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Tuesday, September 28, 2004

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ďThe Expression of Genuine LoveĒ

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Thecala.

(Eliasí arrival time is 14 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good morning!

THECALA: Morning.

ELIAS: And how shall we proceed?

THECALA: Well, I have been working on deepening my connection to love and being present as much as possible in myself. At this time in my life, I, like many other people, have a relationship, I have a house, I have a son, I have work, and I have money. I would like to explore how and what I can do to continue coming to a more honest place in myself and become love as much as possible in my life. So thatís how we shall begin! (Laughs)

ELIAS: (Laughs) Very well. And what would you describe as becoming ďmore of loveĒ within yourself?

THECALA: Holding more presently with the energy Ė I think more deeply connecting to being unified with all.

ELIAS: Very well. Which would be an action of shifting in association with this shift in consciousness, which you are already doing.

In that, what you generate to express genuine love is a genuine appreciation and knowing of whatever you perceive, therefore, whatever is within your physical reality. How you express that is to be becoming more intimately familiar with yourself and generating an acceptance of yourself and of your beliefs, allowing for your own expression of freedom in association with your truths and your preferences, and generating an acceptance of differences. In that, as you become accepting of difference, you also open the door to allow yourself to appreciate and to generate a knowing in association with difference, and that becomes the expression of genuine love: knowing and appreciating.

Now; I am quite understanding, that being expressed, that appears quite simple. In actuality, it may be quite challenging to actually generate, for difference may be quite threatening at times. Therefore, it may be challenging to be accepting of difference and thusly also be appreciating of difference.

The method to accomplish that action is to genuinely be familiarizing yourself with you, identifying your beliefs that have been generated into your truths, and therefore recognizing that those truths that you express are relative to you and are acceptable, that they are associated with your preferences as being your guidelines of how you choose and prefer to express yourself and your behavior, but also recognizing that they are not absolute, they are not actually true and therefore are not necessarily applicable to other individuals. This is what generates differences. Other individualís truths are their guidelines, and they may be quite different from your own, but that does not express that they are wrong or that they are bad, regardless of how extremely different they may be.

As you move into widening your awareness through becoming more intimately familiar with yourself, you also generate more of an acceptance of yourself, which generates a natural by-product of being more accepting of other individuals. For as you become accepting of yourself, the differences of other individuals become less threatening to you and therefore are more easily accepted naturally by yourself.

THECALA: Can I ask a question?

ELIAS: You may.

THECALA: Letís talk about this in relation to this new relationship I have in my life, which is with a man; his name is Ladd. Of course, this is exactly the kind of thing that comes up everywhere, but my question is what would be the most important or most precise way that I can do this specifically in relationship with this particular person?

ELIAS: What do you want? (Pause) Or what do you think you want?

THECALA: I think I want an intimacy, and I think that intimacy is a reflection of my own intimacy with myself.

ELIAS: Correct. How would you define your perception of intimacy?

THECALA: A willingness to see, be present with and know as many aspects of myself genuinely, including the good, the bad and the ugly, whatever it means. I suppose I mean various experiences and beliefs within myself and being able to hold all of those simultaneously present, and that itís okay. There is compassion and an ability to be present with all of myself.

ELIAS: And what do you assess is an obstacle?

THECALA: Belief systems of mine seem to be obstacles, and I work on uncovering them one bit at a time, I suppose Ė but maybe even that belief system of uncovering them one bit at a time is an obstacle Ė and also belief systems around that itís too good to be true...


THECALA: (Laughs) an obstacle. I could feel that one. This feeling of itís too good to be true to have what I want.

ELIAS: And therefore you are waiting and anticipating for the explosion. (Laughs with Thecala) For, you are doubting your ability to actually be generating this relationship and actually be creating what you want.

I may assure you, you do incorporate the ability to be creating what you want. And in this, I may express to you that your success and effortlessness in creating an intimate relationship is expressed in genuinely paying attention to you and allowing yourself to express in your own freedom, and that does not concern the other individual. For I may express to you, many, many, many individuals incorporate challenges in association with relationships, intimate relationships, and especially romantic relationships.

THECALA: Yes, especially.

