowing for a simpler existence within this expression.
As you move into your shift, you widen your consciousness. You are widening belief systems. You are not accepting of these rules any longer. Therefore, you also open your options and your choices. You are not quite sure how to be implementing these choices. Also, you allow for more of the objective personality to be known, and to be interacted with. You place less restrictions upon your outward expression, therefore creating more difficulty within acceptance of these expressions.
Previously, you have been told, ‘You will think this. You will act this way. You will not express this.’ Presently, expressions are acceptable. If you are expressing emotionally, this is acceptable. If you are expressing intellectually, this is acceptable. If you are expressing within idiocy, this is acceptable! You have eliminated many of your rules in widening your consciousness. You are not accustomed to interacting with each other on an accepting ... retract on; in an accepting manner; this being the issues that you presently engage to be moving through.
VICKI: So where does that leave us with our ‘no conflict game?’ It’s not quite that simple, is it?
ELIAS: As I have expressed previously, your ‘no conflict game’ will not always give you no conflict! You have not learned, yet, the complete no conflict scenario. You continue to hold wishes and desires and expectations, of other elements of physical focus, in every area of your existence.
VICKI: This concept of ‘bending’ is, I think, part of the problem. In actuality, within our two physical examples that Michael [Mary] and I had, possibly the least conflict scenario, in the long run, would have incorporated some bending? Is this correct?
ELIAS: (Pausing) It is a probability. (Another pause)
Be understanding, and you may express this to Michael [Mary] also: I express to you that you are responsible for your essence and your expression, but you are not responsible for another essence’s expression; just as I spoke with you with regard to Catherine [Debbie]. If your intention is pure, in your terms, and you have been examining of your expression, and you hold no expectation, and you wish no harmfulness, your expression may be set forth if it is benefiting of your essence, and you are experiencing a necessity for this action.
VICKI: Well, I think that’s kind of the way we both felt, but we didn’t like the responses of the other individuals involved!
ELIAS: All of you, as individuals, are experiencing a learning process of communication. Are you not pleased that you incorporate none of these developments within your subjective self and collective communication within consciousness? (Grinning) Your perception is also quite influencing; for just as I have expressed previously, you may be viewing one situation in different directions, and your actions will be determined by your perception. Listen also to your intuitive sense. It is trustworthy! As you widen, you also incorporate much to be thinking about ... but little boredom!
VICKI: Very little boredom! (Laughter)
ELIAS: I will express to you also that within this same subject, you may be considering that individuals manifest some elements as an expression of drama. Essence is a lover of drama! It is a creative expression. Imagination is a creative expression. You strive, within your spirituality, to be calm, even balanced! (Very humorously) I shall not say boring; quiet. You incorporate not much drama within this expression! (Grinning) You are naturally imaginative and creative. This is one with drama. If you are not expressing of creative drama within playfulness and games, (grinning at Jene) you will be expressing of drama in other areas of your existence and interaction.
Emotionally-focused individuals (1) will create stressful situations, or emotional expressions, or misinterpretations, or ‘woefulness.’ Thought-focused individuals will create aggressiveness, and irritation, and abundance of energy, and annoyance. You do this purposefully for your own entertainment! Therefore, this is another element that you may now view. You are not always aware, obviously, of this expression, although you may become aware once it has been offered to you, and you may allow yourself to view your objective expressions and be better understanding of these.
This is not to say that Elias has allowed you now another tool for intoleration of other individual’s expressions of these elements! I am not wishing you to be expressing, ‘Oh, you now are expressing drama, and I wish not to be involved within your drama!’ I am only expressing for your noticing, of your own creations within your own objective expression.
There are times when your objective expression of these small elements of drama serve to your value fulfillment. They serve as a release; for if you are choosing to be suppressing of your own energy and reigning this energy tremendously, viewing this to be a more ‘evolved’ expression as an individual within your objective self, you may be creating a slight drama, for a release expression of energy.
VICKI: It’s just very frustrating when you say something to a person and they hear something completely different, and then they have conflict. The resulting frustration in that scenario doesn’t seem to be releasing anything!
ELIAS: I was not indicating that these particular examples were expressions in this direction.
ELIAS: Although, (laughter) some of the individuals involved were expressing in this manner! (Grinning, and a pause)
VICKI: We’ll work on it.
ELIAS: I am quite assured that you will!” (Laughter) [session 95, May 22, 1996]
ELIAS: “You place judgments upon other individuals’ perceptions, for they are not the same as yours. You may offer an excuse for other individuals which you term to be an ‘allowance for their perception,’ but in actuality, what you are creating is a judgment, and the judgment is not acceptance, and acceptance is the point.
Each of you within this forum encounters other individuals that you may be experiencing conflict with, within one degree or another. Even within the degrees of conflict, you enter your duplicity by expressing that certain conflicts are more important or bigger or stronger or worse than other conflicts. They are all conflicts. It matters not. You merely choose within responsiveness to your duplicity to be creating of degrees of drama attached to your conflicts. If they are very, very bad conflicts, you shall be creating very strong drama! If they are mild conflicts, you may be creating of mild expressions with regard to them. At certain time periods, you may be engaging intense drama with your conflicts and creating what you term to be your temper tantrums! (Laughter) For this is quite expressive and creative and also quite affecting of the situation, as we are all aware! If you are creating a temper tantrum, it shall immediately alter the reality of the conflict. I think not! (Chuckling, followed by silence)
This has been quite interesting! I truly DO think not! (Laughing) For I hold no thought process! (Laughing harder – Elias is cracking himself up!)
This belief system of duplicity holds great importance within the action of this shift, that you be addressing to this particular belief system and recognizing its affectingness in every aspect of your focus and within all of your actions. Many individuals inquire, ‘How may we move in the direction of peacefulness, of lovingness, of altering our reality?’ Acceptance of self and the acceptance of the belief system of duplicity and rendering this particular belief system neutral shall be affecting of ALL of your other belief systems, and shall be automatically creating of the byproduct of allowing you to more easily move into the area of acceptance of all of your other belief systems.
Each time you are creating of any type of judgment, you are engaging duplicity. I challenge you each to hold an awareness, within merely one day within your focus, of how many times you engage duplicity, and you may be surprising yourselves, for you engage this belief system continuously!
RODNEY: ... I have one more. Would you distinguish again the distinction between duality and duplicity?
(Vic’s note: good question, Rodney!)
ELIAS: I am aware that your new religion of your metaphysics moves in the direction of designating duality as the same as duplicity, but in actuality, I am quite careful in my choice of words that I offer to you in explanation of these belief systems and concepts.
Duality is suggestive of two, or a double of elements. Duplicity, although it incorporates what you term to be opposites, it is not necessarily merely two. It is an incorporation of very different conflicting elements within you simultaneously, in opposition to each other. Duality does not always suggest conflict or opposing elements. You may hold duality in certain areas that may complement each other. Within duplicity, these elements of the belief system that you hold do not complement each other. They are opposing of each other and creating of conflict.
RODNEY: In other words, the north pole and the south pole are complementary ...
RODNEY: ... dualities.
RODNEY: They are not in conflict.
ELIAS: They are not within conflict. Duplicity IS within conflict. It is a creation of conflict.
RODNEY: What was that? I didn’t hear.
ELIAS: Duplicity is a creation of conflict.
ELIAS: And where you hold duplicity, you also hold conflict.
RODNEY: Right. Thank you.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome.” [session 328, October 03, 1998]
NICKY: “Okay, there’s been something that’s caught my attention in another realm, which be the animal realm. I’ve taken note of it, whether it be on the news, or my daughter mentioned it once, or whoever is talking about it, about the animals, even a news program last night with veterinarians talking about giving their animals Prozac (Elias grins) and redoing adult behavior so that dogs and cats and animals respond differently, what animals are attacking children and people, and things like that. I’ve taken note of it. What is going on?
ELIAS: (Smiling) And would this not be a very creative expression within your creatures, in their mirroring of your own creations and your own behaviors?
And as I have expressed previously, your creatures ARE in agreement with you and SHALL BE expressing within their creations and their behaviors mirror actions to yourselves, and they shall be creating very similar situations as YOU create.
They mirror your issues and your belief systems and are quite responsive to your energy, individually and en masse. As YOU move in the direction of focusing your attentions more severely in the areas of your psychology and placing more emphasis of your attention in this direction, you also are creating an affectingness within your creatures, and they shall be creating of behaviors in this direction. As YOU narrow your acceptance en masse of what you term to be ‘normal behavior’ – within the parameters of your psychology and what is acceptable as ‘good’ behavior – you also place this judgment upon your creatures, and they shall mirror back to you the very behaviors, the very issues, the very energy that you project outward with them.
NICKY: Interesting! I got a hint of that when I was watching the program. I was just half-listening to it, and I thought, ‘Oh my God! It’s not the animals at all! They’re interpreting and they’re acting out what we are thinking!’
NICKY: Yeah! And I thought, ‘Oh! My, my, my, my, my! I must make note of this!’ It gives you a real bird’s-eye view of how up in arms things could really get, huh?
ELIAS: And be noticing, I have been expressing from the onset of this present year that many elements shall be occurring in this particular year. You have lent much energy to disturbance within this particular time framework. Therefore, you may look to what you are creating en masse in this time framework – less acceptance of deviation from what you identify as the norm, more fearfulness, more of your interaction with other elements of your creations, your creatures, your weather, your atmospheric conditions, your involvement with what you term to be nature ... your very planet responds to the energy that you project and that YOU are creating en masse collectively with each other.
NICKY: Yeah. We touched on that briefly Friday night, about just that idea, that if indeed this is what happens, then we’re viewing everything we put out there go to work!
ELIAS: Look to your weather conditions, and look to the expression of so very many multiple whirlwinds [tornadoes] that are occurring presently and have been occurring within this particular year. Already you are creating of many of your whirlwinds that you term to be tornadoes, which are creating of great disturbances.
You are already, within this very small time framework of this particular year, creating quite dramatic affectingnesses! You are quite expressive of fearful elements – panic, distrust, questioning, worry, whirlwinds of emotion and conflict in interaction with each other – which your very weather and atmosphere mirrors.
You express to me in this questioning of creatures that move in the direction of what you term to be attacking of individuals. Look to yourselves! What are you creating within your interaction with each other?
NICKY: Really! Attacking each other! Exactly! Going for the throat! Trying to defend one’s position! I mean, there’s so much! And that’s when it came to me last night, after watching the program. I thought, ‘Oh my goodness gracious me! What a view! What a view of what we’re doing to each other and ourselves!’
ELIAS: You are defensive with yourselves, for you are not trusting of yourselves, and as you are not trusting of yourselves, you are not trusting of each other, and you are creating much conflict, and in this, you continue to be creating of conflict, and your whole of your reality in your world reflects this!
NICKY: Oh my goodness.
ELIAS: I have offered warning of this already, and have expressed to individuals within these sessions that this particular year holds great energy. It is your choice in which direction you choose to be moving with this energy. This is the final year of your century and of your millennium, and much energy for much time framework has been lent to this time framework, and in this, you have much to draw from in energy and much to manipulate.
In these expressions, you may be creating a reality of fear or you may be creating a reality of trust. Either direction that you are choosing, you shall be lent much energy to the accomplishment of it.
NICKY: Okay, might this be related to ... periodically I have ... you know, when you become aware of certain things and you notice certain things, I say to myself, ‘Oh boy. You know what? I don’t want to do this traumatic routine again. I don’t want to go there. I don’t want to participate in it.’ And then I had to realize the fearfulness that I myself was holding.
ELIAS: Quite, and I express to you, if you are not choosing to be participating within drama or conflict, you hold the choice to not be participating. This is your choice, and it matters not the direction of other individuals, and if you are focusing upon yourself, you may be choosing no conflict.
As I have expressed, you hold the choice within this now to be offered EASE in your choices. You are being offered the lending of energy that has been expressed for centuries that you may draw upon NOW, and in this, you may be engaging this energy to effortlessly be creating tremendous conflict and fear, or you may be accessing this energy to be effortlessly creating acceptance and trust.
NICKY: That is my desire. That IS my desire! That is where my objective mind goes to, and then I find myself within my whirlwind and I say, ‘Okay, how do I do this? How do I get there? How do I, how do I, how do I?’ And the more I ask how, the more I hear you say, ‘Address yourself.’
ELIAS: Quite, and I shall revert us to our beginnings of this forum once again, and we shall reincorporate our no conflict exercise, and I shall express to you as I have expressed to other individuals recently: As you are experiencing conflict and you are wishing not to be experiencing conflict, draw your attention objectively to the elements that create conflict within you, and OBJECTIVELY CHOOSE not to continue. OBJECTIVELY CHOOSE no conflict.
NICKY: Objectively choose no conflict.
ELIAS: This is quite simple. It requires none of your psychology. It merely requires your attention in noticing your own conflict, which you may be accomplishing quite efficiently objectively.
You hold an awareness of your conflict! You hold an identification of your conflict as you engage conflict within each experience. This is not a mystery to you!
Therefore, identify and notice your conflict within the now objectively, and merely express the questioning to yourself, ‘What shall you present to yourself that shall eliminate your conflict within the now?’ And in that question, offer yourself your response of what shall be offering you no conflict, which is also not hidden from you and not a mystery! You shall offer yourself an answer to this question quite quickly.
You ALL KNOW OBJECTIVELY what is a conflict and what presents as no conflict. You merely confuse yourselves and create more conflict by not choosing the no conflict scenario.
NICKY: Okay, I’ve got a question for you then. Say objectively, a situation calls for, ‘This is the end of the conflict situation; I’m going home now.’ without any thought to the result of it, to the byproduct of what’s going to happen as a result of your action. It’s just a matter of, ‘Okay, this is it; I stop?’
(Vic’s note: great question!)
ELIAS: Correct. This is your acceptance of self WITHOUT judgment. It is purely an expression of acceptance of self without placing a judgment upon your action and without the necessity for justification of your choice, for justification is merely another expression of a judgment upon yourself.
You must be justifying. Therefore, it shall be acceptable. No! I express to you that your choice is your choice. It is merely that.
NICKY: Oh my. Oh my! So very interesting! So even within myself, I notice that there are times when I go to what I call defending myself. I’ll say to Michael, ‘Well, why do I have to defend myself? This is it, period.’ So, my tendency to want to go to defending myself is easing. It’s not as quickly there anymore, but yet, it is something that I still entertain, because I look at the result of my comment or to the finale to something. So, I don’t even have to go there, do I?
ELIAS: No, for your defense of yourself is the reinforcement of your lack of acceptance of self. Your choice to be ending or not participating within conflict is your expression of your acceptance of self. ‘I choose not to be participating within conflict. I need not justify my choice, for it is merely a choice, and there is no judgment placed upon my choice. It is what it is. It is my choice, and this is acceptable.’
NICKY: So it gives one an opportunity again, within that moment of decision, to view where our tendencies are to judge ourselves!
ELIAS: Quite, and in this, notice how efficient your acceptance of self is presented within this no conflict game or exercise, for you place no judgment upon yourself in your expression of no conflict.
It merely is a choice, and it is acceptable, and the reason that the choice is acceptable is that YOU are acceptable.
(Vic’s note: what a concept!)
NICKY: Okay. My tendency is that after something, I will go ... I can make a statement sometimes. I can say, ‘Okay, this is it. I’m done. I choose not to carry on this conversation. It’s starting to aggravate me.’ And I will stop. But then I go within myself and I take a look at all the issues and all the thoughts that led me up to the point of starting to question myself after I made the statement. I get to see some of the thoughts anyway – or the issues or whatever you want to call them – of what brings me there, and it seems to be helpful in that process. Eventually, will I be able to eliminate the process? I mean, is the process just such a normal thing for me, or here in this dimension, that it seems like that’s what you go through every time you think of something?
ELIAS: The process is the method that you all present to yourselves, but I shall also express to you that the more that you practice with this noticing and with this acceptance of self and your no conflict exercise, the more you begin to be genuinely accepting and trusting of yourself and the more automatic this expression becomes, and if you are continuing in this direction, eventually you shall be expressing trust and acceptance of self as automatically as you now express doubt of self and lack of acceptance of self.” [session 372, March 16, 1999]
TOM: “Can you speak a little bit about – I’m trying to create a business that involves two partners right now – what it takes to essentially make a joint creation? I am the primary driver and leader, but how does that work with more of a joint creation as opposed to creating it yourself?
ELIAS: Correct. In these types of situations, be remembering that you may only be creating your expression and your reality. You may not be creating for other individuals.
Now; in your joint creation together, the most affecting element is your participation in acceptance of the contribution of other individuals and your own recognition within self of your opposition.
In this, many conflicts may be addressed to and also avoided in joint ventures as the individual concentrates their attention and their energy upon their own expression and is not concerning themselves with the expression of the other individuals, for there is much to be learned within your own expression.
Let us look to a situation that you may be suggesting of a certain direction as to any particular course of action that you may wish to be engaging in this joint venture. Another individual that is creating this joint venture with you may be in disagreement and may be expressing a different direction.
Now; you may be responding within yourself in a reaction of disagreement to their expression, and this shall be creating of certain twinges, so to speak, that shall arise within you. It may be triggering of certain emotional expressions; it may be triggering of certain thought processes. In this, you present yourself with the opportunity to examine your own response.
Now; be remembering that what I am expressing to you is unfamiliar. The familiar is to move into the direction of NOT looking to self and examining your own responses and your own beliefs which are triggering these responses, but to be looking to the other individual outside of yourself and automatically placing judgment upon their expression and justifying your own expression, expressing to yourself within yourself – regardless of whether you may be outwardly expressing this, but inwardly expressing to yourself – in your justification that you are right, and therefore it is unnecessary for you to be incorporating the idea of another individual.
Now; I am not suggesting to you that you may be continuously denying self and moving in the direction of being compliant with another individual. What I AM expressing to you is to be evaluating what is triggering and what is creating your responsiveness when you are in disagreement to another individual.
In this expression, as you evaluate what your expression is in your response and where it stems from, you may also be expressive of this to another individual, and in THIS expression, together you may allow yourselves to explore more of your choices than merely the ones that have been expressed between you to that point, for there is always more than two choices to every situation.
But you do not necessarily view all of the choices available to you if you are not allowing yourself to explore beyond your immediate responsiveness to each situation, for it is automatic to you all to be evaluating your situations in either/or terms, black and white terms, and cause and effect terms.
Therefore, for the most part, you move into areas that you allow yourselves to view only two choices in each situation, but there are many more than two choices with each situation. Therefore, as you look to yourself and offer yourself the identification of your own triggers, your own responses, and your own reactions to any given situation, you also open yourself to more of your choices and you allow an opening in your interaction with other individuals to incorporate more choices jointly. Are you understanding?
TOM: Not entirely. I get the basic part of it. I’m seeing what you’re saying, but....
ELIAS: Present any scenario of your own experience to me, and we shall incorporate that as an example.
TOM: It’s not that I can come up with one specific example. It’s a matter of, there’s often conflict when we’re trying to develop one creation jointly, and how you kind of try to channel these different creations of different individuals into one joint creation.
ELIAS: Correct. But I express to you that the difficulty arises in the interaction with more than one individual, as each individual is expressing themselves from the perception of their own issues and beliefs. Therefore, they are each being influenced in this same manner, and in that, they each are not assessing the wider picture of the entirety of the reality, but merely moving within their own sphere of their own perception and justifying their own perception as being the correct perception. This is, as I have stated, the pitfall, and this is the most difficult area to be addressing to.
This is the situation – as I have expressed previously – of you pushing your ball with your stick (2), and another individual entering the playing field and hitting their ball into your ball. Now how shall you be moving your ball? You hold the choice to be continuing to be interactive with another individual. You also hold the choice to be continuing in conflict or to not be continuing in conflict.
Let me also express to you that you may be approaching certain situations – in the expression of acceptance of yourself – in evaluating your least conflict scenario. In this, if you are experiencing conflict in conjunction with another individual, you may evaluate what is creating your conflict and what shall be creating no conflict or the least amount of conflict in that situation. In that, you hold the ability to choose objectively what shall present the least amount of conflict for you, and move in that direction.
TOM: But if you do that, is that being ... do you do that by being compliant?
ELIAS: Not necessarily! Many times individuals are not compliant with the wants or the expression of another individual, but are creating of the situation which allows themselves the least amount of conflict.
You may be engaged with another individual, and you may be in disagreement with another individual. You may view no viable area of what you term to be compromise. In this, you are focusing your attention outside of yourself. You are attempting to be compromising with another individual to be appeasing or compliant with them, but this may not necessarily eliminate your conflict, and in your compliance, you may be in actuality reinforcing your own expressions of discounting yourself within your own aspects of duplicity.
Therefore, you may approach this situation differently, and you may question yourself. You may express to yourself, ‘This situation is creating conflict within me.’ You may then ask yourself, ‘What shall create no conflict for myself in this situation?’ and you may identify that element also.
As you move and choose your own no conflict scenario, this may not necessarily be creating no conflict for the other individual, but it is creating no conflict for you, and it is the responsibility of the other individual to be creating no conflict for themselves. It is not your responsibility to be creating another individual’s reality!
This also is unfamiliar to you, for within your thought process and your beliefs, this appears harsh, for you then express to yourselves, ‘But this may be creating of much conflict for another individual.’ I express to you, this is not your concern. This is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to yourself and to be creating YOUR least conflict scenario, for in your expression of your least conflict scenario, you are also accepting self and trusting self, and THIS is the direction of your attention and the most efficient expression. It may be presenting difficulties with other individuals temporarily, but this is THEIR expression, which they are creating, and this is their responsibility in their expression.
TOM: How do we work towards, you know, really trying to accept and trust ourselves?
