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Friday, October 18, 2002

<  Session 1161 (Private/Phone)  >

ďExercise: Flirting for a WeekĒ

ďHow to Trust, Accept and Love Yourself Ė in a NutshellĒ

ďDealing with Symptoms of MenopauseĒ


Participants: Mary (Michael) and Lorraine (Kayia).

Elias arrives at 1:15 PM. (Arrival time is 18 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good afternoon!

LORRAINE: Hello! How are you?

ELIAS: As always, and yourself?

LORRAINE: Oh, Iím doing fairly well, fairly well. I have been creating a lot of things this year, and Iím sure youíre aware of that.

The one thing that I created recently, about three months ago, was the end of a relationship. I think itís kind of a thing that this year thereís a lot of relationships that are ending, it seems. I guess my question about that is I know in my head that I created that, I know that it was time for it to end, and I feel that my reason for ending it was because I want to be able to work on myself without the distraction of being in a relationship, but thereís this part of me that is having so much trouble letting this go.

I donít know if itís just missing that person or if it has to do with my discounting of myself, the rejection thing, the ďIím not good enoughĒ thing. Iím having a problem with that. Itís not as often as it used to be. So I would like to know, is that communication to myself telling me that, that Iím discounting myself? Is that what thatís about?

ELIAS: Yes. Shall you engage an exercise?

LORRAINE: Shall we engaging an exercise Ė is that what you said?

ELIAS: Yes. Allow yourself within the time framework of your next week to generate an experimentation. In this, allow yourself to be generating an action of flirtatiousness with any individual that you choose, with no expectation of response from the individual but merely allowing yourself to express.

Now; this exercise may be quite beneficial, for this offers you an opportunity to freely express you without limitation, also allowing you to express yourself without expectation, and shall offer you an example of freedom, which shall reinforce your value of you and may also prove to be quite fun.

LORRAINE: Well, I can certainly do that. Flirting is something Iím good at. I think the hard part of that is going to be without expectation, because I think that normally when I do flirt with someone I have expectations attached to it.

ELIAS: Quite, but this is a specific exercise. It is not intended to be generating a response from another individual. The exercise is specifically designed to allow you to express yourself freely and offer you a recognition of the lack of limitation that you may be expressing in merely generating an action that normally you generate in association with another individual to be invoking a response; therefore, your attention is being projected to the other individual.

This exercise is to offer you the opportunity to pay attention to you and what you feel in generating that type of expression Ė how you view yourself, not how the other individual shall view you, but what YOU are expressing within yourself.

LORRAINE: Iíll do that this week at least once, maybe more.

When you talk about paying attention to self and focusing on the now, ideally it sounds like what I need to do is basically accepting and trusting myself, and I would sort of just go through life not thinking about the future or the past, just sort of living in the trust that everything is going to be okay, that ďque sera seraĒ kind of thing, you know, whatever is going to be is going to be and itís going to be good, that kind of a carefreeness. Is that basically what youíve been telling us that we need to do?

ELIAS: Yes.

LORRAINE: So itís that simple, huh?

ELIAS: Yes.

LORRAINE: So when I think about my past relationship and I start getting sad about it and Iím thinking about the way it used to be or the way it might be in the future, thatís definitely a waste of my time and energy? ELIAS: Not necessarily a waste of time and energy, for there is no waste of time or energy in actuality, but figuratively speaking, yes.

LORRAINE: Itís just inefficient?

ELIAS: Yes.

LORRAINE: Itís something I really need to learn to stop doing. To stop thinking is a really good idea?

ELIAS: Let me express to you, you shall always incorporate thought, for it is a natural mechanism associated with your physical manifestation not unlike breathing, but it is not necessary to turn your attention and hold your attention upon thought continuously.

LORRAINE: Iím trying to get something straight in my mind that youíve talked about in some of the previous transcripts that Iíve been reading, when you say that we create 100 percent of our reality and that we donít co-create it with other people.

ELIAS: Correct.

LORRAINE: I want to use this past relationship of mine as an example. This relationship that I had for six years with Pete, now that itís over Ė and in his mind he says itís never going to happen again, weíre never going to be back together Ė I know it matters not, but my question is if I am working on myself and I am becoming accepting and trusting of myself, then letís say that five years from now or ten years or whenever, Iím at a point of a lot more trust and acceptance than I have right now, I could choose at that time to create a new relationship with this person? Iím looking at the relationship I had with him for the last six years that I have created myself, thatís all my creation, and thatís like a version of him, version one. So in the future as I change inside of me, if I choose to create another relationship with him, that version of him would be a really different version based on me...

ELIAS: Correct.

LORRAINE: ...what I am, have done, or how I am inside.

