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Saturday, July 12, 2003

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ďThe Truth of HonestyĒ

ďThe Truth of LossĒ

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Letty (Castille).

Elias arrives at 10:19 AM. (Arrival time is 19 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good morning!

LETTY: Good morning, Elias! Itís great to hear your voice objectively in the now. (Elias laughs) I was looking forward to it.

ELIAS: And how is your adventure proceeding?

LETTY: Oh, I knew you would know I am on that nice cloud! Which I do want to start my session with, all about my new relationship. Somewhere after our talk, your energy did penetrate through and help me realize that what I was hoping to create in the future became in the now. (Elias laughs) Thank you again. Iím sure you did a little bit to push me into... Well, not push me, but help that energy...

ELIAS: Encouraging.

LETTY: Thatís the word, encouraging. (Elias laughs) And itís been fun. The most interesting part of it is that courting this man Iím dating is effortless. So, itís definitely in the right place in the now and I would like to keep it that way. (Laughs) Itís kind of nice without challenges. But anyway, can we start with his essence name? My perception is that he is Sumafi/Vold.

ELIAS: Correct.

LETTY: Like I am. And heís common.


LETTY: I donít think I would choose somebody thatís not. That would put me in more conflict. What is his essence name, please?

ELIAS: Essence name, Quinian, Q-U-I-N-I-A-N (KWIN ee ehn).

LETTY: Now, Cindel and I have been talking, and because she introduced me to him she also feels the connection with him in other focuses that weíve shared. Her impression was heís involved in that big Ė well, I call it a big focus because weíve contacted so many of those people in a short time period here now Ė itís when weíre in Tuscany.


LETTY: And is he my brother?


LETTY: Wow. And then thereís another one that I connect to him, where weíre husband and wife, and I see us in a wagon train, kind of like heading out west or probably in the west, perhaps in the 1800s.

ELIAS: Yes, you are correct.

LETTY: And we had two children.


LETTY: Thereís another one where I connect and weíre sisters.


LETTY: I did very well! (Elias laughs) How many focuses do I have with him?

ELIAS: Twenty-six.

LETTY: Well, heís a real sweetheart. (Elias laughs) I can see where weíve connected before. Thank you very much.

ELIAS: You are welcome.

LETTY: I really donít have questions about him right now...

ELIAS: Very well.

LETTY: ...unless you have advice. Basically, I guess, maybe the energetic challenge Ė I want to confirm or verify that I am feeling the right energy between us, because he does not drink. Heís under the belief system of Alcoholics Anonymous, which Iím not obviously, and I drink. Things are going well and I want to say that he is being genuine in his responses to me that Iím okay to drink, that his belief system is not as strong as other peopleís.

ELIAS: Yes, you are correct.

LETTY: I wanted to confirm first, obviously, creating this relationship with an open energy Ė and itís just worked out really well and itís been very pleasant for me in creating pleasantness Ė is because Iíve been trying to pay attention to the now and myself, but in that with flexibility, which was my last session theme. I guess itís an acknowledgment of my progression in this, in going back to paying more attention to myself and in the now, because I do catch myself in a little queasiness every once in a while. Itís really easy, because itís easier to manipulate my energy now. Is that what Iím doing?

ELIAS: Yes! In genuinely practicing listening to yourself and moving in different directions, paying attention to what you are creating and also paying more attention to your preferences, and allowing yourself more of your freedom in your expressions and not concerning yourself as much with the choices of other individuals.

Which is significant, for now you may view that if you are genuinely paying attention to yourself and allowing yourself the freedom of your own preferences and generating outwardly a type of energy that is trusting and more accepting of yourself, expressing more of an appreciation for yourself, you may now view what you draw to yourself in that type of expression. You draw to yourself individuals that generate a similar type of energy, and the type of energy that they express is more calm and with much less expectations. Which is significant, for in interaction in that type of energy, you reinforce your ability to be paying attention to yourself with much more of an ease.

LETTY: Thatís right. Actually, I have noticed that we have a lot of things in common. I do feel very tranquil around him. Iím not trying to pretend or anything that many times happens at the beginning of a relationship.

But something came up while you were saying that. Itís interesting because both of us, we mirror each other a lot. In that mirroring, when we met especially, we both have something that Iíve been talking to you about, my unacceptance of my body. I kind of felt that he had it, too. But as I grow to like him and care for him, I accept his body, and itís coming back to me of accepting mine.


LETTY: I picked that up very recently. Itís kind of like really neat, because I felt a release of that constant looking at my body and saying, ďAnother bad hair day,Ē you know?