ELIAS: This small exercise of conflict and no conflict is a very efficient method, so to speak, to begin moving in this direction, for each time you are moving in the direction of no conflict with yourself, what you are creating is your own acceptance and trust of self, and in that action, there is also a byproduct of the acceptance of the other individual.
You may continue to not be in agreement, but as you are creating no conflict within yourself, you automatically move into more of an acceptance of the other individual also, recognizing that their expression is their expression – is their reality – and that this is acceptable. It is not necessary for it to be the same as your expression. They may continue, and it is also not necessary for you to be in agreement with them and with their expression or their behavior or their thought process.
This is your practicing in your own acceptance of self, that it is not a matter of right or wrong. It is merely an expression of conflict and no conflict, and in your expression of no conflict, you may reinforce yourself that you are trusting of yourself.
Let me express to you that I am also aware and understanding that in this expression, you are also creating a judgment. You are expressing to yourself that you are good in this situation and you are acknowledging of yourself in this accomplishment, and this temporarily is acceptable, for the expression of duplicity is extremely strong, and temporarily allowing yourself acknowledgment and validation shall be reinforcing of your own acceptance and trust of self.
Eventually you shall hold no need to be acknowledging and reinforcing of your own expression, for your trust and your acceptance of self shall be automatic. Therefore, it shall be unnecessary to express to yourself that you are accomplishing well or good or acceptable ... or that you are ‘okay,’ in your vernacular! (Grinning)
In the meanwhile, you may be reinforcing of yourself by practicing, in identifying each moment that you are experiencing conflict and allowing yourself to choose no conflict REGARDLESS OF THE INTERACTION OF OTHER INDIVIDUALS, remembering that other individuals are creating their reality the same as you are creating your reality. It is not your responsibility to be assuming responsibility for their reality, but merely to be concerning yourself with self and what offers you the least amount of conflict.
TOM: Sounds like a good course, if I could stay to it!
ELIAS: And you may!
You may begin with what you identify as small areas. You present yourself with the expression of conflicts continuously! Some of your conflicts you identify as very small; others you identify as much larger. They are all the same, essentially. They are conflict or no conflict. Therefore, you may begin in practicing each day with your smaller expressions of conflict.
The reason this particular exercise is easily accomplished is that it is an objective expression. You need not be evaluating. You need not be moving in the direction of identifying your belief systems. You may not move yourself into psychological areas or expressions or analysis. You merely need be identifying any element that is creating conflict – which objectively is quite easy for you all – and in this, offer yourself what creates no conflict for you. This also is quite easy for you to be identifying! You may not always choose to be moving in that direction, for you are assuming personal responsibility for other individuals or you are placing judgment upon yourself, but if you are moving outside of these expressions, it matters not, and you may be creating quite efficiently.
Let me express to you one small example: An individual experiences fatigue within their day. They express within their thoughts, ‘I shall engage a nap.’ Subsequently they are experiencing conflict, for within them, they are also expressing a battle. ‘Shall I engage a nap? No! This is irresponsible and non-productive, and I must be continuing within my day and being productive.’ Now; in identifying that they are experiencing conflict – they wish to be engaging a nap, they are not engaging a nap – what shall be eliminating of their conflict? To be engaging a nap!
You need not move in the direction of in-depth evaluations. It is quite simple and it is very objective, and in this, there are no hidden traps! It is merely your objective identification of what offers you conflict and what does not offer you conflict, and as you practice in this, as I have stated, you shall be reinforcing your own acceptance of self.” [session 375, March 20, 1999]
TOM: “Now Jeneph [Shirley] has a question about her intent, and if you might give some advice on her dilemma and conflicts in creating different probabilities presently.
ELIAS: This moves in the direction of trust and acceptance of self, and the allowance of accepting the ideas and opinions and input of outside elements which may not necessarily be in harmony with self. But in not trusting and accepting self, in the questioning of self, there is a leaning in the direction of accepting input from outside areas, so to speak – other individuals and other situations – that ultimately becomes confusing as opposed to offering clarity.
In this, I express that as this individual may be looking to self and engaging in objective terms – once again we move into this direction (chuckling) – our no conflict exercise, this may be helpful.
Let me express that in engaging the no conflict scenario, there is an automatic acceptance of self. There is a discontinuation of judgment upon situations and other individuals and there is an allowance to be moving in what you term to be a forward motion, for you discontinue the movement of conflict which may be blocking in your expression. Therefore, I express to this individual to be engaging this no conflict exercise, and this may be helpful in this situation.” [session 379, March 28, 1999]
GINA: “Why am I experiencing conflict right now? I’ve been experiencing a lot of conflict!
ELIAS: Let me express to you that the conflict that you are experiencing and offering to yourself is an opportunity for you to be viewing self and to be more clearly evaluating your own creations and your own participation in situations and interactions with yourself and with other individuals.
In this, within this present time framework you may be experiencing an emphasis in this situation, which is bringing this to your attention more intensely. What you are moving into is, as you continue to be experiencing these conflicts, you are also allowing yourself to open to self more fully and allow[ing] yourself to be more accepting and trusting of yourself.
Let me offer you a type of example.
Many individuals within physical focus allow themselves a period of time to be struggling with themselves within conflict. These same individuals eventually tire of their participation within these conflicts. As they are continuing within these conflicts – as with yourself – they are not allowing themselves to view in actuality what is creating the conflict. The conflict is stemming from their own lack of acceptance and trust within themselves, and the allowance of the beliefs – of not merely themselves but other individuals – to be strongly influencing them. In this situation, as they continue – as you continue also – to be participating in this type of conflict, you move into a position of becoming weary of the continuation of this type of conflicting experiences.
In that moment of weariness or tiring from the conflict which is continuing, there is a letting go of the holding within energy to the conflict itself, and in that letting go, THEN you may be allowing yourself more of a relaxation within your focus, and this shall provide you the window to be viewing self and viewing the areas in which you yourself are not accepting of yourself, of your behaviors, of your expressions. And in this, as you turn your attention and allow yourself to be more trusting and more accepting of your own expressions regardless of the influences or of the situations with other individuals, your conflict shall dissipate.
GINA: Okay. What issues are my husband and I trying to show ourselves? There’s been a lot of conflict between us lately, and I’m just wondering how I can try to change that and what I can do to not experience conflict on my part between us.
ELIAS: Let me express to you that this is directly related to this wave within consciousness which is occurring presently, addressing to the belief system of sexuality.
Now; I have expressed previously, recently, explanations of this creation and belief system of sexuality, and that it is far more expansive than you view it to be. In this, it is also much more camouflaged than many of your belief systems within this physical dimension, for there are many elements of this particularly belief system that you do not identify as an element of a belief system.
In this, as this particular belief system is being addressed, it is creating responsiveness within many individuals – yourselves also – and may be creating of much conflict.
Your creation of sexuality involves your perception: how you view yourselves and how you view your world, how you interact with yourselves and how you interact with your world.
In this, you and your partner share the same orientation within this particular manifestation presently, but you also are influenced by different aspects of belief systems.
Now; in this influencing of different aspects of belief systems, you find yourselves projecting to each other in the expression of conflict, for each of you holds to your own perception of your own aspects of beliefs.
What you are creating is – as I have expressed the analogy of the stick and the ball previously, the stick being the beliefs which are influencing or pushing of the ball which is your perception – you are pushing your ball with your stick and he is pushing his ball with his stick and you are pushing your balls into each other, colliding with each other. In this expression, you may identify to yourself that neither of you is seeming to be choosing to give, in flexibleness.
Now; the reason for this situation is that you are holding very tightly to your own perceptions, and you are not allowing for the reality of each other’s perceptions.
Let me express to you that your perception creates your reality. Therefore, it IS your reality and it is real, but each individual’s perception is reality. They may be different, but they are all reality.
In this, I express to you that as you turn your attention to self – as I have expressed within the response to the previous question involving the situation of conflict – as you are looking to self and examining your own participation and perpetuation of your own beliefs and of your own lack of acceptance of self, this shall be helpful to you within your interaction.
Couple this with the understanding that your partner’s perception is their reality also. Therefore, it matters not that you may be expressing many times of any particular idea or situation. This may not necessarily be influencing in the other individual’s reality, for he also is holding very tightly to his own energy and his own beliefs and the influence of his own beliefs.
Now; I shall express to you in this that you may be moving through these types of expressions and accomplishing what you seek to be accomplishing in eliminating this conflict in relation to the relationship, for you do hold the same orientation.
This is not to say that you may not move through these types of situations were you to be holding different orientations, but it would be exceedingly more difficult, for in holding different orientations, you also – in a manner of speaking – hold different languages, for you hold very different types of perceptions.
YOUR perceptions are merely different as influenced by your beliefs. This is much easier to be moving through and eliminating conflict with than would it be were you holding different orientations.
In this – viewing yourself singularly and addressing to YOU, not to the situation of your partner – I express to you that if you are allowing yourself to move more deeply into self, you may be quite affecting of this situation of conflict.
Now; I also express to you that I hold an awareness that this is not a task easily undertaken, for in this, it is not merely a question or situation of altering your own behavior, but to be noticing – within each moment of interaction – what your individual personal triggers are, in which you hold many.
First of all, you may be identifying your own triggers. There are certain expressions that may be offered to you by your partner that you shall automatically accept, assimilate inwardly, and it shall be a trigger to be reinforcing duplicity.
In this, the resulting action of that reinforcing of duplicity is to be initially hurt, and subsequently experiencing the emotion of anger and turning the hurtfulness outward towards the other individual.
Now let me explain to you the action which is occurring in this type of situation.
ELIAS: The other individual expresses to you any type of behavior or statement that triggers you, and therefore is creating the feeling or the emotion of hurtfulness within you.
Let us stop momentarily.
This feeling of hurtfulness is the identification of your agreement of your own lack of acceptance, your own unworthiness. This is what creates the feeling of hurtfulness, for as the other individual expresses to you, as an example, ‘Your behavior is unacceptable,’ you are receiving the statement, you are accepting the statement, and within you underlyingly, you are agreeing with the statement.
Therefore, you are offering the hurtfulness to yourself in not acknowledging your own worthiness. This creates frustration within self, for you do not objectively identify what you are participating within and what you are in actuality creating.
GINA: I see.
ELIAS: Therefore, you turn this expression and project outwardly that which you are in actuality expressing to self and you produce retaliation behavior, for you are expressing what you underlyingly are expressing to self, and the battle which is raging is that within self. It is merely being mirrored outwardly between yourself and another individual.
Now; what may be complicating this situation is that you are each participating in the same action, and as you are participating in this action, you are also mirroring to each other those elements that you are not accepting within self. Therefore, when one individual expresses, ‘You are inadequate as a parent; you are not accomplishing in the manner that you should,’ the other individual is receiving this information as a mirror expression of their own perception of self and their own lack of acceptance of self.
Or, the individual may express, ‘You are not listening to me. You do not hear what I say.’ What you are in actuality expressing is merely an outward projection of the statement which you are creating for yourself. You are not listening to self. You are not acknowledging of self. Therefore, you look outside to another individual to be producing that action for you, and as they are not, you move in the direction of projecting all of your frustration outwardly.
Now, in turning your attention to self and expressing the acknowledgment to self that you are not listening and paying attention to self, and offering to self what you are seeking outside from another individual, you may more efficiently address to the issue and be eliminating the conflict.
GINA: ... Well, that’s all the questions I have written down. Before we hang up, is there anything else that maybe I didn’t ask, information that maybe you have come up with that you can tell me? You’ve answered a lot.
ELIAS: I offer to you merely the suggestion that you offer to yourself the practicing of the no conflict exercise.
And I also express to you the suggestion that for a time framework, you may experiment with the action of each time you begin to involve yourself within objective conflict with your partner, to stop momentarily and merely inquire of yourself why you are participating in this conflict. What are you defending and what are you protecting?
GINA: Okay, alright. I think that’s a great last word. Well, I definitely intend on getting back with you again. I’ll start doing some exercises, and I’ll probably get some more information from my mother and my brother. Thank you. You’ve been very informative.
ELIAS: Very well. I express to you that I anticipate our next meeting, and I offer to you much encouragement in your endeavors and your practicing in these areas, and we shall be watching within your progress, so to speak!” (Chuckling) [session 380, April 02, 1999]
ANON: “You discussed, it seemed to me, a lot about conflict – conflict that’s been arising in other places, as well as with us individually. I guess what I was wondering is, when an individual experiences conflict in another individual, and their belief is to want to help that individual to neutralize their conflict, is it possible to do that, or are you intrinsically placing a judgment on their engaging in conflict as not being right somehow?
ELIAS: Let me express to you that this is a common thought process within individuals in this physical focus. You lean in the direction of wishing to be helpful to each other. You place judgment upon the expressions of conflict, and you wish to be eliminating of conflict.
Now; in one respect, I express to you that conflict in itself is neither right or wrong. It is an experience, and it is a chosen experience. But I may also express to you that conflict creates a thickness in energy, and this be the reason that you move in the direction of not wishing to be creating conflict. You naturally magnate to pleasure, for this offers you less thickness within energy and more of an ease in your creation of your reality. If you are creating within any of your expressions within pleasure, you shall experience an ease. You shall express to yourself that you are noticing that your movement flows freely. If you are creating conflict, you shall also be noticing a thickness in energy. It shall appear to be more difficult, and you shall move more slowly in your direction within conflict.
You all hold an agreement objectively within this physical dimension that you do not appreciate conflict. Underlyingly, subjectively, you hold a knowing that conflict creates this thickness. Therefore, you also move in the direction of choosing to be noticing conflict and expressing to yourselves and to other individuals that you wish to be eliminating of these expressions of conflict, therefore providing yourselves with more of an ease in creating your reality.
You do this with yourselves and you do this with other individuals. If you yourselves are experiencing conflict, you wish to be eliminating of your own conflict, that you may be experiencing less thickness and more of an ease in your creation of your reality. As you witness and view another individual experiencing conflict and creating conflict, you also move in the direction of the expression that you wish to be eliminating of that expression also.
In this, as I have stated, in one respect you are creating a judgment upon the choice of experience of the individual which is creating conflict, but within another respect you are recognizing that the individual is creating thickness, and they themselves wish not to be creating thickness. Therefore, you choose to be helpful.
Now; I have expressed to you many times, you may not be creating another individual’s reality, but you may be influencing. You may be influencing if the other individual is accepting of your expression. If the other individual is NOT accepting of your expression, which is their choice, you shall not be influencing, for the point is not to be concerning yourselves with other individuals and their creation of their reality, but to be concerning yourself with yourself and your creation of your reality, and that creation which offers YOU less thickness and less conflict and more of an ease, for in your creation of this within yourself, you are automatically lending energy to other individuals in their discovery of their ability to be creating of the same action.
This is the point of our little sapling story, (3) which offers no expression at all to the convoluted little sapling, but merely concerns itself with self and growing in the manner that it is growing and is most efficient for itself. It does not offer direction. It does not offer helpfulness. It offers merely the expression of being that may be viewed, and in this offers what you term in physical focus to be an example of a direction that creates no conflict and no thickness, but is recognizing that the convoluted little sapling is creating its reality, and may be creating and IS creating their own conflict quite purposefully.
... Continuing again; re-addressing to your question as to helpfulness within interaction of other individuals and your concern in the area of their creation of conflict within their situations.
Now; in this also, let me express to you that as you hold a knowing and a natural magnating toward pleasure and less thickness within your creations, you identify this in other individuals and you express that you wish to be helpful to another individual.
Now; as I have expressed, each of you may be engaging different creations of conflict within different time periods, and as conflict DOES gain your attention in many different areas of your focus and you SHALL be noticing of your conflict, you purposefully engage conflict to be offering yourselves information that you choose to be addressing to.
Within physical focus, you are quite fond of methods. You are quite fond of processes. Within concept, you may accept the idea that I may set forth to you, that you may be creating instantaneously and that it is unnecessary for you to be creating a process or a method for your movement, but this is a concept. It is an idea. It is not necessarily within your actual physical reality, for your belief is very influencing, and this influence is also quite instrumental in your creation of your reality.
Therefore, as you do believe that you need be creating a method or a process to be moving through certain issues or addressing to certain issues that you hold within your focus, you create conflict many times to be gaining your attention and offering you a method to move through certain issues. If you are holding an issue and it is not creating conflict, you shall not pay attention to the issue and it shall continue.
If you hold an issue in the area of personal responsibility, as example, and you are offering expression to other individuals continuously and you are moving in the direction of rescuing and care-taking with them and this offers you no conflict, you shall continue within your expression. If this offers you pleasure, you shall continue in this issue. This is not to say that it is not an issue! It is merely an issue that is offering you no conflict within a particular time framework.
Issues do not always offer you conflict. You create conflict within time periods that you choose to be addressing to the issue, but you express to yourselves quite freely that you acknowledge that you hold issues – you acknowledge that you hold beliefs – but they are working beliefs or working issues. This is the expression that the issue or the belief is offering you no conflict, and therefore you hold no motivation to address to it.
In this, within your reality that you create, many, many times you may view creations of other individuals, that as you are viewing outwardly and concerning your attention with another individual and their creation of reality and their conflict, you are not looking to self. And in this situation, you are drawing yourself to be a participant within another individual’s conflict, that you may mirror to yourself similarities in your own beliefs and your own issues.
You draw yourself to other individuals’ creations, that you may offer yourself imagery and you may offer yourself information to your own creations – for you are engaging mirror actions – and you move in the direction of wishing to be helpful to the OTHER individual and viewing many times that you may see the conflict and what is being created within another individual more clearly than they view within their conflict. Therefore, you allow yourself permission to move into the direction of being helpful, for this is your camouflage – the expression of helpfulness, of concern, of caring, of lovingness. These are all very positive expressions. These are all expressions that you all view as good, and therefore you view yourselves as good, for you are expressing these elements and you are wishing to be helpful to another individual.
Underlyingly, what you are also expressing is that you are better, that you hold a greater understanding, that you are more enlightened, that you are clearer ... that you may create another individual’s reality FOR them more efficiently than they are creating for themselves! Judgment, judgment, judgment – lack of acceptance of another individual within the guise of caring and helpfulness and lovingness.
I am not expressing to you that these emotions that you experience are not genuine, and I am also not expressing to you that they are wrong. They merely are. You hold emotional responses to each other, but you are also not allowing yourself to view your own expressions.
As you move into a position of choosing to be helpful to another individual – for you label your expression as concern and lovingness in the situation of helpfulness to another individual’s conflict – what you are in actuality expressing [is] that YOU wish this expression for yourself. You express outwardly in what you want within your own expression: your own expectation of other individuals in how they may be interactive with you, and your own want of what you may be expressing to yourself.
I express to you all quite seriously that you express to other individuals much more freely and shall offer nurturing and acceptance and helpfulness to other individuals more often than you shall extend this to yourselves, but in those actions, you are expressing outwardly the want that you hold inwardly.
As you engage another individual that may be experiencing distress, confusion, conflict, elements that you term to be upsets, difficulty in identifying their own issues, difficulty in expression of themselves, difficulties within their own communications, you are also recognizing those qualities, those elements within yourself that you hold. And in this, you express outwardly to another individual in the hope that you may be helpful in influencing their reality and allowing them to view their own creation of their conflict, but in this action, you are also distracting yourself from yourself and not offering the same expression to yourself.
Think to yourselves how often you may be offering helpfulness to another individual in any given situation of conflict, and if you are creating a very similar conflict, you may not be as accepting of your own creation as you shall be of another individual’s creation.
Let us offer a very general expression of example. You may be interactive with another individual that may engage an action of theft. The individual may subsequently be creating a feeling of what you term to be remorse that they have engaged this action of theft.
This is a subject or an action within your officially accepted reality that is unacceptable. You each place a judgment upon this action, but if approached by an individual that has engaged this action and is expressing to you sorrow and is expressing to you a tremendous lack of acceptance of self in relation to their behavior, you may quite likely move into the expression of acceptance of this individual and be expressing to them, ‘Be not so very unaccepting of yourself. You are not a bad individual. You have merely created a behavior which is unacceptable within our beliefs, but you as an individual are not bad.’
You shall extend this expression to another individual, but if you in turn are creating the same action, you shall not extend this expression to self. You shall be not accepting of self and you shall be placing judgment upon yourself and you shall be also expressing to yourself the same expression of the other individual: ‘I am bad; I am unworthy; I am unacceptable.’
You each create these types of expressions, and as you draw yourself to the conflict of another individual, they express very similarly to yourselves. You may choose different types of objective expressions, but underlyingly, you are expressing the same.
One individual may choose to be engaging conflict in raised volume of voice. Another individual may express conflict in physical actions. But underlyingly, the issues of the expressions are the same. Outwardly they may appear differently, but what you are viewing in the expression – and the reason of the expression – is the same.
As you draw yourselves to other individuals that are experiencing conflict, you are doing this very action. You are drawing yourself to participate with that individual within their creation of their conflict, that you may mirror to yourself your own similarities and you may notice and identify your own aspects of belief systems that you participate in also and that are creating conflict within you.
Now; in this expression, I may express to you that you may be helpful to yourself in noticing YOUR mirror action and noticing your own issues in similarity to another individual and noticing your differences in expression, and as you allow yourself to be connecting with self and recognizing your own beliefs, your own behaviors, your own creation of conflict and identifying this to yourself and choosing different actions, you may also be helpful to the other individual.
Think to yourselves how within your focuses, you engage activity oft in expressing to another individual your opinion and your ideas in the direction of, ‘What shall be more efficient to be creating within another individual’s focus?’ Now think to yourselves how oft this is NOT accepted by the other individual, and they shall create what they are choosing to create regardless!
But also think to yourselves within your thought processes of the situations in which you are not expressing your advice to another individual, but you are accepting of their expression and you are merely lending supportiveness by merely being you – not placing judgment and not expressing a direction for the other individual – and in this expression, you may notice more of a responsiveness within your interaction of that other individual.
