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Saturday, May 14, 2005

<  Session 1769 (Private/Phone)  >

ďCreating Flexibility and FreedomĒ

ďIndicators of What Type of Energy You Are ProjectingĒ

ďThe Whole Challenge of Being a StepparentĒ


Participants: Mary (Michael) and Jennifer (Margarite).

(Eliasí arrival time is 18 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good morning!

JENNIFER: Morning!

ELIAS: And what shall we discuss?

JENNIFER: Well, weíre going to talk about my weekend, last weekend, which was really challenging Ė the intense anger that I felt last weekend directed at Jared, directed at myself, and the feeling of a lack of freedom, unclear of what I want, and the whole challenge of being a stepparent.

ELIAS: Very well.

JENNIFER: I have to say that when you were here and we had a conversation, I came away from that conversation feeling really depressed, feeling like I wasnít following my path, that I wasnít creating the freedom that I heard I could potentially create. I just felt confused, because what is it that I want? Maybe we could start with that.

ELIAS: And what is your answer to that question?

JENNIFER: Iíve really tried to practice the concept of staying in the now from the moment I wake up, noticing how often my head goes in the direction of thought and takes me out of the now. When I ask myself what do I want, the freedom that I want in my life is very real, in the sense of not living under a whole lot of structure, structure that is outside self or what I perceive to be outside of self, and the flexibility of doing a lot different aspects of self, like real estate, the yoga and also wanting to write the book.

ELIAS: Very well. And that generates the conflict, for that is not the direction that you are generating. Correct?

JENNIFER: I seem to go in the direction of restrictions being imposed. Even with the yoga and Pilates, Iím teaching ten classes, nine classes, and it seems like a whole lot and I donít have the flexibility to get up and leave because I need to find subs. All that. And with the book, feeling stymied to sit down and try to write it, thatís not coming very easily, to sit down and make the time to write it. Iíll sit down and Iíll start looking at real estate or paying bills or anything other than writing the book.

ELIAS: For you perceive the book to be work.

JENNIFER: I heard what you said about trying to look at it more as a place of enjoyment and have fun with it, and thatís what I need to try to start doing. Iím thinking like the whole month of August I want to try to take off and not be working, and create that freedom. I donít know; Iím just trying to figure out the best way to go about making it happen. I guess Iíve got to sit down and try to get excited about it, like this is my block of an hour to work on it.

ELIAS: But that continues to incorporate the structure.

JENNIFER: If I donít have some structure, Iím not sure that Iím going to sit down and write it.

ELIAS: Conversely, you are not writing it now with the structure.

JENNIFER: I havenít imposed any structure on myself. I think about imposing it, but I havenít set a date in my calendar for book-writing time. (Elias chuckles) I havenít tried that yet. What Iím hearing you say is donít bother trying that, itís not going to work.

ELIAS: That would be the likelihood! For what you shall generate is more frustration and more of a sense imposing structure, which is what you are struggling against already.

JENNIFER: So in the moments I feel inspired to write it, those are the moments I sit down and try to write it?

ELIAS: Yes. Even if that incorporation of that time framework is merely five or ten of your minutes. For it is a matter of allowing yourself to express that inspiration rather than imposing more structure upon yourself which you shall naturally rebel against, for that is not the direction that you want to create. You are striving to create more flexibility and freedom, which also, in a manner of speaking, thwarts your efforts to create that, for you continue to strive to create that, and in that striving, you are pushing yourself.

JENNIFER: If I push to create flexibility and freedom, like for instance July and August, Iím planning on not working.

ELIAS: Very well.

JENNIFER: To me, that is trying to create flexibility and freedom in that timeframe. Right now, in order to get to that, there is a little bit of stress in terms of structuring it so I can be away.

ELIAS: Correct.

JENNIFER: I think I understand what you are saying. What you are saying is that in my daily life if I structure or strive to create structure for flexibility, the antithesis will occur.