ELIAS: Ah, but in this type of expression, as I have stated, in the type of energy that you are projecting outwardly and in the type of interaction that you are creating now with this individual, as you do reflect each other and you are allowing yourself the freedom of your expressions, you are expressing much more of an acceptance of yourself. This is generated much more easily as you continue to express outwardly this energy of acceptance and trust of yourself, which is reflected to you by the other individual, which reinforces your ease and creates an atmosphere, so to speak, in which you generate much less doubt and less expectations and less judgment of yourself.

LETTY: Yes. It really is a nice feeling with him. (Elias laughs) Thank you.

Now, back to my other part of this theme. Well, you know, I like to keep interested, and thereís always still a little challenge, and my challenge is coming up with my job.

Things happen at work, like $10,000 disappearing from one of my branches. I wanted to see exactly my participation in this individual choosing to take that money. Thatís what I think Ė my impression is that he took it, not that I made it disappear like I do sometimes. There was theft and yet it was like an insider, people you think you trust.

In another branch, I had somebody come in from the outside, an unknown, and try to rob the branch. But they just made a lot of inconveniences and no money was taken.

Then thereís still people conflict, like having to fire them. When I fire people, I always feel that Iím helping them in a decision that they made to leave the company, and thatís how they choose and I participate.

Thereís just a lot of energy moving in and out, and I wanted to see where I played in that, now that I understand that itís my own creation.

ELIAS: And what is your impression?

LETTY: The first thing that comes to me is the belief system of protection. I was going to ask you if there is a wave on protection, because itís all about protection and trusting people. I see it all kind of interwoven about the belief system that we donít trust strangers and we have to protect ourselves and lock our doors and put more alarms and put more bolts on our doors.

At the same time, with the victims, I see all that together, the victims who protect themselves from people who are more powerful than they are or have a bit more of a stronger character. Iím saying a lot of words, but I think the words I hear are protection and victim, and itís all related to that sort of system.

ELIAS: Yes, you are correct; but let me also express to you that in this time framework you are all participating in a wave in consciousness which addresses to the belief system of truth.

Now; what is meant in this expression of truth is those beliefs which are the most strongly expressed that they become absolutes, and therefore, they become your truths. They are not actual truths, but within your physical reality and within your creations and how you associate with them, they become your truths, for they become absolutes.

Now; this is significant, for as I have stated previously with many other individuals, this particular wave in consciousness is very powerful, and it incorporates the potential to be VERY empowering. Once you begin to identify these beliefs that have become your truths and you recognize that they are actual beliefs and that they are not absolutes, you begin to genuinely, not in theory, but genuinely generate choices, and you begin to eliminate judgments. For you recognize that these beliefs that have become your truths in some expressions, in some scenarios, may be beneficial in association with you, yourself, and may even be preferred. But in other expressions, they may be quite limiting.

For example, you may incorporate a strongly expressed belief of protection, and in some expressions within your focus you may choose to continue to incorporate certain influences of that belief. For in association with your preferences, some of those expressions you may deem to be good and therefore choose to continue to express certain aspects of it. But you also recognize that this is relative to you, and that if another individual expresses differently, it is not bad, for you recognize that your truth is relative to you. You also begin to notice and recognize those influences of that same belief that are limiting, and therefore, you begin to offer yourself choices. Are you understanding?

LETTY: Yes, very well, thank you.

ELIAS: Now; protection is a general type of classification of beliefs. There are more specific beliefs that are associated with protection. What you have presented to yourself are specific beliefs that you incorporate in relation to honesty, loyalty, behaviors Ė what are acceptable behaviors and what are unacceptable behaviors.

Now; view how this becomes an absolute. Honesty is a belief, but it is, as with all beliefs, intertwined with expressions of duplicity, in which you deem certain expressions to be good and bad.

Now; honesty you absolutely view as good and that it should be expressed by all individuals, and there are guidelines that define what is honest and what is not, correct?


ELIAS: Now; this belief is so strong and so unquestioned that within your perception it becomes no longer a belief; it merely is. It is a fact, and you believe facts to be true. Therefore, it becomes an absolute, and that moves it into an expression of a truth, your truth.

Now; this is a very strongly expressed belief by many, many, many individuals within your physical reality, and it is very strongly influencing in many different manners.

Now; in this, you may begin to examine how that being generated as your truth has influenced all of these different scenarios, and how, in these scenarios, it is associated with protection. For if other individuals are not conducting themselves in honest behavior, they may be hurtful and other individuals may fall victim to them. Are you understanding?