Therefore, in your questioning of how you may be helpful to another individual, I express once again that your most efficient direction is to be noticing self and attending to self, and in this you shall automatically be helpful to another individual, for they also shall turn their attention to self and be addressing to self, and each individual is what shall be creating different choices.
(Intently) No individual within your physical focus may choose for any other individual. These are individually your choices.
You may not be creating another individual’s reality. You may only create your own reality. Regardless of your great wish – that you lean in the direction of – that you WANT to be creating all other individuals’ reality, (grinning) for you may be so very much more efficient at this expression, this is not what you have created.
This reality is created highly individually, as I have expressed within the onset of this session.
Each of you creates your reality individually. This individual action creates mass expressions if you are creating individually similarly to other individuals, but you all are creating within your own individual choices, and you ARE creating in the most beneficial manner that shall offer you the most beneficial information.
This also is quite purposeful in my expression to you. I am not expressing that you always create quite efficiently, but you DO create beneficially. You may choose in your widening of your awarenesses to be creating more efficiently, but you are always creating beneficially, for you are always offering yourselves information that you may draw upon to be understanding self more efficiently.
I do not discount your emotional expressions in all of these situations, for your emotional expressions are quite within your reality, and you DO express many emotions. I also express to you that your emotions are another experience. They need not necessarily be incorporating action. They are an action within themselves.
You, within your beliefs, move in the direction of identifying your emotional expressions and attaching an action to them. You are experiencing an emotion, and you should be accomplishing this. Another individual is experiencing an emotion, and you should be offering this. You should be DOING. I express to you that this is not necessarily the situation. Your emotions are an action within themselves, and they merely are. They are not good; they are not bad. They merely are, and it is quite acceptable to be expressing of them.
In this, many times not incorporating another action coupled with your emotion may be more efficient, but merely accepting that element of you that is expressing that emotion and not placing judgment that this is a good or a bad expression. It merely is. It is what you are experiencing within the moment.
I shall offer further also: Individuals express that they hold the belief that emotions are cause and effect. I express to you that I have offered many times, in actuality there is no cause and effect. It is merely a belief that you hold. Therefore, you express that you hold an emotion in response or reaction to a cause. I express to you that within your creation and the influence of your beliefs, you do express this many times, but it is not an absolute. Your emotions need no action to be facilitating them.
Each individual within physical focus experiences moments of emotional expression that you express to yourselves ‘appears from nowhere.’ It has been created with no cause. You merely are feeling what you are feeling, and you know not why.
I express to you that emotion is a base element of your reality in this dimension, and is what you have created in your process of information. This is your method of identifying certain types of information, just as your sight is a method for interpretation of certain types of information. Your outer senses process information, your inner senses process information, and your creation of sexuality and emotion process information and create your reality, for they are your perception and your perception IS your reality.
Therefore, I am quite understanding of your expression of emotion in relation to another individual. I am also offering to you that as you hold an emotion in relation to another individual, you may hold the emotion and not necessarily couple the emotion with another action. The emotion in itself is enough of the action, and in that emotion, you are offering a clear and unclouded expression of yourself to another individual. You cloud this by offering – in conjunction to your emotion – your rationale and your thought process and your logic, but view how much more it is accepted by other individuals that you are merely expressing the emotion.
If you are expressing to another individual, ‘I hold great lovingness for you,’ you need not offer any other expression or action and it shall be accepted, and it shall be clearly identified in being felt also. If you are expressing sorrow or anger and you are not coupling these with another action, the communication is offered efficiently and clearly, and understood. It is unnecessary to be coupling this with other actions.
But you move in the direction of NOT accepting self. Your expression is not enough; it is not good enough. This is the lack of acceptance of self. Therefore, you move in the direction of creating drama and attaching other actions to your expressions of your emotions to emphasize what you are expressing, for your initial expression is not enough ... but it is!
Drama creates conflict. It perpetuates conflict and it is unnecessary, but you are very efficient at creating this, for it is very familiar to you. As you move more fully into the expression of this shift in consciousness, and the waves continue and the momentum increases and you widen your awareness and you expose yourselves to more unfamiliarities, you also retreat into your familiar and your known expressions, and therefore you create in the fashion that you are accustomed to creating within.
Look to your mass expressions. You identify these as negative and violent and quite typical of actions throughout your history, and you express to yourselves, ‘Why shall we be creating of this type of action if we are moving into this shift in consciousness and enlightening ourselves?’
And I express to you that you move in this type of direction for it IS familiar, and within your beliefs there is comfort in familiarity, regardless of its expression. Regardless that it may be expressed within conflict, it is familiar, and familiarity offers you safety, security, and comfort. These are all aspects of your beliefs, for there is no necessity for safety or security, for what shall you be unsafe or insecure within? You have created a safe and secure universe, and it is not hurtful to you. YOU are hurtful to you.
ANON: (Whispering) Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome. Trust self, and move in the direction of no conflict.
ANON: I’ll try. (Pause)
ELIAS: Are you wishing of more questions this evening?
RODNEY: I want to thank you for the answer you just gave Anon, because it was very appropriate.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome. I express to you that this may be quite affecting of many individuals presently, for many individuals presently are experiencing much conflict, much emotional affectingness, much confusion, a lack of direction, so to speak, an uncertainty. This is the air, in a manner of speaking, that you have created, for you may express to yourselves that you are upon your brink. You are within your middle. You are moving away from the familiar but you are frightened of the unfamiliar, and we have expressed within this session this evening that you move in the direction quite efficiently of ‘I should, I shouldn’t, and what if?’
FRANK: How do you move into the direction of the unfamiliar? Is there a....
ELIAS: A method! (Grinning, and everybody cracks up)
FRANK: What are the signs, or ...?
ELIAS: I shall express to you, Christian [Frank], that your most efficient method or process in this area is to be concerning yourself in your attention within the now, for if you are holding your attention within the now, what shall you express to yourself in ‘what if?’
There is no ‘what if’ within the now. There is merely ‘what if’ within the future or the past!
ERIC: So I guess I should forget about worrying about my retirement or anything like that!
ELIAS: Concern your attention with now, for this is your reality! Your future is not your reality, for it does not exist! It is merely an illusion that you create within your thought process in your identification of linear time, but you do not occupy your future. You occupy now, and all of your action occurs now, and as your future materializes, it is NOW!
Your past is now. All that you are, all that you create, all that you experience is NOW. But you occupy your attention, much of your time, projecting into your past or into your future and occupying your thought processes and your emotions in the ‘what ifs’ of the past or the future, and if you are occupying your attention within the now, there are no ‘what ifs.’ There also are no ‘shoulds.’
‘I should have; I should be.’ These are past and future. You merely ARE within the now, and if within the now you experience any element that you find discomfort within, you hold the ability within that now to alter the experience. But you shall not alter the experience if you are not paying attention to the experience and you are projecting pastly or futurely, for your attention is occupied elsewhere and you are busying yourselves within distraction. THIS be the area that you immobilize yourselves, for you are not attending to the present, to the now, and within the now – if you ARE looking to the now – there is much less conflict within the present now than it appears to be.
This is not to say that you may not be experiencing conflict within the moment, within the now, for you do. But if you are attending your attention within that now, you also offer yourself more of an opportunity to alter that conflict and step out of that conflict, for you are attending to what you are experiencing presently.
If you are engaging conflict with another individual, as example, you are experiencing what you may term to be, in your vernacular, fighting with another individual; disagreement. You are projecting your perception; they are projecting their perception. You are not meeting within your perceptions. You are throwing judgments to each other, and you are creating tremendous conflict between you within your expressions.
Now; if you are focusing upon the other individual and what they are creating, you shall not be focusing on altering your expression, for you shall be in the direction of blame and expressing that the other individual shall be changing their reality to suit your reality.
If you are within this conflict, not attending to the now within your own experience and directing your attention to self, you shall not alter the experience and you shall perpetuate the experience, but if you are attending to the now, holding your attention within the now, you may be noticing that you are within the moment creating conflict.
The other individual is not creating your conflict! YOU are creating your conflict, in reaction and responsiveness to those areas of lack of acceptance within yourself.
IN THIS MOMENT, as you are recognizing of that emotion and the action of conflict that you are experiencing, you may also, within the moment, STOP. Identify within the moment, what are you creating? Why are you creating? Why are you reacting? And as you ask yourself ‘Why am I reacting?’ you shall offer yourself an answer, and you shall notice within that answer that you HAVE placed a judgment – upon yourself, upon another individual, but you have created a lack of acceptance – and you may offer yourself within the now the opportunity to alter your expression. But if you are not paying attention to the now, how shall you alter your expression?
If you are throwing a rock in a pond in this area (gesturing to the right), your attention is in the pond and the rock in this direction. How may you, in that now, scoop a cup of water from this pond? (gesturing to the left)
Your attention shall dictate to you what you shall be creating, and if your attention is outside of yourself and if your attention is outside of the now, this is what you shall be creating, and this many, many times is perpetuating of conflicts.
Conflict assumes many forms. It may be in the area of agitation; it may be in the area of worry; it may be in the area of concern. It may be expressed in many different manners, but it is a thickness and it is a conflict, and in addressing to self and to your attention within the now, you also offer yourself the opportunity to alter the behavior that is creating the conflict. That be your method!
FRANK: Is there a back door method?
ELIAS: Ah! (Laughter)
FRANK: In other words, to eliminate the effect of the conflict of the belief system, just to say ‘enough?’
ELIAS: And you may be creating of this expression! I have expressed to you that you hold the ability to instantaneously eliminate these elements of conflict, but you do not believe this!
FRANK: Right! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Therefore, you do not implement this! But you may view infrequently, within certain expressions that you hold, that you DO create that very action, and you express to yourselves, ‘Enough. No. Stop.’ And you stop!
ANON: Would removing yourself from the situation be a way of stopping, then? Saying, ‘In the now, I am feeling conflict and discomfort. I choose to remove myself from the situation.’ Is that a way to stop the conflict?
ELIAS: This is a choice, and this is an expression that may be affecting of the situation that you are engaging. This be the reason that I express to you to be engaging the no conflict exercise.
Within the now, express to yourself, what is offering you conflict and what shall eliminate that conflict? And do not place a judgment upon the choice! If the choice is to be removing yourself from the situation to be eliminating of the conflict, then I express to you, why shall you not remove yourself? The point is to be eliminating the conflict and the thickness. Therefore, it matters not what your choice is. It matters that you are accomplishing the no conflict.
In this expression of no conflict, you are creating several actions within this one expression. You are allowing acceptance of self. You are NOT placing judgment upon self or the situation or another individual. You are merely choosing what offers you no conflict.
This is not an expression of judgment upon another individual or upon a situation. It is merely an assessment, a choice of what offers you conflict and what does not offer you conflict.
Therefore, there is an acceptance of the other individual, that they may continue in their expression regardless of what they are choosing. It matters not. You are not expressing to them that they must be discontinuing in their expression. You are merely expressing that YOU are choosing differently. Therefore, there is an acceptance of the other individual’s choice of their expression, be it to be discontinuing their own conflict or to be continuing their conflict. It matters not. This is their choice. Your choice is to be moving into no conflict, and this places no judgment upon yourself also, for you are automatically accepting of yourself in accepting your choice and your expression within no conflict.” [session 387, April 24, 1999]
LISSETTE: “... I want to know what my connection to my ex-husband is and why I presented myself again with this conflict. I wonder if it’s a way of re-engaging my belief systems about being true to myself, or is it because I have something else to learn from this relationship?
ELIAS: Ah! Now; let me address to the entirety of this questioning and subject matter.
First of all, let me express to you that I am acknowledging of your own movement as you engage your process in ‘moving forward,’ so to speak, for you are accomplishing quite well in this area and allowing yourself to widen your awareness quite efficiently.
Now; the reason that you move into the thought process that you are extending three steps forward and four steps backward is that you are viewing your own movement, but you are also interpreting new elements in your movement as the presentment of ‘setbacks.’
In this, let me express to you that these are not necessarily setbacks. Although you may view in physical focus that conflicts – especially what you view to be repeated conflicts – may appear to be setbacks, in actuality, this may not necessarily be the situation.
In your individual situation, you draw yourself to certain types of experiences to be offering you the opportunity to view different angles of the same beliefs, therefore not deluding yourself into the thought that you have entirely moved through a particular aspect of a belief, but allowing yourself to re-examine each of your beliefs and each of your own movements, that you may be accomplishing fully in these areas and leaving no aspect of the belief unviewed and therefore unattended to.
Now; in the experience that you create which involves this other individual, you offer yourself the opportunity to view more of your own self, more of your own responses to situations, and you offer yourself the opportunity to alter your viewing and your behavior in these situations.
What you are offering to yourself presently is the opportunity to view interaction with another individual, noticing how this interaction creates automatic responses within yourself, and as you allow yourself to view your own automatic responses, you also provide yourself with information as to the reasoning why you create certain situations and how you perpetuate certain situations and repeat patterns in those situations.
This offers you the opportunity to view an interaction that you are quite familiar with, but to view it now differently, to be expressing to yourself that the reason you respond in certain manners is not that the other individual holds responsibility in this or is creating your reality and forcing you to be responding or feeling certain emotions or responding in certain manners, but that you are responding in these manners for the reason of your own areas in which you are not yet accepting of yourself and trusting of your own direction, and as you allow yourself to view your own responses and your own behaviors, you may view how you hold the ability to alter these situations within yourself, not concerning yourself with the responses of the other individual, but concerning yourself with self, and realizing that as you move more fully into your own trust of self, you are also automatically offering energy to the other individual to be more accepting also. Are you understanding?
LISSETTE: Yeah, I understand that.
ELIAS: As to your connection with this individual, I express to you that you are a type of counterpart in this focus.
You have also held counterpart action in other focuses, offering you each the opportunity to view and deal with certain challenges in each of your focuses, and you have chosen many times to be engaging this type of action with each other which involves conflict, for this brings surfacely with you these challenges and draws your attention quite strongly to them.
LISSETTE: Right now what I feel is that I just want to stop it. I’m not interested in this kind of conflict any more. What I felt this last time was that he was drawing me into it, but I was conscious of what was happening, and I just don’t want any part of it. So, how do you end the conflict? Do you just decide you’re not taking part in it any more? Because I don’t want to blanket it. I really want to end it!
ELIAS: This is part of the point and what you are now offering yourself, in your own realization that you are participating within the conflict and that you hold the choice within you to discontinue this action. In this, it matters not the choices of the other individual. If you are not participating, they are not receiving their payoff, and therefore you may discontinue the action of the conflict and choose not to be participating in this without placing judgment upon the other individual or their choices. But in this action, as you choose to discontinue your own participation, they also shall be affected, for how shall they be creating their conflict involving you if you are not participating?” [session 391, May 04, 1999]
MICHAEL: “When connecting with our inner voice, our impulses and whatsuch, besides the fact that it would place no judgment and that it may be the softest voice, what are other ways to distinguish it, especially if you engage confusion and inner arguments? Now, like you say my inner voice says this, and then it says, ’No, I said this, and no, I said this.’ How do you get yourself out of that? How do you distinguish which one was yourself speaking to you, and not judgment and beliefs and whatsuch?
ELIAS: I express to you that as you quiet yourself and are listening and discerning within yourself, knowing that all of your actions that you engage within physical focus are in some aspects influenced by your belief systems – for you do create your reality through your belief systems – you may also look to self and look to trusting self in offering yourself your least-conflict scenario.
In this, you may experience temporary time frameworks of uncertainty objectively, for you are not accustomed to creating your reality entirely through your no-conflict scenarios. You are accustomed to creating your reality through expectations.
But in this, as you are listening to this inner voice, this small inner voice, and you are identifying of your beliefs that are in conjunction with all of your information, you may be remembering that you also shall not betray you. And in this, if you are quieting yourself and allowing yourself to be not reacting, and relaxing with your inner voice and remembering your no-conflict exercise, this may be helpful in your discerning which voice to be listening to.
MIKE: Okay, um....
ELIAS: In this, Mikah [Michael], be remembering, many of your beliefs move in the direction of expectations – what you expect of yourself and what other individuals expect of you. Expectation is not necessarily your most efficient movement.
MIKE: So basically, when I engage confusion or I say, ‘Okay, what am I trying to tell myself?’ I get like a hundred voices at once telling me something. Should I ... not should I. Would it be efficient for me to distract myself momentarily, to quiet myself down so I can try it again?
ELIAS: You may, if you are so choosing. Each individual may be choosing a different method to be allowing themselves this quietness.
All of this chatter that you experience is your battling through beliefs and your rationale, which is not the communication of your impulses and your impressions. It is merely banter that occurs in distracting you.
Therefore, you may engage any method that is efficient for you within the moment to be relaxing and quieting yourself and allowing yourself the moment to be evaluating and sifting through, so to speak, those voices that are the rational voices, those voices that are the influence of your belief systems in judgments, those voices that are expressing to you the anticipation of other individuals’ expectations and also your own expectations of yourself, and once you have sifted through the elimination of all of these, you shall also hear the tiny voice underneath all of these shouting voices that whispers to you the no-conflict choice.” [session 398, May 18, 1999]
MICHAEL: “I have a question regarding my own work, actually. I wrote it down. With all the positive change with my work lately, which I take to be my alignment with Gramada, I still have some physical pains that I feel are related to a misalignment with my Sumari or creative self. What kind of probabilities can I tune into or what beliefs can I accept to make the physical symptoms subside, but still maintain my success at work? I know I’ve asked a question real similar to that before. (Pause)
ELIAS: I express to you that you offer yourself these particular types of manifestations, that you may be gaining your own attention, of which we have discussed previously.
In this, let me express to you that you may be addressing to this type of situation more efficiently if you are turning your attention within the now to the specific creations that you are engaging within the moment, for you create these physical responses in conjunction with certain behaviors that you are creating within specific moments: interactions with other individuals, areas of lack of acceptance of self within the moment, and what you term to be in physical focus insecurities that you may be experiencing in particular moments.
As you notice the physical expression, you may also turn your attention within that now to the surrounding exhibitions of behaviors, and you may be noticing your interaction with other individuals AND the areas that you are placing judgments upon yourself within those time frameworks, and as you begin to address to these areas, you shall also be creating a subsiding of the physical affectingness.
MICHAEL: I think that my first impression along those lines, as a specific example, would be to ... at the morning job that I have, I really would like to pull away from that, and I feel that doing that would give me more comfort and confidence in my abilities. A lot of my interaction there feels limited by the types of people that I work with. Is this kind of what you’re meaning?
ELIAS: Look to the limitations that you place upon yourself, but do not delude yourself or confuse yourself in incorporating the direction that the reason that you are limited is as a result of other individuals and how they are creating their reality or their interaction with you, for this places you in the position, so to speak, of assuming that other individuals are creating your reality for you – and they are not – or that you do not hold choices simply for the reason that other individuals are exercising their choices. This also is incorrect.
Therefore, I express to you that in part you are correct that within this situation there are elements within your creativity that are being blocked, but this is not because of other individuals. It is that you are blocking your own creativity in not holding the trust of self that you may be accomplishing regardless of which area you choose to be placing yourself within physically.
Now; I am not expressing to you that you need be continuing in this particular position of employ to be moving through this particular issue that you hold. I also am expressing to you that it is unnecessary for you to move in the direction of assuming that you must be continuing to be interactive and placing yourself in a position of uncomfortableness to facilitate your movement through a particular situation or issue, for this is not the case.
I express to you that many individuals move in this type of direction, creating their behavior of martyrs, that they must be continuing in uncomfortable situations or they shall not be accomplishing in moving through their particular belief systems or issues. I express to you that this is not necessarily the situation. You may be moving through your issues quite efficiently without continuing to be creating uncomfortableness in your process.
Therefore, as you are aware, the choice is yours as to what you shall engage in these types of decisions, so to speak. What I am expressing to you is to be noticing of the behavior that YOU employ in these situations as you engage interaction with these other individuals and how you are responsive to other individuals and how you are automatically placing judgments upon yourself in result of these interactions with other individuals. Are you understanding?
MICHAEL: I believe so. To me it feels that ... I realize that the reason that I feel the way that I do is because of my response to other people’s actions; not necessarily that I don’t have a choice in those actions, but that I am perceiving their choices as my own.
ELIAS: Let me also express to you, you are now offering yourself the opportunity to differentiate, to be noticing and understanding within yourself what other individuals create and what you create.
Other individuals create their reality. They are not creating your reality and you are not creating theirs, and you are not responsible for all of the action which occurs in interaction with other individuals. You are merely responsible for your own expressions and your own actions and behaviors.
In this, what I am expressing to you is to be noticing of those, not to be assuming responsibility for the entirety of situations which are created, for other individuals participate also and they are creating of their reality and you are creating of certain situations jointly, which does not place all of the responsibility of these creations upon you singularly. Therefore, I am directing your attention in the manner that you may be noticing merely YOUR participation, and in that, also noticing your automatic responses within interactions of other individuals. Is this clearer?
MICHAEL: Yes. I will be moving out of these areas of discomfort because those are related to my own stresses of the responsibilities I take on myself and my reactions to other people’s creations.
ELIAS: I express to you that I have spoken previously with other individuals in relation to conflict and removing oneself from the interaction of conflict. Within your present societies, you look to this type of action as a retreat or running away, and you label this action with much judgment – that it is bad, that you must be standing, holding firm, and facing forwardly all situations, and never engaging retreat. I express to you that this is a very strong aspect of belief systems.
I express to you also that within the framework of creating conflict or participating within conflict, if you are choosing to not be participating within the action of conflict any longer, you may engage or employ any action that you choose to be engaging that shall be eliminating of your conflict, and it matters not. There is no judgment to be placed upon your choice of action that you engage to be eliminating of your conflict. This is not the point. The point is to be eliminating the conflict.
