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Tuesday, June 06, 2000

<  Session 630 (Private/Phone)  >

“Healing – A Judgmental Concept”

“Redefining Supportiveness”

“Creatures and Pain”


Participants: Mary (Michael) and Jim (Yarr).

Elias arrives at 10:18 AM. (Arrival time is 25 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good morning, Yarr!

JIM: Good morning, Elias! As always! (They both laugh)

ELIAS: And we continue!

JIM: Yes, we do! (Laughing, and Elias chuckles) I’ve been creating my new path, as we talked about a few sessions ago. It’s been quite interesting!

I’d like to continue on with our last session, and what you had said about supportiveness and healing and so forth. When you asked, “Are you understanding?” at one level I understood, but after listening to the tape probably many, many times, I began to understand, but then I realized that there was a lot that I didn’t quite understand. I know you’ve been with me quite a bit here and helping me, as well as Yarr. (Laughing)

ELIAS: You are correct. (Chuckling)

JIM: In the explanation of healing, you said that it also relates to supportiveness, and I have a literal definition of supportiveness, in looking it up: “to bear, to hold up; the Latin, to carry.” I believe that I’m having a little bit of misunderstanding, or not quite enough understanding, in moving into that direction.

I keep telling myself, particularly with this one particular creature of April, who moved through her colic when the vets had written her off and said that she wouldn’t last until morning, but she has. And now, she has sores on her hocks and her hips and so forth, and those are all healing, but she continues to lock up this one leg. And so I tell myself, okay, I can support her and feed her and water her and put lotion on, but in a way, I feel that that’s not supporting; that I’m supporting her physically, but that’s not what you were getting to, and I really want to try to understand the meat of this, and if you can still help me out, I’d greatly appreciate it.

ELIAS: Very well. Let us discuss this idea and terminology of support.

Now; you have availed yourself of the official definition within your language of this word, which as I have stated to you previously is in actuality what I am offering to you in meaning, so to speak, also. But let us deviate from that temporarily, and let us explore YOUR definition of supportiveness.

Now; before you are responding to this question of “What is your definition of supportiveness?” allow yourself first to move into the direction of recognizing that there is no right or wrong answer. This is not a test. We are evaluating in discussion what you are wishing to be creating and what you are creating in actuality and the difference between the two, therefore offering you information of how you are creating and what is influencing your creations.

Now; in not paying attention presently to the official definition of supportiveness, but in looking to yourself and your behaviors and your actions and your expressions genuinely, what do you assess is your definition of supportiveness?

JIM: It would be allowing or offering energy, either physically or non-physically, within an expression or even a medical-type product, that would allow the individual or the creature to allow their own process, their own physiological bodily process, to move in the direction of a natural state.

Now, in a natural state, and in understanding that this is the choice of the individual, that their natural state is not necessarily what I would term to be a natural state, I am not trying to, I guess, change anything, but in a way, offering supportiveness.

But I guess in the way that I’ve described, I AM trying to change something, and not allowing the full expression of that individual, or in this case, this particular creature. (Elias chuckles)

I’m trying to go into the area of just allowing the creature to just be, but it’s so hard to see what I view to be pain in this creature, or uncomfortableness, and not try to do something to help them. In a way, I feel that in helping them ... and I have gotten feedback from the creature that she appreciates that help.

But support, it’s in the way of supporting their life – life support, bodily support, an offer of food and water and comfort and compassion and love.

But I see or I feel that I’m a little bit clouded in some areas, because I do – still – hold an expectation of my actions, and I’m trying to move those out of the way, allowing her expression, her actions to take place, and not putting my expectation before her. It’s a tremendously difficult area for me....

ELIAS: Now; let me interject.

I express to you that in simplification, your expression, your definition of supportiveness through expression and behavior and action, is to be doing. Your definition of supportiveness is to be expressing what you view as helpfulness in the design of either an offering of soothing or acquiescing, or to be offering an action of what you view to be compromise, a meeting in the middle.

Now; this is the application of your definition of supportiveness.

Now; I am not expressing to you that any of these expressions are wrong. I am merely identifying with you that your definition of support is different from the definition of support that I have expressed to you, and the difference in the identification of definitions creates an element of confusion.