Now; in this, one of the reasons that this particular belief system and this particular wave is so powerful and incorporates the ability to be so empowering and liberating is that this particular belief system allows you objectively to view and understand how many different beliefs that may be associated with different belief systems intertwine with each other, depending upon what type of scenario you create. The belief of honesty may not always be associated with beliefs concerning protection, but in some scenarios it is.

LETTY: So itís making sense of all these what I consider problems with people because of this belief system that I align with.

ELIAS: Correct.

Now; in this, as we continue with this particular example of this particular belief of honesty, this is a strongly expressed belief that you incorporate.

Now; this also in this wave in consciousness is empowering, for you begin to recognize what it is to actually not be attempting to eliminate a belief, but continuing to incorporate the belief and also beginning to recognize that you incorporate the ability to manipulate energy in the manner that you choose, and you may incorporate the expressions of that belief in scenarios that are preferred by you.

For example, you may continue to express your behavior and your interactions with other individuals within the guidelines of what you define to be honest, for this is a preference that you incorporate and it expresses no conflict within you. But you also may recognize that in relation to other individuals, you express judgment if an individual is not expressing honesty in the guidelines that you associate with.

Now; what is empowering is that you begin to recognize that you incorporate choice, that you may choose to draw individuals to you that express similarities in relation to that belief, and therefore express similarities in the type of behaviors that they generate. But you also recognize that there are other individuals that may express quite differently and may incorporate different behaviors, for they may incorporate different expressed beliefs.

In this, they and their behavior are not necessarily wrong and it is not necessary to incorporate judgment, but you may continue to express your preferences and therefore choose not to be interactive with individuals that express differently, BUT not generate the judgment. Are you understanding?

LETTY: Yes. Thank you.

ELIAS: This is the manner in which you begin to generate, genuinely, choice rather than automatic responses, which may be limiting.

Now; some automatic responses, as I have stated, are associated with your preferences. Therefore once examining the expressed belief, you may choose to continue in some automatic responses for they are preferred, and you begin to recognize those that are automatic responses that are not preferred.

LETTY: Iím trying to understand my judgment of this in the examples I gave you that actually happened, that I took it personally that I knew this person who took the money and yet this other person who wanted to break in, who I did not know personally, I was more accepting. I accept the fact that there are people out there that this is the kind of living they want to do, the experiences they want to have, being robbers or thieves or whatever.

ELIAS: Correct, and this is significant that you have offered yourself this example and have recognized the difference in your response. For if you are incorporating the scenario with what you term to be a stranger, you do express less judgments for there are less expectations. You do not expect the stranger to behave in similar manner to yourself. But an individual that is an acquaintance or an associate, you do expect that they shall generate similar behavior to yourself, for you incorporate these expressed beliefs concerning responsible behavior, honest behavior, loyal behavior, acceptable behavior, unacceptable behavior, and those are assessed in guidelines which you express within yourself. Behaviors that are unacceptable within yourself, you also generate outwardly are unacceptable in other individuals. Behaviors that are acceptable within yourself should also be expressed by other individuals.

Now; you offer what you may term to be some leeway in that expression in relation to differences in personalities, differences in cultures, differences associated with how an individual has been raised, so to speak. All of these are also beliefs, but they are allowances that you express in relation to each other to incorporate small differences, but not in association with what has become your truth. For the truth, be remembering, is the absolute. Therefore, in relation to those truths or those absolutes, there are no allowances. Individuals must be expressing in a certain manner, and if they are not, you are justified in expressing judgment.

LETTY: That answers a lot of little questions I have about whatís happening.

ELIAS: In this, you shall notice that you do not view strangers to be, generally speaking, personally invading or affecting of your personal energy field, so to speak. But individuals that you know objectively, you generate a very different type of association. For you associate that they are or that they do personally invade your energy field with their behaviors.

Now; the individual that is an acquaintance of yours has no more invaded your energy field than the stranger.

LETTY: But itís my belief system...


LETTY: ...that they owe me or should be... I see; I see it so clearly.

ELIAS: I may express to you that you have accomplished quite well in offering yourself these examples and offering yourself objective physical examples that you may examine to allow yourself an experience that shall be facilitating more of an objective understanding of what you are moving into in this wave addressing to truths.

LETTY: And while Iím doing all this... I mean, I would like to not get into too much drama. I know that is a choice.

You mentioned a little about manipulating, and I think itís the lack of trust right now in myself in the moment of how you said I can manipulate the energy to attract people or circumstances or create, in this case, where it doesnít have to be as dramatic.