ELIAS: Correct. You are generating opposing forces. You are pushing and structuring to create freedom and flexibility. They are in opposition of each other. To create freedom and flexibility, you engage freedom and flexibility. If you are creating structure and pushing, that is what you continue to create, structure and pushing.

JENNIFER: If I let it go, is that what you are saying?

ELIAS: YES, to allow yourself to relax and not be structuring and pushing. This is the circle that you continuingly create and the hamster wheel that you run upon that you cannot seem to remove yourself from, for you continue to incorporate the same behavior and the same action.

JENNIFER: Is this in keeping with not making time and not making appointments and that kind of thing?

ELIAS: There is a balance in that, in which you allow yourself your direction but you also allow yourself flexibility rather than incorporating the familiar structure that you are accustomed to but that you actually do not prefer. You are accustomed to generating in a particular type of structure, for this, in a manner of speaking, is what you have offered to yourself in information previously: this is the manner in which you become successful Ė not necessarily, but that is the mass belief.

JENNIFER: Definitely, thatís how I feel Iíve created a lot, like coming here to New Orleans. To some degree, a certain amount of structure got me here, but in other ways it was also the lack of structure.

ELIAS: Correct. You did incorporate some unfamiliarity and allow yourself more freedom. But the point now is that in association with these mass beliefs, this is what is familiar to you and therefore becomes an automatic response: to accomplish and to be successful, you must incorporate discipline and structure and move in a particular order of events, and that shall generate your successfulness.

It can, BUT you can also create successfulness without that rigidness and in allowing yourself more flexibility. It may be initially somewhat challenging, for it is unfamiliar and would be perceived by yourself and most likely by other individuals to be unconventional Ė but that is not to say that the unconventional cannot be successful. It can be. It is a matter of paying attention to you.

Now; you expressed to myself that you have been practicing and you have been paying more attention to yourself and paying attention to the now. Define that.

JENNIFER: I start when I wake up in the morning. I wake up in the morning and I notice how quiet my head is, and then shortly thereafter, maybe seconds, I find the thoughts start coming about what I need to do for the day, or they might go in the direction of the anticipation and anxiety about the future. So Iíve been seeing that, and I see how my thoughts seem to create an emotional response in my body, whether itís anxiety or whatever. Then I say where am I right now? I feel my head on the pillow and my body on the bed, and that helps. It takes me back to the moment, and I try to practice it through the day, like getting up, brushing my teeth, driving my car. I try to stay really present, which is what I teach in my restorative yoga, and then being more present for interactions I might have with people or things I observe. Then I get more information from people and things I observe, because I actually see them.

ELIAS: Correct.

JENNIFER: But I still feel like thereís something in there... Like yesterday, I was at the bank. Some guy cut me off in line, and I felt so mad. I felt that anger welling up inside of me.

ELIAS: Now; let us, in a playful exchange, examine more closely what you do within your day. I am greatly acknowledging of you in your allowance of yourself to be noticing and to be paying attention and to be pulling your attention back to the now in the moments that you notice that you are projecting futurely and generating that emotional communication and the signal of anxiety. That is genuinely to be acknowledged. But let us also examine actions that you incorporate within your day that you may begin to notice also as indicators of your energy.

You notice that as you awaken that you are experiencing calm, but shortly following, you begin projecting your attention and you begin to generate tension. You pull your attention back to the now and you allow yourself to be aware of what you are actually doing, and that allows you to return somewhat to that experience of calm. Now you arise, and you incorporate the action of brushing your teeth. How do you brush your teeth?

JENNIFER: Up, down, circular, side-side, front, bottom.

ELIAS: And in that, are you generating a swift, harsh movement? Or are you generating a soft, soothing, massaging movement?

JENNIFER: (Laughs) Itíll probably have to be the former.

ELIAS: Precisely.

Now; the point in noticing these mundane actions that you would naturally view as insignificant or small is that they are continuously occurring throughout your day, and they are indicators of what type of energy you are projecting, regardless of what you feel. Feeling is not an indicator of what type energy you are projecting.

