the no-conflict game 
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ELIAS: “Now; the most easily accessed method, so to speak, or exercise in addressing to conflict is to be allowing yourself to play the no-conflict game. This is an exercise that I have offered previously which offers you the ability to be accepting of self, to be not judgmental of other individuals or situations or circumstances, but also offering yourself a manner in which you may view conflicts and confusions and eliminate them. You are not eliminating the belief systems that influence these conflicts, but you ARE eliminating the conflict itself.” [session 445, August 13, 1999]
ELIAS: “There are many, many forms of opposition. It is not merely expressed in aggression. You can express your opinion and not be opposing of another individual. If you are expressing your opinion from the position of sharing and participating with another individual in cooperation with the other individual, you are not expressing an opposing energy. You are also, if you are cooperating, you are not challenging the other individual. You are not setting yourself as right or that there is any wrong expression of the other individual.
“Agreement is not a requirement for cooperation. ‘Like’ is not a requirement for cooperation or acceptance. It is not necessary that you like an expression or that you like a behavior or that you like a manifestation to cooperate and to be accepting.
“As I have expressed many times previously, difference is the most challenging expression to accept. You generate automatic responses to difference in varying degrees. Difference generates an automatic threat, which generates an automatic response of defense. Defense is one of your strongest expressions of opposition. If you are defending in any manner, you are projecting an energy of opposition, which is threat to the other individual – which is generally matched with opposing energy, for you create and you reflect what you are expressing. This is how you generate your indicator of awareness of your energy.” [session 1861, October 22, 2005]
BONNIE: “... Elias, you talked about dissipating fear by using appreciation. Do you have a suggestion about how to dissipate an argumentativeness or an opposition that you feel rising?”
ELIAS: “The same, appreciation. In the moment that you are experiencing that rise within yourself and you are beginning to generate a conflict with another individual and you feel yourself becoming agitated and judgmental and are moving into that argumentativeness, allow yourself momentarily to disappear the other individual. They do not exist momentarily. Turn your attention to you and evaluate what the threat is – why you are being argumentative, what is motivating that, what are you attempting to instruct or prove? Allow yourself to appreciate some element within yourself, regardless of what it is – that your hair may wave in a particular manner in that moment. It matters not. Reappear the other individual in your perception, which you may generate this action in merely a moment. Once you reappear the other individual, move your attention to an appreciation of any element of that individual, regardless of what it is. Perhaps you appreciate a button upon the other individual’s shirt; it matters not what it is.
“The expression of genuine appreciation itself interrupts aggression and it interrupts your attention. It immediately alters the energy. It immediately alters your energy; it immediately alters the other individual’s energy also.”
BONNIE: “Thank you.”
ELIAS: “You are very welcome.” [session 1861, October 22, 2005]
CATHY: “... in my confused state, I’m very well aware that in this present now, I’m choosing to make no objective movement to do ANYTHING. I suppose I guess it’s because I put the judgment of duplicity on it, that what I DO do will either be good or bad, and that’s not how we’re supposed to be playing the game here! That’s not why you’re interacting with us. I’m supposed to be figuring this stuff out because I asked for your helpfulness, and I’m in such a state of being ... well, it feels to me, in my perception, that I’m more non-accepting, judgmental – you name it – untrusting of myself now than ever before!
ELIAS: Let me express to you, Shynla [Cathy], you are correct that you have asked, and you are correct that I have chosen to be responding.
Now; beyond this statement, I shall express to you that the point is to be avoiding trauma. It matters not, in my interaction with you, that you shall be applying ANY of this information that I offer to you to yourself. I merely offer information, that you may glean from it any of that which shall be lending to your avoidance of trauma.
Therefore, it matters not. I do not offer this information to you, that you may become enlightened beings and hold the secrets of the universe! I offer this information to you, that you may offer to yourself no expression of trauma within the action of this shift. Therefore, that which offers you trauma or conflict, I offer you the suggestion that you eliminate.
In this, what I am expressing to you is, if you are experiencing conflict, examine that which is creating of this conflict, and you may be choosing a different direction of attention, and you shall eliminate your conflict. THIS is the point.
Individuals confuse themselves, for they view this information and my interaction with you as their opportunity to become spiritual, enlightened beings. Do not delude yourself in this area, for this is your own expression of objective confusion. You are already enlightened, spiritual beings! You do not need or require my helpfulness to be accomplishing of that! You are already expressing of that action.
What you have inquired of – as to my helpfulness – is merely an engagement to be lessening or avoiding or eliminating trauma that you may be creating in conjunction with this shift in consciousness, and this be the reason that I offer you information. And you, within your physical focus and your intellect, complicate the information which is offered to you. It is not as very complicated as you perceive it to be!
I have offered you your scenario of your no conflict exercise, and in that, you have offered to yourself the engagement of this no conflict exercise, and you have validated yourselves that you may be accomplishing in this. I merely offer to you other information to be validating of your own expressions, for you allow yourselves to be caught within your aspects of duplicity to the point that you become entangled within your own webs, and in that expression, you block many of your own choices and do not allow yourselves to view all of the choices that are available to you, but you may simplify many of your expressions by returning to your no conflict exercise.
What is offering you conflict? What is not offering you conflict? As you identify what creations are creating conflict within you, you may be also identifying that if you are discontinuing those creations, you shall be discontinuing your conflict!
CATHY: Well, I understand the no conflict game, but sometimes when I think about the no conflict game, sometimes I wonder if I’m just going to an area of avoidance.
ELIAS: Ah! You are incorporating your knowledge of psychology. You are allowing yourself to be incorporating your psychological aspects, and this also shall be reinforcing of your conflict, for this holds you in the expression of conflict, for you do not allow yourself movement for fear that you shall be expressing a suppression of other elements of your focus. I am expressing to you that your no conflict scenario is quite efficient.
In this, as you allow yourself to be expressing this no conflict game, so to speak, what you are accomplishing is a reinforcement of acceptance of self, a lack of reinforcement of certain aspects of duplicity, and you are allowing yourself to lessen your hold upon your own energy field. For as you are creating conflict, you are holding to your own energy field and you reinforce your conflict in many different areas, for you continue to hold very tightly to your own energy field in the attempt to be protecting of yourself.
In this, I express to you that this little game of no conflict scenario may be more healing to you than you realize.” [session 370, March 09, 1999]
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ELIAS: “There are many expressions and reasons for conflict; many. I have spoken with you many times of how you manifest conflict. I have spoken many times with you of how you may discontinue creating conflict. As you widen your awareness, you also widen your options. This becomes confusing!
Within centuries that you view to be past, you expressed to yourselves, ‘Life was simpler. Man’s consciousness was not as intellectual. He was not as intelligent. He had not as much information available to him.’ Incorrect! All information was always available! Belief systems were held tightly to. There was much less of an allowance of questioning. The accepted mode was of religious belief systems, which set forth ‘rules.’ Within these rules, you were accepting, and willingly ‘closed off’ your options; therefore allowing for a simpler existence within this expression.
As you move into your shift, you widen your consciousness. You are widening belief systems. You are not accepting of these rules any longer. Therefore, you also open your options and your choices. You are not quite sure how to be implementing these choices. Also, you allow for more of the objective personality to be known, and to be interacted with. You place less restrictions upon your outward expression, therefore creating more difficulty within acceptance of these expressions.
Previously, you have been told, ‘You will think this. You will act this way. You will not express this.’ Presently, expressions are acceptable. If you are expressing emotionally, this is acceptable. If you are expressing intellectually, this is acceptable. If you are expressing within idiocy, this is acceptable! You have eliminated many of your rules in widening your consciousness. You are not accustomed to interacting with each other on an accepting ... retract on; in an accepting manner; this being the issues that you presently engage to be moving through.
VICKI: So where does that leave us with our ‘no conflict game?’ It’s not quite that simple, is it?
ELIAS: As I have expressed previously, your ‘no conflict game’ will not always give you no conflict! You have not learned, yet, the complete no conflict scenario. You continue to hold wishes and desires and expectations, of other elements of physical focus, in every area of your existence.
VICKI: This concept of ‘bending’ is, I think, part of the problem. In actuality, within our two physical examples that Michael [Mary] and I had, possibly the least conflict scenario, in the long run, would have incorporated some bending? Is this correct?
ELIAS: (Pausing) It is a probability. (Another pause)
Be understanding, and you may express this to Michael [Mary] also: I express to you that you are responsible for your essence and your expression, but you are not responsible for another essence’s expression; just as I spoke with you with regard to Catherine [Debbie]. If your intention is pure, in your terms, and you have been examining of your expression, and you hold no expectation, and you wish no harmfulness, your expression may be set forth if it is benefiting of your essence, and you are experiencing a necessity for this action.
VICKI: Well, I think that’s kind of the way we both felt, but we didn’t like the responses of the other individuals involved!
ELIAS: All of you, as individuals, are experiencing a learning process of communication. Are you not pleased that you incorporate none of these developments within your subjective self and collective communication within consciousness? (Grinning) Your perception is also quite influencing; for just as I have expressed previously, you may be viewing one situation in different directions, and your actions will be determined by your perception. Listen also to your intuitive sense. It is trustworthy! As you widen, you also incorporate much to be thinking about ... but little boredom!
VICKI: Very little boredom! (Laughter)
ELIAS: I will express to you also that within this same subject, you may be considering that individuals manifest some elements as an expression of drama. Essence is a lover of drama! It is a creative expression. Imagination is a creative expression. You strive, within your spirituality, to be calm, even balanced! (Very humorously) I shall not say boring; quiet. You incorporate not much drama within this expression! (Grinning) You are naturally imaginative and creative. This is one with drama. If you are not expressing of creative drama within playfulness and games, (grinning at Jene) you will be expressing of drama in other areas of your existence and interaction.
Emotionally-focused individuals (1) will create stressful situations, or emotional expressions, or misinterpretations, or ‘woefulness.’ Thought-focused individuals will create aggressiveness, and irritation, and abundance of energy, and annoyance. You do this purposefully for your own entertainment! Therefore, this is another element that you may now view. You are not always aware, obviously, of this expression, although you may become aware once it has been offered to you, and you may allow yourself to view your objective expressions and be better understanding of these.
This is not to say that Elias has allowed you now another tool for intoleration of other individual’s expressions of these elements! I am not wishing you to be expressing, ‘Oh, you now are expressing drama, and I wish not to be involved within your drama!’ I am only expressing for your noticing, of your own creations within your own objective expression.
There are times when your objective expression of these small elements of drama serve to your value fulfillment. They serve as a release; for if you are choosing to be suppressing of your own energy and reigning this energy tremendously, viewing this to be a more ‘evolved’ expression as an individual within your objective self, you may be creating a slight drama, for a release expression of energy.
VICKI: It’s just very frustrating when you say something to a person and they hear something completely different, and then they have conflict. The resulting frustration in that scenario doesn’t seem to be releasing anything!
ELIAS: I was not indicating that these particular examples were expressions in this direction.
VICKI: Okay.