ELIAS: Correct.

LORRAINE: And itís a possibility.

ELIAS: Correct.

LORRAINE: Itís my choice at the time.

ELIAS: Yes.

LORRAINE: So one last thing about that Ė when I have a relationship with a person, as in that case, that personís energy is there?

ELIAS: Yes.

LORRAINE: I canít have a relationship with that person without his energy being here, present near me, right? I mean ... I guess that makes sense. It makes sense to me but I donít know that itís true.

ELIAS: Not necessarily.

LORRAINE: I mean an objective physical relationship with that person.

ELIAS: I am understanding. You may tap into that individualís energy. Yes, you do interact with the individualís energy.

Now; you may interact with an individualís energy directly or you may interact with an energy deposit of the individual. In that scenario in which you are interactive with an energy deposit, you configure that energy in different manners.

You are always configuring the energy from another individual into an actual physical manifestation. Yes, this is your creation, but generally speaking you do configure the energy in very similar manner to which the other individual is projecting it. In the configuration of physical manifestations interacting with energy deposits, you configure that energy into an actual reality through your own guidelines, in a manner of speaking.

LORRAINE: Do we do that often, or is that very rare?

ELIAS: This is not rare at all. Individuals generate that kind of action many times. You may be engaging a relationship with another individual and at times you may be directly interactive with the other individualís energy projection, and at other times you may be interactive with energy deposits of that individual.

What shall be an indication to you of the difference is that you may generate an experience with the other individual or perceive to be generating an experience with the other individual, and as an example, you may express to the individual in a particular time framework a recalling of a conversation, per se, and the other individual may express to you, ďNo, we have never engaged this conversation.Ē You may be insistent that you HAVE engaged in the particular conversation and the other individual may be just as insistent that the event never occurred. This is an expression of evidence of two very different perceptions.

In your perception, in your reality, you did generate the conversation with the individual. You did create the actual physical manifestation of the other individual and engage the conversation. [But] the other individual has no recollection of that event, for you were not directly interacting with an actual energy projection of the individual in that moment. You were interactive with an energy deposit of the individual, which is helpful to you to manifest the actual physical projection in which you are interactive with a solid individual in flesh, so to speak, but not directly interactive with their energy projection.

LORRAINE: Last night when I spoke to him on the telephone, was I speaking directly with his energy, his essence?

ELIAS: Yes.

LORRAINE: I have one question that I think is going to take you a little while to talk to me about, so Iím going to ask you a couple of quick ones first. One of them is, I want to know if I have a focus who is a famous mathematician.

ELIAS: Yes.

LORRAINE: Can you tell me who it is?

ELIAS: I shall encourage you to investigate!

LORRAINE: I knew you were going to say that! Is it Renť Descartes?

ELIAS: No.

LORRAINE: Can you give me the time framework?

ELIAS: Investigate.

LORRAINE: (Laughs) You brat!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha! Listen to your impressions!

LORRAINE: I canít do that stuff. I canít see anybody and all that. All right, future focuses of mine Ė do I have any that are lending me energy during the shift?

ELIAS: Yes.

LORRAINE: Is there any one of my other focuses in particular that is very close to me that I can easily access or communicate with?

ELIAS: As a future focus?

LORRAINE: Any, future or past. Who is the closest to me?

ELIAS: You incorporate a past and a future focus which in your terms would be easily accessible to you Ė one within your next century future, a female incorporating physical focus name Alice.

LORRAINE: So Alice is probably one of the future focuses who is lending me energy?

ELIAS: Yes. One past focus, time framework mid-1800s, male individual, physical naming Leonard. This individual generates similar experiences and incorporates a similar personality type as yourself.

LORRAINE: What would you call that personality type? (Pause)

ELIAS: It may be difficult to incorporate an actual word or term associated with personality types, for this is more of an expression and a direction of being, so to speak, a manner in which you translate and interpret your reality, the manner in which you engage your thought mechanisms.

LORRAINE: Is Leonard Sumafi aligned with Sumari and also common?

ELIAS: Alignment is different, orientation the same.

LORRAINE: Another question, but itís a big one, and this will take up the rest of the time with this one. How does one accomplish accepting, trusting and loving oneís self? I know, Iíve read a lot of the transcripts. Just give this to me like in a five or ten minute nutshell. (Pause) ELIAS: In genuinely paying attention and holding your attention in the now, genuinely familiarizing yourself with you.

LORRAINE: So any time that Iím distracted or thinking of something futurely or something that happened in the past, I should stop myself and bring myself back to the present moment?