Now; as you incorporate your breakfast, do you incorporate consuming your breakfast in a calm and gentle manner, in which you allow yourself a relaxed environment and a relaxed action of consuming your breakfast? Or are you moving and standing, at times sitting, but at times also standing and moving from one room to another?

JENNIFER: Right, I am. Itís that fast pace. I still incorporate a lot of that energy. I emit sort of the New York energy.

ELIAS: I am understanding.

JENNIFER: The multi-tasking, faster is better, more is better. I see that; thatís a good point.

ELIAS: Yes. These are actions that you incorporate throughout your day that you generate automatically and you do not notice. But these actions are indicators of your energy, and therefore, throughout the day as you continue to generate this type of energy, you are projecting a pushing energy. Therefore, you also create scenarios or situations in which you may encounter other individuals and you shall experience and express irritation or frustration with their behavior, for you are drawing that to yourself in conjunction with the type of energy that you are projecting. You are projecting an energy of pushing and agitation and...

JENNIFER: The whole thing with the line yesterday at the bank.

ELIAS: Yes. This a fine example of how you generate that type of energy throughout your day, and that is reflected in creating a situation in which you shall reflect another individualís behavior to yourself. That shall trigger that irritation, which is an automatic release of energy that has been being held throughout your day.

JENNIFER: Thereís a whole lot of that energy in me, in general.

ELIAS: Yes. In this, as I have expressed to you previously and to all other individuals, energy shall be expressed. You shall express it in some manner. If you are holding to your energy, you shall generate some type of automatic response to release it. In that, you may release it in scenarios such as your example, in presenting a situation and creating an encounter and an interaction with another individual that shall allow you to express that irritation, which allows you to release energy. Not quite an efficient manner to release energy, but it is an avenue.

JENNIFER: It certainly was a good mirror, when I can see it as such.

ELIAS: Yes.

JENNIFER: In that moment, like when Iím at the bank Ė in that scenario I was actually able to decipher that this is a mirror of my own energy, my own tightness that I hold within self Ė at that moment, can I then try to bring myself back? Itís not really bring myself into self, because Iím noticing it...

ELIAS: Correct.

JENNIFER: ...but be able to lesson the tightness of that energy? Can I do the breath? Do it by screaming and releasing it? I donít think so, because I think that actually manifests more. What can I do the moment where itís so tense and Iím seeing it and my desire is to relax it and create calm? Is it breath?

ELIAS: You can. My suggestion initially, until the point that you become more clearly familiar with these automatic responses, is when you notice, that is the first step, which is significant. Subsequent to noticing, you may allow yourself to incorporate a few calming breaths. I would suggest to you that you remove yourself from the situation and incorporate some physical action, walking or generating some type of physical action that shall allow you to release that energy.

JENNIFER: So there is a release, because itís energy that Iím holding within my body consciousness...

ELIAS: Yes.

JENNIFER: ...and exorcise it, so to speak.

ELIAS: Yes, in a manner of speaking. Allow yourself to physically release that energy. That is what you are doing in generating the irritation. Your physical body consciousness is releasing that energy, and you feel that agitation and you express anger. In that type of situation, it is not what you may term to be a true anger. It is an irritation and a frustration. It may surfacely appear to be anger, for it is similar in its feeling, but it is not actually a genuine expression of anger. It is an extreme of a release of energy.

The key is to acknowledge yourself and recognize that it is necessary in the moment to allow yourself to release that energy, but to be aware and to choose how you release that energy. Rather than generating the frustration and the irritation projected to another individual and subsequently generating irritation with yourself and discounting yourself and perpetuating that holding to energy which merely, figuratively speaking, contains you in that box of held energy, rather than generating that, which is the familiar response, once you notice, allow yourself to incorporate some other physical action that shall release that energy in a different manner, which shall not be directed towards another individual and also shall not perpetuate this circle of thusly projecting it onto yourself and discounting yourself.

JENNIFER: Thatís what I discovered last weekend. I was so irritated and frustrated with myself, and then it turned on Jared because I was I frustrated with Jared, and then it turned on me...