MICHAEL: I understand that very well. I believe that removing myself from the situation, even though I feel or have felt that it would be running away, actually would be a much stronger position for me, spiritually and mentally and physically.
ELIAS: I express to you, as I have stated, this is an aspect of belief systems in duplicity, that within physical focus you label this type of action as a lack of strength, or weakness, and you view this type of action as bad or that you are not addressing to a particular situation if you are removing yourself from the situation physically.
I express to you that this is not necessarily the situation which is being created, for you may remove yourself from the participation in conflict and you may also be addressing to those very issues which create that conflict within you and create the responses within you.
Many times, as you continue within the conflict, what you are creating in actuality is merely a distraction to yourself, which creates the situation that you do NOT address to the issues and the belief systems, for you are very busy being distracted within the conflict, which occupies your attention. In this, you do not pay attention to your inner communications and your movement through these situations and issues, whereas many times in removing yourself from the interaction of conflict, you may allow yourself to view more clearly your choices which are available to you, for you are not so very distracted by the actual action of the conflict itself.
MICHAEL: I follow you, and thank you.
ELIAS: (Chuckling) You are quite welcome.” [session 402, May 25, 1999]
JAN: “Going back to the thing with my husband – which is something I’m having a hard time leaving – he’s changing and going into fragmentation. What does that mean for us? I’m separated but not separated, if that makes any sense.
ELIAS: Let me express to you that fragmentation is not necessarily an indication of obvious alterations or changes within an individual. It merely is an action that essences engage continuously and that may allow different types of expressions or explorations within the fragmentation of the new essence. But this type of action occurs, as I have stated, continuously, and within physical focus, to your objective awareness, it moves unnoticed many times. Therefore, it is not necessarily affecting in objective terms with the individual, although there are situations in which it may be affecting at times. But generally speaking, it is not an obvious objective affectingness.
In this, I express to you that the action of fragmentation which is occurring within your partner’s essence is not affecting objectively of his focus, and therefore is not an element or a factor, so to speak, in your dissolving of your partnership.
JAN: And this inability of mine to dissolve it comes because I can’t let go? (Elias laughs) Because I hang on to everything?
ELIAS: This is a factor, I shall express to you, for you do hold what we may express as this ‘double family intent,’ holding the essence and the alignment of the same essence family, and this creates a greater intensity in many of the qualities that you shall exhibit within your particular focus. (4)
JAN: I can’t let go of him and I can’t let go of my career, my job. I don’t want to move beyond both of these. Do you see any probabilities out there that I’ll be able to move?
ELIAS: I shall express to you that you already are creating probabilities and creating movement in both of these areas. You are merely holding to both of these areas in the action that you create of analyzation of both situations.
In actuality, I shall express to you that both of these situations hold a great deal of similarity, for in this, your action – that you participate in this – is to continue to be viewing the situations, holding feelings of obligation in both areas, holding other thoughts and feelings of responsibility in both areas, and in this, you also move in a direction of analyzing your choices and your actions.
Now; let me explain in this area, for what you are moving into and have already created many times within your focus and continue to create presently is the viewing of each situation and the discounting of your impulses and your impressions. You are offering to yourself information and promptings, so to speak, from essence, from YOURSELF, to be moving in certain directions, but you hold to the familiar, although it may be uncomfortable, for you turn your attention away from the information that you offer to yourself and away from your communication to self through impulses, and you move your attention into the examination of self.
Now; in this, you are moving your examination in an area that may not necessarily be as efficient, as I express to other individuals. I hold the awareness that I express to individuals to be turning their attention to self and to be examining self and their individual motivations for the directions that they move into, but YOU turn your attention inwardly in excess, and in this type of creation you begin to confuse yourself, for you begin to analyze all of your behaviors, all of your choices, all of your actions, all of your interactions, and all of your motivations for every element that you create within your focus, and in doing this, you stop your motion. You immobilize yourself, for you turn situations that are occurring within your focus in conjunction with other individuals into a scenario in which you assume all of the responsibility and all of the obligation.
Therefore, it no longer becomes a participation of different individuals and yourself, but within your perception, it becomes the scenario that you alone are creating these scenarios, these situations, and these circumstances, and you question yourself as to how you may be creating them differently and therefore solving the problem, so to speak, but what you are not viewing in this immobilizing state is that you are not creating the entirety of all situations. You are participating in creations.
It is one direction to be looking to self and to be inquiring of self your motivation, and subsequently offering to yourself the questioning of what may be your no-conflict scenario. It is another situation entirely to be assuming personal responsibility for all other individuals and turning your attention to self, assuming that you may be altering of everyone’s reality if you are altering of your reality, and as a byproduct, you shall automatically be altering of their realities in the manner that you wish it to proceed.
JAN: Does that mean I’m a controlling person?
ELIAS: I am not expressing this statement to you. I am expressing to you that you are confusing yourself and that you are occupying your attention extensively and intensively with self to excess, and this is creating of confusion and this is creating of a convolution in your thought process and within your emotional expressions.
In this, as you allow yourself to relax and to be listening to your impulses, remaining in the now – this is key point, for you also lean in the direction of turning your attention past and futurely, and in this, you disregard the now. Therefore, if you are turning your attention to the now and listening to your impulses, you may offer yourself the information of what your no-conflict scenario is.
Now; I shall express to you also that I have offered previously information concerning this no-conflict scenario.
In this, be remembering that as you offer yourself your no-conflict scenario, you move the situation or the creation OUTSIDE OF THE PERSONALIZATION REALM, for the situation no longer involves judgments or evaluations concerning other individuals, but offers you permission to be creating what is pleasurable and no-conflict within yourself, and is not placing judgments upon the choices of other individuals. This be the reason that this exercise may be quite helpful to you all within physical focus, for this involves no judgment, and is a creation of acceptance of self and of other individuals, and is quite efficient.
Now; be understanding that I hold the understanding that this may be difficult for you to be initially moving into, for you DO hold personal responsibility for other individuals and their choices and you DO hold a great intensity in the area of obligations. In this, you also, as an element of the influence of your intent through your essence family and alignment, hold a great attention to detail and to the continuance of evaluation. Therefore, as you combine all of these elements that are very familiar to you, you may experience initially some elements of difficulties in moving into the area of allowing yourself the expression of your no-conflict scenario.
This be the reason that I am reminding you that this type of expression of a no-conflict scenario is quite beneficial, for it offers no judgment to ANY individual – yourself or any other individual.” [session 438, August 04, 1999]
ELIAS: “Another element of movement which is occurring presently is a wave in consciousness. These waves in consciousness are also an element of the movement of this shift. They address to specific belief systems. In this, individuals are affected by these waves. They may not hold an objective awareness of WHAT is affecting them, but they are aware objectively that strange and unfamiliar events, thoughts, emotions, actions are occurring within their experiences.
You also experience this type of energy. What in actuality is occurring is the beginnings of an opening within yourself to more of your own awareness in objective terms.
Now; I hold an awareness also that this creates an element of conflict and of confusion in the area of doubt and a lack of understanding in many different directions. It also at times may appear to you to be quite overwhelming, for this present time framework within your linear time holds a tremendous surge of energy.
You are experiencing the affectingness of this wave in consciousness which addresses to the specific belief system presently of sexuality and all of the aspects that are contained within that particular belief system. You are experiencing an affectingness of energy within this shift in consciousness, and you are also experiencing an intensity of energy which is generated merely by this particular time framework – this final year of this particular century and millennium – for MUCH energy has been lent to this particular time framework.
I have expressed to many other individuals previously that within this time framework of this particular year, the intensity of the energy is so very great that with no thought process at all and no objective concentration, each of you is lent so very much energy that whichever direction you choose to be moving into – be it confusion, be it conflict, be it joyfulness, it matters not – any direction that you are engaging shall be emphasized and shall appear to be in extreme, for you are offered the energy to be creating of all of these directions much more easily than within other time frameworks. Therefore, it appears to you that you experience different elements of your focus extremely.
Individuals may be experiencing an extreme in their focus of calm. Other individuals may be experiencing an extreme of fearfulness. Other individuals experience an extreme of conflict and confusion.
ANNE: So we will all work through that?
ELIAS: Yes. (Smiling)
ANNE: It doesn’t ... okay.
ELIAS: First of all, I express to you, you have begun your sojourn to move in the direction of addressing to this situation in this meeting. You have chosen to be offering yourself information.
In this, the first area that I direct your attention to is to self, for as you incorporate elements outside of self and allow the affectingness of many elements outside of self, you merely confuse yourself more, for you present yourself with many elements simultaneously and you become overwhelmed.
In this, as you are addressing to self, turn your attention to you, and the first area that I shall express to you to be engaging is the area of conflict.
Now; the most easily accessed method, so to speak, or exercise in addressing to conflict is to be allowing yourself to play the no-conflict game. This is an exercise that I have offered previously which offers you the ability to be accepting of self, to be not judgmental of other individuals or situations or circumstances, but also offering yourself a manner in which you may view conflicts and confusions and eliminate them. You are not eliminating the belief systems that influence these conflicts, but you ARE eliminating the conflict itself.
In this, each time you are engaging any action, any event, any encounter that is creating of any element of conflict within you ... which you hold the ability to identify immediately. You know within you in those moments when you are experiencing uncomfortableness, distress, confusion, anxiety, irritation. You always hold awareness of these responses within yourself, and each time you experience this type of effect within yourself, the exercise is to stop within that moment – allow yourself to be in the moment, in the now – identify what you are experiencing in confusion or conflict in any manner or any form, and express the question to yourself: What shall offer you in that moment no conflict?
Now; the tricky area of this game is not to analyze the situation, but to merely offer yourself a clear and simple response of what offers you no conflict.
ANNE: What if that means walking away?
ELIAS: If this means walking away, then this is your no-conflict scenario. Now; let us employ this as an example.
Let us examine. You may be engaged in a situation with another individual, and you are experiencing conflict within you, and you stop within the moment and you question yourself and you express to yourself, ‘What shall offer me no conflict?’ And your response to yourself is, ‘Walk away.’
As you employ this action, as you implement this action of following your no-conflict scenario, what you are creating is the expression of acceptance of yourself [and] the expression of acceptance of the situation, that you may not necessarily be altering the situation, for you are not creating the reality or the expression of another individual. You merely hold the ability to be creating YOUR reality. You are also expressing an acceptance of the other individual, for you are not placing a judgment upon the other individual or their expression. You are merely creating a choice to not participate.” [session 445, August 13, 1999]
ELIAS: “Good morning!
JOE: Good morning, old friend! (Elias chuckles)
Elias, I’ve gotten myself into a quagmire of confusion here, and I’m hoping maybe you can help me with this.
ELIAS: Very well.
JOE: Okay. Let’s see, how do I start this? I’ve been noticing or attempting to notice everything that’s happening in the now with what has been going on with my day-to-day activities, and it has brought to light some very, very strong belief systems that I am starting to recognize. But I really just don’t know quite how to deal with this, and so I’m turning to you in this respect.
We had a lightning storm here, and we got hit by lightening, and some funny things happened. But anyway, we had an air compressor that might or might not be compromised by the lightening storm, so the insurance company agreed to pay for a new air compressor, so I went to the store and I looked at air compressors.
Now, there’s a much larger air compressor there than the one that I have, and I’m thinking to myself, ‘Guilt doesn’t exist; there is no good and bad. Maybe I should just get this larger air compressor, which would be awfully nice to have.’ But it’s not the same type of air compressor that’s being replaced. It’s much larger. It’s not of equal value, in monetary terms. Then I get into a fight with myself because of my belief systems in right and wrong, and the fact that I’m noticing these belief systems and how they affect me.
I look at the larger air compressor, which I’d love to have, knowing about right and wrong and that the insurance company probably without question would pay for it. But by the same token, I have this belief system that says, ‘The right thing to do is to get one of comparable value because that would be fair.’ I’m battling with myself back and forth and I’m observing these belief systems and I’m remembering what you’ve said about guilt, but knowing damn well that if I go ahead and get this larger air compressor, I’m going to feel guilty about it.
Then I get to thinking about no conflict and I think, ‘If I get this larger air compressor, I’m going to be in conflict with myself, and if I’m in conflict with myself and I have a bout of conscience about this whole thing, am I somehow subjectively, in my reality creations, going to punish myself for getting this larger air compressor?’
In the end, I end up – realizing that I have strong belief systems and making the choice that I really don’t want any conflict and I’m really not sure as to how my guilt is going to affect my reality creations, which up to now have been very good and I’m doing very well in that respect – I choose the no-conflict scenario and get the smaller air compressor that was much closer in equal value to the one that may have been compromised.
That creates tremendous variations in everything, in the way that I start to feel about things, and I just wonder if you might comment on that and tell me in actuality what’s happening versus what I believe, and my alignment with the belief systems of right and wrong, guilt/no guilt, the whole nine yards.
ELIAS: First of all, let me express to you that what you feel and what you are experiencing and what you are creating in actuality is what is occurring, for this is what you are creating within your reality within the moment, and this is not to be discounted.
But I am understanding of the direction of your question and of your confusion.
Now; let me express to you, one very strong influencing factor in this particular situation and scenario that you have created is that you are responding to energy in the wave in consciousness which is occurring presently addressing to duplicity.
You, being a manifestation of essence which is belonging to the family of Sumafi, are beginning within this wave in consciousness to be noticing more intensely, and – in a figurative manner of speaking, but also quite realistically in your reality – you are battling with this particular belief system, in your interaction with it and your noticing and identification of it.
You have presented yourself with a scenario. You incorporate a physical object that you perceive needs be replaced. You have created a situation in which the financial aspect of the replacement of this object shall be accomplished, and you present before yourself the choice of acquiring one type of this object or another type.
Now; the object itself matters not. The physical creation itself matters not, which you are aware of.
You are already recognizing that what holds significance in this situation is your noticing of your responses and your actions and your motivation for creating your individual choices in relation to other individuals and what you believe.
In this, you present yourself with a scenario that offers you the opportunity to view how influenced you are individually by different aspects of duplicity, and how intensely strong these aspects of duplicity are in their influence of your perception.
Now; in this, you choose to be engaging the no-conflict exercise. You present yourself with the objective recognition of this exercise, you offer the scenarios to yourself, and in that exercise, you create a choice.
Subsequent to the choice that you have created in choosing to be offering yourself the least conflict in alignment with the recognized beliefs which are influencing of you, you move yourself into another conflict concerning your no-conflict scenario.
For once you have chosen your no-conflict scenario, you are questioning and doubting of yourself in your choice of no conflict, for you assess that by choosing your no-conflict scenario, you are allowing yourself to be aligning with the existing belief systems, and therefore, in your perception, reinforcing those existing belief systems and not trusting yourself in your ability to be moving through those existing belief systems.
Therefore, you create another conflict, which you also incorporate the guilt that you were attempting to avoid in relation to the no-conflict choice!
You were attempting to avoid the guilt in relation to other individuals or the company, so to speak, which is providing you with the funds to be acquiring the object. You wish not to be incorporating guilt concerning their participation, and you choose your no-conflict scenario.
But subsequently, you DO incorporate guilt in relation to yourself, that you are not accomplishing well enough within your reality, for you are not trusting yourself and you are not moving through your existing belief systems, and therefore you place judgment upon yourself, and this creates confusion.
Now; as I have stated, there is a large element of this scenario which is influenced by this wave in consciousness which is occurring presently. Within a different time framework, you may have chosen your no-conflict scenario, and not followed that scenario with the incorporation of conflict concerning your choice.
But within this time framework, there is a tremendous movement of energy which you are participating within, and belonging to the Sumafi family, you are more intensely responding to this particular movement of energy than would you be were you belonging to a different essence family. But this particular wave in consciousness addressing to this particular belief system of duplicity creates more of an element of friction within individuals that are belonging to and also aligning with the essence family of Sumafi, for this belief system creates friction in the intent with the Sumafi family and their natural expression.
Now; as to the conflict that you have created in this situation, you offer yourself the opportunity to view that these aspects of duplicity are in actuality quite strong and quite affecting.
But let me also express to you, where you have incorporated confusion – as you allow the influence of the duplicity to cloud your viewing of your creations – is that in actuality, the choice to be creating your no-conflict scenario is NOT in actuality reinforcing of the existing belief.
It appears surfacely to you that this is what you are creating, but in actuality, by choosing the no-conflict scenario in this physical situation, you are recognizing – or you have recognized individually in this situation – that you do hold strongly-influencing beliefs in this situation.
You are acknowledging those beliefs in the recognition of them. You are recognizing that if you are forcing your energy in the direction of attempting to forcibly override the existing belief system that you hold, you shall be incorporating guilt, and that guilt IS influencing of your energy and your interactions, for you shall project outwardly the energy that you are creating inwardly.
Therefore, if you are creating the energy associated with guilt, you shall project that outwardly and be affecting of your reality in your interactions in every other area – with other individuals, with other situations – for you are responding to what you are viewing within yourself. Guilt is a tremendous judgment upon self, and as you create a tremendous judgment upon self, you project that energy outward and you affect your interaction with all of your reality.
Now; by choosing your no-conflict scenario, you neutralize the situation. You neutralize the energy of the belief in that moment. You acknowledge that you hold this belief and you lend no energy to its perpetuation, for you are not creating a judgment upon it. You are merely recognizing it and acknowledging it and allowing yourself to create a choice, knowing that you shall be creating certain responses if you are engaging a different choice.
Now; I have expressed to individuals previously with respect to their movement concerning [the] medical profession, and in this, I have spoken with you concerning your partner with respect to these types of beliefs.
They are the same. The scenario underlyingly is the same. The action which occurs is the same. The belief may construct itself differently, but the action is the same.
And in this, an individual may create, as we have spoken previously, a dis-ease or an illness or a malfunction, and they may choose not to be interactive with individuals within the medical profession, for they view that to be a perpetuation of their beliefs that they hold concerning the medical profession, and they also view it to be a reinforcement of their own lack of trust of their ability to be healing themselves or to be creating their reality.
And in actuality, as they fight against those types of interactions and they create those types of judgments concerning those choices, they are in actuality reinforcing the very action that they wish not to be reinforcing.
Whereas were that same individual to choose interaction with their physicians, recognizing that they do align with certain beliefs concerning the abilities of their physicians, the acknowledgment of that belief and the lack of judgment of it and the movement into compliance with it temporarily in actuality neutralizes elements of that aspect of the belief itself, and in actuality reinforces the individual’s trust of self.
In the same manner, your choice for your least-conflict scenario in this situation with your machine reinforces your trust of yourself that you may choose this direction, and it is not wrong. It is not right. It is not better or worse. It is merely a choice, and it is, in your terms, an informed choice, for you have created the choice intentionally objectively to be avoiding an anticipated more intense conflict, and one that you recognize shall be reinforcing of your expression of duplicity in guilt. (5)
Therefore, you choose in an objective informed manner, in trust of yourself that you ARE addressing to and noticing your beliefs and the influence of them, that you ARE addressing to these beliefs, and you are allowing yourself an ease in your movement.
Therefore, I express to you, in creating the no-conflict or the least-conflict scenario, you are in actuality accomplishing the very actions that you wish to be accomplishing, and reinforcing the very elements of yourself in acceptance and trust that you wish to be reinforcing.
Now; the other aspect of this scenario is your subsequent incorporation of self-guilt for the assessment that you perceive you have not been trusting of yourself and the doubt of self, and this is the element that is directly influenced by the wave in consciousness.
This wave in consciousness addressing to duplicity creates a tremendous movement in vicissitude, and in this, individuals as yourself that are belonging to this family of Sumafi shall be noticing and recognizing of the intensity of the influence of this particular belief system.
But I shall also express to you, take heart my friend, (chuckling) for this is an opportunity! Each time that you allow yourself to be noticing of these types of situations and scenarios, you also allow yourself to objectively view these influences and you allow yourself objective choice, and this is the point.
This is the action of this shift, to be moving your awareness of what you create within your reality into an objective intentional direction, that you shall be aware objectively, within each moment, of the choices that you are creating, and allow yourself more choices as you recognize what influences the choices that you automatically move into.
JOE: Well, let me ask you this. It would seem to me, after my own mental evaluation, for whatever it’s worth, that I recognized it, but I did not have the trust in myself to just make either choice without ... just trusting in myself that whatever choice I made was okay, and I realized – it hit me like a brick – that I had not anywhere come close to reaching that point yet.
ELIAS: Quite, and therefore you employ your no-conflict scenario ...
JOE: Right, exactly.
ELIAS: ... and move yourself into a reinforcement of your trust and acceptance.
I have expressed to all of you many times, you do hold the ability to instantaneously, spontaneously move into an expression of complete trust and acceptance of self.
I have also expressed to you that within the design of your reality physically and the strength of the belief systems that have been incorporated, which IS very much your reality, you all ARE – not merely shall be or have been, but ARE – creating a process, which is quite acceptable – it is not wrong or bad – and in this process of moving yourselves into acceptance and trust, you offer yourselves scenarios, such as the example that you have offered today.
And in this, you allow yourselves to physically view, to assess, to evaluate, to notice, to recognize, and to create choices, and ALL of this – within your process – allows you more of an objective understanding of yourself and of your reality.
In this, it is quite beneficial that you ARE creating a process, for in this process of moving yourselves into acceptance and trust in increments, you avoid many situations and circumstances and creations of trauma. You avoid overwhelming yourselves. You allow yourselves to view, in harmony with the movement of linear time – in a slow fashion, so to speak – how you have designed all of your reality and how you interact with it, and how YOU create all of your reality.
I have expressed to you previously, you have created a design in your physical reality, in relation to many of these beliefs, in an intensity that has become so very automatic within your reality that you are moving about within your reality upon what you term to be automatic pilot. You are not even paying attention to what you are creating.