ELIAS: Correct.

LETTY: Itís the lack of trust I have and Iím thinking, well, thatís not possible. (Elias laughs) We just see so much from outside affecting us that I do forget that moment of my creation.

ELIAS: Correct. This is the significance of that exercise that I offered to you previously. (1) This, you shall be remembering, is the significance of being aware of what type of energy you are projecting outwardly. For that...

LETTY: Because I have found myself in the moment recognizing the frustration at work lately.


LETTY: Iím at the point, now that I do more pay attention to myself, I immediately say, ďWell, where am I not seeing my choices...


LETTY: ...and therefore, what am I creating that I am limiting myself?Ē giving at least back the responsibility to me.


LETTY: But for a fraction of a second, Iím ready to blame somebody else for that.

ELIAS: I am understanding. But you are also moving your attention much more quickly, much more frequently and much more easily back to yourself.

LETTY: Yes. Is that what I did when I had that lower back pain again that I had once in the past? I went back to read the transcript again, because I had really kind of forgotten it. It had been some time ago when I created that back pain as an attention to me, because I was having conflict within myself about issues.


LETTY: It happened around the time that I met this gentleman that Iím dating, and I kind of still thought I had not quite let go of Leezar. Then I had another situation of how I created getting a roommate, and did I really want a roommate or not, did I make a mistake. I made them all these kind of absolutes, too.

ELIAS: Yes, and also a twinge of incorporating personal responsibility.

LETTY: That was the time you were telling me how Marta and I do that very well. (Elias laughs)

There was another acknowledgment or validation, that I continue to have hearing problems in the sense that sometimes I feel a little irritation and sometimes I feel pain in my ear. Itís telling me that Iím not listening to myself?


LETTY: So in other words, paying attention to myself.

ELIAS: Yes. To your communications, more specifically.

LETTY: Okay, I see. I still discount myself every once in a while in that I donít do well at listening to all my communications Ė but then I jump two spaces on my gameboard, Elias. (Elias laughs) It just opens up!

I had a couple of dreams, but I think I can pretty much understand them. But this one though, there was this dream where there was a feeling of sadness, where everybody was leaving. It seemed like people were being laid off at work, even though not necessarily the job Iím in right now. It also had to do with my niece Isabel going up to school. Now Iím confused, because I have another one. I donít know if that was the same day I dreamt about a war happening and being an undercover agent dealing with weapons. Iím confused.

ELIAS: This imagery is associated with loss, which also is in some expressions an absolute. It also is another truth, for it is absolute. For in this, loss is bad and hurtful. Loss, generally speaking, is not associated with good. It is associated absolutely in many, many, many scenarios with painfulness.

LETTY: Like in a circumstance like somebody died, and itís a preference to feel that pain and just move through it...

ELIAS: Correct.

LETTY: ...and it matters not.

ELIAS: Correct. But in other scenarios, allow yourself to view, such as Isabel moving to school, this may be viewed as a temporary loss. In that, you may begin to evaluate the scenario differently, offering yourself different choices rather than expressing the automatic response associated with loss, which is the expression that you incorporate in association with death. All loss is not the type of loss that is expressed in death, but the automatic response is to generate that type of an outward expression.

Therefore, once again you are presenting to yourself another truth that has become an absolute, which is in actuality a belief, and recognizing the influence of that belief and how it is generated in the same manner regardless of the scenario or the situation, for it is generating automatic responses.

LETTY: I had a dream around the same time period again, this time with Isabel and Marta. We were at some place where we went out, we were at an activity or something, and the car had been stolen or was gone. I canít remember exactly, but it was a sense of loss there. Then the other car got in a traffic jam... So again, now that I see everything about the car disappearing and the other car being hit and couldnít move, it had to do with... I think Iím confusing my dreams here, Elias.

ELIAS: The imagery is all associated with what we have been discussing this day, loss and protection and all of those beliefs that are associated with these general themes and how strongly influencing they are.

LETTY: But in that other dream I didnít feel that sadness. I was so accepting. I remember feeling a lot of trust in myself, because at the end of that dream I created my friend Raoul Ė I forget his essence name Ė and I wanted him to come and sit with me and put his arm around me, and he did it. I think I created that dream at the same time with all that loss, because we create all that, too.

ELIAS: Correct, but you also reinforce yourself in your imagery, as an expression that although you may create those other types of expressions, you also incorporate the ability to create comfort within yourself, and that may be expressed in many different manners.

