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Sunday, December 05, 2004

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ďHoliday GreetingsĒ

ďA Season for Remembering and AppreciationĒ

ďBeing a ReflectionĒ

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Lynda (Ruther).

Elias arrives at 8:07 AM. (Arrival time is 21 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good morning!

LYNDA: Good morning! I have a couple of requests from other forum members and then I have some stuff. May I proceed? (Elias nods)

From Bobbi Ė ďI was wondering, if youíre going to be speaking to Elias in the next couple of weeks, if youíd ask him to extend a few words of holiday or year-end greetings to the forum, which I could send out. A couple of years ago I sent out a compilation of what he said here and there about the holidays, and it was quite well received. Maybe heíd like to put together something for himself this year.Ē (Elias chuckles)

ELIAS: My offering to all of you in this season is one of appreciation and the hope that all of you will allow yourselves to experience the wonderment of your own appreciations, and perhaps extend that into your new year.

LYNDA: Thatís why you get the big money! Youíre good! (Elias chuckles) I will definitely send that along. Thank you very much.

ELIAS: You are quite welcome.

LYNDA: Next, weíve heard from our brother Abel. Heís in a pickle. Iím going to read some of his stuff and he asks for your input and comments.

ďToday is a much better day. I think Iím standing on the edge of my shift and I know I need to jump into it. Elias will tell me to quiet myself and listen, and of course I donít want to. Itís been an ungodly 14 months, a lot of loss Ė step-dad who raised me, step-mom, my French lover broke up with me, and no movement in my career possibilities. My addictions are kicking in Ė always a bad sign Ė but also a sign of uneasiness and therefore movement. Iím just in that miserably self-involved place that screams, ĎWhat am I doing here?í I also want to move from New York City, but I canít see financial viability for that for at least a year. I know Iím to write; Iíve always known that. Through that writing comes both healing for others and myself, but that isnít taking off. Iím spending all my time making money in areas I donít particularly like. So I will continue with my meditation, stay quiet, and see what answers come. JerryĒ (Pause)

ELIAS: Let me begin in expressing in conjunction with your first request. In your traditions in your reality, in this time framework of each year it is a time of reflection.

In this season, that may be especially significant. For as I have expressed throughout this time framework of this particular year, many times this has been and continues to be a time framework of extremes and they are quite easily generated. Most individuals within your reality are generating some type of extremes and have been throughout this particular year. It has been a time of tremendous movement. It has been a time of tremendous acceleration in shifting. It has been and continues to be a time of significant change, but also a time of great revelation.

It is significant to allow reflection of the movement that has been generated in this year and to acknowledge the accomplishments and the revelations that have been experienced and expressed. It is easy to focus attention upon experiences that you view to be negative or uncomfortable. It is easy to discount yourself and forget the acknowledgment, and it is easy to forget that even in generating uncomfortable experiences you continue to offer yourselves information. With each uncomfortable experience is generally also an open avenue to be exploring different elements of yourself and examining your truths. Therefore, it is also an opportunity to be accepting.

Loss is one of your most challenging experiences, for it emphasizes your belief of separation, and in that emphasis, it is not merely intellectual but experienced. In reflecting, it is important to remember what you are doing: shifting. It is important to remember what that shifting is and means. One of the actions of shifting is thinning these veils of separation and in that generating more of an avenue for the continuance of interaction between individuals that continue within physical focus and those that have disengaged, perhaps remembering that the term ďdeadĒ is merely a term for an action, not an ending. It is an action of a choice, a direction, but not an ending. The energy of each individual continues merely in another direction, but also continues to be available.

In this thinning of these veils of separation, the individuals that have disengaged are also becoming much more aware of their ability to project energy through layers of consciousness to be interactive with individuals that continue within physical focus. Therefore, it is an exchange as it was in the participation of both individuals within physical focus, rather than merely an interaction with an energy deposit.

In association with loss of relationship, I am understanding of the challenge that is presented in that scenario and the difference. For although you perceive it quite similarly, there is a knowing that the other individual is continuing within physical focus. Therefore the difference that may be expressed within the individual is that of discounting of self rather than merely grieving, and questioning of self of what the individual has expressed in wrong manner to cause the dissolvement of the relationship.

This is another situation in which it is significant to be remembering Ė remembering information, remembering self and acknowledging self Ė and rather than generating the doubts and discounting of self, to be acknowledging of the accomplishments, appreciating what you have presented to yourself, what you have allowed yourself in the offering and the receiving of the relationship, and to recognize that as the relationship dissolved, it is not a matter of wrong-doing or blame but that each individual may be moving in a new direction.

As to Abelís direction, it would be one of genuinely moving into an expression of more focus upon self, generating a time framework to be becoming more intimately familiar with self and preferences and abilities, to be acknowledging and appreciating self and thusly allowing more freedom, rather than projecting attention to another individual and acquiescing to the wants or the directions or the choices of the other individual and placing the value of the other individual above own.