ELIAS: Yes.

JENNIFER: ...and I was physically harming myself.

ELIAS: Yes, for this is what you do. You may incorporate what you commonly term to be an expression of temper with another individual, but ultimately what you do is you turn that to yourself. You become irritated and disappointed with yourself, and thusly you discount yourself. In that, you generate this trap in which you experience what you term to be a depression, which is actually a severe discounting of yourself and disappointment with yourself to the point in which you offer yourself no choices and become unmotivated.

JENNIFER: Yes. Very depressed and very suicidal, somewhat.

ELIAS: Yes, for that appears to you in those moments to be the only viable choice. This is a situation in which you are generating such discounting of yourself, such disappoint within yourself and such denial of yourself that you immobilize yourself.

JENNIFER: I have such a hard time with seeing choices. I know last weekend when I was feeling that way in the bathtub, feeling I had no choices, everything was going black and white.

ELIAS: Yes. In this, it is not your environment that needs to be manipulated, and it is not your environment that is dictating to you. It is you not genuinely allowing yourself your own choices, not being present with yourself genuinely, and continuing to move in old familiar behaviors that move in opposition to what you actually want.

JENNIFER: Thatís why things have become more intense lately, because of the energy of the Shift and the old and the new and all that?

ELIAS: Yes, and also it has become more intense for you are actually moving and widening your awareness and becoming more familiar with yourself, and you are beginning to identify more of your preferences. Although you do not THINK you recognize this, you are actually generating more clarity within yourself and allowing yourself to be clearer in relation to what you want.

You have expressed it to myself many times: you merely are not listening to yourself in your expression. You have begun to incorporate a much stronger desire to be generating your own freedom and to be expressing your own flexibility. You have been generating a stronger desire to not be incorporating rigidness and to not be incorporating structure and to allow yourself the flexibility of your own freedom. You hear yourself say that, but you are not actually listening to that desire, and you are not paying attention to how you thwart that.

Let me express to you, my friend, if you want to accomplish a particular action, if you want to hammer a nail into a wall, you would incorporate the proper action which would accomplish that the most efficiently. Correct?

JENNIFER: Yes.

ELIAS: You would incorporate a hammer, which is a hard, driving object to push the nail into the wall. Correct?

JENNIFER: Correct.

ELIAS: If you want to be generating a soft ripple in a pool, would you incorporate the hammer?

JENNIFER: No.

ELIAS: No. For that would be an inefficient expression to generate what you want to accomplish. The hammer is an object that expresses force. If you want to generate a gentle flexible action, incorporating force thwarts your effort and does not accomplish what you want. If you are continuously projecting an energy of force and structure, how shall you create flexibility and freedom? They oppose each other. If want to create structure and you want to create a forceful energy, you are accomplishing quite well. (Smiles)

JENNIFER: We know I donít, because if I did, I wouldnít experience conflict.

ELIAS: Correct, and this is the reason that it continues to intensify, for your desire is intensifying and your awareness is widening. The more you widen your awareness, the more information you offer to yourself, and the more information you offer to yourself, the more familiar you become with yourself and the more clarity you generate.

But that also presents the obstacles of the familiar and automatic responses. Generally speaking, once you begin to notice automatic responses, temporarily you may generate an intense challenge in attempting to struggle against those familiar responses, and this is the point. This is the key. Remember the discussion of our group interaction. The point is not to be opposing. That is the automatic response. You begin to notice familiar automatic actions and behaviors that you incorporate, and your first initial response is to oppose it and therefore to eliminate it, which does not accomplish what you want. It merely perpetuates what you do not want. Therefore, the key is to recognize but not to oppose, such as in the scenario of the example of the bank.

Recognizing that you are experiencing that irritation and recognizing that the energy that you are feeling is becoming tense and tight, but not opposing it and allowing yourself to acknowledge that and CHOOSE a manner in which you can channel that energy in a direction that is beneficial, is allowing you to express the release but does not reinforce any type of discounting of yourself or disappointment within yourself.

