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Sunday, July 26, 1998

<  Session 302 (Group/New Jersey)  >

“Your Relationship with Yourself”

“Allowance, Penetration, Buffer”


Participants: Mary (Michael), Rodney (Zacharie), and 14 new participants: Arlene, Bob, Brian, Christina, Christine, Dan, Florence, James, Jerry, Karen, Kathy, Myrtle, Ted, and Thom.

Vic’s note: I experienced much difficulty with this particular transcript, especially in the areas of punctuation and what appear to be incomplete sentences. This is probably imagery that is indicative of my own relationship with myself! In any case, please keep this in mind while reading this transcript. There are many areas in which I wasn’t sure just WHAT to do with Elias’ words!

Elias arrives at 1:36 PM. (Arrival time is 35 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good afternoon! (Smiling)

GROUP: Good afternoon, Elias.

ELIAS: And welcome to new essences this day!

This day we shall continue our discussion as to the subject matter of relationships that I have already begun, but this day we shall move this discussion into the area of your relationship with yourselves.

I have offered information as to relationships with other individuals, as presently within this time framework there is occurring a wave in consciousness which addresses to the belief system of relationship and moves you all into areas of examining aspects of the belief system of relationships. This day we shall move into the direction of the examination of relationship of self.

Your relationship with yourself is the most intimate and continuous relationship that you shall hold within physical focus. It also is your most affecting relationship within physical focus, for it is influencing of all of your other relationships. Every individual that you encounter within physical focus you hold a relationship with, and each individual that you encounter within physical focus is influenced by the relationship that you hold with yourself. How you view yourselves is how you shall project your energy and your acceptance or your lack of acceptance to every other individual that you shall engage with during your focus within this particular physical manifestation. Therefore, it holds significance and importance that you focus upon self and the acceptance of self, and recognize that this is all-encompassing within physical focus as to the affectingness in all of your interactions.

Individuals move into the direction many times of inquiring how they may be more accepting of other individuals in any given situation. I express to you that if you are moving into the direction of acceptance of self and examining your own belief systems and the affectingness and influence of these belief systems within yourself, you shall also be very affecting of other individuals.

I have offered an analogy previously - which you may be inquiring of Michael and he may be offering this to you subsequent to our present session – of two little saplings. (1)

I have offered the example of the straight little sapling which moves through its focus merely concerning itself with the acceptance of itself and its own growth and in this automatically expresses the example of the expression of essence, and its interaction with the convoluted little sapling which grows quite twisted in analyzing all of its movements and all of its growth within its particular focus, but also looking to the straight sapling in the example that it offers and then applying this to itself.

Your greatest affectingness of other individuals, of relationships, of interactions with other individuals, and your greatest interaction within the movement of this shift in consciousness shall stem from your own noticing of self, your own addressing to YOUR individual belief systems, your alignment with mass belief systems, and your participation in these belief systems. In this you offer yourselves the opportunity to view self and to be more accepting of self.

Now; I also shall offer to you that within the action of this shift, you move into more expansive expressions of self. Your definition of self is changing, for you do not only move in the direction of this particular one focus of essence that you identify within your attention as yourself, but you also begin to encompass all of your other focuses. Therefore, as I speak to you of the acceptance of self and the understanding of self and the addressing to belief systems within self, this is also in conjunction with all of your other focuses.

I wish not to overwhelm you in the idea that you must be responsible for the belief systems of all of your other focuses, for you are not. Each focus holds their own choices, their own integrity, their own individuality, and therefore also aligns with the belief systems of their choice and implements the belief systems of their choice. Therefore, you as a focus of essence are not responsible for these choices, but you ARE responsible for your own choices and your own expressions and your own alignment with your own belief systems, and within the action of this shift you are responsible for moving into the direction of addressing to these belief systems.

In this, you also – as you are widening your awareness and opening to your periphery encompassing these other focuses of essence – shall allow yourselves the awareness of the belief systems which are held by your other focuses, for these are influencing of your belief systems within this particular focus.

Let me address also to this action of attention to the acceptance of self in the area of these other focuses, recognizing within you that you yourselves in this particular focus hold the belief system of duplicity already. This particular belief system is very strong. It motivates you in very many areas and it intertwines with ALL – bar none – ALL other belief systems. Therefore, there are influencing factors with all of your other focuses that connect to the belief systems that you hold within this particular physical focus. They are affecting of you.