ELIAS: This is quite black and white, my friend, for at times you may choose to engage thought in relation to past or future in association with your preferences. But I may also express to you, for the most part you project your attention pastly or futurely in automatic responses. This is quite limiting and it is distracting and it is also, for the most part, not generating an aid in familiarizing yourself with you.

Now; at times you may incorporate associations of past or anticipations of future, which may be purposeful in aiding you in familiarizing yourself with you, but the manner in which it shall be an aid is once you have generated more of an ease and more of a familiarity with the action of paying attention to now.

What I am meaning in this is that if you are unfamiliar with paying attention in the now and paying attention to yourself in the now, as you project your attention past or future, in a manner of speaking figuratively you lose yourself in the past or the future and you incorporate difficulty in moving your attention to the now. For you snare yourself in the past or the future, and therefore you remain unfamiliar with now. The significance of now is that this the seat of all that you create. This is the source of your power, your acknowledgment, your expression of worth, your trust. That is all generated in the now.

It is also quite validating to you and offers you your expression of freedom, for this is the manner in which you allow yourself to become objectively aware and intentionally directing of your choices, rather than generating automatic responses and not intentionally objectively directing your expressions and your movements.

LORRAINE: Could you talk for a couple of minutes too about motivation? When you tell us to look at the motivation behind something we want or do...

ELIAS: Correct.

LORRAINE: ...is motivation directly associated with our belief systems?

ELIAS: Yes. Beliefs are not bad, be remembering. Within themselves, they are neutral. Every individual within your reality incorporates ALL beliefs within ALL of the belief systems, but you choose which beliefs you shall express and which beliefs you shall incorporate to influence your perception. This is in actuality the wonderment of your physical reality, for you do incorporate the freedom to choose any belief.

You may be recognizing that you are expressing an influence of one belief, and you may assess within yourself that this particular belief may not necessarily be efficient in your allowance of yourself to generate a manifestation of what you want. In this, you hold the freedom to choose any other belief to be influencing your perception in a different manner and therefore generate different outcomes through different choices.

LORRAINE: Between the choice of either aligning with it or not aligning with it, basically.

ELIAS: Correct.

LORRAINE: Let me ask you about this particular thing Iím creating called hot flashes or night sweats or whatever they want to call them. Now, Iím creating those this year. Iím 53, Iím aligning with the beliefs that a woman at 50 creates menopause, and I would be having something like that. So thatís why Iím creating that, because Iím aligning with those beliefs?

ELIAS: Correct.

LORRAINE: So do I just say to myself I donít want to align with those beliefs anymore?

ELIAS: Not necessarily. Investigate within yourself genuinely what are your associations with your beliefs. What beliefs are you expressing? What are the beliefs that you align with or you incorporate that shall alter this expression?

LORRAINE: So just look at my beliefs and find out which ones are influencing and are causing me to create that?

ELIAS: Correct, and also examine which beliefs you incorporate in association with allowing you to discontinue. Not to eliminate the beliefs associated with the manifestation, for you continue to express those, but you also express beliefs associated with how you may be affecting of that particular physical manifestation.

Some individuals incorporate a belief in your medical sciences that this shall be affecting of this type of manifestation. Some individuals incorporate beliefs associated with consuming certain substances, certain expressions of foods or different types of what you term to be natural elements, although all that is within your reality is natural, for it is all generated by yourselves. But I am understanding of your associations with different manifestations or substances, and some individuals may align more strongly with beliefs concerning manipulating their energy in different manners.

This is the significance of recognizing and identifying what beliefs you incorporate that are influencing of your perception, for your perception creates all of your actual physical reality and all that is expressed within it.

LORRAINE: I thought about what my beliefs are about this manifestation, and the only thing that I think I do align with is the belief that there are certain effects of menopause and thatís the only thing I can think that I align with. I donít think Iím aligning with anything that has to do with food or drink or anything that I take. I do believe that I donít want to take hormones or anything for it; I donít really want to do anything for it. I just want to uncreate it myself. I guess Iíll have to look more into my beliefs around the subject. (Elias chuckles)

All right, my dear, Iím going to have to let you go. Iíve had you and Mary on the phone very long as it is. It was good talking to you!

ELIAS: And you also, my friend. I shall be anticipating our next meeting, and in the interim time framework I shall be offering energy to you in supportiveness in your...

LORRAINE: Thank you, and Iíll continue our little talks in the car as I go back and forth to school every morning.

ELIAS: Very well! Ha ha ha!

LORRAINE: I know youíre out there in that big blue sky!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! Be remembering of your exercise!

LORRAINE: Yes, I will. I will do that.

ELIAS: Very well, my friend. As always, I offer to you great affection, and I express to you in fondness, au revoir.

LORRAINE: Goodbye.

Elias departs at 1:50 PM.


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