Therefore, you have created a process in which, in increments, you begin noticing. You begin paying attention. You begin recognizing all that you are creating and all of the choices that you are creating within your reality, which in actuality offers you more choices.
JOE: So in this particular instance I recognized the strength of the belief systems, and in part the cause and effect. In this particular instance I chose not ... because of the least conflict, I chose not to go against those belief systems, which I knew were influencing of me. But as I do this more and more and more, I suspect there will come a time when I won’t be affected much by the alignment of the belief systems, and will be able to have enough trust in myself to do whatever it is I want to do at that particular time without feeling any guilt whatsoever.
ELIAS: You are correct.
JOE: Good! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!
JOE: Good! (Elias chuckles)
Elias, is there anything else you’d like to say on this subject? When I first was talking to Mary about this, I had half a notion to put this into the x-files and not let it be transcribed, but I think what’s said here today is pretty darn important. (Elias chuckles)
ELIAS: I shall express to you, as I have expressed many times previously, allow yourself to be continuing to hold your attention within the now, noticing what you are creating.
But incorporate a small affirmation temporarily, in which within these time frameworks that you begin to doubt and question yourself and the choices that you are engaging, affirm to yourself that the choices matter not. They are merely choices. They are not right or wrong. One choice is not better than another choice, and force in energy is, figuratively speaking, self-defeating. It moves contrary to your objective. Therefore, the less force that you employ in your choices, the more ease you ALLOW in your choices, the more you are in actuality reinforcing your own acceptance and trust of self.
Each time you begin doubt within yourself, attempt briefly to acknowledge yourself and to express to yourself that there is no better. You are acceptable and your choice is acceptable in its creation now, in whatever creation you have chosen. Are you understanding?
JOE: Well, let me ask you this. This is my interpretation of what you’re saying, and you can tell me if it’s right or wrong, as far as understanding and interpretation. Had I merely gone up there and not really thought about it, not really objectified the belief systems of right or wrong, but intuitively made the choice that I thought was best for me at the time, there would have been no force in energy. It would have just been an automatic response based on a trust in self rather than any other objective parameter.
ELIAS: I shall respond to you in the affirmative, but I shall also express to you in addition that affirming your assessment of this scenario – in had you created this or that – is irrelevant, for you created what you created and this is what we are addressing to, and what you may have created or what you might have created matters not, for it is not what you created.
Therefore, all that holds significance is what you HAVE created or what you ARE creating, not what may be created.
The ‘ifs’ or the ‘shoulds’ within your reality are illusions, and they hold no significance and no importance. What you DO create holds significance and importance. What your perception is holds significance and importance, for this is what you shall create – what your perception expresses.
Therefore, what I am expressing to you is not to be looking to what you may have or could have created in your choice, but what you HAVE created, and to be acknowledging of that; not to be acknowledging of what might be, but to be acknowledging of what IS.
JOE: But in that respect, Elias, I created ‘what is’ based on a very strong belief system.
ELIAS: It matters not. You also acknowledged your recognition of that belief system, and in that recognition and that acknowledgment, you lent no energy in judgment of it.
You merely created a choice that offered you less conflict, and this is a choice that acknowledges your trust within yourself, that regardless that you align with beliefs, you are acceptable and your choices are acceptable. Are you understanding?
JOE: Yes I am, I think. But in choosing the choice of less conflict, I may have also admitted that in aligning with that belief system, I was giving myself or allowing myself less freedom than what I possibly should have or could have, and in taking the less-conflict scenario and allowing myself less freedom, I was also admitting to myself and acknowledging less of a trust in self than what I would like to have.
ELIAS: Ah, and this offers you the opportunity to view within yourself how you perceive some expressions within your reality or some movements within your reality to be better than other movements, and this is quite the point – allowing yourself to recognize the strength of the influence of the belief of duplicity. This is what expresses to you and dictates to you this perception that there are better methods, or that you yourself may be better if you are striving more and if you are creating in a better manner.
(Vic’s note: The following was all delivered very intently.)
And what I am expressing to you now is that there is no better. This is entirely a design and an illusion which is set forth through the influence of an aspect of the belief system of duplicity.
You are already best. You are already creating perfectly. Your beliefs are influencing your perception of yourself that you are not creating perfectly, and therefore you create judgments, and this sets in motion a very large wheel which moves quite rapidly, and it continues to turn and turn and turn, for as you create the judgment, you also reinforce the duplicity, which expresses once again to you that you are not adequate enough yet, that you could be creating better, that you will be experiencing no conflict at all IF you are creating better.
ALL of these expressions are influences of duplicity. ALL of these expressions camouflage the now and camouflage your perception, dictating to it that you are presently not adequate enough, not good enough, and not perfect.
And therefore, in the influence of that belief, as it dictates to your perception, you create an actual reality in which you view yourself to not be accomplishing perfectly yet, and you reinforce this and reinforce this and reinforce this with judgment and the continual perpetuation of viewing that you need be creating better.
I shall express to you what shall be better – what shall be better would be for you to be eliminating the word ‘better’ from your language! HA HA HA! For....
JOE: What do I replace it with, Elias? Effortless?
ELIAS: You shall replace it with nothing! For you already are!
Better implies future. Better implies anticipation of elements that are to come, and there are no elements that are to come! There is merely the now, and therefore, the importance of acceptance in the now.
And THIS is the process and the method that you are all offering to yourselves now, the opportunity to view in each moment all of the influences of these beliefs, and in that opportunity, you may allow yourself to acknowledge, ‘It matters not that I am aligning with this belief system. This belief system is an aspect of my reality. It holds no significance. I need not be creating a judgment, good or bad, better or worse, upon my choices that I create in relation to this belief system. I have created a choice. It is acceptable. I am acceptable. It matters not.’
JOE: Well, before I got to thinking about this and before I started noticing – and there’s been other examples besides this one – but this one I just ... you know, I thought I understood duplicity, but I really did not understand duplicity, and in examples like this and conversations like this with you, I believe that I am really starting to understand what duplicity means, and the impact and the force that duplicity has in the way we believe and in what we create around those beliefs.
ELIAS: Quite! I am expressing to you not figuratively but quite literally and in intensity, these belief systems that you hold within this reality physically are very strong!
They are immensely powerful, and this particular belief system of duplicity is not merely powerful, and not merely is it expressed within itself, but as I have offered many times in [this] information, it – in a manner of speaking – attaches itself to every other belief system and intertwines itself in EVERY expression of your physical reality.
You create an assessment upon every movement, every moment, every choice that you engage within your physical reality in relation to duplicity. You either assess that your action is good or it is bad. It is acceptable or it is unacceptable. It is better or it is worse.
This is the tremendous camouflage of duplicity, and it is intensely strong.
JOE: Well not only that, but it seems to me like it creates a tunnel, and those belief systems of right and wrong are the walls of the tunnel, and we just kind of walk down this tunnel, and we create our realities within this little macrocosm that is based around our ideas of what is good and bad.
JOE: It would also seem to me that this causes a lot of conflict, when one tunnel intersects another tunnel and there’s friction between the two, which causes wars and everything else, on a larger scale.
ELIAS: Quite! You are correct in this also, and another camouflage of duplicity is that it defines itself in very different manners.
What is right and wrong in the perception of one individual may not be defined in the same manner with another individual. It is HIGHLY individualized in relation to EACH perception. Therefore, there are many of your tunnels, so to speak, that intersect with each other, but their definition of this same belief system and its terminology may be quite different.
JOE: Not only that, but at times it seems, in light of the way we’ve been talking about things, so totally ludicrous that one should think they’re right and the other one should think they’re right, and that it should cause friction to begin with.
ELIAS: Quite. This is another aspect of the belief system of duplicity, the belief in absolutes; that your direction, your definitions, your thoughts, your assessments are absolute in their expression – they are absolute right, they are absolute wrong – that as you create a choice and you assess that it is right, if another individual creates a different choice, you shall absolutely assess that their choice is wrong.
JOE: And that’s a judgment.
ELIAS: Quite! The judgment is also placed in the expression of the right. It is not merely the expression of the wrong. Either expression is a judgment.
JOE: Well, I think I can start to see duplicity. I think I can start to see that in a movement towards effortlessness in reality creation, there has to be a movement towards non-judgment and a movement towards trust in self, which starts to come about with this recognition of the belief systems.
ELIAS: You are correct, yes, and this is the process, and....
JOE: This is the movement, then, towards which this wave in consciousness is directed?
ELIAS: Yes, and in this, you present yourselves with scenarios, as you have in your example this day, that you may allow yourselves to view the influence and that you may move yourselves in this process of which you have just expressed.
JOE: You mean to lose myself in confusion sometimes?
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!
JOE: I’m pretty good at that! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha! And you may also recognize the judgment that you place upon that! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!
JOE: You’re absolutely right! I do!
ELIAS: I express to you my friend, you are presenting yourself with wondrous examples, many, many aspects of this belief system and many opportunities to be creating more choices concerning your movement in relation to duplicity. How very exciting! Ha ha ha ha ha ha!
JOE: Yes, as a matter of fact it is, and enlightening also.
ELIAS: Quite, (chuckling) and all of this offers you freedom, and this is the wondrous element of this shift!
JOE: Well, I can see the movement now, and I can also start to understand duplicity. So, it’s a time thing, but eventually I’ll get there.
ELIAS: (Chuckling) And I shall continue to be encouraging with you.
JOE: Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome, my friend.
JOE: I had one more question, but I think what I’ll do, because of time constraints with Mary, I’ll let that go till our next session.
ELIAS: Very well.
JOE: And I want to thank you, as always, for the information you’ve given me today.
ELIAS: And I express to you my friend, you are very welcome, as always, and we shall continue our sojourn together in our investigation of this reality.
JOE: Very good.
ELIAS: To you in tremendous affection, my friend, au revoir.
JOE: Take care, Elias.” [session 619, May 25, 2000]
LETTY: “... I have created pain in my knees and at the bottom of my feet, which started a couple of weeks ago, and then this week it got a little more intensive, even like cramping. Of course, I wanted to relate it to the exercise I do sometimes, and buy knee braces and the whole thing, but I recognize I created it as a message to me that I need to pay attention.
But within that attention, what I’ve been going through the last couple of weeks has been... This states it perfectly: I’m going through frustration. I recognize the signal of frustration, but it wasn’t until last night, or this morning actually, when you were telling Marta [Marcos], when you were here, that this is a message that incorporates choice but you’re not sure objectively of which manner to maneuver the energy to generate choice. That sentence spells perfectly how I’ve felt over the past two to three weeks.
I’ve recognized choices all over but I don’t know how to choose anymore. All of a sudden I felt like I couldn’t decide whether to put acrylic nails on my fingernails or not, as simple as that, or what to wear, or a bigger decision of having choices to go to Peru and whether I really wanted to go or not, and should I cancel because other things kept popping up, like limitations – not limitations, but other things that were the same week. So anyway, it’s been very confusing until I heard this in the tape this morning and... (Sigh)
Even in my dreams, Elias, one of them had to do with I had all my family, which is very familiar, but we were scattered in different parking lots and different cars, and we were trying to get together. We two would meet and then the other ones would find the other one but then we would lose them. So all this confusion, my impression of it comes down to this: not understanding or making it difficult or complicated for myself in how to maneuver this energy.
ELIAS: And in that recognition, what is your assessment of your position now?
LETTY: Well, one of them is definitely that I’m making it more complicated so that I need to, when I recognize I think too much instead of allowing my impressions, let my intuition guide me.
LETTY: So did I answer my question on how to maneuver my energy, by paying attention to impressions instead of on my thoughts – that I analyzed, you know, in three pages? (Laughs)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha! Listening to your impressions is quite significant. Paying attention to what you are expressing to yourself in emotional communications is significant also.
Now; this is not to say that you should be ignoring your thought processes, but allow yourself to genuinely pay attention to your emotional communications and your impressions, and therefore you may allow yourself to evaluate the accuracy of your thought process and how it may deviate from the messages that you are offering to yourself in communications.
In that manner, you may more efficiently allow yourself to be generating the choices that you want and not incorporating as much confusion. Also, be remembering that you may be incorporating the no-conflict exercise. Present to yourself different scenarios within your thought process and listen to your responses. Pay attention to whether you offer yourself an emotional communication concerning a particular scenario or not.
LETTY: Oh! That is a very good exercise, Elias.
ELIAS: For at times you may be recognizing that if you are incorporating your thought processes in this manner in association with the no-conflict exercise and you are examining different scenarios of different choices, those which you do not want in genuineness shall generate an emotional communication, and many times those that generate no conflict shall not incorporate an emotional communication for it is unnecessary.
LETTY: I do recognize recently in trying to understand what I was going through that sometimes I take things too literally, like when you told us about the thought process, how it many times doesn’t give us the real or the accurate information...
LETTY: ...where the emotional does. I’m just trying to pay attention to the emotional, but yet discounting the thought.
ELIAS: Correct, and this is not the point. For as I have stated previously, you continuously generate thought. This is an automatic mechanism. It is an expression of the objective physical manifestation in this physical dimension in like manner, as I have stated previously, to your breathing. Whether you pay attention to your thoughts is not to say that they do not continue to be generated.
Now; paying attention to your communications to the exclusion of your thought process does not generate a balance. You have created this objective mechanism of thought intentionally and purposefully to be translating communications that you do offer to yourself. Therefore it incorporates a valuable function and discounting of it continuously is not a balance; but turning your attention to it exclusively is not a balance, either.
LETTY: I did get the imagery that I was out of balance yesterday. This is what I was telling myself.
LETTY: Now, back to my painful episodes. Is this correct? My asthma, my impression is that I believe I have changed the way I’m now trying to get my attention, from my asthma, which I have not had for quite a period of time, and now I’m using or I’ve gotten other choices to get that attention? Is this part of it?
LETTY: So my knees, back then it started because I wasn’t quite still paying attention. I’ve just increased it to the rest of my legs and my feet?
ELIAS: Which is quite understandable. As I have expressed previously, if you are generating a signal but you are not quite receiving the message, dependent upon the importance of the message to yourself, generally speaking you do increase the signal...
LETTY: And I did!
ELIAS: ...to the point in which you turn attention and allow yourself to receive the message.
LETTY: Even my dreams have to do with the same thing, because I felt scattered in the not being able to decide.
LETTY: ... [Will you] kind of just review again the exercise where I actually think of the different options I have and as I think of each one I will incorporate emotional communication.
ELIAS: Or not. And this is what I am expressing to you to pay attention to, for as you present each scenario to yourself, allow yourself to relax and pay attention to what you generate in response to the scenario. You may be generating an emotional communication quite promptly in relation to some scenarios. Pay attention, for this offers you information. You may also notice that if you are not generating conflict with a particular scenario that you present to yourself, you may not necessarily generate an emotional communication, which is your validation that this is what you want.
You may practice with this type of exercise in any type of expression, even in relation to what you have expressed as incorporating confusion in frustration in not allowing yourself to generate the choice of what garment you shall incorporate.
You view this type of an expression, in your measurement, as small, but it may also be an opportunity for you to practice with this exercise, which offers you a clearer recognition of how you move your attention, how you may be evaluating what you are expressing to yourself and what your communication actually is, and this offers your thought process a function which does not interfere with the communication, for the thought process is occupied in the function of generating a hypothetical scenario, so to speak, or a possible scenario.
Thusly, as you move your attention to your communications, your impressions and your emotional communication, listen and allow yourself to recognize what your response to your scenario is. You shall generate an emotional communication if the scenario incorporates conflict within you. You shall immediately identify this.
Now; also, Castille [Letty], let me be reminding you to beware of the automatic association with absolutes, for within one moment you may actually generate an emotional communication concerning a particular scenario that you offer to yourself. This is not to say that this is an absolute and unchangeable within another time framework. It is merely expressing to you that within this now this is not the direction that you choose to be engaging. But you may within another time framework readdress to that scenario and you may or may not express a different response in communication.
This also offers you a tremendous expression of freedom, for it allows you to recognize that you are not locked or bound to any one particular choice that you generate in any particular moment. You always incorporate choice. You always incorporate free will. Therefore you may choose one expression within one moment for it offers you no conflict, and within another moment you may generate a different choice or you may continue in the choice that you have expressed previously.
LETTY: I think I’ve been practicing that in relation to partnerships. I continue to find myself still thinking about, of course, Leezar, and I do recognize I still put too much energy, too much attention on his choices, not on me, and I’m catching myself where I can now and stop doing that. It’s gotten to be more familiar that I’m noticing the attention on him instead of on me. I find myself many times at that moment wishing to start a relationship with him again, and then there are moments when I say no. I wasn’t sure if that was my own doubt of myself or maybe because, as you said, I am giving myself freedom that maybe at that moment I don’t want to and in other moments I do.
LETTY: The fact that I have not created it tells me what I genuinely want.
ELIAS: Correct. This is quite accurate, Castille [Letty].
LETTY: Man, that goes for anybody, because I open myself sometimes to somebody else but it’s not happening. It’s the acceptance of that genuine versus what I think I may want because of the belief systems in society.
ELIAS: Correct.” [session 1022, March 03, 2002]
ELIAS: “... do not confuse yourself in the idea that you are generating a utopia in association with this shift in consciousness. What you are creating is a wider awareness objectively and an intimate knowledge of yourselves that allows you the freedom to intentionally manipulate your energy in association with your choices, in association with your freedom, to generate what you want.
Now; understand; within any moment, although you all express that your ideal is to be generating a reality in which you express no conflict, but I may express to you, all of you, within any given point have experienced within your focuses moments in which you choose intentionally to create conflict and you want to create conflict. Therefore, you are moving into more of an expression of less conflict, but this is not the point.
The point is that if you are creating conflict, you shall be aware that you are intentionally choosing that and not expressing blame to another individual or circumstances or situations, but recognizing that you yourselves have created it and that you chose it and that you want it.
PAUL: That’s a really good point to make, and I call it naïve utopianism, (Elias nods throughout) and I suffered through it and occasionally lapse back into it myself, so I’m aware that it’s very important to point this out in the conversation we’re having, because ‘tomorrow is always better,’ and ‘tomorrow the shift,’ and tomorrow never comes!
PAUL: Tomorrow is always tomorrow! All we have is this moment now. (6)
ELIAS: For tomorrow is always today.
PAUL: (Laughs) And yesterday too!
ELIAS: (Chuckling) And I may express to you, for the most part, generally speaking, in association with your sequence of moments, you do choose to be expressing less conflict, or the least amount of conflict, and you do choose to be expressing without conflict, but you do also at times express moments in which you do choose to be incorporating conflict.
PAUL: And there’s something inherent in this pre-conventional to conventional spectrum where we create conflict, because the sexual reproduction – the testosterone, the adolescence, that whole thing (Elias nods throughout) – focuses will continue to go through those stages. (7)
PAUL: So there’s an inherent instability that they will continue to go through. However, you’re saying that there will be an acceleration across the mass populations towards these post-conventional stages of awareness and with all these streams.
PAUL: And alternate selves will be pushing towards that post-conventional, which doesn’t lessen conflict, so [in terms of warfare] we’ll see more situations like the National Football League (8), rather than the War on Terrorism.
PAUL: We can go out and I break an arm off, and it’s horrific and all this and that, however it’s within a very ritualized format, where there’s rules.
ELIAS: Correct. As an example, you may experience with your partner – you choose for the most part, generally speaking, to move in association and in interaction with your partner without conflict – but, in moments, you may be quite aware that you are generating an intentional conflict with your partner, and your partner may express, ‘I’m not wishing to engage conflict with you,’ and you may express, ‘I wish to be engaging conflict!’
PAUL: (Laughing) We’re going there!
ELIAS: And you shall drive yourself and express a satisfaction in generating an intentional argument.
PAUL: I believe more and more in doing that in the right times and places.
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha! But the point is that you are intentionally, and aware of, creating this action, and you are not victim to it, and you are not expressing judgment or blame in association with the other individual. You know what you are generating.
PAUL: Thank you very much for this.” [session 1246, January 16, 2003]
DEANE: “This leads me to ask this question .... Here we all see a world that is engaged in conflict and polarization and everything, as you have said. If all of us here in this room and those on the list get their act together, so to speak, how can we as such a relatively small group, us against billions and billions of folks out here, how can we have an effect?
ELIAS: Ah, that is the point. That is an expression of perception and how you view yourself as very small and insignificant and that the worth of the individual amounts to little, for the power of the individual is limited and small – and it is not. That is the point of this shift, to focus the power and the energy upon the strength of the individual and to recognize the significance of the individual.
As I expressed previously, you cannot generate the collective without the individuals. They create the collective. Therefore, as I have also expressed previously, the power of the individual is tremendous and very significant. What you do, your individual self, DOES ripple within consciousness. It DOES affect what is being generated within your world.
It is the powerlessness of the individual, the perception in the greater masses that you do not incorporate strength or power, and [that] you do not value yourselves as individuals and you do not view yourselves to be vast, that generates the contribution to the masses creating the polarization and the opposition and the conflict.
I may express to you, in this present time framework, in this now, all of the conflict that is being generated throughout your world and all of the individuals that are participating in all of that conflict is a small volume in relation to all of the rest of the individuals within your world that sit in your same perception. There are volumes of individuals that are not actively participating in mass conflict.
How many individuals are comprising your government?
DEANE: Relatively few, in terms of the whole population of the country.
ELIAS: Precisely. That which you view as a body, a whole, is comprised of individuals, and the number of those individuals is minute in relation to how many individuals occupy your country. In relation to your world, those individuals that occupy any government as officials, or those individuals that are not in position as officials but participate in conflict of wars, are relatively few in relation to the masses and masses that are not actively participating in those actions.