All of your focuses are occurring simultaneously. There are very thin veils between yourselves and all of your other focuses, and as you move more fully into the action of this shift in consciousness these veils become even more thin, until the point that they are veils no more. Presently within this very now, many individuals have dropped many of these veils that separate all of your focuses from each other. Many individuals have already moved into the area of penetrating the experience of other focuses that they hold within this particular dimension, recognizing other focuses as themselves but not as themselves, recognizing that they are all interconnected, and also recognizing that they hold the ability to move freely in and out of the experience in connection with any and all of these other focuses. (Ha!) This also offers the opportunity to all of you to be noticing the affectingness of the belief systems of these other focuses and how they are affecting YOU within this particular focus.

Many of your other focuses hold similar belief systems to those belief systems that you hold presently. Some of your other focuses – you within this particular focus - hold belief systems about them, for you shall move into the direction of judgment upon them all. You shall create a judgment in line with your own belief systems of duplicity, expressing that certain focuses that you hold are good and acceptable and certain focuses that you hold are not good and are unacceptable. You shall be quite pleased with yourselves if you are discovering that you hold another focus within this dimension of some exceptionally kind and wonderful individual! You shall be pleased with yourselves if you discover that you hold another focus within this dimension of a very famous or powerful individual. You shall be very UN-pleased with yourselves if you are discovering that one of your focuses is a murderer! You shall express, “Oh, no! I may not be accepting of THIS individual! We shall place this one far away and not be acknowledging of this particular focus, for this is unacceptable.”

You focus within this particular dimension for the purpose of experience, for the exploration of physical focus and all that it offers to you in every type of physical experience. Therefore, you hold very many focuses which are all simultaneously experiencing all aspects of physical interaction. In this you offer yourselves much information as to your own abilities within physical focus to be creating of your most creative expressions in every direction, but within certain focuses you choose to be aligning with the officially accepted realities and the reality of the belief system of your official societies, and therefore also deeming yourselves to be quite good. Let me express to you that your alignment in the area of expressing to yourselves that you are good is a judgment also. Good is a judgment. Pleasing is a judgment. Acceptable is a judgment which is equally as powerful as any negative expression, for accompanying this positive, so to speak, expression is also the recognition that another expression is bad, for what shall good be if you have no comparison of bad? It shall be neutral.

(Intently) This is what you move into now within the action of this shift. You move away from your judgments of good and bad and you move into the acceptance of belief systems and the recognition that they ARE belief systems, and in this you neutralize their affectingness. IT MATTERS NOT. (Brief pause)

(Very intently) If I shall express to any of you, within all of my engagements with you within physical interaction, any quote that shall be remembered, it shall become “It matters not,” for your expressions are merely those of experience. You are immensely – underline immensely - vaster than your comprehension of yourselves within this one particular physical focus, and this vastness of self is available to you. You are not limited to the understanding of only this one focus. You hold ALL of essence within you. It is NOT a being outside of you. Your relationship with yourself is not a relationship which is engaged with some elusive entity that floats about outside of you. Information that you allow yourselves to connect to is NOT outside of you. ALL of the information is held within you.

I have expressed many times that the only difference between yourselves and myself is that you do not remember and I do. You have chosen to be forgetful, that you may create within physical focus a purity of experience and a fullness of experience in physical aspects. Therefore, you have CHOSEN to be forgetting of all of essence and the vastness of yourselves. I no longer occupy physical focus. Therefore, I hold the remembrance, but you now move into this action of this shift in consciousness and you now offer yourselves the remembrance also. You each are building your bridges from your individual oubliettes across to the recognition and realization of essence.

You do not occupy a planet of lowly accord. You are not within this physical focus as a learning dimension, so to speak, on your way to higher ground. There is no higher ground! You ARE your highest expression! Even within all of your belief systems and within your physical expressions, you ARE your highest expression. You are one focus of an endless essence, and this one focus holds all of the information of consciousness, of essence, of you, and of all other essences. For although you camouflage within physical focus, and you within your thought processes hold to the belief that you may move in the direction of being secretive, for you are so very separate within physical focus, you are not separate at all. You are all intertwined. Your consciousness is all intermingled, and within essence there are no secrets, for all is known to all others.

You amaze yourselves with your own abilities. You present to yourselves different moments where you shall physically express to each other simultaneously the same thought. You shall verbally express the same words within your language simultaneously with another individual, and you shall call this accident! This is a very simple example of the interconnectedness of you all and that you all are participating within a mergence of consciousness collectively, continuously. Your telepathic abilities would be astounding to you, were you merely to open yourselves SLIGHTLY to your own abilities.