As to the writing and feeling stuck and expressing impatience and forcing energy in directions that are unwanted and disliked, this is another opportunity, as you are aware already, to generate that quietness and listen to your own communications, to be exploring your own preferences and discovering what they are and allowing the expression of those preferences, and also remembering that the accomplishment in the writing shall be expressed if the writing is not forced and if it is engaged as fun, not as a chore Ė without a mission and without focusing upon the outcome Ė but remembering the process and acknowledging and incorporating fun in the process, and in that process to be remembering to acknowledge rather than discount Ė the more the discounting, the more the discomfort.

Therefore in the time framework of recall and remembering and acknowledging and appreciating, my suggestion is to be aware and not to be forcing energy, to be aware of the hesitations that are experienced and acknowledge those hesitations and examine them, and to allow yourself an awareness of what you are denying yourself and therefore allow yourself new choices.

You may express to this individual also that I shall most assuredly be generating my energy in strength, in power, in supportiveness and in tremendous encouragement, but most of all in friendship.

LYNDA: Okay. I think Iíll call him up when weíre done here and play him the tape. Thatís awesome. Thank you.

ELIAS: You are quite welcome.

LYNDA: I actually typed a list for myself, but youíve covered most of it. Thank you, Abel! I donít know if I even need to talk to you, but maybe Iíll just hit the high points and tell you that you answered all of them. Iíll go slow, and if you want to jump in, this is America, okay? (Elias grins and nods) Thank you.

I think the food thing, shifting/changing diets and the way I actually accomplished that, was presenting imagery to myself through a person at work I had a reaction to about the way I was eating. I was hurt by it but it also resonated that it was enough already with what I was doing and it was time to change. To make a long story short, it took me a week to do that but that was sort of the catalyst. Is that correct? (Elias nods in agreement) Which will tie back into the last thing that Iím going to talk to you about, which is not just reflecting but allowing me to be someone elseís reflection.

So weíll just put a little marker right there and move on and tell you Iím going to trust myself in this transition because thatís the bottom line about it, and Iím just to pay attention to the automatic extreme I could go in of discounting myself in this area. Correct?


LYNDA: Thank you. My work situation is another avenue where this person presented something to me that I had an extreme reaction to. Iíve paid attention to it and I think we were reflecting to each other and also mirroring each other in regard to this other person who we both are very fond of. I was really hard on myself about that because I felt I wasnít adequate or didnít know enough, and I did go into serious trash mode.

The good news about that is that it was shorter and I gave myself quite a bit of information about how obvious the reflection was to me about approval, my worth, my age compared to her being quite a bit younger Ė a lot of different pieces there. Where Iím at with it right now is a recognition that this person and I genuinely like each other, and weíre okay now. The good piece of this is that as difficult as it was, I allowed myself an exposure to her, and the pieces that I got out of it were approval and worth, primarily. Is that...?


LYNDA: Traveling to New York City to do another trade show is a little bit overwhelming. I donít want to leave the cats; I donít want to get in a car; I donít want to drive around New York City. Iím paying attention to not wanting to do that. Iím also paying attention to feeling like I should take another step for my work situation and it would be a good thing if I did go to New York City to do this trade show. Iím trying to find a medium ground here and pay attention to myself.

My first inclination is to say no, I donít want to go. Iím a little confused. Is this my comfort zone, staying home upstairs in the attic haven with the kitties and not stepping out? Or am I still in my process of really wanting to hang here and just be in my world and continue to be in the process Iíve been in with that? I donít want to project too much towards that and I donít want there to be ďshouldsĒ in the deal, but Iím feeling that Iím not comfortable going, and thatís what Iím paying attention to. And thatís what I should be paying attention to?


LYNDA: Thank you, brother. I will continue to pay attention to that piece.

I need some dental work done. Itís expensive. I donít feel a problem with choosing this method to go forward with it. I think I will get the money one way or the other; I have a couple of ways to do that. I think itís important that I do do that. I also think Iím presenting myself with protection and teeth imagery a little bit. Once I get these root canals done, thereís a thing with my jaw that needs to be adjusted in my bite. Thatís the bigger thing, to be honest with you, because it involves expressing out, not just my writing but my vocal expressing of what I want in the moment, and I think thatís where all this stuff is coming from. (Elias nods) And you say, ďAmen, sister.Ē


LYNDA: As far as all the root canal thingies, Iím going to go forward and do that and get it done and not worry about it. I donít have any pain and I think itís going to be easy, so there. The other piece is bigger, even though it seems like the smaller less expensive piece.

ELIAS: Correct.

LYNDA: Oh, I had a little epiphany in a recent dream. I thought it was you mixing your little energy in there with this familiar person, and I pondered that a while because weíve been talking about you doing that. But even in that I was distant from you, and I woke up thinking that the reason I was distant bottom lines at Iím not reflecting out appreciation of myself, so Iím not getting it back in the full measure that I want. This is the little puzzle piece that ties in to the beginning of this session, which is the appreciation piece, and Iím taking little baby steps to do that. I think that pretty much covers it, wouldnít you say?