JENNIFER: Thatís a tall order, right there. You know that.

ELIAS: I am aware. I may also express to you, what is significant now in your movement is that you genuinely allow yourself to be aware of you, and allow yourself to be aware of your own wants and your own choices, and to not allow outside expressions to sway you or to influence you in a manner in which you place yourself back in that box.

JENNIFER: Would that be the swallowing my own energy that you mentioned last time?

ELIAS: Yes.

JENNIFER: Thatís a very interesting analogy for a visual basis!

ELIAS: Which, in this, you allow other individuals and situations to influence you in a manner in which you put yourself in that box.

JENNIFER: I let myself be second. That might be an interesting segue into the children. Obviously, it seems to me that if I choose to be in a relationship with Jared, then on some level I chose to be in a relationship with the two children of the two mothers. And you said no, not necessarily.

ELIAS: Not necessarily, and I reiterate that.

Now; let us examine that farther, also. For you have generated interesting choices, which may be informative to you also. In this, let us momentarily examine what you draw to yourself, who you draw to yourself. You draw some individuals to yourself, or have pastly, which do not necessarily express an involvement or an interest in children, which surfacely would appear to be compatible with you. But those individuals do not express the type of qualities or personality or passion that you prefer.

You draw to yourself other individuals that do incorporate an involvement with children, and one of the reasons that you draw those individuals to yourself is for the qualities that they express. For those individuals that you draw to yourself that do incorporate an element of children and involvement with them express more passion and express more of a compatibility, in actuality, with you and your direction. The factor of the children also provides the continuous challenge, which, in a manner of speaking, is a type of testing of yourself of the other individual.

JENNIFER: In the manner in which we were speaking?

ELIAS: In the manner of testing or questioning your ability and the other individualís ability to generate what you associate as a genuine and strong commitment to each other, and whether you shall be the most valuable commodity in the relationship. It is a manner in which you measure.

JENNIFER: That would make me think about some of the therapy stuff Iíve done about abandonment and all those issues, which I know you donít bring up in your dialogs. Therapies to discern oneís own childhood and how that might have an impact on one as an adult arenít areas in which you delve.

ELIAS: No, for the reason that this merely perpetuates opening that door to allow you to be a victim or to affix blame. The point is not to be a victim and not to affix blame but to be incorporating responsibility for your own choices and allowing yourself to be aware and empowering yourself with your own freedom and your own choices and directing of yourself. In that type of interaction and discussion, it also perpetuates the concept that you are co-creating and that other individuals incorporate the ability to create some of your reality, which they do not. It also negates that you yourself chose the family that you have incorporated and that you have chosen the experiences that have been generated, and that all of those experiences serve a purpose.

JENNIFER: I understand that. Thatís why I sort of had a lot of hesitation about going to therapy on Monday to rehash what Jennifer was like she was six years old. (Elias laughs) Itís really not that much fun, and quite frankly, it brings up so much sadness, you know?

ELIAS: And you are not that now.

JENNIFER: Right. And when I do do that work, I am that...

ELIAS: Yes.

JENNIFER: ...at least for a while, because it makes me so raw. But I wonder how important it is Ė and I say this with some trepidation Ėfor Jared to understand why itís sometimes so challenging for me with the kids. What you just said was that thereís something of test, those are my words, of who is the most valuable commodity in the relationship...

ELIAS: Yes.

JENNIFER: ...the kids or me.

ELIAS: Yes.

JENNIFER: That seems like an extremely dangerous situation to create.

ELIAS: It can be.

JENNIFER: If Iím from a place of self, centered within self and the powerfulness of self thatís not a pushing of energy, then Iím not a valuable commodity or not, right?

ELIAS: Then that is no longer necessary. That is no longer a need. Remember, a need is a perceived lack, some expression or element that must be acquired. In this, if you are genuinely allowing your own freedom and your own choices and you are empowering of yourself, that need is no longer. In that, you move from that expression into a genuine appreciation of yourself and of the other individual, generating a much more solid foundation in your relationship and generate much more of an ease.