ELIAS: Although, (laughter) some of the individuals involved were expressing in this manner! (Grinning, and a pause)
VICKI: We’ll work on it.
ELIAS: I am quite assured that you will!” (Laughter) [session 95, May 22, 1996]
ELIAS: “You place judgments upon other individuals’ perceptions, for they are not the same as yours. You may offer an excuse for other individuals which you term to be an ‘allowance for their perception,’ but in actuality, what you are creating is a judgment, and the judgment is not acceptance, and acceptance is the point.
Each of you within this forum encounters other individuals that you may be experiencing conflict with, within one degree or another. Even within the degrees of conflict, you enter your duplicity by expressing that certain conflicts are more important or bigger or stronger or worse than other conflicts. They are all conflicts. It matters not. You merely choose within responsiveness to your duplicity to be creating of degrees of drama attached to your conflicts. If they are very, very bad conflicts, you shall be creating very strong drama! If they are mild conflicts, you may be creating of mild expressions with regard to them. At certain time periods, you may be engaging intense drama with your conflicts and creating what you term to be your temper tantrums! (Laughter) For this is quite expressive and creative and also quite affecting of the situation, as we are all aware! If you are creating a temper tantrum, it shall immediately alter the reality of the conflict. I think not! (Chuckling, followed by silence)
This has been quite interesting! I truly DO think not! (Laughing) For I hold no thought process! (Laughing harder – Elias is cracking himself up!)
This belief system of duplicity holds great importance within the action of this shift, that you be addressing to this particular belief system and recognizing its affectingness in every aspect of your focus and within all of your actions. Many individuals inquire, ‘How may we move in the direction of peacefulness, of lovingness, of altering our reality?’ Acceptance of self and the acceptance of the belief system of duplicity and rendering this particular belief system neutral shall be affecting of ALL of your other belief systems, and shall be automatically creating of the byproduct of allowing you to more easily move into the area of acceptance of all of your other belief systems.
Each time you are creating of any type of judgment, you are engaging duplicity. I challenge you each to hold an awareness, within merely one day within your focus, of how many times you engage duplicity, and you may be surprising yourselves, for you engage this belief system continuously!
RODNEY: ... I have one more. Would you distinguish again the distinction between duality and duplicity?
(Vic’s note: good question, Rodney!)
ELIAS: I am aware that your new religion of your metaphysics moves in the direction of designating duality as the same as duplicity, but in actuality, I am quite careful in my choice of words that I offer to you in explanation of these belief systems and concepts.
Duality is suggestive of two, or a double of elements. Duplicity, although it incorporates what you term to be opposites, it is not necessarily merely two. It is an incorporation of very different conflicting elements within you simultaneously, in opposition to each other. Duality does not always suggest conflict or opposing elements. You may hold duality in certain areas that may complement each other. Within duplicity, these elements of the belief system that you hold do not complement each other. They are opposing of each other and creating of conflict.
RODNEY: In other words, the north pole and the south pole are complementary ...
ELIAS: Correct.
RODNEY: ... dualities.
ELIAS: Correct.
RODNEY: They are not in conflict.
ELIAS: They are not within conflict. Duplicity IS within conflict. It is a creation of conflict.
RODNEY: What was that? I didn’t hear.
ELIAS: Duplicity is a creation of conflict.
RODNEY: Okay.
ELIAS: And where you hold duplicity, you also hold conflict.
RODNEY: Right. Thank you.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome.” [session 328, October 03, 1998]
NICKY: “Okay, there’s been something that’s caught my attention in another realm, which be the animal realm. I’ve taken note of it, whether it be on the news, or my daughter mentioned it once, or whoever is talking about it, about the animals, even a news program last night with veterinarians talking about giving their animals Prozac (Elias grins) and redoing adult behavior so that dogs and cats and animals respond differently, what animals are attacking children and people, and things like that. I’ve taken note of it. What is going on?
ELIAS: (Smiling) And would this not be a very creative expression within your creatures, in their mirroring of your own creations and your own behaviors?
And as I have expressed previously, your creatures ARE in agreement with you and SHALL BE expressing within their creations and their behaviors mirror actions to yourselves, and they shall be creating very similar situations as YOU create.
They mirror your issues and your belief systems and are quite responsive to your energy, individually and en masse. As YOU move in the direction of focusing your attentions more severely in the areas of your psychology and placing more emphasis of your attention in this direction, you also are creating an affectingness within your creatures, and they shall be creating of behaviors in this direction. As YOU narrow your acceptance en masse of what you term to be ‘normal behavior’ – within the parameters of your psychology and what is acceptable as ‘good’ behavior – you also place this judgment upon your creatures, and they shall mirror back to you the very behaviors, the very issues, the very energy that you project outward with them.
NICKY: Interesting! I got a hint of that when I was watching the program. I was just half-listening to it, and I thought, ‘Oh my God! It’s not the animals at all! They’re interpreting and they’re acting out what we are thinking!’
ELIAS: Quite!
NICKY: Yeah! And I thought, ‘Oh! My, my, my, my, my! I must make note of this!’ It gives you a real bird’s-eye view of how up in arms things could really get, huh?
ELIAS: And be noticing, I have been expressing from the onset of this present year that many elements shall be occurring in this particular year. You have lent much energy to disturbance within this particular time framework. Therefore, you may look to what you are creating en masse in this time framework – less acceptance of deviation from what you identify as the norm, more fearfulness, more of your interaction with other elements of your creations, your creatures, your weather, your atmospheric conditions, your involvement with what you term to be nature ... your very planet responds to the energy that you project and that YOU are creating en masse collectively with each other.
NICKY: Yeah. We touched on that briefly Friday night, about just that idea, that if indeed this is what happens, then we’re viewing everything we put out there go to work!
ELIAS: Look to your weather conditions, and look to the expression of so very many multiple whirlwinds [tornadoes] that are occurring presently and have been occurring within this particular year. Already you are creating of many of your whirlwinds that you term to be tornadoes, which are creating of great disturbances.
You are already, within this very small time framework of this particular year, creating quite dramatic affectingnesses! You are quite expressive of fearful elements – panic, distrust, questioning, worry, whirlwinds of emotion and conflict in interaction with each other – which your very weather and atmosphere mirrors.
You express to me in this questioning of creatures that move in the direction of what you term to be attacking of individuals. Look to yourselves! What are you creating within your interaction with each other?
NICKY: Really! Attacking each other! Exactly! Going for the throat! Trying to defend one’s position! I mean, there’s so much! And that’s when it came to me last night, after watching the program. I thought, ‘Oh my goodness gracious me! What a view! What a view of what we’re doing to each other and ourselves!’
ELIAS: You are defensive with yourselves, for you are not trusting of yourselves, and as you are not trusting of yourselves, you are not trusting of each other, and you are creating much conflict, and in this, you continue to be creating of conflict, and your whole of your reality in your world reflects this!
NICKY: Oh my goodness.
ELIAS: I have offered warning of this already, and have expressed to individuals within these sessions that this particular year holds great energy. It is your choice in which direction you choose to be moving with this energy. This is the final year of your century and of your millennium, and much energy for much time framework has been lent to this time framework, and in this, you have much to draw from in energy and much to manipulate.
In these expressions, you may be creating a reality of fear or you may be creating a reality of trust. Either direction that you are choosing, you shall be lent much energy to the accomplishment of it.
NICKY: Okay, might this be related to ... periodically I have ... you know, when you become aware of certain things and you notice certain things, I say to myself, ‘Oh boy. You know what? I don’t want to do this traumatic routine again. I don’t want to go there. I don’t want to participate in it.’ And then I had to realize the fearfulness that I myself was holding.
ELIAS: Quite, and I express to you, if you are not choosing to be participating within drama or conflict, you hold the choice to not be participating. This is your choice, and it matters not the direction of other individuals, and if you are focusing upon yourself, you may be choosing no conflict.
As I have expressed, you hold the choice within this now to be offered EASE in your choices. You are being offered the lending of energy that has been expressed for centuries that you may draw upon NOW, and in this, you may be engaging this energy to effortlessly be creating tremendous conflict and fear, or you may be accessing this energy to be effortlessly creating acceptance and trust.
NICKY: That is my desire. That IS my desire! That is where my objective mind goes to, and then I find myself within my whirlwind and I say, ‘Okay, how do I do this? How do I get there? How do I, how do I, how do I?’ And the more I ask how, the more I hear you say, ‘Address yourself.’
ELIAS: Quite, and I shall revert us to our beginnings of this forum once again, and we shall reincorporate our no conflict exercise, and I shall express to you as I have expressed to other individuals recently: As you are experiencing conflict and you are wishing not to be experiencing conflict, draw your attention objectively to the elements that create conflict within you, and OBJECTIVELY CHOOSE not to continue. OBJECTIVELY CHOOSE no conflict.
NICKY: Objectively choose no conflict.
ELIAS: This is quite simple. It requires none of your psychology. It merely requires your attention in noticing your own conflict, which you may be accomplishing quite efficiently objectively.
You hold an awareness of your conflict! You hold an identification of your conflict as you engage conflict within each experience. This is not a mystery to you!
Therefore, identify and notice your conflict within the now objectively, and merely express the questioning to yourself, ‘What shall you present to yourself that shall eliminate your conflict within the now?’ And in that question, offer yourself your response of what shall be offering you no conflict, which is also not hidden from you and not a mystery! You shall offer yourself an answer to this question quite quickly.
You ALL KNOW OBJECTIVELY what is a conflict and what presents as no conflict. You merely confuse yourselves and create more conflict by not choosing the no conflict scenario.
NICKY: Okay, I’ve got a question for you then. Say objectively, a situation calls for, ‘This is the end of the conflict situation; I’m going home now.’ without any thought to the result of it, to the byproduct of what’s going to happen as a result of your action. It’s just a matter of, ‘Okay, this is it; I stop?’
(Vic’s note: great question!)
ELIAS: Correct. This is your acceptance of self WITHOUT judgment. It is purely an expression of acceptance of self without placing a judgment upon your action and without the necessity for justification of your choice, for justification is merely another expression of a judgment upon yourself.
You must be justifying. Therefore, it shall be acceptable. No! I express to you that your choice is your choice. It is merely that.
NICKY: Oh my. Oh my! So very interesting! So even within myself, I notice that there are times when I go to what I call defending myself. I’ll say to Michael, ‘Well, why do I have to defend myself? This is it, period.’ So, my tendency to want to go to defending myself is easing. It’s not as quickly there anymore, but yet, it is something that I still entertain, because I look at the result of my comment or to the finale to something. So, I don’t even have to go there, do I?
ELIAS: No, for your defense of yourself is the reinforcement of your lack of acceptance of self. Your choice to be ending or not participating within conflict is your expression of your acceptance of self. ‘I choose not to be participating within conflict. I need not justify my choice, for it is merely a choice, and there is no judgment placed upon my choice. It is what it is. It is my choice, and this is acceptable.’
NICKY: So it gives one an opportunity again, within that moment of decision, to view where our tendencies are to judge ourselves!