ELIAS: Yes, but you are moving and you are allowing more. Remember, acknowledgment rather than doubt and discounting.

LYNDA: Right, in all things, especially in this oh-so-vast, big fat thing that will never happen, Cinderella stuff. (Elias chuckles) I was going to be so concise and read this whole thing to you because I havenít recorded a session in a long time, and here I am being vague. Thereís a lot of stuff about finding a partner that I know now needs to be a part-time partner in my preferences and fit into my direction and my choices now. And to be honest with you, Iíve got it pretty clear in my mind that that is what I want. Itís taken me quite a while to get here from there and I do acknowledge that. I feel like this appreciation piece is the next step that will unfold my preferences to me.

ELIAS: Yes, it is quite significant.

LYNDA: And that it is okay to have a preference like this, even though it is a big fat mass belief. I mean, I am a big fat mass belief, and if I donít be that Iíll probably poof away, as you say. So Iím paying attention to those things.

ELIAS: Many, many mass beliefs become mass beliefs for they incorporate elements of many individualsí preferences.

LYNDA: Right, and the automatic go-there is to say itís a bad evil thing because itís a mass belief. I understand that more and more as I move in the direction of discovering what my preferences are.

ELIAS: Which is very significant.

LYNDA: Good, I acknowledge me in that case!

I wanted to talk to you ... you know, I call Mary ďMikie.Ē Mikie is getting her own epiphany, as you know, related to being aware that other people are choosing and she is choosing to be a reflection of them. This is a growing awareness inside her, and this is certainly being reflected in sessions being postponed. But itís so unfamiliar and is not what is quote/unquote ďappropriateĒ in some cases that itís hard for me to get my brain around it at times. For the most part, I do get this piece. I think whatís unnerving to me is the amount of openness itís taking in Mary to allow this. This is big, and itís an example to me of choosing ... I want to go in that more open direction, too.

ELIAS: That is a genuine exposure.

LYNDA: Right. Itís exceptionally unfamiliar. We were talking about it again this morning. I was realizing that this is not a thing of me comparing myself; this is a thing of me genuinely looking at what sheís doing and realizing this is the direction to go in in terms of openness. But itís difficult to separate the bath water from the baby. I come from a world of transference and the boomerang principle, where you knew if somebodyís transferring something to you, you could send it back and say thatís not me.

ELIAS: And many, many, many individuals incorporate that direction and that perception.

LYNDA: Which is not correct. Thereís another way to view that...

ELIAS: Correct.

LYNDA: ...which is not blame, which is not victim, which is just an acknowledgment that thatís whatís going on and an understanding of a difference in your energy and someone elseís energy, which does tie into your reconfiguring energy and the fishy principle, as I understand it.

ELIAS: Yes, in some situations.

LYNDA: In quite an experiential way.


LYNDA: Iím just aware of that, and itís pretty fascinating and unfamiliar at the same time. I suspect that weíll hear more about that as the days unfold. Correct?

ELIAS: And so you shall.

LYNDA: I do have one little question and then I guess weíll call it a session. I know itís a little preemptive, but Iíve been pondering the religious wave. I would imagine that one of the pieces of the religious wave would be this boomerang, transference, blame, victim, automatic-go-there thing, right?


LYNDA: So itís good that weíre getting this truth wave happening first...


LYNDA: maybe this religious wave will cruise a little easier.

ELIAS: That is quite possible.

LYNDA: And then maybe we could have the vacation and shopping wave?


LYNDA: Wouldnít this be a better idea? Hello, knock-knock on the cosmosí door! (Elias laughs) Okay, Iím done. Thank you so much. I love you.

ELIAS: You are very welcome.

LYNDA: Feel free to have final words of depth and meaning, to just me!

ELIAS: (In mock seriousness) We shall insert the shopping and vacation wave into our beliefs!

LYNDA: Amen, brother! So be it! (Elias laughs) Okay, that was it!

ELIAS: You may offer my greetings and my lovingness to Jale and to Abel, and you may express my acknowledgment to Michael: well done! I am aware that an encouragement may be welcomed. (Laughs)

LYNDA: I would like to acknowledge Larry. Just before the session I felt Vicki come through and remind me that once in a while itís okay to record my sessions, and I used to fight with her about this. But on the eve of the anniversary of her disengagement from this physical reality, I would like to acknowledge my friend and, even as I speak, recognize her energy and allow a little bit more of her being around.

ELIAS: Very well, so acknowledged. And that energy is quite present. (Chuckles)

LYNDA: A lot of people miss that energy. Thatíll be good to hear.

ELIAS: Another example of less separation.

Very well, my friend. I shall be anticipating our next conversation. To you in dear friendship and much lovingness, au revoir.

LYNDA: Au revoir.

Elias departs at 8:44 AM.

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