Now; you have also expressed your identification of your recognition that you continue to hold expectations in relation to your offering of supportiveness. I am not expressing any evaluation of right or wrong concerning this action either.

I AM expressing that you are moving into the accomplishment of the first step, so to speak, in a movement into acceptance, in noticing that you continue to be attaching an expectation in relation to your offering, and let me also express to you, Yarr, this is exceptionally common throughout your physical dimension.

There are few situations and few expressions in which individuals do not attach expectations in relation to what they themselves express in interaction with other elements of their reality, be they a creature, be they vegetation or another individual, even elements such as your weather, your atmosphere, your planetary movement.

You project certain expressions and you expect certain responses. This is a very familiar movement in how you create your reality. Therefore, moving yourself outside of that type of automatic expression becomes very difficult.

The reason it becomes very difficult is that you are very unfamiliar with not creating this action of expectation, and you also view that you must be replacing the expectation with some other expression. Therefore, you become even more confused, for what shall you replace this expression with?

JIM: Exactly.

ELIAS: Now; what I am expressing to you is not the replacement of the action of expectation with another action.

What I am expressing to you is that as you allow yourself to view what you are in actuality creating, and as you allow yourself to identify and define what you create presently and you allow yourself to view the redefinition of those familiarities, in viewing the difference, you may more easily view your choices in how you may move into the action of redefining your reality and your terms.

You may incorporate this example with this creature. You hold two sets of information. You hold your own information which you offer to yourself in familiarity. You hold information that I have offered to you in redefining terminology and action.

In this, you have not quite translated the redefinition yet into action in your reality, and you continue to be exhibiting the behavior in relation to the familiar definition, which is to be DOING.

Now; you may incorporate both actions, but you may eliminate your confusion as you allow yourself a clearer definition of what you are incorporating – WHAT you are doing.

You may be offering the comfort or the soothing to your creature in a response to interaction with the creature and an allowance of your empathic information that the creature may be appreciative of this soothing or comforting, which you may thusly engage in your external actions, your application of medicines or your offering of sustenance or your offering of water – external comforts.

You may also incorporate the action of supportiveness, which is to be bearing or holding up, so to speak, or you may reverse the words and you may express upholding – the upholding of the choice of the creature and all that it creates in conjunction with its choice.

It may choose to be creating a dis-ease, so to speak, and in that, there may be many physical expressions. It may not necessarily be choosing to stop creating that dis-ease, or even the creation of certain maladies, so to speak, in your terms, that accompany the dis-ease, but it may choose to be allowing you to be expressing your offering of soothingness or comfort. This does not alter the choice. This is not influencing of the choice, but it is an accepted offering of your energy, which may be applied to individuals also.

An individual may be choosing to be creating of a dis-ease and may be creating tremendous discomfort in the action of that dis-ease, and that individual may continue to create that dis-ease and continue that choice, but may also be accepting of expressions of soothing or comfort as offered by other individuals. This does not alter the choice. It does not alter the expression, but it is an acceptance of interaction from the other individual.

In a manner of speaking, these types of actions are accepted more in an expression of understanding by the individual that is creating the dis-ease – or the creature that is creating the dis-ease – in relation to the individual that is expressing the offering, more so than the wanting of the comfort or soothing for the individual themselves.

With creatures, this is expressed in even more intensity, for as I have expressed previously in discussions concerning creatures, and what they create within their reality and that they do not create in association with belief systems that they hold themselves, creatures do not associate with pain in the manner that you associate with pain. Your association of pain is extremely influenced by your beliefs.

Your identification of pain, for the most part, is accompanied by a tremendous judgmental expression in negativity, or it is offered in another extreme, of an expression which may be associated with intense pleasure. But even in the expression of intense pleasure, there is an underlying association with extreme negativity, for you associate en masse the identification of pain or the definition of pain with an expression that is uncomfortable and bad.

JIM: Definitely.

ELIAS: Therefore, you automatically associate certain creations that are exhibited by creatures as being painful, and you define that term within your beliefs and your experience, and you project that to the creature. The creature, in response to your energy projection, holds an understanding, in a manner of speaking, of what you are experiencing, for you in actuality are creating an experience of what you believe to be commiserating.

In this, as the creature recognizes your expression, it allows an acceptance of your energy – in your expression of helpfulness in comfort and soothing – more in an appeasement of you than in a comforting to itself, for itself is not experiencing pain in the manner that you are associating with.