ELIAS: Quite, and in this, notice how efficient your acceptance of self is presented within this no conflict game or exercise, for you place no judgment upon yourself in your expression of no conflict.
It merely is a choice, and it is acceptable, and the reason that the choice is acceptable is that YOU are acceptable.
(Vic’s note: what a concept!)
NICKY: Okay. My tendency is that after something, I will go ... I can make a statement sometimes. I can say, ‘Okay, this is it. I’m done. I choose not to carry on this conversation. It’s starting to aggravate me.’ And I will stop. But then I go within myself and I take a look at all the issues and all the thoughts that led me up to the point of starting to question myself after I made the statement. I get to see some of the thoughts anyway – or the issues or whatever you want to call them – of what brings me there, and it seems to be helpful in that process. Eventually, will I be able to eliminate the process? I mean, is the process just such a normal thing for me, or here in this dimension, that it seems like that’s what you go through every time you think of something?
ELIAS: The process is the method that you all present to yourselves, but I shall also express to you that the more that you practice with this noticing and with this acceptance of self and your no conflict exercise, the more you begin to be genuinely accepting and trusting of yourself and the more automatic this expression becomes, and if you are continuing in this direction, eventually you shall be expressing trust and acceptance of self as automatically as you now express doubt of self and lack of acceptance of self.” [session 372, March 16, 1999]
TOM: “Can you speak a little bit about – I’m trying to create a business that involves two partners right now – what it takes to essentially make a joint creation? I am the primary driver and leader, but how does that work with more of a joint creation as opposed to creating it yourself?
ELIAS: Correct. In these types of situations, be remembering that you may only be creating your expression and your reality. You may not be creating for other individuals.
Now; in your joint creation together, the most affecting element is your participation in acceptance of the contribution of other individuals and your own recognition within self of your opposition.
In this, many conflicts may be addressed to and also avoided in joint ventures as the individual concentrates their attention and their energy upon their own expression and is not concerning themselves with the expression of the other individuals, for there is much to be learned within your own expression.
Let us look to a situation that you may be suggesting of a certain direction as to any particular course of action that you may wish to be engaging in this joint venture. Another individual that is creating this joint venture with you may be in disagreement and may be expressing a different direction.
Now; you may be responding within yourself in a reaction of disagreement to their expression, and this shall be creating of certain twinges, so to speak, that shall arise within you. It may be triggering of certain emotional expressions; it may be triggering of certain thought processes. In this, you present yourself with the opportunity to examine your own response.
Now; be remembering that what I am expressing to you is unfamiliar. The familiar is to move into the direction of NOT looking to self and examining your own responses and your own beliefs which are triggering these responses, but to be looking to the other individual outside of yourself and automatically placing judgment upon their expression and justifying your own expression, expressing to yourself within yourself – regardless of whether you may be outwardly expressing this, but inwardly expressing to yourself – in your justification that you are right, and therefore it is unnecessary for you to be incorporating the idea of another individual.
Now; I am not suggesting to you that you may be continuously denying self and moving in the direction of being compliant with another individual. What I AM expressing to you is to be evaluating what is triggering and what is creating your responsiveness when you are in disagreement to another individual.
In this expression, as you evaluate what your expression is in your response and where it stems from, you may also be expressive of this to another individual, and in THIS expression, together you may allow yourselves to explore more of your choices than merely the ones that have been expressed between you to that point, for there is always more than two choices to every situation.
But you do not necessarily view all of the choices available to you if you are not allowing yourself to explore beyond your immediate responsiveness to each situation, for it is automatic to you all to be evaluating your situations in either/or terms, black and white terms, and cause and effect terms.
Therefore, for the most part, you move into areas that you allow yourselves to view only two choices in each situation, but there are many more than two choices with each situation. Therefore, as you look to yourself and offer yourself the identification of your own triggers, your own responses, and your own reactions to any given situation, you also open yourself to more of your choices and you allow an opening in your interaction with other individuals to incorporate more choices jointly. Are you understanding?
TOM: Not entirely. I get the basic part of it. I’m seeing what you’re saying, but....
ELIAS: Present any scenario of your own experience to me, and we shall incorporate that as an example.
TOM: It’s not that I can come up with one specific example. It’s a matter of, there’s often conflict when we’re trying to develop one creation jointly, and how you kind of try to channel these different creations of different individuals into one joint creation.
ELIAS: Correct. But I express to you that the difficulty arises in the interaction with more than one individual, as each individual is expressing themselves from the perception of their own issues and beliefs. Therefore, they are each being influenced in this same manner, and in that, they each are not assessing the wider picture of the entirety of the reality, but merely moving within their own sphere of their own perception and justifying their own perception as being the correct perception. This is, as I have stated, the pitfall, and this is the most difficult area to be addressing to.
This is the situation – as I have expressed previously – of you pushing your ball with your stick (2), and another individual entering the playing field and hitting their ball into your ball. Now how shall you be moving your ball? You hold the choice to be continuing to be interactive with another individual. You also hold the choice to be continuing in conflict or to not be continuing in conflict.
Let me also express to you that you may be approaching certain situations – in the expression of acceptance of yourself – in evaluating your least conflict scenario. In this, if you are experiencing conflict in conjunction with another individual, you may evaluate what is creating your conflict and what shall be creating no conflict or the least amount of conflict in that situation. In that, you hold the ability to choose objectively what shall present the least amount of conflict for you, and move in that direction.
TOM: But if you do that, is that being ... do you do that by being compliant?
ELIAS: Not necessarily! Many times individuals are not compliant with the wants or the expression of another individual, but are creating of the situation which allows themselves the least amount of conflict.
You may be engaged with another individual, and you may be in disagreement with another individual. You may view no viable area of what you term to be compromise. In this, you are focusing your attention outside of yourself. You are attempting to be compromising with another individual to be appeasing or compliant with them, but this may not necessarily eliminate your conflict, and in your compliance, you may be in actuality reinforcing your own expressions of discounting yourself within your own aspects of duplicity.
Therefore, you may approach this situation differently, and you may question yourself. You may express to yourself, ‘This situation is creating conflict within me.’ You may then ask yourself, ‘What shall create no conflict for myself in this situation?’ and you may identify that element also.
As you move and choose your own no conflict scenario, this may not necessarily be creating no conflict for the other individual, but it is creating no conflict for you, and it is the responsibility of the other individual to be creating no conflict for themselves. It is not your responsibility to be creating another individual’s reality!
This also is unfamiliar to you, for within your thought process and your beliefs, this appears harsh, for you then express to yourselves, ‘But this may be creating of much conflict for another individual.’ I express to you, this is not your concern. This is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is to yourself and to be creating YOUR least conflict scenario, for in your expression of your least conflict scenario, you are also accepting self and trusting self, and THIS is the direction of your attention and the most efficient expression. It may be presenting difficulties with other individuals temporarily, but this is THEIR expression, which they are creating, and this is their responsibility in their expression.
TOM: How do we work towards, you know, really trying to accept and trust ourselves?
ELIAS: This small exercise of conflict and no conflict is a very efficient method, so to speak, to begin moving in this direction, for each time you are moving in the direction of no conflict with yourself, what you are creating is your own acceptance and trust of self, and in that action, there is also a byproduct of the acceptance of the other individual.
You may continue to not be in agreement, but as you are creating no conflict within yourself, you automatically move into more of an acceptance of the other individual also, recognizing that their expression is their expression – is their reality – and that this is acceptable. It is not necessary for it to be the same as your expression. They may continue, and it is also not necessary for you to be in agreement with them and with their expression or their behavior or their thought process.
This is your practicing in your own acceptance of self, that it is not a matter of right or wrong. It is merely an expression of conflict and no conflict, and in your expression of no conflict, you may reinforce yourself that you are trusting of yourself.
Let me express to you that I am also aware and understanding that in this expression, you are also creating a judgment. You are expressing to yourself that you are good in this situation and you are acknowledging of yourself in this accomplishment, and this temporarily is acceptable, for the expression of duplicity is extremely strong, and temporarily allowing yourself acknowledgment and validation shall be reinforcing of your own acceptance and trust of self.
Eventually you shall hold no need to be acknowledging and reinforcing of your own expression, for your trust and your acceptance of self shall be automatic. Therefore, it shall be unnecessary to express to yourself that you are accomplishing well or good or acceptable ... or that you are ‘okay,’ in your vernacular! (Grinning)
In the meanwhile, you may be reinforcing of yourself by practicing, in identifying each moment that you are experiencing conflict and allowing yourself to choose no conflict REGARDLESS OF THE INTERACTION OF OTHER INDIVIDUALS, remembering that other individuals are creating their reality the same as you are creating your reality. It is not your responsibility to be assuming responsibility for their reality, but merely to be concerning yourself with self and what offers you the least amount of conflict.
TOM: Sounds like a good course, if I could stay to it!
ELIAS: And you may!
You may begin with what you identify as small areas. You present yourself with the expression of conflicts continuously! Some of your conflicts you identify as very small; others you identify as much larger. They are all the same, essentially. They are conflict or no conflict. Therefore, you may begin in practicing each day with your smaller expressions of conflict.
The reason this particular exercise is easily accomplished is that it is an objective expression. You need not be evaluating. You need not be moving in the direction of identifying your belief systems. You may not move yourself into psychological areas or expressions or analysis. You merely need be identifying any element that is creating conflict – which objectively is quite easy for you all – and in this, offer yourself what creates no conflict for you. This also is quite easy for you to be identifying! You may not always choose to be moving in that direction, for you are assuming personal responsibility for other individuals or you are placing judgment upon yourself, but if you are moving outside of these expressions, it matters not, and you may be creating quite efficiently.
Let me express to you one small example: An individual experiences fatigue within their day. They express within their thoughts, ‘I shall engage a nap.’ Subsequently they are experiencing conflict, for within them, they are also expressing a battle. ‘Shall I engage a nap? No! This is irresponsible and non-productive, and I must be continuing within my day and being productive.’ Now; in identifying that they are experiencing conflict – they wish to be engaging a nap, they are not engaging a nap – what shall be eliminating of their conflict? To be engaging a nap!
You need not move in the direction of in-depth evaluations. It is quite simple and it is very objective, and in this, there are no hidden traps! It is merely your objective identification of what offers you conflict and what does not offer you conflict, and as you practice in this, as I have stated, you shall be reinforcing your own acceptance of self.” [session 375, March 20, 1999]
TOM: “Now Jeneph [Shirley] has a question about her intent, and if you might give some advice on her dilemma and conflicts in creating different probabilities presently.
ELIAS: This moves in the direction of trust and acceptance of self, and the allowance of accepting the ideas and opinions and input of outside elements which may not necessarily be in harmony with self. But in not trusting and accepting self, in the questioning of self, there is a leaning in the direction of accepting input from outside areas, so to speak – other individuals and other situations – that ultimately becomes confusing as opposed to offering clarity.
In this, I express that as this individual may be looking to self and engaging in objective terms – once again we move into this direction (chuckling) – our no conflict exercise, this may be helpful.