But you are participating; you contribute to those actions. You feed those actions and those conflicts in your mundane existence in the very actions that you incorporate in daily activity in opposition. That energy radiates from you, from thousands, from millions, from billions. You are a part of a collective. You are a part of what may be termed to be a passive collective. But you are actively participating, and you are generating as much opposition as any soldier that is opposing another soldier with a gun.
You do not view yourselves to be generating that type of energy, for you view yourselves to be engaging your daily mundane activities, you are not generating hurtfulness to another individual, and you are expressing consideration with other individuals – NOT! And you are respectful of yourselves – NOT! And you do not oppose other individuals and you do not oppose yourselves, for you offer yourselves information and you are enlightened – NOT!
DEANE: Can I hide behind this lady here? (Laughter)
ELIAS: Now; this is not to discount any of you. It is merely to offer you information that in some manners you are deluding yourselves, for you are not paying attention and you are not observing your own actions. You are not generating the connection between how significant your actions are in each of your days and how that contributes to what you do not want and how it creates what you do not want, and that you are NOT victims, that you are not unconscious and that you DO incorporate the ability to intentionally manipulate your reality and create precisely what you want. But it begins with you, not with outside of you. This is the most significant.” [session 1742, April 02, 2005]
ELIAS: “Welcome. This afternoon, we shall be somewhat continuing another element of what was begun in our previous group interaction. (9)
In our previous group interaction, I posed a question to the individuals participating – what is your greatest fear and what is your greatest irritation – which I also introduced information in relation to these subjects concerning opposition. There is considerable opposition occurring in this time framework, and therefore it is significant to be discussing this subject matter.
The other subject that I am posing to you this day is that of presence, your own presence with yourselves. I will express to you initially the question... (Humorously to Antone) You may not answer, for I have already explained! But for the benefit of the other individuals present – or attending (grins) – I pose the question to you, how do you define being present with yourself? What does that mean to you? (Pause)
DONNA: For me it’s an awareness of my energy, an awareness of my expressions, my communications to myself.
ELIAS: Very well.
HOWARD: A function of focus? You’re aware that you are focusing. You’re aware of self, that you’re observing your surroundings?
ELIAS: Very well.
KAREN: What is happening now.
ELIAS: Be more specific.
KAREN: What I am perceiving right now.
ELIAS: Very well.
KC: I like to call it listening to myself. When I’m listening to myself, then I feel present with myself.
ELIAS: Very well. Any other inputs as to presence? (Pause)
What are you doing with terms and with your reality?
ELIAS: Correct, redefining. You are redefining your reality and the terms that you express in association with your reality. In redefining terms you redefine perception.
Presence is an awareness objectively of you, that you exist. Presence is your awareness that you are a being and that you exist in this moment. It is an awareness of the entirety of you in the now.
Presence is not necessarily listening to your communications. Presence is not necessarily being aware of your environment. Presence is not necessarily being aware of what you are doing. Presence is not even necessarily being aware of what type of energy you are projecting.
(Speaking very clearly and slowly) Presence is being aware that you actually exist and experiencing the existence of yourself. This is a very significant subject. It is one that is quite unfamiliar to most individuals throughout your reality. But in shifting and in the movement that is occurring in this time framework and the ease in which opposition is being expressed, it is important to be aware of your own presence.
I have expressed recently to some individuals the most common example of you experiencing your own presence. The most common example of an individual actually experiencing their own existence and presence is generally in situations in which the individual creates some extreme uncomfortable situation in some manner. Generally speaking, pain is an excellent example of being present of your existence within yourself – be it physical pain, emotional pain or what you term to be mental pain.
Pain generates an automatic response, for it generates an intensity and in that intensity the individual automatically directs their attention to the element of pain. But in directing to the element of pain, they are also more highly aware of their actual existence. The other automatic response that follows the initial response of focusing upon the pain is to attempt to move away from the pain or to generate some action that severs the pain from their existence.
If you shoot your foot, you shall focus upon the pain of the wound in your foot, and it shall probably be intense enough that your first automatic response shall be ‘I wish to cut off my foot!’ for you generate a similar extreme in your response to the extreme intensity of the experience. You are experiencing that as an element of your existence and your presence with yourself. It is uncomfortable, and therefore the automatic response is to sever it from your existence.
This is also an automatic response that is generated very often in mundane activities, that you experience automatic responses in different encounters, in different situations, in interactions, in different scenarios in which you present to yourself differences, dislikes, confusion, frustration. Your automatic response is to sever that from your experience. You may or may not actually engage that action, but that is the initial automatic response. But generally speaking, that automatic response is not accompanied by your presence with yourself.
Generally speaking, as we spoke in the previous group discussion, for the most part individuals are moving through their day in the seat of the co-pilot, and the seat of the pilot is empty. (Group laughter) And that generates the confusion and the scratching of heads, with individuals expressing, ‘WHY did I create that? Why WOULD I create that? Why would I not create another avenue? Why would I not create some easier method to offer myself information?’ All of these ‘why’ questions are moot and ludicrous. There is no response to these ‘why’ questions.
You created what you created in the intensity matching whatever it is that you are attempting to offer yourself information concerning. You created whatever you created in conjunction with your value fulfillment, regardless of whether it is comfortable or uncomfortable. That choosing aspect of you does not concern itself with what is comfortable and what is not comfortable; it concerns itself with what is efficient and what matches the intensity of what you are presenting to yourself in information. But you are not victims and you are not out of control.
As I have expressed from the onset, there is no element of your reality that is hidden from you. It is merely a matter of paying attention. In this time framework, the most efficient manner in which you shall allow yourself to identify whether you are generating opposing energy is to be present with yourself. For there are many, many, many expressions of opposition.
What would you each identify as an expression of opposition? How do you oppose in any manner?
ELIAS: You, yourself.
PAUL: Oh. (Group laughter) Sometimes!
SUSAN: I get quiet and withdraw from the conversation.
ELIAS: Yes, that can be – not always. It is dependent upon the motivation. But that can be an expression of opposition, although surfacely it does not necessarily appear to be.
GEORGE: I get angry.
ELIAS: That is an obvious expression of opposition.
RONDA: I don’t hear.
ELIAS: That can be another expression of opposition.
GEORGE: I get confused.
ELIAS: At times.
ELIAS: That can be, but once again is not always an expression of opposition. But it can be.
ELIAS: Defensive – most definitely, ALWAYS an expression of opposition.
ALICIA: I become impatient.
ELIAS: Impatience can also be an expression of opposition.
PAUL: Passing judgment.
ELIAS: Definitely. Comparison is an expression of opposition.
ELIAS: Yes, at times. Concerning yourself with what other individuals’ perception is is another form of opposition, for it is a form of defense, and any form of defense is opposing.
There are many, many forms of opposition that may be expressed in many moments in each of your days. At times even compromise and even acquiescing can be a form of opposing. Agitation can be a form of opposing.
The point is – especially in this time framework, as I have stated, as it is so easily expressed to be opposing – it is highly significant that you pay attention and be aware of yourself and intentionally cooperate. Cooperation may be expressed in many avenues, and it does not include compromise. Once again, compromise is another form of opposing and therefore is not the point.
Cooperation is an action that may be expressed and does not require agreement or like. It is not necessary for you to like certain expressions. I may express to you now, it is not even necessary for you to like other individuals. (Laughter) You all incorporate some individuals that you do not or have not liked. If you have not experienced that in your focus, which is HIGHLY unlikely, I may almost guarantee that before you choose to disengage you shall encounter someone that you do not like! (Group laughter)
But ‘like’ is not necessary for cooperation. Agreeing with another individual or situation is not necessary for cooperation [and] in similarity to agreement or liking, is not necessary for acceptance. You may be accepting and continue to hold to your own individual guidelines, your preferences and your opinions, and hold to yourself in an appreciation of yourself and your choices but not discounting differences and what you do not like or what you do not agree with.
It is a matter of being present with yourself, recognizing that your dislike of some expression or manifestation or individual is associated with a lack of preference of that particular expression, but it does not necessarily express that it is bad or that it must be eliminated. In the appreciation and the presence of yourself, what you alter is the threat of what you do not like or what you are not in agreement with.
Generally speaking, there is an element of threat associated with what you dislike. In some manner, it threatens you. There is also, generally speaking, some element of threat in what you do not agree with. If you are generating cooperation and presence with yourself and an acknowledgment in appreciation of yourself, the difference, the dislike, the disagreement shall not threaten you, and therefore you shall incorporate the objective ability to not oppose it or to not oppose yourself, of which you do both.
You do not merely oppose outside of yourselves with other individuals; you frequently oppose yourselves. You oppose yourselves in what you create, in what you manifest, in what you do not manifest, in what you cannot manifest in your perception, in what you are not manifesting well enough or good enough or fast enough. You oppose yourselves in many, many manners quite frequently.
But if you are genuinely present with yourself, you shall know if you are opposing, for that type of awareness of your actual existence encompasses all of yourself. It is not the identification of any of those individual elements that each of you expressed in response, but it encompasses all of them. Therefore, you shall incorporate an awareness of you. You also shall begin, in that awareness of you, to genuinely appreciate the magnificence of the being that you are, for you shall allow yourself to experience your beingness in a more continual manner, not merely in situations in which you have shot your foot! (Group laughter)
Now; I shall open to questions in relation to YOUR experiences of being present or not being present and more so – for I am quite aware that most of you do not incorporate many examples of actually being present YET, but you shall! – but more so sharing, and we shall discuss examples of opposing, for this is very significant in this time framework. Let me express to you, my friends, it matters not whether you actually participate in some mass event that is disturbing to you; physically, you are participating regardless. Therefore, it is the manner in which you are participating that is significant.
I am aware that all of you would choose, in your common terms, in your perceptions, to generate what you would term to be the perfect world. In actuality, it is already perfect in the manner it is expressed. But your idea of the perfect world would be Utopia, one of continuous harmony, or at least one in which there is not severe violence and one in which you are not generating such severity in extremes in opposition. But masses are comprised of individuals; there can be no mass without individuals. Therefore, it is the energy of the individuals that create the mass and the energy of the individuals that ripple throughout consciousness that create opposition or cooperation.
As you perceive extreme situations and extreme expressions occurring within your reality, what type of energy are you projecting and which are you contributing to? Opposition or cooperation? Do you cooperate or do you oppose in your interactions with the individuals within your environment? Are you cooperating or opposing with yourselves? What type of actions and interactions are you yourselves generating? For that is not merely confined to your individual environment. Consciousness is consciousness, and it is all interconnected. Whatever you express is connected to all other expressions of consciousness and is generating a contribution.
What you do not like within your world presently and what you do not agree with presently you can express cooperation with and generate alterations. But if you are opposing in equal measure to what you oppose, you merely perpetuate that type of energy being expressed within your reality. If you express similar energy in opposition to the actions of other individuals as has motivated them, you are expressing no differently in your energy.
KC: I have a question then. I live in Kentucky and we have the expressway, and it pretty much encircles my house. There are two expressways. But there’s my little back street, and I have the trees overhanging. I’ve always taken the little back streets and felt so glad they were there.
There was a mobile home park, and it was old and just loaded with trees; you didn’t even know it was there. Well, they tore all the trees down and they moved all those people away and they’re putting in a big shopping center, big hardware stores and everything. It’s right on the other side of the train tracks from my house, which are right on the other side of the expressway from my house. My belief is, of course, that the hill they’ve built up and the trees they’ve taken down and the buildings they’ve put up are going to bounce all the sounds over to my house.
So I’ve been opposing. I haven’t said anything to the city, but I’m saying to people that I’m going to go to the city meeting and just keep my mouth shut and just listen and see what they say, and see if I can get a wall built up around the expressway. I’ve been opposing, haven’t I?
KC: It dawned on me, because they, the big ‘they,’ which is me, are defining progress one way and I’m defining progress another way. But I’ve been kind of laying low, because I’ve been half noticing that I’ve been opposing and not quite knowing what to do. Knowing there’s a shift really is helpful, because I’ve been thinking, especially during the truth wave, that our energy’s going to draw what we need right to us and show us. Sometimes it shows us what we don’t like.
KC: I think in the back of my mind it’s kind of sneaky and tricky, because I know I can create the trees and the back roads and I kind of know I don’t have to move in order to do it. But then I’m kind of stuck, because I really don’t want to move. See, moving is one of my options. I could move to the country and have all the trees I want, but that’s not really the point because that’s not really what I want.
I really like where I live. I think I can create it quiet like I like it with enough trees that I’m happy and still have the expressway representing the energy highway and still have the stores handy that I can go to and get hardware.
ANNE: Do we have a question to ask?
LYNDA: She’s getting to it.
KC: Well, the question was, was I opposing or not, because I do know that I was. But I’m trying to ask am I on the right track with creating what I want and learning not to oppose? Because I’m really opposed to this shopping center.
ELIAS: I am aware.
KC: I really am! So what do I do to stop opposing it?
ELIAS: I am aware. This in actuality is an example that may be quite helpful in presenting a situation in which there are other individuals that want one manifestation and you want another manifestation. You are aware that you incorporate options and that you can generate different choices, but as you have expressed, that is not the point.
For you have moved into a perception of either/or – there are two choices, either they win and create what they want, or you win and create what you want. There is no cooperation. It is a matter of compromise at this point. Perhaps you can compromise – in your perception – allowing them to create what they want partially, but compromising also with yourself, allowing you to partially create what you want.
This also moves you into automatic types of associations in different manners. One is that you are not creating all of your reality, but also another dangerous avenue, that if you are creating all of your reality, you should incorporate the ability to create whatever you want irregardless of any other individual within your reality.
KC: Yes. Shouldn’t I?
ELIAS: Interesting question! One element of that question would be to define precisely what you actually want, not merely in the black and white terms of trees versus shopping. (Turning to look at Lynda) No, we are not incorporating a shopping wave! (Group laughter)
But in this, you are moving into an expression that is quite commonly expressed by most individuals. You narrow your perception, you focus strongly upon the obvious imagery, but you are not necessarily incorporating a presence with yourself to understand all of what motivates you and what you are presenting to yourself, what information you are presenting to yourself in creating this, in generating this new insertion into your reality.
For once again, moving in the other direction, there is the automatic association that YOU are not inserting this into your reality. Other individuals are inserting this into your reality and encroaching upon your reality. But YOU have presented that in your reality and you have presented it for a reason, to offer yourself information, to offer yourself an avenue to be exploring different elements of yourself, to be exploring your abilities, your preferences – not merely the preferences that are the obvious surface preferences, but also to genuinely become more familiar with what YOU are actually doing.
You inserted that into your reality. Other individuals did not create an intrusiveness to you. Had you not created that and presented that to yourself, it would not be.
KC: Sometimes I almost believe it. (Group laughter, and Elias grins and nods) Because I know the words, and I’ve read the words over and over and over and over.
KC: I precisely and immaculately draw these things to me, and if I wasn’t, they wouldn’t be there. At least I just relax me, because I do believe I will not betray myself. I do believe that most of the time, even when I oppose these things that I think other people are doing to me! See, these real wants and their real value, besides the surface imagery of expressways, trees and shopping, is we are inserting the Shift. My real, real, real strong desire is to get to know me, despite everything else.
PAT: That’s what you’re doing!
ELIAS: Precisely, and therefore you insert into your reality certain imageries that challenge you and that motivate you to be evaluating and examining. Remember, value is not always expressed in comfort.
KAREN: ... Elias, my name is Karen. I have a question about when I’m experiencing opposition with another person. To incorporate ease, should I put the focus on myself and appreciate myself in those moments and the magnificence of my being, or should I focus on the other person and appreciate some aspect of that person that would allow me to break the connection of opposition?
KAREN: Could you please explain?
ELIAS: Yes. If you are generating some element of conflict or opposition with another individual, first incorporate a moment – and in actuality it merely requires a moment – in which you momentarily disappear the other individual. They are no longer standing before you. Whether you are viewing them physically standing before you or not, in a moment pretend that individual no longer exists. Therefore, it is now a question of what is triggering and motivating the opposition or defense or whatever you are experiencing within you. It is not being projected by the other individual; they are not causing what is occurring. Some element within you is being triggered and threatened and therefore is generating an automatic response of threat.
If you cannot evaluate in that moment what is motivating that opposition within yourself – what is your fear, what are you defending, what are you being threatened by – do not dwell and continue to attempt to evaluate, but merely acknowledge and accept: this is what I am experiencing; now move my attention to some element of appreciation of myself in this moment, regardless of what it is.
Once you have generated some expression of appreciation with yourself in that moment, reappear the other individual. Focus upon the other individual visually, not entirely, with your attention. Allow a balance in which you continue to be aware of yourself but you are also including an awareness of the other individual. The exclusion of attention in either direction is an extreme, and this is not a balance and to be avoided.
But once refocusing upon the other individual, generate some element of appreciation of the other individual also, regardless of what it is. That instantly changes your energy. If the interaction or the opposition or the conflict is to a degree of uncomfortableness and appears to you that it is more exceedingly challenging to reconfigure that energy, allow yourself to actually express that appreciation to the other individual. That interrupts the conflict, for the subject is altered. It interrupts the other individual’s concentration in the conflict, it interrupts your concentration of the conflict, and it projects a very different energy, which the other individual shall immediately respond to.
KAREN: That appreciation can be similar to the appreciations you listed for the appreciation exercise, even something like ‘I like your shirt’?
KAREN: It doesn’t have to be grand.
PAT: But... Not ‘but’ – I don’t mean to say ‘but’ – but little kids do that all the time! We often say to them don’t change the subject, like they’re trying to distract us from what the subject is. Right?
PAT: So they just naturally do that...
PAT: ...and we try to stop them from naturally doing that.
ELIAS: Yes. But that also is a significant example, for small ones may be an example to you of this type of action of being present with themselves and allowing themselves to express themselves in the moment without actually generating a genuine opposition.
A small one in one moment may dislike an action that another small one generates, and may respond and express to the other small one, ‘I do not like you,’ and they may remove themselves from the interaction but quite quickly shall re-establish the interaction with no anger and with no opposition.
Even in the expression that the small one generates in expressing to another ‘I do not like you,’ they are not actually opposing the other small one. They are merely expressing themselves in their preference, but it does not incorporate any additional energy of expecting the other small one to change or to express differently. It also does not include an energy of harboring resentment or pushing with the other small one. It is merely a projection of energy in what they are experiencing in their preferences or their lack of preferences in the moment and allowing themselves the freedom to express that openly and to move beyond. In that, they may initially experience some element of threat, but they also are expressing in their freedom in the moment. Therefore, they are not holding to energy, and the other small ones understand this also.
They do not think; they do not incorporate analyzation or evaluation or thought processes in relation to what they are responding to. They merely allow themselves the freedom to respond in the moment without opposition.
TERRI: Is that an example of having an opinion and not having to like it but cooperating and accepting?
TERRI: So how do the grown-ups do that? (Group laughter) I’m not having a lot of luck with that.
ELIAS: In a similar manner, in allowing yourselves your own freedom to express yourselves, not opposing other individuals but not acquiescing, either, not compromising. Expressing you and your preferences, being present with yourself, recognizing your motivation in each situation – that is significantly important. It is not a matter of offering yourself permission in the guise of freedom to express in any manner, for that generates allowing yourself to also be intrusive, which is not acceptable. It is a matter of being responsible to yourself. That is your greatest responsibility.
The challenge is that you are familiar with assuming personal responsibility for every other individual within your environment and not yourself. You concentrate your attention upon other individuals and what they should or should not do, or how they should or should not behave, or how you want them to behave or how you do not want them to behave, and generate expectations of other individuals, which is a reflection of the expectations you place upon yourself. Being aware of your own motivations is significant.
You may in a moment, as we discussed previously, encounter another individual that you genuinely dislike. You may choose not to be interactive with that individual, for that individual expresses contrary to your preferences and to your guidelines. But it is a fine line to not be opposing, also. That is an automatic response – if I do not like you, I shall oppose you; I shall oppose what you do, what you say, how you behave, and within myself all that you do shall be deemed wrong and not acceptable, for I do not like you.
TERRI: So you can not like them and still accept them?
TERRI: How do you do that?
ELIAS: By recognizing within yourself that your beliefs, your truths, are YOUR guidelines. They are not necessarily applicable to other individuals, and that does not mean they are wrong. Other individuals may generate very different behaviors from yourself, but that is not to say that you are right and they are wrong. You are right in your guidelines for they match your preferences, but they may not match another individual’s preferences. Within the other individual, their preferences, their truths and their beliefs are equally as real as yours. Their reality is equally as real as yours. Whether you understand objectively or not, it matters not.
Understanding is also NOT a prerequisite to cooperation or acceptance. You automatically express to yourselves, ‘If I can understand another individual or understand their choices or understand their behavior, I shall generate more of an ease in accepting that.’ You may generate experiences in which you will not understand another individual’s experiences or choices or behaviors, for they are not within your experiences. And in not experiencing, regardless of who you are, you do not generate an actual understanding and reality without experience.
Experience is what generates reality. If you have not generated an experience, it is concept. It is not that you may not incorporate some understanding of some expressions – you may, intellectually – but it is not reality if you have not offered yourself the actual experience. It is concept, and that is different. In this, as real as all of your experiences are to you and as right as your right experiences are to you, another individual may express very differently, and their experience and their right is equally as right to them.
Therefore if you are aware of your own truths, of your own beliefs, of your own guidelines, recognizing that they are your truths but they are not true, therefore they are merely your truths – regardless of how many other individuals share similarities in your truths.
Generally speaking, all individuals generally draw most other individuals in similarity to themselves in association with their truths. Generally speaking, you shall not incorporate a group of individuals in which half of the individuals are crusading for peace and for nonviolence and are harmoniously interacting with the other half who are crusading for terrorism. (10) You shall draw to yourself individuals or an environment that is similar to you and your truths.