JENNIFER: Would you agree that I have been able to cultivate that at times?

ELIAS: Yes. I am in agreement with that. I am also acknowledging and validating of you that you do genuinely incorporate a significant bond and affection and commonality and complement with this individual.

JENNIFER: With Jared?

ELIAS: Yes. But I may also express to you, in becoming more intimate with you and genuinely addressing to yourself and empowering yourself now, the factor of the children may become much less of an issue, and eventually, if you are choosing to continue in this direction, not an issue at all.

JENNIFER: Not an issue at all?

ELIAS: Yes. For it is not actually the children that are generating the challenge. It is you and the competition of the children, which is camouflaged in the expression that the children are limiting, or this does not allow you your freedom, or there are interactions that occur that you do not want or that you do not like or that are uncomfortable. These are all camouflage.

JENNIFER: For whatís really going on.

ELIAS: Correct. If you are actually allowing yourself to genuinely express what you want in your own flexibility, in your own freedom, not pushing, not incorporating the automatic rigidness, not denying your own choices, not allowing other individuals to dictate to you, being aware of what type of energy you are expressing and becoming more clearly aware of how you actually can manipulate your own energy in much more efficient manners, in acknowledgment of yourself not in denial of yourself, and if you are genuinely expressing gentleness with yourself, not incorporating the hammer to generate a soft ripple, not incorporating the hammer to blow a feather (chuckles), you shall generate much more of an ease and calm with you but continue to allow yourself to express your own passions and appreciate that. Calm is not necessarily a state in which you do not express excitement.

JENNIFER: I think it was a black-and-white thing that I had fallen into, that calm is boring.

ELIAS: No. Calm is comfort, and that is not expressed in the lack of excitement or the lack of inspiring challenges. It is expressed in a comfort within yourself and a genuine acceptance of yourself, and beyond the acceptance, a genuine allowance of yourself which is tremendous. In generating those expressions, the outside becomes much less significant. You allow yourself to concentrate your attention much more clearly and fully upon your preferences: your relationship with your partner, actions that you enjoy and prefer, activities that you enjoy and prefer, allowance of yourself to express yourself in the manners that you chose, and to express your passion in association with what you do and with your relationship. The children thusly become quite secondary and become less and less significant.

JENNIFER: Wow, that sounds so wonderful!

ELIAS: For whether they are an element in your world, in your reality or not, is your choice. They may physically occupy proximately to you at times and not necessarily actually occupy space within your reality, for they become less significant and secondary.

Do you incorporate plants?

JENNIFER: Thatís what I did last weekend. I gardened.

ELIAS: Very well, this may be an adequate analogy. Your plants are an element within your environment. Correct?

JENNIFER: Yes.

ELIAS: And they are living manifestations, correct?

JENNIFER: Yes.

ELIAS: And they are present, yes?

JENNIFER: Yes.

ELIAS: And you do actually somewhat interact with them in what you would term to be tending to them; that is an interaction. But within your world, are they primary or are they secondary?

JENNIFER: Secondary.

ELIAS: Correct. They occupy your environment. They occupy a space arrangement within your environment. But do you incorporate a concentration of attention upon them, for the most part, within the activities of your day?

JENNIFER: No.

ELIAS: No. You engage them in the moments that YOU choose. You engage in manners that are your preference. You engage them in time frameworks that you WANT to engage them.

JENNIFER: Thatís a good example, and I like it. Thatís interesting because thatís how I occupied my time last weekend when I was struggling so much with the kids. No so much with the kids but the whole... What we talked about.

ELIAS: Correct. In generating a balance within you and centering yourself, being present with yourself, and being aware of these different elements of yourself and these automatic responses and the familiar expressions that you generate, you may begin to empower yourself and concentrate your energy in directing it for yourself. In that, the children and all that is associated with them becomes secondary, quite similar your plants, in which if you choose to engage them, it is YOUR choice.