Let me express that in engaging the no conflict scenario, there is an automatic acceptance of self. There is a discontinuation of judgment upon situations and other individuals and there is an allowance to be moving in what you term to be a forward motion, for you discontinue the movement of conflict which may be blocking in your expression. Therefore, I express to this individual to be engaging this no conflict exercise, and this may be helpful in this situation.” [session 379, March 28, 1999]
GINA: “Why am I experiencing conflict right now? I’ve been experiencing a lot of conflict!
ELIAS: Let me express to you that the conflict that you are experiencing and offering to yourself is an opportunity for you to be viewing self and to be more clearly evaluating your own creations and your own participation in situations and interactions with yourself and with other individuals.
In this, within this present time framework you may be experiencing an emphasis in this situation, which is bringing this to your attention more intensely. What you are moving into is, as you continue to be experiencing these conflicts, you are also allowing yourself to open to self more fully and allow[ing] yourself to be more accepting and trusting of yourself.
Let me offer you a type of example.
Many individuals within physical focus allow themselves a period of time to be struggling with themselves within conflict. These same individuals eventually tire of their participation within these conflicts. As they are continuing within these conflicts – as with yourself – they are not allowing themselves to view in actuality what is creating the conflict. The conflict is stemming from their own lack of acceptance and trust within themselves, and the allowance of the beliefs – of not merely themselves but other individuals – to be strongly influencing them. In this situation, as they continue – as you continue also – to be participating in this type of conflict, you move into a position of becoming weary of the continuation of this type of conflicting experiences.
In that moment of weariness or tiring from the conflict which is continuing, there is a letting go of the holding within energy to the conflict itself, and in that letting go, THEN you may be allowing yourself more of a relaxation within your focus, and this shall provide you the window to be viewing self and viewing the areas in which you yourself are not accepting of yourself, of your behaviors, of your expressions. And in this, as you turn your attention and allow yourself to be more trusting and more accepting of your own expressions regardless of the influences or of the situations with other individuals, your conflict shall dissipate.
GINA: Okay. What issues are my husband and I trying to show ourselves? There’s been a lot of conflict between us lately, and I’m just wondering how I can try to change that and what I can do to not experience conflict on my part between us.
ELIAS: Let me express to you that this is directly related to this wave within consciousness which is occurring presently, addressing to the belief system of sexuality.
Now; I have expressed previously, recently, explanations of this creation and belief system of sexuality, and that it is far more expansive than you view it to be. In this, it is also much more camouflaged than many of your belief systems within this physical dimension, for there are many elements of this particularly belief system that you do not identify as an element of a belief system.
In this, as this particular belief system is being addressed, it is creating responsiveness within many individuals – yourselves also – and may be creating of much conflict.
Your creation of sexuality involves your perception: how you view yourselves and how you view your world, how you interact with yourselves and how you interact with your world.
In this, you and your partner share the same orientation within this particular manifestation presently, but you also are influenced by different aspects of belief systems.
Now; in this influencing of different aspects of belief systems, you find yourselves projecting to each other in the expression of conflict, for each of you holds to your own perception of your own aspects of beliefs.
What you are creating is – as I have expressed the analogy of the stick and the ball previously, the stick being the beliefs which are influencing or pushing of the ball which is your perception – you are pushing your ball with your stick and he is pushing his ball with his stick and you are pushing your balls into each other, colliding with each other. In this expression, you may identify to yourself that neither of you is seeming to be choosing to give, in flexibleness.
Now; the reason for this situation is that you are holding very tightly to your own perceptions, and you are not allowing for the reality of each other’s perceptions.
Let me express to you that your perception creates your reality. Therefore, it IS your reality and it is real, but each individual’s perception is reality. They may be different, but they are all reality.
In this, I express to you that as you turn your attention to self – as I have expressed within the response to the previous question involving the situation of conflict – as you are looking to self and examining your own participation and perpetuation of your own beliefs and of your own lack of acceptance of self, this shall be helpful to you within your interaction.
Couple this with the understanding that your partner’s perception is their reality also. Therefore, it matters not that you may be expressing many times of any particular idea or situation. This may not necessarily be influencing in the other individual’s reality, for he also is holding very tightly to his own energy and his own beliefs and the influence of his own beliefs.
Now; I shall express to you in this that you may be moving through these types of expressions and accomplishing what you seek to be accomplishing in eliminating this conflict in relation to the relationship, for you do hold the same orientation.
This is not to say that you may not move through these types of situations were you to be holding different orientations, but it would be exceedingly more difficult, for in holding different orientations, you also – in a manner of speaking – hold different languages, for you hold very different types of perceptions.
YOUR perceptions are merely different as influenced by your beliefs. This is much easier to be moving through and eliminating conflict with than would it be were you holding different orientations.
In this – viewing yourself singularly and addressing to YOU, not to the situation of your partner – I express to you that if you are allowing yourself to move more deeply into self, you may be quite affecting of this situation of conflict.
Now; I also express to you that I hold an awareness that this is not a task easily undertaken, for in this, it is not merely a question or situation of altering your own behavior, but to be noticing – within each moment of interaction – what your individual personal triggers are, in which you hold many.
First of all, you may be identifying your own triggers. There are certain expressions that may be offered to you by your partner that you shall automatically accept, assimilate inwardly, and it shall be a trigger to be reinforcing duplicity.
In this, the resulting action of that reinforcing of duplicity is to be initially hurt, and subsequently experiencing the emotion of anger and turning the hurtfulness outward towards the other individual.
Now let me explain to you the action which is occurring in this type of situation.
GINA: Okay.
ELIAS: The other individual expresses to you any type of behavior or statement that triggers you, and therefore is creating the feeling or the emotion of hurtfulness within you.
Let us stop momentarily.
This feeling of hurtfulness is the identification of your agreement of your own lack of acceptance, your own unworthiness. This is what creates the feeling of hurtfulness, for as the other individual expresses to you, as an example, ‘Your behavior is unacceptable,’ you are receiving the statement, you are accepting the statement, and within you underlyingly, you are agreeing with the statement.
Therefore, you are offering the hurtfulness to yourself in not acknowledging your own worthiness. This creates frustration within self, for you do not objectively identify what you are participating within and what you are in actuality creating.
GINA: I see.
ELIAS: Therefore, you turn this expression and project outwardly that which you are in actuality expressing to self and you produce retaliation behavior, for you are expressing what you underlyingly are expressing to self, and the battle which is raging is that within self. It is merely being mirrored outwardly between yourself and another individual.
Now; what may be complicating this situation is that you are each participating in the same action, and as you are participating in this action, you are also mirroring to each other those elements that you are not accepting within self. Therefore, when one individual expresses, ‘You are inadequate as a parent; you are not accomplishing in the manner that you should,’ the other individual is receiving this information as a mirror expression of their own perception of self and their own lack of acceptance of self.
Or, the individual may express, ‘You are not listening to me. You do not hear what I say.’ What you are in actuality expressing is merely an outward projection of the statement which you are creating for yourself. You are not listening to self. You are not acknowledging of self. Therefore, you look outside to another individual to be producing that action for you, and as they are not, you move in the direction of projecting all of your frustration outwardly.
Now, in turning your attention to self and expressing the acknowledgment to self that you are not listening and paying attention to self, and offering to self what you are seeking outside from another individual, you may more efficiently address to the issue and be eliminating the conflict.
GINA: ... Well, that’s all the questions I have written down. Before we hang up, is there anything else that maybe I didn’t ask, information that maybe you have come up with that you can tell me? You’ve answered a lot.
ELIAS: I offer to you merely the suggestion that you offer to yourself the practicing of the no conflict exercise.
And I also express to you the suggestion that for a time framework, you may experiment with the action of each time you begin to involve yourself within objective conflict with your partner, to stop momentarily and merely inquire of yourself why you are participating in this conflict. What are you defending and what are you protecting?
GINA: Okay, alright. I think that’s a great last word. Well, I definitely intend on getting back with you again. I’ll start doing some exercises, and I’ll probably get some more information from my mother and my brother. Thank you. You’ve been very informative.
ELIAS: Very well. I express to you that I anticipate our next meeting, and I offer to you much encouragement in your endeavors and your practicing in these areas, and we shall be watching within your progress, so to speak!” (Chuckling) [session 380, April 02, 1999]
ANON: “You discussed, it seemed to me, a lot about conflict – conflict that’s been arising in other places, as well as with us individually. I guess what I was wondering is, when an individual experiences conflict in another individual, and their belief is to want to help that individual to neutralize their conflict, is it possible to do that, or are you intrinsically placing a judgment on their engaging in conflict as not being right somehow?
ELIAS: Let me express to you that this is a common thought process within individuals in this physical focus. You lean in the direction of wishing to be helpful to each other. You place judgment upon the expressions of conflict, and you wish to be eliminating of conflict.
Now; in one respect, I express to you that conflict in itself is neither right or wrong. It is an experience, and it is a chosen experience. But I may also express to you that conflict creates a thickness in energy, and this be the reason that you move in the direction of not wishing to be creating conflict. You naturally magnate to pleasure, for this offers you less thickness within energy and more of an ease in your creation of your reality. If you are creating within any of your expressions within pleasure, you shall experience an ease. You shall express to yourself that you are noticing that your movement flows freely. If you are creating conflict, you shall also be noticing a thickness in energy. It shall appear to be more difficult, and you shall move more slowly in your direction within conflict.
You all hold an agreement objectively within this physical dimension that you do not appreciate conflict. Underlyingly, subjectively, you hold a knowing that conflict creates this thickness. Therefore, you also move in the direction of choosing to be noticing conflict and expressing to yourselves and to other individuals that you wish to be eliminating of these expressions of conflict, therefore providing yourselves with more of an ease in creating your reality.
You do this with yourselves and you do this with other individuals. If you yourselves are experiencing conflict, you wish to be eliminating of your own conflict, that you may be experiencing less thickness and more of an ease in your creation of your reality. As you witness and view another individual experiencing conflict and creating conflict, you also move in the direction of the expression that you wish to be eliminating of that expression also.
In this, as I have stated, in one respect you are creating a judgment upon the choice of experience of the individual which is creating conflict, but within another respect you are recognizing that the individual is creating thickness, and they themselves wish not to be creating thickness. Therefore, you choose to be helpful.
Now; I have expressed to you many times, you may not be creating another individual’s reality, but you may be influencing. You may be influencing if the other individual is accepting of your expression. If the other individual is NOT accepting of your expression, which is their choice, you shall not be influencing, for the point is not to be concerning yourselves with other individuals and their creation of their reality, but to be concerning yourself with yourself and your creation of your reality, and that creation which offers YOU less thickness and less conflict and more of an ease, for in your creation of this within yourself, you are automatically lending energy to other individuals in their discovery of their ability to be creating of the same action.
This is the point of our little sapling story, (3) which offers no expression at all to the convoluted little sapling, but merely concerns itself with self and growing in the manner that it is growing and is most efficient for itself. It does not offer direction. It does not offer helpfulness. It offers merely the expression of being that may be viewed, and in this offers what you term in physical focus to be an example of a direction that creates no conflict and no thickness, but is recognizing that the convoluted little sapling is creating its reality, and may be creating and IS creating their own conflict quite purposefully.