Let me express to you, if you witnessed another individual being what you perceive to be unkind in association with race, if you witnessed another individual expressing harshly and what you assess as hatefully to another individual in that type of scenario, I may suggest to you that you could incorporate interaction and conversation with fifty or more other individuals that you could relay and share that experience with and they would all agree with your assessment of it.
Conversely, another individual may view you as weak and not protective of your environment or your family and not perceiving the threat that is quite real in their reality. They may express to fifty or more other individuals in opposition to you and your position, and all of those individuals would agree with them also, for that is what you draw to yourself. That does not mean you are right. It merely means that you draw similarity to yourself to reinforce your own rightness – but it is not true.
In recognizing your own beliefs and the lack of truth to them, you recognize that they are not wrong, they are not bad, and that they are efficient for you but they are not necessarily applicable to other individuals. It is not a matter of altering other individuals. It is a matter of you engaging your creativity to discover a manner in which you can generate a cooperation with other individuals in which you are not compromising you but you are also not discounting or opposing the other individual. Let me express to you, if you are not projecting an opposing energy to another individual, whether you dislike them or disagree with them, the other individual shall not project an opposing energy to you either, which neutralizes the conflict.
Also, being present with yourself is recognizing what you are actually generating in your actual reality and recognizing that what other individuals are generating in their reality may not necessarily actually be affecting of you. You may be aware, but it may not actually be altering your reality at all. Another individual may generate a behavior that you do not like, but are they generating that behavior with you individually or are you aware that they engage a particular behavior but you are not actually involved?
That is another element of being aware of you and what YOU are creating, that you are not the individual that is expressing this perceived hatefulness. You may not like that expression, but acknowledge to yourself that you are not engaging it, either. Therefore, what is the threat to you? For you are not generating the action. It is a matter of acknowledging what YOU are doing, not discounting what the other individual is doing.
JIM: Would you also say that whatever you are disliking in this person is probably something that you see that you dislike about yourself?
ELIAS: At times; not entirely.
JIM: In other words, if there’s a fundamental Christian and a fundamental Muslim, on the surface it seems that they have these two different perspectives that you are talking about. But on a base core level, they both have intolerance and narrow-mindedness in their belief systems. Is this narrow-mindedness that you see in this person what you actually don’t like about yourself?
ELIAS: At times, but not necessarily. I would also express contrary in that assessment of those two groups. I may express to you that in actuality that population or those cultures that incorporate that religious affiliation of Islam are much more tolerant and...
JIM: I’m talking about fundamentalist beliefs, not the general religion.
ELIAS: And so am I. Your perception of other individuals and other cultures is YOUR perception and is influenced by the mass beliefs within YOUR culture, but it may not necessarily be true.
JIM: It’s personal relationships, actually.
ELIAS: But that may also be what you have drawn to yourself to reinforce your beliefs, which you all do. You draw to yourself experiences and situations and interactions that reinforce your beliefs. This is the significance of identifying what your beliefs are, which influences you are choosing in those beliefs and how that influences your perception, and how that influences opposition and not acceptance and not cooperation.
Generating generalities of peoples, creating generalities of cultures – other cultures also generate similar actions. This is not the only culture that generates in that type of a perception en masse. But this is an element of opposition in which you hold to your absolutes so strongly you do not allow for the acceptance of difference. It automatically is associated as wrong or bad.
In this, in generating an acceptance and a cooperation, you may not necessarily like another expression and you may not agree with it, but you also acknowledge that it is not necessarily wrong or bad, that you may not choose but you are not choosing. Therefore, it matters not that the other individual is choosing a particular expression or behavior, for YOU are not engaging it, and therefore you are holding to your preferences and your guidelines but not generating an automatic association that other individuals must hold to those guidelines also. That is the movement into acceptance.
And let me express a clarification in relation to acceptance, also. Acceptance is not the elimination of judgment. It is a recognition that your judgment is associated with your own guidelines. You are not eliminating duplicity; it is a belief system also and it is not being eliminated. Therefore, you continue to incorporate preferences and opinions. In those preferences and opinions, you do generate assessments of good and bad and right and wrong for yourself, not generally, in association with what you choose – not in an absolute of this is absolutely right, this is absolutely wrong, this is absolutely good, this is absolutely bad. (11)
There are many, many, many expressions and behaviors that individuals incorporate within your reality, within your world, that many of you would automatically express this is absolutely wrong and there is no exception of how this should ever occur: torture, mutilation of a child. I may express that there is no individual in this room that would be acceptable of that type of behavior. It is not to say that it is wrong. It is an experience and it is a choice.
ALICIA: ... I have a question, and I don’t know if it has to do with opposition; I think it might. You oftentimes talk about paying attention and that these experiences that you draw to yourself are a chance to notice and understand what you’re creating. There are plenty of times when I say that to myself, and I sit down and go, ‘Hmm, hmm,’ and I really feel like I’m stuck and I can’t find the answers. Is that a sign of my opposing myself?
ELIAS: Partially, but also confusing yourself, not genuinely listening. What you are doing is you are trying to analyze. You are attempting to evaluate but you are not actually listening. Therefore, you are not actually offering yourself any information.
ALICIA: What can I do to not do that?
ELIAS: Pay attention to your emotional communications. Emotional communications are always accompanied by a signal. That is the feeling, what you feel; that is the signal. Identify what the signal is, what are you feeling – define it.
Once you have defined the signal, allow yourself to turn your attention to you and evaluate. What is the communication? What are you doing that is generating this signal? What are you expressing within yourself that is communicating an identification to you of what you are actually doing? What belief is influencing you in what you are doing in that moment?
ALICIA: What happens a lot of times when I do that is I’ll be able to say what my emotion is, and then I see that what I’m doing is a thought. It doesn’t feel like I’m actually doing something. For example, if I have fear, I can identify the fear. Then I say okay, what I’m doing is I’m having doubt thoughts about x, y and z. But is that...?
ELIAS: That is also doing. You are translating through thought what you are doing.
Thought is a translation mechanism. It translates information that is presented to it. Therefore, it is not always accurate or complete, but it does translate some of what you are doing. It is dependent upon your attention and whether you are paying attention to what you are communicating to yourself. If you are, your thought process shall accurately translate what you are doing. It is not necessary to incorporate thought to translate what you are doing, but many individuals do incorporate this as their primary translation mechanism.
In this, merely remember that you may be partially translating and not entirely accurately translating, and in such situations the presentment of that emotional communication shall reoccur. It shall continue to reoccur to the point in which you actually evaluate what the message is, what the entirety or the accurate message is. It shall continue to reoccur and it may reoccur in greater intensity to the point that you eventually recognize what you are communicating to yourself.
SCOTT: Is it correct to say that when dealing with self-acceptance that since you are creating your own reality, it’s important to accept all the events within your life since you’re creating it or drawing it to yourself for a purpose?
ELIAS: Yes, ultimately; although initially that may be somewhat challenging. Therefore initially, until you generate more experience with actually accepting, it is helpful to acknowledge your experiences. You may not necessarily be in the direction yet of accepting. And remember, accepting is not necessarily liking, but accepting.
In this, you are practicing initially with acknowledging your experiences and what you are expressing, whether you like it or not, and not pushing, not attempting to eliminate, not attempting to rid yourself or divorce yourself from your experience, but merely acknowledging yourself – and also not discounting yourself and expressing to yourself, ‘Why did I incorporate THAT? THAT was stupid! THAT was awful! THAT was unnecessary.’ This is merely discounting yourself and reinforces what you do not want.
Whereas, if you are acknowledging your experiences and your actions, you are not discounting yourself and you generate a different energy, which moves you more into the direction of acceptance. It is an efficient practice to move you into acceptance.
MARIE: So rather than saying why did I do that to myself, you say, ‘I do this to myself,’ and let it go at that?
ELIAS: And perhaps you shall choose differently in another experience that may be similar. But if you are opposing what you have created and you are attempting to eliminate it, you perpetuate it, and therefore there is a strong potential and likelihood that you shall create it again.
SCOTT: So it’s a communication to yourself?
ELIAS: Yes, for you are reinforcing to yourself. YOU CREATE WHAT YOU CONCENTRATE UPON, AND CONCENTRATION IS NOT THOUGHT. If you are concentrating your energy upon what you do not want, that is what you shall create. If you are concentrating upon lack, you shall create it. If you are concentrating upon conflict, you shall create it. You DO create what you concentrate upon.
PAT: So if you’re concentrating on lack, that’s what you’re creating. Abundance is actually there.
PAT: It is in existence, but you can’t see it...
PAT: ...because the only thing you’re allowing yourself to see is the lack.
VICTORIA: Shift your perspective.
PAT: You need a perceptual shift.
VICTORIA: Focus on the abundance that is there.” [session 1799, July 16, 2005]
ELIAS: “Good afternoon!
GROUP: Good afternoon, Elias!
ELIAS: This afternoon, we shall be discussing energy, and the collective energies and what you are creating.
First of all, I shall inquire of all of you what your impressions and assessments or observations are in association with the collective energy and what is being created in this time framework. What are you noticing?
ELLA: There’s a lot of movement out of balance, sort of to get us to swing.
ELIAS: Very well. Other observations?
VERONICA: Many people are dying in cataclysms, the reaction of the earth and the oceans, I believe, against our practices of government and beliefs. It’s very sad and I am very confused by it. Because I don’t want to accept it, but on one level, somewhere up here, it is all for a good; but I don’t like being passive and I’m annoyed when other people are passive. I want them to get emotionally involved with it. I don’t know whether I allow my emotions... I allow them to come out, but I’m not sure about my own reaction with regard to it all.
ELIAS: Very well. Other observations?
JEN N: Hello, Elias. I think that people are butting up against feeling like they want things to be perfect, like reaching for this utopia but feeling really upset and realizing they can’t have the perfect thing, that things are what they are, and sort of fighting against what is, somehow. It’s causing a lot of conflict.
ELIAS: Very well.
ELISE: I feel like there’s seeds of change moving in many people, a calling to start creating new models and new ways of living, and not exactly knowing how to begin those projects.
EDWARD: The government’s making cocaine... (The rest of Edward’s statement is lost in group laughter)
ELLA: I would like to agree with Elise, because me and my friend all the time also notice evidence of the shift. It is a lot of changes, not always positive, and I am more accepting of these change. Yes, I get emotionally involved but I also understand that it is a choice. It sort of feels that time is speeding up, events are speeding up, but yet somehow we are with it. There is a lot of confusion, yes. I’m not saying things are perfect, but yet somehow so much fun, really lots of fun. I see changes in myself, I see changes in people around me, and I feel like I vibrate some of this excitement because my life is changing so much now. I just want it to continue this way, more and more and more fun, and more self-awareness. That’s how I feel.
ELIAS: Very well.
BARRY: I don’t feel any changes. I feel as I felt as a child, just things are moving, progressing. I don’t feel changes; I feel a forward movement, no specific change. Forward movement is not a change.
DALE: I feel like I’m letting go of old patterns, really letting go of them, like wiping my slate clean, making choices...
ELIAS: And what of these mass events?
BARRY: I feel it’s a cleansing.
ELIAS: Other observations?
RODNEY: These mass events are involving global responses. There’s a great deal of ‘how do I fit into this globally’ on the part of governments. It’s not just one government going ahead and doing things their own way, it’s like they’re looking at how their actions interact with the actions of all other governments. There’s a great deal of interplay, and I question whether it was like that 50 years ago. Today there’s a lot more questioning about how to fit into the global picture on the part of just about all public figures, which I think is quite interesting.
EDWARD: It feels like the Earth is trying to get rid of the parasites. I mean, the earth is what’s shifting.
FRANKO: It’s not working – I’m still here! (Laughter)
EDWARD: But it’s massive. It’s not the government; it’s like the earth itself is shaking.
ELLA: I don’t disagree with you, but it doesn’t look to me like getting rid of parasites. I don’t necessarily see it this way. But it is definitely changing old stereotypes. So many things are changing and sometimes that involves a drastic reaction, but it feels...
BEN: But the price of gas? The whole world is dependent upon this particular type of fuel and energy, and our attention in this part of the world...
ELLA: Wouldn’t you say this is like swinging? Inna and I were discussing recently if everything is perfect, you’re never going to change it. You have to have that swinging movement before you jump...
DALE: I don’t agree with that. I think we move anyway, regardless. I don’t think we need to...
ELLA: But that’s what we do to make something change.
DALE: I feel like I’m expressing many more things much more forcefully and clearly, and so my beliefs about having gas prices rise, I’m expressing that very strongly. But I’m also expressing other beliefs that are totally different than that, and it’s like okay, too. That strong expression of things like gas being expensive isn’t threatening to me.
EDWARD: But that shapes the entire western world. We’re all based on that and like you say, we’ve become so comfortable that we have this cheap energy fuel and now we’re being forced to go, ‘Okay, there’s got to be a different alternative.’
ELIAS: And who is forcing?
GROUP: Us... We are... Nobody...
DALE: I don’t see that anything’s happening to me. I see me as expressing many different things.
ELLA: That might be individual also.
RODNEY: It’s not just in energy. I think we’re coming up against a lot of hard choices, like this earthquake in Pakistan. They’re making this announcement that there’s not enough tents in the world to give to these people to keep them warm. There’s a million people out there and there’s no way that they know how to help them.
ELIAS: And what beliefs do you observe are being expressed and challenged?
BARRY: Totally the religious beliefs. All these things happen because we have to learn to change our perceptions, and the main perception that’s on the way out is religious belief.
EDWARD: No, I think it’s the opposite! They’re using this...
BARRY: You have to understand what I mean by ‘religious.’
EDWARD: You know that those radical clerics are going to say it happened to Pakistan because he’s agreeing with the U.S. They’re manipulating the religious beliefs and fervor of these people...
DALE: Those radicals are you, and they’re not wrong.
EDWARD: I know. We’re sitting here with our own religious beliefs. I’m just saying they’re using them. I’m not saying it’s right or wrong; I’m saying they’re using them consistently.
BARRY: But it’s their last stand; it’s their last ditch... (Participants begin to talk over each other)
ELIAS: STOP! (Loudly) What are you engaging in this moment as a reflection of what you are creating in mass? (Group continues to talk) Are you listening? NO! (Loudly and firmly) You are arguing. You are instructing. You are not accepting of difference. You are NOT accepting of different perceptions and different preferences and different opinions. You are expressing absolutes to each other.
THIS IS THE POINT. This is the reason that your world is expressing all of this violence in mass events, whether it be created in association with weather or individuals. They are all mass events that are being manipulated by you, by your energy.
These are collective mass events. YOU with your energy manipulate this planet. YOU with your energy collectively manipulate the weather. You manipulate the earth. You manipulate the collective energy. This is what is creating all of this upheaval within your world. And you sit in the comfort of this information and express precisely what you are drawing information to yourself to not express!
We have been discussing acceptance for many years, and many individuals express that they are being accepting and that they understand. And what are you actually doing? What are you actually expressing? Justification of yourselves, defense of your preferences, of your beliefs, of your directions, of your opinions, of your observations.
What is defense?
ELIAS: Opposition! We have been discussing opposition strongly. I have been discussing with many, many individuals the significance, the importance of balance and of cooperation – not compromise, not acquiescing, not defending – but cooperating and generating from that direction of cooperation a balance. I have been discussing with all of you the significance, especially within this time framework, of not generating extremes, and you are generating extremes.
And you are not exempt from the participation in these mass events simply for the reason that you are not physically participating. If you incorporate an awareness of any of these events, you are participating, for you are also creating it or it would not be within your perception, and it is. You are all aware. And are you incorporating responsibility? No. Are you genuinely paying attention to your energy and what you are creating and what you are expressing in every moment? No. Are you aware of the energy around you continuously? No.
This is the point. You may debate until what you express as the end of time and that shall not generate any more of widening of your awareness. It shall not answer your questions any more than you are answering them now. This is the point, this is the reason that we interact with each other, to offer yourselves information how to accomplish these actions.
You are all aware of the importance of balance. You all want to be expressing your own freedom and generating a balance within yourselves, creating an evenness and a centeredness within yourselves. You all want to be generating acceptance. You want your own freedom and your own directedness of self. The manner in which you accomplish that is to be paying attention to you and to your energy.
In this display of this previous interaction this day with each other, what were each of you aware of? Were you paying attention to yourselves? No. You were projecting your attention to another individual speaking.
ELLA: I understand what you’re saying in the circumstance of the confrontation, but when I express my opinion, I just say what I feel...
ELIAS: I am understanding...
ELLA: ...I don’t expect everybody to accept it. I’m not offended if they don’t.
ELIAS: That is not the point. Are you aware of your energy?
ELLA: You mean if I’m expressing my opinion while somebody else disagrees and I’m being confrontational with them?
ELIAS: Are you aware of your energy and what type of energy you are projecting?
ELLA: I can’t necessarily say that I was.
ELIAS: Correct. That is the point.
EDWARD: When you’re talking about this, talking about the energy, I hear you. Since this is my last focus and since this isn’t like a school room – like we’re going through Buddhism, and we’re searching for enlightenment and you can only disengage once you’re enlightened – since I don’t have to be enlightened when I leave anyway, what’s the point? What difference does it make? You see what I’m saying?
ELIAS: Yes. The difference is what you want. What do you want?
EDWARD: I don’t know – I’m leaving! (Laughter)
ELIAS: Not now! You are present now – or rather you are not present, but you exist in this physically reality. (Laughter)
EDWARD: Are you a little crabby today? (Laughter, and Elias cracks up)
ELIAS: It is important that you understand the point. You want to be expressing happiness. You do not want to be expressing trauma.
EDWARD: How do you know? Maybe that’s my happiness. I’m not saying it is...
ELIAS: That would be a choice, but generally speaking the reason that you engage myself is that you do not want to express trauma and experience trauma. Were you choosing to be expressing or experiencing trauma, you would not be engaging conversation with myself. There would be no point.
For this is the point that I speak with you, to be avoiding trauma and to be interactive with you that you may draw information to yourselves in how to be aware of yourselves and how to create what you want and how to find what you want.
BARRY: Does that mean when you are expressing your opinion you are not paying attention to your energy?
ELIAS: Not necessarily. But in that interaction, which you provided an example for yourselves of what I am expressing to you, you created a demonstration of what we are speaking of and what we are engaging, and that the point is how you do not pay attention to your energy. How can you intentionally manipulate your energy to create what you want in every moment if you are unaware of what your energy is doing, if you are unaware of how you are projecting it?
GAIL: So the energy that you’re feeling when you’re having an emotion, you can feel yourself projecting it. When they were having a conversation, they were projecting energy back and forth, just slamming each other as opposed to staying calm within yourself, expressing your opinion without shoving it outward.
ELLA: I agree with you. But what I wanted to ask you, if we could go back to that interruption when Barry was talking about feeling that it was caused by religious beliefs and Dale and Edward disagreed, if we could get an example of how it would be preferable to do it. I understand what you are trying to explain, but I think a lot of people here don’t understand. How do you say something...
DALE: I noticed that at some point my attention was on him. It was outside of me, my attention was projecting out, and I was opposing. When I’m aware of my energy, it feels like he’s an expression of me.
ELLA: Inclusive rather than...
DALE: It feels like it’s a reflection. I’m looking at it as a reflection or some kind of expression that I’m seeing me through. But when I moved into opposing and he became separate, my attention was not on me at all. It was totally on him.
JEN N: We’re in a society and we want to agree. I think that’s something that’s happening en masse, too. We’re in a society and we all have our own viewpoints and opinions, and we all think they’re right and valid perceptions, and you want everyone to hear you and to agree. We all want to agree and we’re confused as to what is correct and what do you do with all the...
ELIAS: Let me also express, first of all, your question continues to be ‘how,’ and the first direction in responding to the how is to listen. You cannot listen if you are projecting. Paying attention to your energy may be somewhat challenging initially, for it is an unfamiliar action and many individuals are not even aware of what their energy is.
You generate an energy field, all of you. That energy field is created by the energy centers within your physical body, which radiate and generate this field that surrounds your physical body. That energy is manipulated in a projection outwardly in every action that you engage.
If you are expressing any type of emotional communication, that energy expresses outwardly more strongly. If you are experiencing a neutral state, your energy expresses outwardly in a much more calm and even manner. If you are generating any type of agitation within yourself, whatever expression you generate outwardly – regardless of tone, regardless of verbal communication – the energy that is projected is intense and strong, and it is received precisely as it is expressed, as opposition.
There are many, many forms of opposition. It is not merely expressed in aggression. You can express your opinion and not be opposing of another individual. If you are expressing your opinion from the position of sharing and participating with another individual in cooperation with the other individual, you are not expressing an opposing energy. You are also, if you are cooperating, you are not challenging the other individual. You are not setting yourself as right or that there is any wrong expression of the other individual.
Agreement is not a requirement for cooperation. ‘Like’ is not a requirement for cooperation or acceptance. It is not necessary that you like an expression or that you like a behavior or that you like a manifestation to cooperate and to be accepting.
As I have expressed many times previously, difference is the most challenging expression to accept. You generate automatic responses to difference in varying degrees. Difference generates an automatic threat, which generates an automatic response of defense. Defense is one of your strongest expressions of opposition. If you are defending in any manner, you are projecting an energy of opposition, which is threat to the other individual – which is generally matched with opposing energy, for you create and you reflect what you are expressing. This is how you generate your indicator of awareness of your energy.
If you are reflecting from another individual opposition – which may be expressed, as I have stated, in many, many different manners – if you are receiving opposing energy from another individual, you have generated that initially and the other individual is reflecting. You ALL do this with each other. Every individual that you interact with in any capacity in any moment, you have specifically, precisely, immaculately drawn that particular individual to you in that moment. Stranger or friend, family or foe, each individual that you interact with you have drawn to you in that moment, for that particular individual shall precisely reflect your energy in some manner. This is your gauge of your energy.