Let me express to you, Yarr, think to yourself – you have incorporated interaction for many, many of your years with creatures, have you not?

JIM: Yes, many – my entire life.

ELIAS: Now; in the incorporation of your experience with all of these creatures, do you not find it odd that many of these creatures that may be creating these expressions that you view to be uncomfortable or painful are not exhibiting a wailing?

JIM: Mm-hmm. I’ve seen that many times, and I pass it off as, well, animals have a greater tolerance.

ELIAS: Ah! Of course! Creatures incorporate greater tolerance to painfulness. No, creatures do not incorporate a greater tolerance to painfulness!

Now; I shall express to you, you shall view writhing and you shall listen audibly to wailing expressed by a creature if it is engaging one of your creations of your traps that snare them and tear their flesh and break their bones. You shall allow yourself the audible listening to a creature in extreme situations in which they do incorporate pain.

This is not that they hold less of a sensitivity to painfulness, but they do not associate pain in the same manner that you associate with pain. Therefore, there are many, many, many incorporations of choices and affectingnesses physically that they may be exhibiting that they do not attach the association of pain with.

You shall know objectively those time frameworks in which a creature is in actuality incorporating pain, for they shall be expressive of that. They do not engage the belief of being stoic.

JIM: Mm-hmm. No belief in stoic, okay.

ELIAS: (Chuckling) They also do not incorporate embarrassment at their expressions. Therefore, they shall merely express themselves in genuineness in their experience, and if they are incorporating pain, they shall not stoically sit quiet, and they also shall not incorporate embarrassment at their whimpering.

Now; the point is that you allow yourself to be recognizing what you are expressing in your behaviors, for as you allow yourself to view your actions and more clearly identify what you are engaging – what you are “doing,” so to speak – you may also allow yourself to view other choices and you may allow yourself the action of redefining, for you offer yourself more clarity. (Pause)

JIM: Mm-hmm. Hmm. If ... go ahead.

ELIAS: Once again, let us examine supportiveness in “holding up” or “upholding.”

Recognizing that you may not create the choice for any other element of consciousness, the action of holding up or upholding, so to speak, is not an action that you are projecting to the other individual or to any creature, or even to an element of your physical reality that you may identify as a plant.

For in this, your idea of holding up or upholding is that you shall figuratively engage this creature, so to speak, and in creating some sort of action of holding up this creature, you shall attempt to be viewing that action in a translation of physical terms. You shall hold up the creature’s energy. You shall support the creature’s energy, for the creature does not hold the ability to be accomplishing this action itself.

JIM: Mm-hmm, and this is incorrect.

ELIAS: No, this is not what I am expressing.

What I am expressing in this upholding is that you recognize that the creature DOES hold ability to be creating its choices and to be supporting itself, to be upholding and holding up itself, and continuing in its choice of creations. Your supportiveness is the recognition of that action and that energy, and incorporating that into your energy.

JIM: Recognizing and incorporating what?

ELIAS: Creating the action of supportiveness is to be creating the translation of that upholding within yourself in relation to the creature or another individual.

This be the reason that I express to you that you may not genuinely be supportive of your creature or of another individual without the prerequisite of acceptance within yourself, for the upholding of the creature’s energy and expression, within the translation into yourself, is the expression of acceptance, the lack of expectation, the letting go of the expectation.

JIM: Okay, I’m beginning to follow, beginning being the key word!

ELIAS: Quite! Ha ha ha ha ha!

JIM: Okay, I’m gonna take a different look at this ... still taking the same look at it, but I’m gonna listen to April this morning in a little different perspective and try to relate. Lately what has come to my mind is giving her support and offering her encouragement as an expression within myself of her own ability to heal, because the way she’s healed these sores has been amazing to me, the type of healing physically that has taken place. I had thought, “Oh my god, that’s a terrible wound,” and then this wound healing very quickly without me “doing” something to it, and I totally give her the credit for doing that. It’s like I need to move more in that direction, and it seems the more I recognize that ability within her, of her own ability and giving her recognition and giving her credit, so to speak, for doing what she does, it seems she moves more into that direction.

ELIAS: I am understanding.