... Continuing again; re-addressing to your question as to helpfulness within interaction of other individuals and your concern in the area of their creation of conflict within their situations.
Now; in this also, let me express to you that as you hold a knowing and a natural magnating toward pleasure and less thickness within your creations, you identify this in other individuals and you express that you wish to be helpful to another individual.
Now; as I have expressed, each of you may be engaging different creations of conflict within different time periods, and as conflict DOES gain your attention in many different areas of your focus and you SHALL be noticing of your conflict, you purposefully engage conflict to be offering yourselves information that you choose to be addressing to.
Within physical focus, you are quite fond of methods. You are quite fond of processes. Within concept, you may accept the idea that I may set forth to you, that you may be creating instantaneously and that it is unnecessary for you to be creating a process or a method for your movement, but this is a concept. It is an idea. It is not necessarily within your actual physical reality, for your belief is very influencing, and this influence is also quite instrumental in your creation of your reality.
Therefore, as you do believe that you need be creating a method or a process to be moving through certain issues or addressing to certain issues that you hold within your focus, you create conflict many times to be gaining your attention and offering you a method to move through certain issues. If you are holding an issue and it is not creating conflict, you shall not pay attention to the issue and it shall continue.
If you hold an issue in the area of personal responsibility, as example, and you are offering expression to other individuals continuously and you are moving in the direction of rescuing and care-taking with them and this offers you no conflict, you shall continue within your expression. If this offers you pleasure, you shall continue in this issue. This is not to say that it is not an issue! It is merely an issue that is offering you no conflict within a particular time framework.
Issues do not always offer you conflict. You create conflict within time periods that you choose to be addressing to the issue, but you express to yourselves quite freely that you acknowledge that you hold issues – you acknowledge that you hold beliefs – but they are working beliefs or working issues. This is the expression that the issue or the belief is offering you no conflict, and therefore you hold no motivation to address to it.
In this, within your reality that you create, many, many times you may view creations of other individuals, that as you are viewing outwardly and concerning your attention with another individual and their creation of reality and their conflict, you are not looking to self. And in this situation, you are drawing yourself to be a participant within another individual’s conflict, that you may mirror to yourself similarities in your own beliefs and your own issues.
You draw yourself to other individuals’ creations, that you may offer yourself imagery and you may offer yourself information to your own creations – for you are engaging mirror actions – and you move in the direction of wishing to be helpful to the OTHER individual and viewing many times that you may see the conflict and what is being created within another individual more clearly than they view within their conflict. Therefore, you allow yourself permission to move into the direction of being helpful, for this is your camouflage – the expression of helpfulness, of concern, of caring, of lovingness. These are all very positive expressions. These are all expressions that you all view as good, and therefore you view yourselves as good, for you are expressing these elements and you are wishing to be helpful to another individual.
Underlyingly, what you are also expressing is that you are better, that you hold a greater understanding, that you are more enlightened, that you are clearer ... that you may create another individual’s reality FOR them more efficiently than they are creating for themselves! Judgment, judgment, judgment – lack of acceptance of another individual within the guise of caring and helpfulness and lovingness.
I am not expressing to you that these emotions that you experience are not genuine, and I am also not expressing to you that they are wrong. They merely are. You hold emotional responses to each other, but you are also not allowing yourself to view your own expressions.
As you move into a position of choosing to be helpful to another individual – for you label your expression as concern and lovingness in the situation of helpfulness to another individual’s conflict – what you are in actuality expressing [is] that YOU wish this expression for yourself. You express outwardly in what you want within your own expression: your own expectation of other individuals in how they may be interactive with you, and your own want of what you may be expressing to yourself.
I express to you all quite seriously that you express to other individuals much more freely and shall offer nurturing and acceptance and helpfulness to other individuals more often than you shall extend this to yourselves, but in those actions, you are expressing outwardly the want that you hold inwardly.
As you engage another individual that may be experiencing distress, confusion, conflict, elements that you term to be upsets, difficulty in identifying their own issues, difficulty in expression of themselves, difficulties within their own communications, you are also recognizing those qualities, those elements within yourself that you hold. And in this, you express outwardly to another individual in the hope that you may be helpful in influencing their reality and allowing them to view their own creation of their conflict, but in this action, you are also distracting yourself from yourself and not offering the same expression to yourself.
Think to yourselves how often you may be offering helpfulness to another individual in any given situation of conflict, and if you are creating a very similar conflict, you may not be as accepting of your own creation as you shall be of another individual’s creation.
Let us offer a very general expression of example. You may be interactive with another individual that may engage an action of theft. The individual may subsequently be creating a feeling of what you term to be remorse that they have engaged this action of theft.
This is a subject or an action within your officially accepted reality that is unacceptable. You each place a judgment upon this action, but if approached by an individual that has engaged this action and is expressing to you sorrow and is expressing to you a tremendous lack of acceptance of self in relation to their behavior, you may quite likely move into the expression of acceptance of this individual and be expressing to them, ‘Be not so very unaccepting of yourself. You are not a bad individual. You have merely created a behavior which is unacceptable within our beliefs, but you as an individual are not bad.’
You shall extend this expression to another individual, but if you in turn are creating the same action, you shall not extend this expression to self. You shall be not accepting of self and you shall be placing judgment upon yourself and you shall be also expressing to yourself the same expression of the other individual: ‘I am bad; I am unworthy; I am unacceptable.’
You each create these types of expressions, and as you draw yourself to the conflict of another individual, they express very similarly to yourselves. You may choose different types of objective expressions, but underlyingly, you are expressing the same.
One individual may choose to be engaging conflict in raised volume of voice. Another individual may express conflict in physical actions. But underlyingly, the issues of the expressions are the same. Outwardly they may appear differently, but what you are viewing in the expression – and the reason of the expression – is the same.
As you draw yourselves to other individuals that are experiencing conflict, you are doing this very action. You are drawing yourself to participate with that individual within their creation of their conflict, that you may mirror to yourself your own similarities and you may notice and identify your own aspects of belief systems that you participate in also and that are creating conflict within you.
Now; in this expression, I may express to you that you may be helpful to yourself in noticing YOUR mirror action and noticing your own issues in similarity to another individual and noticing your differences in expression, and as you allow yourself to be connecting with self and recognizing your own beliefs, your own behaviors, your own creation of conflict and identifying this to yourself and choosing different actions, you may also be helpful to the other individual.
Think to yourselves how within your focuses, you engage activity oft in expressing to another individual your opinion and your ideas in the direction of, ‘What shall be more efficient to be creating within another individual’s focus?’ Now think to yourselves how oft this is NOT accepted by the other individual, and they shall create what they are choosing to create regardless!
But also think to yourselves within your thought processes of the situations in which you are not expressing your advice to another individual, but you are accepting of their expression and you are merely lending supportiveness by merely being you – not placing judgment and not expressing a direction for the other individual – and in this expression, you may notice more of a responsiveness within your interaction of that other individual.
Therefore, in your questioning of how you may be helpful to another individual, I express once again that your most efficient direction is to be noticing self and attending to self, and in this you shall automatically be helpful to another individual, for they also shall turn their attention to self and be addressing to self, and each individual is what shall be creating different choices.
(Intently) No individual within your physical focus may choose for any other individual. These are individually your choices.
You may not be creating another individual’s reality. You may only create your own reality. Regardless of your great wish – that you lean in the direction of – that you WANT to be creating all other individuals’ reality, (grinning) for you may be so very much more efficient at this expression, this is not what you have created.
This reality is created highly individually, as I have expressed within the onset of this session.
Each of you creates your reality individually. This individual action creates mass expressions if you are creating individually similarly to other individuals, but you all are creating within your own individual choices, and you ARE creating in the most beneficial manner that shall offer you the most beneficial information.
This also is quite purposeful in my expression to you. I am not expressing that you always create quite efficiently, but you DO create beneficially. You may choose in your widening of your awarenesses to be creating more efficiently, but you are always creating beneficially, for you are always offering yourselves information that you may draw upon to be understanding self more efficiently.
I do not discount your emotional expressions in all of these situations, for your emotional expressions are quite within your reality, and you DO express many emotions. I also express to you that your emotions are another experience. They need not necessarily be incorporating action. They are an action within themselves.
You, within your beliefs, move in the direction of identifying your emotional expressions and attaching an action to them. You are experiencing an emotion, and you should be accomplishing this. Another individual is experiencing an emotion, and you should be offering this. You should be DOING. I express to you that this is not necessarily the situation. Your emotions are an action within themselves, and they merely are. They are not good; they are not bad. They merely are, and it is quite acceptable to be expressing of them.
In this, many times not incorporating another action coupled with your emotion may be more efficient, but merely accepting that element of you that is expressing that emotion and not placing judgment that this is a good or a bad expression. It merely is. It is what you are experiencing within the moment.
I shall offer further also: Individuals express that they hold the belief that emotions are cause and effect. I express to you that I have offered many times, in actuality there is no cause and effect. It is merely a belief that you hold. Therefore, you express that you hold an emotion in response or reaction to a cause. I express to you that within your creation and the influence of your beliefs, you do express this many times, but it is not an absolute. Your emotions need no action to be facilitating them.
Each individual within physical focus experiences moments of emotional expression that you express to yourselves ‘appears from nowhere.’ It has been created with no cause. You merely are feeling what you are feeling, and you know not why.
I express to you that emotion is a base element of your reality in this dimension, and is what you have created in your process of information. This is your method of identifying certain types of information, just as your sight is a method for interpretation of certain types of information. Your outer senses process information, your inner senses process information, and your creation of sexuality and emotion process information and create your reality, for they are your perception and your perception IS your reality.
Therefore, I am quite understanding of your expression of emotion in relation to another individual. I am also offering to you that as you hold an emotion in relation to another individual, you may hold the emotion and not necessarily couple the emotion with another action. The emotion in itself is enough of the action, and in that emotion, you are offering a clear and unclouded expression of yourself to another individual. You cloud this by offering – in conjunction to your emotion – your rationale and your thought process and your logic, but view how much more it is accepted by other individuals that you are merely expressing the emotion.
If you are expressing to another individual, ‘I hold great lovingness for you,’ you need not offer any other expression or action and it shall be accepted, and it shall be clearly identified in being felt also. If you are expressing sorrow or anger and you are not coupling these with another action, the communication is offered efficiently and clearly, and understood. It is unnecessary to be coupling this with other actions.
But you move in the direction of NOT accepting self. Your expression is not enough; it is not good enough. This is the lack of acceptance of self. Therefore, you move in the direction of creating drama and attaching other actions to your expressions of your emotions to emphasize what you are expressing, for your initial expression is not enough ... but it is!
Drama creates conflict. It perpetuates conflict and it is unnecessary, but you are very efficient at creating this, for it is very familiar to you. As you move more fully into the expression of this shift in consciousness, and the waves continue and the momentum increases and you widen your awareness and you expose yourselves to more unfamiliarities, you also retreat into your familiar and your known expressions, and therefore you create in the fashion that you are accustomed to creating within.