Let me express to you in association with loss, the reason that you express this so strongly is that there is an automatic association that you incorporate no choices with regard to loss. Therefore, you deny yourself, and this is the reason that the automatic responses are expressed so strongly.

In association with loss that is not related to death, this concerns your choices and expressing to yourself that you incorporate no choices in association with the situation Ė which in actuality is not true, but you believe it to be true.

Even with death it is not an absolute, but I am understanding that within your physical reality this may be much more challenging to move into a genuine expression of choices. Not that it is impossible, but I am understanding the challenges that you experience in association with it. But any other loss may be much more easily recognized that you do incorporate choice, if you are paying attention to yourself.

In the example with Isabel, let us say that she incorporates a choice to be engaging school within a physical location that you deem to be far away. Therefore, you are expressing loss in association with her choice. What is actually being expressed? Do you incorporate all of your time with this individual? Do you choose to be incorporating all of your time with this individual? What is being taken away?

LETTY: Nothing.

ELIAS: Correct. If you choose to be interactive with this individual, what shall stop you?

LETTY: Right, jumping on a plane...

ELIAS: Correct. This is what you incorporate now. Therefore, what alteration in your reality is occurring in association with her choice?

LETTY: Nothing.

ELIAS: Correct.

LETTY: How interesting we lose perspective of our choices.

ELIAS: For you are paying attention to other individualsí choices and personalizing them.

LETTY: We do that very well, though.

ELIAS: Yes, you do! (They laugh)

LETTY: Wow. Well, Elias, I have plenty to think about. But Iíve enjoyed this very much. Itís new topics, new themes.

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! I have enjoyed our interaction also. I am tremendously encouraging of you, Castille, in this new movement.

LETTY: Yes, itís been a lot of fun.

ELIAS: Precisely, discovering much more of your playfulness now.

LETTY: I have a quick question Ė why do I refer to him as Todd? Was that his name in another focus?

ELIAS: Yes, in which you incorporate a relationship of intimacy.

LETTY: The one that I came up with, where weíve been husband and wife, or another one that I have to come up with?

ELIAS: A different focus.

LETTY: Well, my time is up.

ELIAS: Very well. I shall be anticipating our next meeting...

LETTY: Oh, yes, me, too.

ELIAS: always! And I offer tremendous lovingness to you, Castille. My dear friend, in fondness, au revoir.

LETTY: Au revoir, dear friend.

Elias departs at 11:12 AM.


(1) From session 1204, December 09, 2002:

ELIAS: ...Now; my suggestion to you is to offer yourself one day, one entire day, in which you allow yourself to pay attention to you. Pay attention to what you are actually physically doing in each moment. Do not concern yourself in this one day with what you may be communicating to yourself through emotions. Merely move your attention to what you are actually physically engaging in each moment, regardless of how unimportant it may seem. The significance of this action is this offers you an experience of moving your attention to another function other than merely thought. It also offers you the opportunity to genuinely be noticing and viewing what you actually physically engage in what you term to be an ordinary day.

Let me express to you, all of the actions that you engage in one day, all of the insignificant movements that you generate in one day are all influenced by beliefs. All of the automatic actions and responses that you express in one day are all motivated by your beliefs. But you are unaware of the influence of your beliefs, for you are not paying attention to what you are actually physically doing, and in this, you reinforce the expression of automatic responses and you reinforce all of these expressed beliefs.

As you reinforce all of these expressed beliefs in a time framework in which you create an event such as re-establishing an interaction with your former employer or contemplating re-establishing interaction with Leezar Ė these are actions that you consider to be significant, important and large Ė your response to these actions is influenced by the beliefs that are expressed in each day that influence all of the other actions that you engage that you do not pay attention to. (17-second pause)

LETTY: Wow. Thatís a thought-full!

ELIAS: The manner in which you shuffle your paperwork during your day, the manner in which you engage other individuals, how you interact with other individuals, how you express actions in your lunch hour, what you choose to consume, what you speak of in conversation, time frameworks in which you close your door Ė all of these actions that you deem to be insignificant and you express no thought in relation to are all actions that are motivated by beliefs that are expressed continuously. These are the actions that offer you the clarity in information concerning what you naturally generate, what beliefs influence these actions.

The same beliefs are expressed in the actions that you generate in relation to the subjects that you deem to be significant or important. The difference is that in all these actions, you are NOT incorporating thought. You are not thinking concerning all of these automatic actions Ė you are doing. And in relation to the subjects that you view to be important, you are thinking and you are not paying attention to the doing.

Digests: find out more about attention (doing and choosing).

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