ELIAS: Now; the reason that they incorporate challenges with romantic relationships is that they generate expectations and focus their attention upon the other individual and deny themselves their own freedom to be expressing themselves. Generally speaking, they think they want the other individual to incorporate certain behaviors and expressions. In actuality, what they genuinely want is to be expressing themselves and expressing their appreciation in the relationship.

What creates the challenge is not paying attention to self and denying that freedom to be expressing of the appreciation, and that generates conflict. For as you express outwardly an energy that incorporates expectations, that generates an energy of threat, and the other individual receives that and reflects it. That is what creates the conflict. In not generating an expectation and allowing yourself to express freely in appreciation, you express outwardly a very different energy, which is received and reflected in the manner that you want. It generates a reflection of appreciation as you are projecting that appreciation.

In this, my suggestion is that you acknowledge yourself rather than moving into an expression of sabotage. Appreciate what you are already generating and the effortlessness of it and the wonderment of it, rather than anticipating the explosion and generating an energy of sabotage. (Laughs with Thecala) Struggle is not necessarily more noble than ease, and difficulty does not necessarily generate more value in the accomplishment.

THECALA: Thatís very good. There are many ways in which I have been appreciating and generating with effortlessness, and I suppose that there is an aspect of a belief system in me thatís making me nervous that I actually am doing that.

ELIAS: And the reason that you are expressing this nervousness is that you are experiencing your own power. That may be initially somewhat unnerving, for it is unfamiliar. You are not accustomed to experiencing your own power in association with your abilities, or you are not accustomed to recognizing the experience of your own power, for what is familiar is to credit other individuals with your creations. Now perhaps you shall credit yourself with your creations and recognize the wonderment of your own power.

THECALA: Thatís beautiful. I guess this is just something that I will practice.

ELIAS: Very well! And that may be a fun practice and perhaps even generate surprise.

THECALA: Oh, thatís fabulous! Thatís wonderful; that sounds like fun.

ELIAS: Yes! Let me express to you, playfulness generates much more of an ease than seriousness. (Laughs) Do not complicate your direction in your intention to become more expressive of love and intimacy with seriousness and analyzation, but rather incorporate a playfulness and allowance.

THECALA: That feels really freeing.

ELIAS: (Chuckles) Quite!

THECALA: Now I have a question coming forward in myself around this idea in my relationship with money, and how itís just occurred to me that this is precisely a way I can maybe begin to play with a kind of freedom. Even talking about this is actually making me even more nervous than the relationship thing. But it came to me that thereís... Iím not finishing my sentences; but while you were talking about the seriousness and the playfulness...

ELIAS: It is applicable in any direction.

THECALA: Of course, that would be in keeping with the idea of unity. (Laughs)

ELIAS: And less separation. (Pause) Do you recognize the ease in the expression of your relationship with your child?

THECALA: Often, yes.

ELIAS: And the appreciation of that relationship, even with the incorporation of differences? View your other directions or your other relationships in whatever capacity they may be expressed in similar manner.

THECALA: Thatís so beautiful.

ELIAS: Regardless of what the expression may be Ė with another individual, with money, with employment, with WHATEVER you create. For you are creating that relationship, and it generates an ease and a continuous appreciation.

THECALA: Thatís beautiful.

ELIAS: At times it may incorporate some challenges, but those challenges are the spices that allow you to be more aware.

THECALA: Yes, thatís right. Thatís beautiful. Thank you very much, Elias. I am appreciating...

ELIAS: Ha ha! Very well!

THECALA: Iím appreciating being reminded, and not only being reminded but being asked to participate in my own appreciation. Thank you.

ELIAS: You are very welcome. And I am encouraging of you, for I incorporate no doubt that you shall allow yourself to accomplish. (Chuckles)

THECALA: Thatís lovely. Itís the end of my time with you.

ELIAS: Very well. I shall be offering my energy to you in supportiveness and also as a reminder of incorporating playfulness. I shall be anticipating our next meeting, and I shall be projecting my energy to you.

THECALA: Thank you so much.

ELIAS: You are quite welcome.

THECALA: I will look for it and appreciate it. (Laughs)

ELIAS: Very well! And I may express to you MY appreciation of you.

THECALA: Thank you.

ELIAS: In friendship and in fondness, my friend, au revoir.

THECALA: Thank you.

Elias departs after 29 minutes.

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