Look to your mass expressions. You identify these as negative and violent and quite typical of actions throughout your history, and you express to yourselves, ‘Why shall we be creating of this type of action if we are moving into this shift in consciousness and enlightening ourselves?’
And I express to you that you move in this type of direction for it IS familiar, and within your beliefs there is comfort in familiarity, regardless of its expression. Regardless that it may be expressed within conflict, it is familiar, and familiarity offers you safety, security, and comfort. These are all aspects of your beliefs, for there is no necessity for safety or security, for what shall you be unsafe or insecure within? You have created a safe and secure universe, and it is not hurtful to you. YOU are hurtful to you.
ANON: (Whispering) Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome. Trust self, and move in the direction of no conflict.
ANON: I’ll try. (Pause)
ELIAS: Are you wishing of more questions this evening?
RODNEY: I want to thank you for the answer you just gave Anon, because it was very appropriate.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome. I express to you that this may be quite affecting of many individuals presently, for many individuals presently are experiencing much conflict, much emotional affectingness, much confusion, a lack of direction, so to speak, an uncertainty. This is the air, in a manner of speaking, that you have created, for you may express to yourselves that you are upon your brink. You are within your middle. You are moving away from the familiar but you are frightened of the unfamiliar, and we have expressed within this session this evening that you move in the direction quite efficiently of ‘I should, I shouldn’t, and what if?’
FRANK: How do you move into the direction of the unfamiliar? Is there a....
ELIAS: A method! (Grinning, and everybody cracks up)
FRANK: What are the signs, or ...?
ELIAS: I shall express to you, Christian [Frank], that your most efficient method or process in this area is to be concerning yourself in your attention within the now, for if you are holding your attention within the now, what shall you express to yourself in ‘what if?’
There is no ‘what if’ within the now. There is merely ‘what if’ within the future or the past!
ERIC: So I guess I should forget about worrying about my retirement or anything like that!
ELIAS: Concern your attention with now, for this is your reality! Your future is not your reality, for it does not exist! It is merely an illusion that you create within your thought process in your identification of linear time, but you do not occupy your future. You occupy now, and all of your action occurs now, and as your future materializes, it is NOW!
Your past is now. All that you are, all that you create, all that you experience is NOW. But you occupy your attention, much of your time, projecting into your past or into your future and occupying your thought processes and your emotions in the ‘what ifs’ of the past or the future, and if you are occupying your attention within the now, there are no ‘what ifs.’ There also are no ‘shoulds.’
‘I should have; I should be.’ These are past and future. You merely ARE within the now, and if within the now you experience any element that you find discomfort within, you hold the ability within that now to alter the experience. But you shall not alter the experience if you are not paying attention to the experience and you are projecting pastly or futurely, for your attention is occupied elsewhere and you are busying yourselves within distraction. THIS be the area that you immobilize yourselves, for you are not attending to the present, to the now, and within the now – if you ARE looking to the now – there is much less conflict within the present now than it appears to be.
This is not to say that you may not be experiencing conflict within the moment, within the now, for you do. But if you are attending your attention within that now, you also offer yourself more of an opportunity to alter that conflict and step out of that conflict, for you are attending to what you are experiencing presently.
If you are engaging conflict with another individual, as example, you are experiencing what you may term to be, in your vernacular, fighting with another individual; disagreement. You are projecting your perception; they are projecting their perception. You are not meeting within your perceptions. You are throwing judgments to each other, and you are creating tremendous conflict between you within your expressions.
Now; if you are focusing upon the other individual and what they are creating, you shall not be focusing on altering your expression, for you shall be in the direction of blame and expressing that the other individual shall be changing their reality to suit your reality.
If you are within this conflict, not attending to the now within your own experience and directing your attention to self, you shall not alter the experience and you shall perpetuate the experience, but if you are attending to the now, holding your attention within the now, you may be noticing that you are within the moment creating conflict.
The other individual is not creating your conflict! YOU are creating your conflict, in reaction and responsiveness to those areas of lack of acceptance within yourself.
IN THIS MOMENT, as you are recognizing of that emotion and the action of conflict that you are experiencing, you may also, within the moment, STOP. Identify within the moment, what are you creating? Why are you creating? Why are you reacting? And as you ask yourself ‘Why am I reacting?’ you shall offer yourself an answer, and you shall notice within that answer that you HAVE placed a judgment – upon yourself, upon another individual, but you have created a lack of acceptance – and you may offer yourself within the now the opportunity to alter your expression. But if you are not paying attention to the now, how shall you alter your expression?
If you are throwing a rock in a pond in this area (gesturing to the right), your attention is in the pond and the rock in this direction. How may you, in that now, scoop a cup of water from this pond? (gesturing to the left)
Your attention shall dictate to you what you shall be creating, and if your attention is outside of yourself and if your attention is outside of the now, this is what you shall be creating, and this many, many times is perpetuating of conflicts.
Conflict assumes many forms. It may be in the area of agitation; it may be in the area of worry; it may be in the area of concern. It may be expressed in many different manners, but it is a thickness and it is a conflict, and in addressing to self and to your attention within the now, you also offer yourself the opportunity to alter the behavior that is creating the conflict. That be your method!
FRANK: Is there a back door method?
ELIAS: Ah! (Laughter)
FRANK: In other words, to eliminate the effect of the conflict of the belief system, just to say ‘enough?’
ELIAS: And you may be creating of this expression! I have expressed to you that you hold the ability to instantaneously eliminate these elements of conflict, but you do not believe this!
FRANK: Right! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Therefore, you do not implement this! But you may view infrequently, within certain expressions that you hold, that you DO create that very action, and you express to yourselves, ‘Enough. No. Stop.’ And you stop!
ANON: Would removing yourself from the situation be a way of stopping, then? Saying, ‘In the now, I am feeling conflict and discomfort. I choose to remove myself from the situation.’ Is that a way to stop the conflict?
ELIAS: This is a choice, and this is an expression that may be affecting of the situation that you are engaging. This be the reason that I express to you to be engaging the no conflict exercise.
Within the now, express to yourself, what is offering you conflict and what shall eliminate that conflict? And do not place a judgment upon the choice! If the choice is to be removing yourself from the situation to be eliminating of the conflict, then I express to you, why shall you not remove yourself? The point is to be eliminating the conflict and the thickness. Therefore, it matters not what your choice is. It matters that you are accomplishing the no conflict.
In this expression of no conflict, you are creating several actions within this one expression. You are allowing acceptance of self. You are NOT placing judgment upon self or the situation or another individual. You are merely choosing what offers you no conflict.
This is not an expression of judgment upon another individual or upon a situation. It is merely an assessment, a choice of what offers you conflict and what does not offer you conflict.
Therefore, there is an acceptance of the other individual, that they may continue in their expression regardless of what they are choosing. It matters not. You are not expressing to them that they must be discontinuing in their expression. You are merely expressing that YOU are choosing differently. Therefore, there is an acceptance of the other individual’s choice of their expression, be it to be discontinuing their own conflict or to be continuing their conflict. It matters not. This is their choice. Your choice is to be moving into no conflict, and this places no judgment upon yourself also, for you are automatically accepting of yourself in accepting your choice and your expression within no conflict.” [session 387, April 24, 1999]
LISSETTE: “... I want to know what my connection to my ex-husband is and why I presented myself again with this conflict. I wonder if it’s a way of re-engaging my belief systems about being true to myself, or is it because I have something else to learn from this relationship?
ELIAS: Ah! Now; let me address to the entirety of this questioning and subject matter.
First of all, let me express to you that I am acknowledging of your own movement as you engage your process in ‘moving forward,’ so to speak, for you are accomplishing quite well in this area and allowing yourself to widen your awareness quite efficiently.
Now; the reason that you move into the thought process that you are extending three steps forward and four steps backward is that you are viewing your own movement, but you are also interpreting new elements in your movement as the presentment of ‘setbacks.’
In this, let me express to you that these are not necessarily setbacks. Although you may view in physical focus that conflicts – especially what you view to be repeated conflicts – may appear to be setbacks, in actuality, this may not necessarily be the situation.
In your individual situation, you draw yourself to certain types of experiences to be offering you the opportunity to view different angles of the same beliefs, therefore not deluding yourself into the thought that you have entirely moved through a particular aspect of a belief, but allowing yourself to re-examine each of your beliefs and each of your own movements, that you may be accomplishing fully in these areas and leaving no aspect of the belief unviewed and therefore unattended to.
Now; in the experience that you create which involves this other individual, you offer yourself the opportunity to view more of your own self, more of your own responses to situations, and you offer yourself the opportunity to alter your viewing and your behavior in these situations.
What you are offering to yourself presently is the opportunity to view interaction with another individual, noticing how this interaction creates automatic responses within yourself, and as you allow yourself to view your own automatic responses, you also provide yourself with information as to the reasoning why you create certain situations and how you perpetuate certain situations and repeat patterns in those situations.
This offers you the opportunity to view an interaction that you are quite familiar with, but to view it now differently, to be expressing to yourself that the reason you respond in certain manners is not that the other individual holds responsibility in this or is creating your reality and forcing you to be responding or feeling certain emotions or responding in certain manners, but that you are responding in these manners for the reason of your own areas in which you are not yet accepting of yourself and trusting of your own direction, and as you allow yourself to view your own responses and your own behaviors, you may view how you hold the ability to alter these situations within yourself, not concerning yourself with the responses of the other individual, but concerning yourself with self, and realizing that as you move more fully into your own trust of self, you are also automatically offering energy to the other individual to be more accepting also. Are you understanding?
LISSETTE: Yeah, I understand that.
ELIAS: As to your connection with this individual, I express to you that you are a type of counterpart in this focus.
You have also held counterpart action in other focuses, offering you each the opportunity to view and deal with certain challenges in each of your focuses, and you have chosen many times to be engaging this type of action with each other which involves conflict, for this brings surfacely with you these challenges and draws your attention quite strongly to them.
LISSETTE: Right now what I feel is that I just want to stop it. I’m not interested in this kind of conflict any more. What I felt this last time was that he was drawing me into it, but I was conscious of what was happening, and I just don’t want any part of it. So, how do you end the conflict? Do you just decide you’re not taking part in it any more? Because I don’t want to blanket it. I really want to end it!
ELIAS: This is part of the point and what you are now offering yourself, in your own realization that you are participating within the conflict and that you hold the choice within you to discontinue this action. In this, it matters not the choices of the other individual. If you are not participating, they are not receiving their payoff, and therefore you may discontinue the action of the conflict and choose not to be participating in this without placing judgment upon the other individual or their choices. But in this action, as you choose to discontinue your own participation, they also shall be affected, for how shall they be creating their conflict involving you if you are not participating?” [session 391, May 04, 1999]
MICHAEL: “When connecting with our inner voice, our impulses and whatsuch, besides the fact that it would place no judgment and that it may be the softest voice, what are other ways to distinguish it, especially if you engage confusion and inner arguments? Now, like you say my inner voice says this, and then it says, ’No, I said this, and no, I said this.’ How do you get yourself out of that? How do you distinguish which one was yourself speaking to you, and not judgment and beliefs and whatsuch?