Now; another expression that may be helpful to you in this action, and in your interaction with your creature and also with individuals, may be your allowance of yourself to view your expectations.

What are your expectations? What is your expectation as you interact with your creature? As you offer energy to this creature, as you offer soothing and comforting to this creature, what is your expectation? That you shall view what you deem to be an improvement, for what the creature is creating presently is not good.

JIM: Mm-hmm. That’s the way I view it, yes.

ELIAS: And therefore, it need be improved. And in this, you create an expectation that as you offer your expression or as you interact, the creature shall be responsive and shall be either improving or shall be altering its expression, and this shall be noticeable and obvious objectively to you, and it shall be in compliance with the manner of design that YOU project as the creation of the difference or the improvement.

If the creature exhibits a wound, you shall offer your expression of helpfulness physically, and the expectation is that this helpfulness shall be accepted and be altering the physical wound. It shall improve or it shall appear different, and it shall improve or appear different in alignment with your design. The improvement must be of your definition, which is your design.

Now you may inquire to yourself, why? What does this offer to you if the creature creates this compliance? (Pause)

JIM: Okay....

ELIAS: Be remembering, you do not exhibit behavior without a payoff. Therefore, what is your payoff? What comes of your expectation, if it is not an expression of disappointment?

JIM: Mm-hmm. Yeah, it is of failure, of not offering ... there’s a lot tied up in that.

ELIAS: If it is not an expression of disappointment, if it is an expression of success, it offers to you an expression of outside validation.

JIM: Yes.

ELIAS: Which you apply to yourself as a false assessment of your worth, of your trust in your abilities, and of your trust in self.

JIM: Hmm. (Sighing) Oh boy!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!

This is the familiar area. You are very familiar with the action of looking outside of self for your validation and for your assessment of your measure of your worth.

JIM: (Sighing) That’s a hard one to even ... yes, I do.

ELIAS: And this is the expression that I offer so very often in “it matters not,” and all of you incorporate quite literally that it matters much!

JIM: (Laughing) Wow. Okay, a lot of face-rubbing going on here!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha ha!

JIM: Okay, I’ve got a lot to think about here, to digest. Hmm.

ELIAS: (Chuckling) Let me also express to you, Yarr, you may incorporate a fun and playful aspect of this information which I have offered to you this day.

JIM: Okay!

ELIAS: Interact with your creature, and as you interact with your creature, allow yourself to be momentarily merging empathically with your creature, and together, create an identification of energy in the translation of color and tone.

In this, allow yourself in this mergence with your creature together to be identifying any one particular expression that the creature is creating, that which you deem to be a malfunction. Without judgment – it matters not – you are identifying one particular expression as a malfunction.

And in this, you are allowing yourself to be empathically merging with the creature and specifically directing your attention to this one malfunctioning point, and together with the creature, you shall translate that malfunction into the expression of a color and tone, in relation to the colors and tones that I have offered to you previously. Are you understanding thus far?

JIM: I believe so, yes.

ELIAS: This is the beginning of your exercise.

JIM: Okay.

ELIAS: Now; once you disengage this empathic action and you view yourself to be not merged with the creature any longer, incorporate that color and tone into yourself. Uphold that color and tone within yourself, in the knowing that you have created it together.

This may be much more easy for you to be practicing with in relation to all that we have been discussing this day, for you shall not place a judgment upon the color and tone, and you shall not automatically associate the color and tone with an expression of negative or positive.

JIM: Okay, I follow you there.

ELIAS: Each time you move into the thought or the emotion of associating with that one particular malfunction, replace that thought – and all of the beliefs that are associated with it within your thinking – with the color and tone.

JIM: Hmm. Interesting. Okay.

ELIAS: This may allow you temporarily to be practicing with the incorporation of the....

JIM: Oh, I’m sorry; one moment. (27-second pause) Okay, I’m sorry. Go ahead.

ELIAS: (Chuckling) No need for apology! ...the incorporation of the action of supportiveness.

JIM: Okay, so to clarify. Be with my creature, my pony; relax. I’ve been moving, in my own meditation or method, through my energy centers, connecting with indigo empathically. It seems to help me merge and move through her energy centers, merging with her tone. It’s the same, correct, as we have discussed? Lo, mu, wah....

ELIAS: You need not be moving through all of these energy centers and incorporating all of this action.