Difference is challenging, but it is not impossible to accept. What is required is to be paying attention to what YOU are doing.
You may also incorporate your physical body consciousness as an indicator of your energy. In any moment, is your physical body consciousness being held in a relaxed state or do you notice any expression of tension in any area of your physical body? What are you actually doing? What is your posture?
If you are interacting with another individual and you are expressing conversation, but it is becoming debate or if it is becoming more intense, what is your energy? Are you sitting taller? Are you leaning forward? That is an expression of energy to challenge the other individual. If you are presenting yourself as taller, you become more challenging. Is your voice being projected calmly or is it becoming more projected, louder? Is your solar plexus relaxed or is it tight? Are your shoulders relaxed or are they tight?
There are many physical indicators that you generally do not pay attention to. Your body consciousness offers you tremendous communication continuously. But for the most part, individuals do not pay attention to their body consciousness and how they are expressing. This also is an efficient indicator of how you are paying attention if you are aware. If you are genuinely aware of yourself, you are not aware of yourself to the exclusion of all that is around you. You are aware of all that is around you; you are aware of the energy around you and how it is being expressed.
An example of how easily you do not express an awareness: (points at Jim S) what are you doing now?
JIM S: I’m listening.
JIM S: I’m passing some energy through my legs here.
JIM S: Beyond that...
ELIAS: Listening and passing energy through legs. And you are sitting, and you are present within a room. And what is around you?
JIM S: Nothing.
ELIAS: Nothing? Other individuals, a table, walls, chairs, equipment. And how is your energy being expressed?
JIM S: I’m not sure.
ELIAS: Tense and guarded.
JIM S: Yes, always.
ELIAS: Therefore shielding and holding your energy quite tightly to your physical form, and also now somewhat uncomfortable for you are being focused upon. (Grinning)
It is important that you are aware of what you are expressing. If you do not know what your energy is and if you are unaware of how you are projecting it, how can you manipulate it intentionally to create what you want? You do create every minute and every expression and every other individual within your reality. You are not always happy with all of what you are creating, but you are choosing it.
How can you intentionally choose what you want, if you are unaware of what you are doing? You may be doing many expressions and you may be in the position of autopilot. In that, you create scenarios and subsequently you become exasperated and question yourselves and express, ‘Why did I create this? Why AM I creating this?’
Were you to be actually paying attention to what you are doing, you would know, for you would be aware. That is the point. You all want to be widening your awareness and incorporating the expression of your innate ability to create intentionally what you want, but you continue to allow other individuals to steer your ship, you continue to fly your plane in the copilot seat, and therefore you are steering without a course.
Being aware of how you are expressing energy changes what occurs around you, for you ARE creating your reality. Therefore, being aware of how YOU are expressing energy creates different responses. It also can quite strongly alter your perception in many different manners. As perception is the mechanism that actually creates your physical reality, altering perception alters reality – altering actual PHYSICAL reality – and you quite definitely do incorporate the ability to generate this.
Express to myself what you notice in yourselves as generating an opposing energy.
RODNEY: I hear something or someone says something and I want to express my view, and I do. This happened to me last week, and I noticed it afterwards. They disagreed with me, and where I go in myself is they’re disagreeing with me because they didn’t understand me and they didn’t understand me because I didn’t express myself clearly enough. So I get caught up in attempting to express myself more clearly.
But this is a trick I play on myself, because it’s kind of like camouflage for the fact that I’m disagreeing with them, I’m opposing them, and I’m trying to possibly correct their perception. So I use this judgment of myself that I’m not expressing myself clearly enough as a trick, a camouflage, of the fact that I’m really defending myself or trying to correct them.
ELIAS: Yes, this is a commonly expressed avenue with individuals.
RODNEY: Because it seems to me that to cooperate with someone is simply to accept the fact that I think they’re wrong about something.
ELIAS: Yes, in actuality, you are correct. Each of you incorporates your own truths. We have defined truths as your own beliefs that you have set into absolute, that you do not even question.
In these truths, there is some association of preference, and in this, as we have discussed previously, your truths are not bad. They are your guidelines. They are your individual guidelines that guide you in how you shall behave, how you shall interact, how you shall create. Therefore, for you individually, they are good for they are your guidelines. They allow you to measure your behavior. They also influence you to not be engaging some behavior, for your truths express a preference and not a preference. There are judgments associated with your own truths. Your truths all incorporate some element of what you assess to be good and bad.
You are not eliminating belief systems; you are not eliminating beliefs. Therefore, you are not eliminating duplicity. You are continuing to express your own evaluations of good and bad and right and wrong within yourself. What you are changing is not applying that to every other individual within your reality, for their truths may be different. This is the element of difference.
It is not necessary to agree. You may be interacting with another individual that you do not agree with and it is not necessary for you to alter your truth to accommodate the other individual. It is also not necessary for you to instruct and convince the other individual that your truth is right. It may be absolute for you and that is what is important, but it is not absolute for the other individual. It is not necessary to agree to cooperate.
You may be expressing differences but it matters not. The other individual may be expressing, ‘I do this action in this manner,’ and you may express, ‘I do this action in another manner.’ You may be expressing back and forth, offering your reasons why you do a particular action in a particular manner, but it actually matters not, for the other individual is not actually affecting you or changing you. You continue to express in your guidelines.
An individual may express a truth that they express violence is wrong and therefore it should not be expressed. Another individual may incorporate violent behavior – but you are not. That is the point of your truths. They are YOUR guidelines.
EDWARD: But when we become the victim of their violence... I guess you’re going to tell me that I created that. But I’m sorry, I’d rather not be blown up by somebody I created, I suppose. I don’t know, there’s a very strange dichotomy in there.
ELIAS: But you are not being blown up!
EDWARD: A similar situation is talking about disagreeing about whether (inaudible) or whatever is a nice idea. I can buy into that, but when there is extreme violence...
ELIAS: I am understanding, but if you are not creating that opposition within yourself, you shall not draw that to yourself. Therefore, you shall not participate in it.
EDWARD: That’s nice, okay. I’ll buy that. I’ll go with that.
ELIAS: You create the situation to be participating in that type of scenario. You create the situation of drawing that energy to you through the energy that you are projecting. Therefore, if you are not engaging in an opposing or in a protective energy, it is unnecessary to draw that type of energy to you. You draw to you what will reflect you. Therefore, if you choose not to be in a violent situation and you are not expressing a violent energy with yourself, you shall not draw that to yourself.
EDWARD: So I saved the whole New York City subway because I didn’t want to get blown up and I felt really good about it! So while I was riding the trains, everybody was safe. I don’t know if I can...
ELIAS: You already are. You already are projecting an energy to not draw that to yourself.
EDWARD: I’m happy with that.
ELIAS: (Laughs) But in this scenario, this is an example of not cooperating, of attempting to convince, not necessarily in a violent manner but in a manner of opposition, rather than recognizing and evaluating how is the other individual’s opinion threatening you.
ELLA: I don’t specifically try to do it, but I do feel that I notice myself more, because I hear you and I read about all that. But I notice and it’s very distinct. If anybody just tries to give me friendly advice but uses ‘you have to do something’ or ‘why don’t you do something,’ I immediately notice my solar plexus tense because somebody wants to impose their truth on me. What I do notice lately is that I also don’t try to... I used to feel upset and I now process it within me. I turn it in a more pleasant way and the confrontation goes away. Am I actually doing that?
ELIAS: Yes. That is also an example in which you notice your automatic response and you are intentionally paying attention to what type of energy you are expressing. You notice the initial twinge, the initial response of shielding or defending, but in noticing that you can alter that by recognizing yourself, allowing yourself to intentionally relax and evaluate what is the perceived threat.
How is this individual actually threatening you? For this is what you are responding to in defense. You have automatically perceived a threat. Whether you think it in thoughts or not, you are automatically responding in energy and you are automatically engaging an emotional communication, which is expressing to you within a moment you are perceiving threat and now you shall be engaging defense.
RODNEY: I expressed an idea and the other person said, ‘You’re wrong.’ So energetically I feel a threat there.
ELIAS: For you must be right. (Laughter)
RODNEY: For me to cooperate would simply be to say, ‘Fine, you think I’m wrong,’ and that’s that.
RODNEY: But I don’t go there and I think I have to explain myself.
ELIAS: Which is another form of defending and that creates this opposing energy, and the interaction continues and can actually escalate and that creates a conflict.
These are examples of how you may engage that type of action and that type of energy with two individuals. You are engaging that, and what energy is that projecting outwardly? Opposition. Is it also expressing balance? No. Therefore, what energy does that contribute to?
ELIAS: And mass events.
ELLA: But sometimes I notice it only in my head. Does that affect too?
ELIAS: And that too may contribute to atmospheric pressures. You ARE participating; you merely do not pay attention or incorporate the awareness of how important and how powerful one individual is. There can be no mass without individuals. There can be no mass event without the participation of collective energy.
If you are generating opposition in your day – in your employment, in your family, with a friend, with an individual in a shop that perhaps expresses what you deem to be an attitude with you as you are purchasing an item – and you match that energy in opposition, you are generating an opposing energy. That energy is not limited to that very space that you are standing within. That energy translates in the collective.
You are all a part of the collective energy. You are what is the make-up of the collective energy. Therefore, the conflicts that you generate within your day individually generate a contribution to the energy, which is extreme and out of balance within your world.
ELLA: You are teaching us to interact with each other. What about the rest of humanity? We cannot deny... (The rest is lost in group laughter)
ELIAS: This is the point! The point is not to concern yourself with other individuals. The point is to concern yourself with you, for the energy that you generate alters all around you.
Therefore, you, one individual, incorporate tremendous power. You are not always in this room. You are not always in this forum. You interact in many different physical locations with many different individuals throughout your days.
ELLA: Does that cause ripple effects?
ELIAS: Yes! Yes, and that is the point. Paying attention to your energy ripples and is affecting, for you are creating all of your reality. Therefore, if you are creating all of your reality and you are creating a reality that is balanced, that ripples in association with every other individual that you interact with.
BARRY: So if you feel something here, feel tension here... Because I thought ‘balance’ just before you said it. Sometimes we send our awareness to our third eye, and so there’s awareness sent to our whole field and that’s what balances us and then we learn to do that. That’s the how, that’s what you’re saying?
ELIAS: Being aware of all of your energy and how it is being projected. The manner in which you verify is by paying attention to what you are actually doing. As in the example – you are sitting in a chair. What are you doing?
BARRY: I was listening to what you were telling me.
ELIAS: And I may express that if I were to pose this question to every individual within this room, the initial response is ‘I am listening to you.’ What are you doing?
BARRY: Absorbing your energy.
ELIAS: What are you doing?
BARRY: I’m cooperating? I don’t know.
ELIAS: That would be the answer – you are not aware. What is your body consciousness doing? How is it being expressed? What is around you? What is your periphery bringing as input? Where are your feet? Where are your hands?
BARRY: One foot is on the floor; one hand is on the chair. One hand is relaxed; one hand is tight. One foot is relaxed; one foot is tight.
ELIAS: This is the point. These are all actions that you are incorporating. It is not a judgment; it matters not.
The point is is that you focus your attention singularly and you notice merely one action, but you are actually incorporating many. Your focus is more expanded than you are paying attention to. You are inputting information in many different manners and you are also responding to that input.
If you are sitting in close proximity to another individual, your energy field is responding to the individual beside you. And how is your body consciousness responding in that side?
BARRY: I’m leaning into her.
ELIAS: Correct, therefore you are engaging an action. This is what I am expressing to you in being aware of your energy and what you are actually doing. What you are doing is your indicator of what type of energy you are expressing.
LORRAINE M: If I were able to do that, accept in every moment and not cause any conflict in my own in-the-moment life, would that mean that in my reality there wouldn’t be any earthquakes, tsunamis, war? I could create that?
ELIAS: Yes, you can. That is not...
LORRAINE M: But other people’s reality wouldn’t change.
JEN N: She wouldn’t know about that because it wouldn’t be in her reality.
LORRAINE M: So do we all have own time-space continuum kind of thing?
ELIAS: You do. You ARE interacting directly with other individuals’ energy, but remember, you are also precisely drawing to yourself specific individuals that reflect you. Therefore, if you were creating a reality in which there was no earthquake or there was no hurricane, every individual that you draw to yourself would not incorporate an awareness of that either, for that would not be in your reality. You would not be offering yourself that information, for in your reality it did not occur. That IS possible; it is difficult.
LORRAINE M: So if you’re a Star Trek person, it’s like we all have our own holodeck, we all create our own program...
LORRAINE M: ...and when we walk into it, the people that are in our hologram are people we programmed into it.
ELIAS: Yes, but they are the energies of all of the other individuals. But yes, you are correct.
LORRAINE M: So anything they say or do to us, we’ve created.
ELIAS: Yes. You have drawn that to yourself, yes.
VERONICA: I have two questions, if I remember them. I have a friend who is not interested in the world affairs. It’s not important to her. Just going to work at her little job is sufficient for her. That is a reflection perhaps to me of an attractive way to be or a calming way to be for myself?
ELIAS: In part.
VERONICA: Rather than my thinking that she’s just a totally disinterested person.
ELIAS: Correct, offering yourself an example of not concerning yourself with what other individuals’ choices are.
VERONICA: My second question is, if my perception is that we have not had cataclysms in our area, is it that our population is less defensive and more accepting than people in other parts of the world?
ELIAS: Not necessarily. For regardless that it is not occurring in your area, you are participating. You are contributing energy to those mass events. You may be collectively choosing in your physical location not to be creating a mass event in your area, but that is not to say that you are not participating in the other mass events. The energy in those locations is more directedly intensified for their collective reason and benefit.
These mass events are actually generating benefit. As I have expressed, you are always creating benefit to yourselves. It may not necessarily be comfortable. It may even be expressed in actions and events that you deem to be painful, but they are beneficial.” [session 1861, October 22, 2005]
BILL: “Elias, it’s interesting that you got to this point. I was sitting here wanting to ask a question like crazy. I’m sitting back and I’m putting my hand up or not. When you started talking about noticing, I’m noticing this incredible belief I have that interrupting people is not a good thing. So I put my hand down and squirm and energy’s going through me. So having said that, I’m going to ask a question I’ve been wanting to ask.
You said that everything’s a choice and that we also create conflict. It’s a choice to create that, and we may not like it. The question I have is I think you may have said at one point that some people desire conflict. If it’s a desire rather than a want that’s incorrectly interpreted by thought, how do you know that the conflict you’ve created is actually a desire? Do you understand what I’m saying? (Elias nods) If you’re a drama queen or a drama king, how do you know if that’s part of your desire rather than just a want? Because in your thoughts, it’s not something you want.
BILL: How do you know the difference?
ELIAS: How have I instructed to evaluate or discover what your intent is?
BILL: To pay attention to the events of the entirety of your life.
ELIAS: Correct, the theme of your experiences. In this, if the theme of your experiences within the entirety of your focus has consistently been conflict and you begin to evaluate how that conflict is generated rather than merely moving in the direction of blame, if you begin to evaluate how YOU create that and your participation in that, an individual MAY generate the recognition that this is an action that they value.
BILL: Are there people who actually like conflict? (Assents from the group) Really? I hate it.
JEREMY: I do, at times. It gives me a challenge.
ELIAS: There are individuals that do like conflict and appreciate that.
ELLA: Conflict is a great way to clear the air in some cases. If you miscommunicate and never speak your mind, eventually it will blow. In some cases it’s very beneficial, because there you are, face to face.
BILL: That’s if you’re paying attention. What I’m getting at is if you’re experiencing conflict, for people who don’t pay attention...
ELLA: That’s what I’m talking about! For me, it’s true. In the normal situation where people are not aware of this concept, very often conflict is at the time where people say to each other, ‘This is my preference; this is yours.’ Now they clash and then resolve it, and very often out of conflict eventually compromises occur.
BILL: You’re talking about yourself. I’m talking about myself.
ELLA: I’m describing mine.
BILL: Yeah, because you’re not describing MY experience of conflict. My experience of conflict is that I don’t like it. Before, I have to win and you have to lose, and I don’t like that.
ELLA: I’ve been involved where they clear the air like a thunderstorm.
BILL: Yeah, for you!
ELLA: I’m not imposing my view on you. I’m just saying my experience is that, and I know other individuals that this happens to, probably because I’m attracted to that. I’m not saying that you experience the same.
BILL: So how do you know? For me, I don’t like it; for you, it resolves something. For me, it repels me – at least it did more before I got engaged with you.
ELIAS: Which is recognizing a preference.
BILL: What has happened since I got engaged with you is I rarely encounter conflict anymore, because I don’t need to win. A lot of my intent had to do with this win/lose, my experience of polar opposites like right and wrong, competition, everything I’ve done.
ELIAS: I am understanding. But that is not necessarily intent; that is associated with truths...
BILL: Of right and wrong?
BILL: There has to be a winner.
ELIAS: And that influences perception very strongly, and it motivates you.” [session 1970, April 01, 2006]
Exercises: see also the engage conflict exercise.
(1) Paul’s note: according to Elias, each person is either thought, emotionally, religiously, or politically focused. This is a fundamental personality trait by which we each create our perception of the world around us.
(2) Paul’s note: Elias presented a stick and ball analogy in session 331, October 16, 1998 to help describe the relationship between belief systems – the stick – and our perception – the ball. The point is that the stick is neutral, but the action of our perception in relation to our beliefs is a whole other story.
Transcripts: find out more about the stick and ball analogy.
Digests: find out more about perception.
(3) Paul’s note: a reference to the “straight little sapling” allegory that Elias often refers to when he discusses our need to trust, accept, take full responsibility for only ourselves.
Digests: find out more about the sapling story.
(4) Paul’s note: according to Elias, Jan belongs to and aligns with the Sumafi essence family. If you think of essence as a multidimensional iceberg and individual focuses as tips of the iceberg, then the quality of belonging to applies to the submerged aspects of the iceberg and the quality of aligning with applies to the tip of the iceberg.
(5) Vic’s note: for readability, I have removed the word “that” in the following phrase: “In the same manner, your choice...” Originally it was, “In the same manner that your choice...”
(6) Paul’s note: “naïve utopianism” is the belief system that the grass will always be greener on the other side of the fence, and that tomorrow will somehow always be better today. And of course, tomorrow always remains just that – tomorrow! A more accurate view is that as the emergent complexity in Regional Area 1 terms increases and more humans, whales, dolphins, porpoises and who knows what else manifest, there will be new and amazing creations, inventions, discoveries and interdependencies.
However, we need to balance that developmental view with the notion that each new epoch of cultural development has side effects that carry the potentials for new pathologies and dis-eases. For example, it is now understood that many problems created by humans at a certain stage of development, complexity, and belief systems can not be solved at that level (i.e., pollution, deforestation, weapons of mass destruction, slavery, poverty, woman’s, gay and lesbian rights, etc.).
As Albert Einstein said, “the significant problems we face can never be solved at the level of thinking that created them.” And so, in very general systemic terms, new levels of complexity emerge that provide a wider awareness that can take in more factors and come up with efficient new solutions. That’s the good news!
The bad news, of course, is that there is always the potential for complementary forms of pathology, dis-ease, or collective dysfunction at any stage as long as we’re dealing with physical constructions in space-time. All of this is to say that there is no predetermined end point to this action of “evolution” or consciousness changing-in-time/no-time.
(7) Paul’s note: developmental psychologists use the basic stages of preconventional, conventional, and postconventional as a general way to describe various mental abilities that develop in concert with body stages (e.g., morals, cognition, emotions, sexual, self-needs, self-identity, logical-mathematic, linguistic, musical, etc. through infancy, childhood, adolescence, and adulthood).
However, every focus personality begins at stage 1, or preconventional during infancy. So even after the completion of the shift in consciousness, all children will still be born at the pre-conventional stage 1 and develop from there.
What’s significant is that Elias hints that the preconventional stages themselves will morph and accelerate into conventional, postconventional, post-postconventional, and so on (since there is no set end point to this overall unfolding-in-time). Therefore, none of these general stages are ever set in stone, but are subject to the continual dynamics of change-in-time (Framework 1) and no-change-in-no-time (Frameworks 2,3,4).
For more info on pre-conventional, conventional, and post-conventional stages of development see session 1246, January 16, 2003, endnote 17.
(8) Paul’s note: NFL stands for the National Football League – the version of football played in the U.S.A.
(10) Bobbi’s note: Originally expressed as ‘Generally speaking, you shall not incorporate a group of individuals in which half of the individuals are crusading for peace and for nonviolence and the other half are harmoniously interacting but are crusading for terrorism.’
(11) Bobbi’s note: Originally expressed as ‘In those preferences and opinions, you do generate assessments of good and bad and right and wrong – but not generally – for yourself in association with what you choose; not an absolute, this is absolutely right, this is absolutely wrong, this is absolutely good, this is absolutely bad.’
Digests – see also: | accepting self | alternate selves | being in the now | belief systems; an overview | camouflage | choices/agreements | creature consciousness | desires/wants | dimension | duality and change | duplicity | effortlessness | energy fields | essence; an overview | essence families; an overview (Gramada, Sumari, Sumafi) | essence families; belonging to/aligning with | fear | focus of essence; an overview | forum | fragmentation | fun & pleasure! | imagery | imagination | impressions | impulses | information | intents | manifestation | noticing self | objective/subjective awareness | officially accepted reality | perception | probabilities | relationships | science | sexuality and emotion | sexuality; gender, orientation, and preference | shift in consciousness | time frameworks | trauma of the shift in consciousness | trusting self | value fulfillment | waves in consciousness | widening awareness | you create your reality |
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