ELIAS: I express to you that as you quiet yourself and are listening and discerning within yourself, knowing that all of your actions that you engage within physical focus are in some aspects influenced by your belief systems – for you do create your reality through your belief systems – you may also look to self and look to trusting self in offering yourself your least-conflict scenario.
In this, you may experience temporary time frameworks of uncertainty objectively, for you are not accustomed to creating your reality entirely through your no-conflict scenarios. You are accustomed to creating your reality through expectations.
But in this, as you are listening to this inner voice, this small inner voice, and you are identifying of your beliefs that are in conjunction with all of your information, you may be remembering that you also shall not betray you. And in this, if you are quieting yourself and allowing yourself to be not reacting, and relaxing with your inner voice and remembering your no-conflict exercise, this may be helpful in your discerning which voice to be listening to.
MIKE: Okay, um....
ELIAS: In this, Mikah [Michael], be remembering, many of your beliefs move in the direction of expectations – what you expect of yourself and what other individuals expect of you. Expectation is not necessarily your most efficient movement.
MIKE: So basically, when I engage confusion or I say, ‘Okay, what am I trying to tell myself?’ I get like a hundred voices at once telling me something. Should I ... not should I. Would it be efficient for me to distract myself momentarily, to quiet myself down so I can try it again?
ELIAS: You may, if you are so choosing. Each individual may be choosing a different method to be allowing themselves this quietness.
All of this chatter that you experience is your battling through beliefs and your rationale, which is not the communication of your impulses and your impressions. It is merely banter that occurs in distracting you.
Therefore, you may engage any method that is efficient for you within the moment to be relaxing and quieting yourself and allowing yourself the moment to be evaluating and sifting through, so to speak, those voices that are the rational voices, those voices that are the influence of your belief systems in judgments, those voices that are expressing to you the anticipation of other individuals’ expectations and also your own expectations of yourself, and once you have sifted through the elimination of all of these, you shall also hear the tiny voice underneath all of these shouting voices that whispers to you the no-conflict choice.” [session 398, May 18, 1999]
MICHAEL: “I have a question regarding my own work, actually. I wrote it down. With all the positive change with my work lately, which I take to be my alignment with Gramada, I still have some physical pains that I feel are related to a misalignment with my Sumari or creative self. What kind of probabilities can I tune into or what beliefs can I accept to make the physical symptoms subside, but still maintain my success at work? I know I’ve asked a question real similar to that before. (Pause)
ELIAS: I express to you that you offer yourself these particular types of manifestations, that you may be gaining your own attention, of which we have discussed previously.
In this, let me express to you that you may be addressing to this type of situation more efficiently if you are turning your attention within the now to the specific creations that you are engaging within the moment, for you create these physical responses in conjunction with certain behaviors that you are creating within specific moments: interactions with other individuals, areas of lack of acceptance of self within the moment, and what you term to be in physical focus insecurities that you may be experiencing in particular moments.
As you notice the physical expression, you may also turn your attention within that now to the surrounding exhibitions of behaviors, and you may be noticing your interaction with other individuals AND the areas that you are placing judgments upon yourself within those time frameworks, and as you begin to address to these areas, you shall also be creating a subsiding of the physical affectingness.
MICHAEL: I think that my first impression along those lines, as a specific example, would be to ... at the morning job that I have, I really would like to pull away from that, and I feel that doing that would give me more comfort and confidence in my abilities. A lot of my interaction there feels limited by the types of people that I work with. Is this kind of what you’re meaning?
ELIAS: Look to the limitations that you place upon yourself, but do not delude yourself or confuse yourself in incorporating the direction that the reason that you are limited is as a result of other individuals and how they are creating their reality or their interaction with you, for this places you in the position, so to speak, of assuming that other individuals are creating your reality for you – and they are not – or that you do not hold choices simply for the reason that other individuals are exercising their choices. This also is incorrect.
Therefore, I express to you that in part you are correct that within this situation there are elements within your creativity that are being blocked, but this is not because of other individuals. It is that you are blocking your own creativity in not holding the trust of self that you may be accomplishing regardless of which area you choose to be placing yourself within physically.
Now; I am not expressing to you that you need be continuing in this particular position of employ to be moving through this particular issue that you hold. I also am expressing to you that it is unnecessary for you to move in the direction of assuming that you must be continuing to be interactive and placing yourself in a position of uncomfortableness to facilitate your movement through a particular situation or issue, for this is not the case.
I express to you that many individuals move in this type of direction, creating their behavior of martyrs, that they must be continuing in uncomfortable situations or they shall not be accomplishing in moving through their particular belief systems or issues. I express to you that this is not necessarily the situation. You may be moving through your issues quite efficiently without continuing to be creating uncomfortableness in your process.
Therefore, as you are aware, the choice is yours as to what you shall engage in these types of decisions, so to speak. What I am expressing to you is to be noticing of the behavior that YOU employ in these situations as you engage interaction with these other individuals and how you are responsive to other individuals and how you are automatically placing judgments upon yourself in result of these interactions with other individuals. Are you understanding?
MICHAEL: I believe so. To me it feels that ... I realize that the reason that I feel the way that I do is because of my response to other people’s actions; not necessarily that I don’t have a choice in those actions, but that I am perceiving their choices as my own.
ELIAS: Let me also express to you, you are now offering yourself the opportunity to differentiate, to be noticing and understanding within yourself what other individuals create and what you create.
Other individuals create their reality. They are not creating your reality and you are not creating theirs, and you are not responsible for all of the action which occurs in interaction with other individuals. You are merely responsible for your own expressions and your own actions and behaviors.
In this, what I am expressing to you is to be noticing of those, not to be assuming responsibility for the entirety of situations which are created, for other individuals participate also and they are creating of their reality and you are creating of certain situations jointly, which does not place all of the responsibility of these creations upon you singularly. Therefore, I am directing your attention in the manner that you may be noticing merely YOUR participation, and in that, also noticing your automatic responses within interactions of other individuals. Is this clearer?
MICHAEL: Yes. I will be moving out of these areas of discomfort because those are related to my own stresses of the responsibilities I take on myself and my reactions to other people’s creations.
ELIAS: I express to you that I have spoken previously with other individuals in relation to conflict and removing oneself from the interaction of conflict. Within your present societies, you look to this type of action as a retreat or running away, and you label this action with much judgment – that it is bad, that you must be standing, holding firm, and facing forwardly all situations, and never engaging retreat. I express to you that this is a very strong aspect of belief systems.
I express to you also that within the framework of creating conflict or participating within conflict, if you are choosing to not be participating within the action of conflict any longer, you may engage or employ any action that you choose to be engaging that shall be eliminating of your conflict, and it matters not. There is no judgment to be placed upon your choice of action that you engage to be eliminating of your conflict. This is not the point. The point is to be eliminating the conflict.
MICHAEL: I understand that very well. I believe that removing myself from the situation, even though I feel or have felt that it would be running away, actually would be a much stronger position for me, spiritually and mentally and physically.
ELIAS: I express to you, as I have stated, this is an aspect of belief systems in duplicity, that within physical focus you label this type of action as a lack of strength, or weakness, and you view this type of action as bad or that you are not addressing to a particular situation if you are removing yourself from the situation physically.
I express to you that this is not necessarily the situation which is being created, for you may remove yourself from the participation in conflict and you may also be addressing to those very issues which create that conflict within you and create the responses within you.
Many times, as you continue within the conflict, what you are creating in actuality is merely a distraction to yourself, which creates the situation that you do NOT address to the issues and the belief systems, for you are very busy being distracted within the conflict, which occupies your attention. In this, you do not pay attention to your inner communications and your movement through these situations and issues, whereas many times in removing yourself from the interaction of conflict, you may allow yourself to view more clearly your choices which are available to you, for you are not so very distracted by the actual action of the conflict itself.
MICHAEL: I follow you, and thank you.
ELIAS: (Chuckling) You are quite welcome.” [session 402, May 25, 1999]
JAN: “Going back to the thing with my husband – which is something I’m having a hard time leaving – he’s changing and going into fragmentation. What does that mean for us? I’m separated but not separated, if that makes any sense.
ELIAS: Let me express to you that fragmentation is not necessarily an indication of obvious alterations or changes within an individual. It merely is an action that essences engage continuously and that may allow different types of expressions or explorations within the fragmentation of the new essence. But this type of action occurs, as I have stated, continuously, and within physical focus, to your objective awareness, it moves unnoticed many times. Therefore, it is not necessarily affecting in objective terms with the individual, although there are situations in which it may be affecting at times. But generally speaking, it is not an obvious objective affectingness.
In this, I express to you that the action of fragmentation which is occurring within your partner’s essence is not affecting objectively of his focus, and therefore is not an element or a factor, so to speak, in your dissolving of your partnership.
JAN: And this inability of mine to dissolve it comes because I can’t let go? (Elias laughs) Because I hang on to everything?
ELIAS: This is a factor, I shall express to you, for you do hold what we may express as this ‘double family intent,’ holding the essence and the alignment of the same essence family, and this creates a greater intensity in many of the qualities that you shall exhibit within your particular focus. (4)
JAN: I can’t let go of him and I can’t let go of my career, my job. I don’t want to move beyond both of these. Do you see any probabilities out there that I’ll be able to move?
ELIAS: I shall express to you that you already are creating probabilities and creating movement in both of these areas. You are merely holding to both of these areas in the action that you create of analyzation of both situations.
In actuality, I shall express to you that both of these situations hold a great deal of similarity, for in this, your action – that you participate in this – is to continue to be viewing the situations, holding feelings of obligation in both areas, holding other thoughts and feelings of responsibility in both areas, and in this, you also move in a direction of analyzing your choices and your actions.
Now; let me explain in this area, for what you are moving into and have already created many times within your focus and continue to create presently is the viewing of each situation and the discounting of your impulses and your impressions. You are offering to yourself information and promptings, so to speak, from essence, from YOURSELF, to be moving in certain directions, but you hold to the familiar, although it may be uncomfortable, for you turn your attention away from the information that you offer to yourself and away from your communication to self through impulses, and you move your attention into the examination of self.
Now; in this, you are moving your examination in an area that may not necessarily be as efficient, as I express to other individuals. I hold the awareness that I express to individuals to be turning their attention to self and to be examining self and their individual motivations for the directions that they move into, but YOU turn your attention inwardly in excess, and in this type of creation you begin to confuse yourself, for you begin to analyze all of your behaviors, all of your choices, all of your actions, all of your interactions, and all of your motivations for every element that you create within your focus, and in doing this, you stop your motion. You immobilize yourself, for you turn situations that are occurring within your focus in conjunction with other individuals into a scenario in which you assume all of the responsibility and all of the obligation.
Therefore, it no longer becomes a participation of different individuals and yourself, but within your perception, it becomes the scenario that you alone are creating these scenarios, these situations, and these circumstances, and you question yourself as to how you may be creating them differently and therefore solving the problem, so to speak, but what you are not viewing in this immobilizing state is that you are not creating the entirety of all situations. You are participating in creations.