JENNIFER: I see that. Let me ask you quickly about this aspect of energy where I maybe lose myself to the demands of other people.

ELIAS: Very well.

JENNIFER: So, might that be like a scenario where Jared is suggesting projects? Because heís always suggesting projects that usually involve lots of money, which he doesnít have. (Elias laughs) Would that be an example of me... Iíve been trying to notice that lately, noticing how about this building or that building or letís do this or letís do that, and then going in the direction of feeling sort of a tenseness with him because I feel like I am the one who needs to do it, instead of seeing whatís happening and that I have choices and realizing this is sort of his MO and letting it go. Would that be an example?

ELIAS: Yes, and not being black and white but recognizing that this is his direction and his interest, and if you choose in any particular moment to participate, [do it] merely in a playful manner to be sharing an experience but not incorporating that within yourself and assuming it as your own direction and your own project.

As an example, if he chooses to be investigating of a property or a dwelling and wishes to investigate and incorporate actually generating a physical action of visiting that area and may be expressing to you many different ideas in association with the dwelling or the property, these are his musings. You may choose to accompany him upon his treasure hunt, for that may be a fun action for you merely to be engaging the treasure hunt and experiencing different energies of different physical locations, not assuming his musings as your own but merely engaging a sharing of experience in a playful action.

JENNIFER: When I went to the music event, I had this really strange experience. I was looking in the mirror and felt like I saw other women. They were mostly women, and these women were all very powerful. They were like queens or they held high stations in life, and I felt like there were a lot of them, maybe half a dozen, and they were telling me or urging me to sorta get with the program.

ELIAS: To discover that within yourself in this focus. Those are other focuses of you.

JENNIFER: So that was pretty real then, huh?

ELIAS: Yes.

JENNIFER: You know, it sounds really exciting, but otherwise it feels so scary. It feels like so much power is there. I want to actualize it, but itís huge, you know?

ELIAS: And you can.

JENNIFER: (In a small voice) Iím scared Elias. Iím scared.

ELIAS: I am understanding. This is actually quite common. Individuals desire the freedom to express their power, but in actually moving closer to a realization of the genuine reality and meaning of that, it becomes somewhat overwhelming. For, there is generally an automatic association with individuals within your reality, which you are not an exception of, that power in theory may be great but it also incorporates the potential of destruction, and that generates fear.

JENNIFER: I donít know if itís destruction. Itís more like I donít want to squander the opportunity. I suppose I put my own pressure on myself, whether itís this book or who knows. Maybe other things are going to present themselves, like there is this really wonderful opportunity. These women were so beautiful and so powerful, and I so honor them, and I want to achieve that in my own life.

ELIAS: The more you allow and the more you genuinely pay attention to you, the more you shall actually realize that and you shall actually express that power. I may express to you in encouragement, there is a tremendous majesty in individuals that genuinely allow themselves to express their own power and their own balance. And you incorporate tremendous ability to accomplish.

In encouragement to you, let me express to you, were you not generating significant movement and creating a significant direction to be accomplishing in this realization, you would not be creating the intensity of struggle that you are now. Converse to what you think at times, this intensity in struggling is actually an indicator that you are generating significant movement and are getting closer and closer to actually allowing yourself, similar to the emergence of birth. You may not choose to incorporate the action of giving birth, but you did incorporate the action of emerging through birth yourself, and through that intensity emerged wonderousness, and through this intensity shall emerge a new wonderousness.

JENNIFER: Thank you for that, Elias.

ELIAS: You are welcome.

JENNIFER: Iíll look for your energy, all right?

ELIAS: And it shall be freely given, as always. (Chuckles) I shall be anticipating our next meeting, and you may offer my greetings to your partner.

JENNIFER: Ah, yes. Any parting words for my partner?

ELIAS: Be playful and be patient.

JENNIFER: With himself or me?

ELIAS: Both. (Laughs) To you in tremendous affection as always, and in genuine appreciated friendship, au revoir.

JENNIFER: Au revoir, namaste.

Elias departs after 1 hour, 9 minutes.


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