Merely allow yourself to merge with the creature, generally speaking, and in that action and mergence with this creature, together direct your attentions to one specific malfunction, and in that one specific malfunction identification, create an association with a particular color and tone.

JIM: Okay, I follow you there, then. Okay. With that particular ... so the area that I look at right now is her having ... the most would be her hock, and the way she holds her leg up. This area is very painful, so that to me is the area that I would like to merge with her with.

ELIAS: Very well.

Now; what you are accomplishing is replacing the association of painfulness and disorder with an identification of a color and tone, which you may translate objectively into an actual sound and color.

Each time you physically, objectively view or create a thought process in conjunction with this creature and that particular expression, direct your attention once again to the color and the tone, not....

JIM: Whatever I receive. Whatever color, whatever tone I perceive.

ELIAS: Correct. ...not the association with disorder or pain.

JIM: Okay. Okay, I follow you there.

ELIAS: And uphold this within yourself, knowing that you are creating this together.

JIM: Creating the color and the tone together.

ELIAS: Which is also the expression of the disorder and pain.

JIM: And of the energy. Okay, alright. Yes, I will. That will be interesting. I’ll have some fun with April with that!

One other quick question – one of those quick ones! (Elias laughs)

I’ve been feeling a lot of tingling in my feet, and I’ve noticed a lot of times when I wake up in the morning, my arm feels like it’s asleep. It’s very tingly. My first thought is, you’ve got a back problem, but I don’t have any pain in my back, and I think there’s something else going on. Is that a recognition of energy in myself of ... I’m curious as to what those sensations relate to. It seems that when I feel those sensations, my attention wasn’t there in the moment, that it was somewhere else, and then my attention returns, and I feel those sensations. Is that a collecting of energy back into self, an objective verification, so to speak, of energy within myself? I don’t feel it’s related to a physical problem.

ELIAS: It is not a physical “problem.” It is associated with what you term to be circulation, and this is not a “problem” with circulation. It is merely your allowance of yourself to be noticing in certain time frameworks when you are expressing a clear[ness] and an ease in your own flow of energy in circulation, and those time frameworks in which you are creating what you may term to be breaks in your circulation of energy. You are translating this into a physical type of imagery within your physical form.

JIM: Hmm. Okay, so that would ... okay. I’ll take a different look at that, then.

One more question. When Borloh saw her father, Jack/Vlasta, in her dream wearing his old favorite shirt and so forth, and then kind of disappearing and morphing into another individual, I interpreted it with her, and she kind of felt the same way a little bit ... and he waved good-bye. Was that imagery of him moving on in consciousness and turning into this other individual? Was it more or less her seeing him move into essence or become familiar with essence?

ELIAS: This is movement more into the actual fullness of transition, and disassociating, in a manner of speaking, with the objective physical reality in this dimension in its expression of importance, so to speak, as identified with particular focuses – such as the expression of the focus that you and Borloh participate within now – moving more fully into the action of transition, which in a manner of speaking IS an action of allowance to be more fully aware of essence, and the recognition of the movement of consciousness NOT in the expression of separation which is associated with your physical dimension.

JIM: Okay. Well, once again, Elias, thank you. I’ll let you go back to whatever you do ...

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!

JIM: ... and wherever you go! (Laughing) I’m still noticing lots of bluebirds, so I thank you for that, (Elias chuckles) and I thank you greatly for your patience. I was telling Mary earlier that I thought somebody put a motor on my hamster wheel, but failed to give me an on-and-off switch!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!

JIM: But it has seemed to slow down a little bit here this morning, so I deeply appreciate your great patience and your insight, Elias. It has been an inspiration to me, and also ... well, I don’t know what, but never dull!

ELIAS: And not boring! (Laughing)

JIM: That either – I haven’t experienced boredom for quite some time!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! I express to you my friend, you are quite welcome, and I shall continue to be interactive with you and offering energy to you, encouraging you. I express to you tremendous affection, my friend, and I shall be interactive with you in your playful exercise!

JIM: Well, good. I’ll look forward to that. I’ll get up there and feed the critters and move along....

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha! As always!

JIM: As always – yes, indeed!

ELIAS: To you I express great love, and au revoir.

JIM: Thank you. Good day.

Elias departs at 11:27 AM.


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