It is one direction to be looking to self and to be inquiring of self your motivation, and subsequently offering to yourself the questioning of what may be your no-conflict scenario. It is another situation entirely to be assuming personal responsibility for all other individuals and turning your attention to self, assuming that you may be altering of everyone’s reality if you are altering of your reality, and as a byproduct, you shall automatically be altering of their realities in the manner that you wish it to proceed.
JAN: Does that mean I’m a controlling person?
ELIAS: I am not expressing this statement to you. I am expressing to you that you are confusing yourself and that you are occupying your attention extensively and intensively with self to excess, and this is creating of confusion and this is creating of a convolution in your thought process and within your emotional expressions.
In this, as you allow yourself to relax and to be listening to your impulses, remaining in the now – this is key point, for you also lean in the direction of turning your attention past and futurely, and in this, you disregard the now. Therefore, if you are turning your attention to the now and listening to your impulses, you may offer yourself the information of what your no-conflict scenario is.
Now; I shall express to you also that I have offered previously information concerning this no-conflict scenario.
In this, be remembering that as you offer yourself your no-conflict scenario, you move the situation or the creation OUTSIDE OF THE PERSONALIZATION REALM, for the situation no longer involves judgments or evaluations concerning other individuals, but offers you permission to be creating what is pleasurable and no-conflict within yourself, and is not placing judgments upon the choices of other individuals. This be the reason that this exercise may be quite helpful to you all within physical focus, for this involves no judgment, and is a creation of acceptance of self and of other individuals, and is quite efficient.
Now; be understanding that I hold the understanding that this may be difficult for you to be initially moving into, for you DO hold personal responsibility for other individuals and their choices and you DO hold a great intensity in the area of obligations. In this, you also, as an element of the influence of your intent through your essence family and alignment, hold a great attention to detail and to the continuance of evaluation. Therefore, as you combine all of these elements that are very familiar to you, you may experience initially some elements of difficulties in moving into the area of allowing yourself the expression of your no-conflict scenario.
This be the reason that I am reminding you that this type of expression of a no-conflict scenario is quite beneficial, for it offers no judgment to ANY individual – yourself or any other individual.” [session 438, August 04, 1999]
ELIAS: “Another element of movement which is occurring presently is a wave in consciousness. These waves in consciousness are also an element of the movement of this shift. They address to specific belief systems. In this, individuals are affected by these waves. They may not hold an objective awareness of WHAT is affecting them, but they are aware objectively that strange and unfamiliar events, thoughts, emotions, actions are occurring within their experiences.
You also experience this type of energy. What in actuality is occurring is the beginnings of an opening within yourself to more of your own awareness in objective terms.
Now; I hold an awareness also that this creates an element of conflict and of confusion in the area of doubt and a lack of understanding in many different directions. It also at times may appear to you to be quite overwhelming, for this present time framework within your linear time holds a tremendous surge of energy.
You are experiencing the affectingness of this wave in consciousness which addresses to the specific belief system presently of sexuality and all of the aspects that are contained within that particular belief system. You are experiencing an affectingness of energy within this shift in consciousness, and you are also experiencing an intensity of energy which is generated merely by this particular time framework – this final year of this particular century and millennium – for MUCH energy has been lent to this particular time framework.
I have expressed to many other individuals previously that within this time framework of this particular year, the intensity of the energy is so very great that with no thought process at all and no objective concentration, each of you is lent so very much energy that whichever direction you choose to be moving into – be it confusion, be it conflict, be it joyfulness, it matters not – any direction that you are engaging shall be emphasized and shall appear to be in extreme, for you are offered the energy to be creating of all of these directions much more easily than within other time frameworks. Therefore, it appears to you that you experience different elements of your focus extremely.
Individuals may be experiencing an extreme in their focus of calm. Other individuals may be experiencing an extreme of fearfulness. Other individuals experience an extreme of conflict and confusion.
ANNE: So we will all work through that?
ELIAS: Yes. (Smiling)
ANNE: It doesn’t ... okay.
ELIAS: First of all, I express to you, you have begun your sojourn to move in the direction of addressing to this situation in this meeting. You have chosen to be offering yourself information.
In this, the first area that I direct your attention to is to self, for as you incorporate elements outside of self and allow the affectingness of many elements outside of self, you merely confuse yourself more, for you present yourself with many elements simultaneously and you become overwhelmed.
In this, as you are addressing to self, turn your attention to you, and the first area that I shall express to you to be engaging is the area of conflict.
Now; the most easily accessed method, so to speak, or exercise in addressing to conflict is to be allowing yourself to play the no-conflict game. This is an exercise that I have offered previously which offers you the ability to be accepting of self, to be not judgmental of other individuals or situations or circumstances, but also offering yourself a manner in which you may view conflicts and confusions and eliminate them. You are not eliminating the belief systems that influence these conflicts, but you ARE eliminating the conflict itself.
In this, each time you are engaging any action, any event, any encounter that is creating of any element of conflict within you ... which you hold the ability to identify immediately. You know within you in those moments when you are experiencing uncomfortableness, distress, confusion, anxiety, irritation. You always hold awareness of these responses within yourself, and each time you experience this type of effect within yourself, the exercise is to stop within that moment – allow yourself to be in the moment, in the now – identify what you are experiencing in confusion or conflict in any manner or any form, and express the question to yourself: What shall offer you in that moment no conflict?
Now; the tricky area of this game is not to analyze the situation, but to merely offer yourself a clear and simple response of what offers you no conflict.
ANNE: What if that means walking away?
ELIAS: If this means walking away, then this is your no-conflict scenario. Now; let us employ this as an example.
Let us examine. You may be engaged in a situation with another individual, and you are experiencing conflict within you, and you stop within the moment and you question yourself and you express to yourself, ‘What shall offer me no conflict?’ And your response to yourself is, ‘Walk away.’
As you employ this action, as you implement this action of following your no-conflict scenario, what you are creating is the expression of acceptance of yourself [and] the expression of acceptance of the situation, that you may not necessarily be altering the situation, for you are not creating the reality or the expression of another individual. You merely hold the ability to be creating YOUR reality. You are also expressing an acceptance of the other individual, for you are not placing a judgment upon the other individual or their expression. You are merely creating a choice to not participate.” [session 445, August 13, 1999]
ELIAS: “Good morning!
JOE: Good morning, old friend! (Elias chuckles)
Elias, I’ve gotten myself into a quagmire of confusion here, and I’m hoping maybe you can help me with this.
ELIAS: Very well.
JOE: Okay. Let’s see, how do I start this? I’ve been noticing or attempting to notice everything that’s happening in the now with what has been going on with my day-to-day activities, and it has brought to light some very, very strong belief systems that I am starting to recognize. But I really just don’t know quite how to deal with this, and so I’m turning to you in this respect.
We had a lightning storm here, and we got hit by lightening, and some funny things happened. But anyway, we had an air compressor that might or might not be compromised by the lightening storm, so the insurance company agreed to pay for a new air compressor, so I went to the store and I looked at air compressors.
Now, there’s a much larger air compressor there than the one that I have, and I’m thinking to myself, ‘Guilt doesn’t exist; there is no good and bad. Maybe I should just get this larger air compressor, which would be awfully nice to have.’ But it’s not the same type of air compressor that’s being replaced. It’s much larger. It’s not of equal value, in monetary terms. Then I get into a fight with myself because of my belief systems in right and wrong, and the fact that I’m noticing these belief systems and how they affect me.
I look at the larger air compressor, which I’d love to have, knowing about right and wrong and that the insurance company probably without question would pay for it. But by the same token, I have this belief system that says, ‘The right thing to do is to get one of comparable value because that would be fair.’ I’m battling with myself back and forth and I’m observing these belief systems and I’m remembering what you’ve said about guilt, but knowing damn well that if I go ahead and get this larger air compressor, I’m going to feel guilty about it.
Then I get to thinking about no conflict and I think, ‘If I get this larger air compressor, I’m going to be in conflict with myself, and if I’m in conflict with myself and I have a bout of conscience about this whole thing, am I somehow subjectively, in my reality creations, going to punish myself for getting this larger air compressor?’
In the end, I end up – realizing that I have strong belief systems and making the choice that I really don’t want any conflict and I’m really not sure as to how my guilt is going to affect my reality creations, which up to now have been very good and I’m doing very well in that respect – I choose the no-conflict scenario and get the smaller air compressor that was much closer in equal value to the one that may have been compromised.
That creates tremendous variations in everything, in the way that I start to feel about things, and I just wonder if you might comment on that and tell me in actuality what’s happening versus what I believe, and my alignment with the belief systems of right and wrong, guilt/no guilt, the whole nine yards.
ELIAS: First of all, let me express to you that what you feel and what you are experiencing and what you are creating in actuality is what is occurring, for this is what you are creating within your reality within the moment, and this is not to be discounted.
But I am understanding of the direction of your question and of your confusion.
Now; let me express to you, one very strong influencing factor in this particular situation and scenario that you have created is that you are responding to energy in the wave in consciousness which is occurring presently addressing to duplicity.
You, being a manifestation of essence which is belonging to the family of Sumafi, are beginning within this wave in consciousness to be noticing more intensely, and – in a figurative manner of speaking, but also quite realistically in your reality – you are battling with this particular belief system, in your interaction with it and your noticing and identification of it.
You have presented yourself with a scenario. You incorporate a physical object that you perceive needs be replaced. You have created a situation in which the financial aspect of the replacement of this object shall be accomplished, and you present before yourself the choice of acquiring one type of this object or another type.
Now; the object itself matters not. The physical creation itself matters not, which you are aware of.
You are already recognizing that what holds significance in this situation is your noticing of your responses and your actions and your motivation for creating your individual choices in relation to other individuals and what you believe.
In this, you present yourself with a scenario that offers you the opportunity to view how influenced you are individually by different aspects of duplicity, and how intensely strong these aspects of duplicity are in their influence of your perception.
Now; in this, you choose to be engaging the no-conflict exercise. You present yourself with the objective recognition of this exercise, you offer the scenarios to yourself, and in that exercise, you create a choice.
Subsequent to the choice that you have created in choosing to be offering yourself the least conflict in alignment with the recognized beliefs which are influencing of you, you move yourself into another conflict concerning your no-conflict scenario.
For once you have chosen your no-conflict scenario, you are questioning and doubting of yourself in your choice of no conflict, for you assess that by choosing your no-conflict scenario, you are allowing yourself to be aligning with the existing belief systems, and therefore, in your perception, reinforcing those existing belief systems and not trusting yourself in your ability to be moving through those existing belief systems.
Therefore, you create another conflict, which you also incorporate the guilt that you were attempting to avoid in relation to the no-conflict choice!
You were attempting to avoid the guilt in relation to other individuals or the company, so to speak, which is providing you with the funds to be acquiring the object. You wish not to be incorporating guilt concerning their participation, and you choose your no-conflict scena