Your inner senses are more fine-tuned, so to speak, than your outer senses. You engage your outer senses continuously. You are quite familiar with touch and the sensation of this. You are quite familiar with your sight and the engagement of your sense of hearing. You do not allow yourselves to recognize your inner senses, which move far beyond these outer senses. Your outer senses are outward mirror images of your inner senses, which hold immense power, and you now offer yourselves the opportunity to not only experiment with these inner senses, but in actuality to open to these inner senses and to be moving into the exploration of consciousness within your physical objective awareness, your waking state within this dimension, offering yourselves much more of your own expressions of creativity.

Let me express to you once again: the one prerequisite, so to speak, for this action is that you are accepting and trusting of yourselves in every area of your expressions, in every area of your creations and experiences. This applies to all of the experiences in their mundane expressions within every moment of your waking day. Each time you move into the direction of chastising yourself, even in the area of humor – of expressing, “Oh, I have created a mistake! I am wishing I was creating of this situation differently! I could have been creating this situation more efficiently!” – you have created each situation in the direction that you have created them as the opportunity for you to view your own interaction with your own belief systems and your own responsiveness to the affectingness of them.

Therefore, each expression that you create is purposeful and beneficial, and my expression to you this day, in helpfulness in moving through your focus more efficiently, so to speak, and more effortlessly and with much less conflict - which would be the point – is that I shall suggest to you that you allow yourselves to move in the area of pleasure, for this is the expression that holds the least amount of thickness in energy within physical focus and offers you the most ease in all of your accomplishments.

As you move into areas that are NOT pleasurable, you may also offer yourselves information as to the thickness in energy. Areas that are not pleasurable in your experiences are more difficult! You move more slowly through them and you move into areas of conflict, or you may be experiencing a neutral effect, but you shall not be experiencing the freedom of effortlessness. And as you move into the area of pleasure, you also shall experience effortlessness, for this is your natural expression.

Essence naturally, automatically magnates in the direction of pleasure. It is merely your belief systems that move you away from the expression of pleasure, and in your moving away from any expression of pleasure, you may offer yourself the opportunity to examine the belief systems that are influencing you to be moving away from the expression of pleasure.

These are all opportunities for you to examine and notice those belief systems which are affecting of you and also limiting you and blocking your energy and your expressions and your acceptance of yourselves, for if you are not accepting of this focus, you shall also not be accepting of all of your other focuses, and if you are not accepting of all of your other focuses, you shall not be accepting of essence, and this shall create thickness in energy and this shall also create trauma.

You have already established an agreement within consciousness to be moving into the accomplishment of this shift in consciousness. IT IS ALREADY ACCOMPLISHED.

Therefore, you automatically shall be addressing to belief systems and to acceptance, and in this, if you are not accepting of self, you shall be engaging trauma. And this be the reason that I speak with you, to be helpful in lessening the trauma that is associated with this shift in consciousness, for it is unnecessary. And if you are holding information, you shall be offering yourselves the opportunity to be eliminating this trauma within your individual focuses, and as each individual eliminates elements of trauma within their focus, they also lend energy to all other focuses within this planet to be lessening the trauma collectively en masse in relation to this shift in consciousness.

You may make your inquiries. (Grinning in an interesting manner, almost as if he is pleased with the confusion of the group)

RODNEY: I understood you to say that if I did something and I thought to myself I could have done it better, that this would be a judgment. And what I hear you saying is that it would be more constructive, worthwhile, etcetera if I were to hold the question, “Why did I do it the way I did it?” Is this what I hear you saying, that there are other ways of holding or looking at my actions that are constructive, and for me to say that I could have done it better is not the best way to look at my actions?

ELIAS: (Chuckling) Although there is no “best way!” (Grinning)

But I shall express to you that you are correct in the direction that you are moving with this thought process. What I am expressing to you is that there are alternate areas to be addressing to yourself without judgment.

In the lack of judgment, you do not automatically create the lack of motivation. I am not expressing to you that you are eliminating your motivation to be moving through consciousness and to be accomplishing within your individual focuses in the directions that you choose and that shall be the most beneficial within your own individual value fulfillment, for the lack of judgment and the neutralization of belief systems does NOT neutralize motivation and desire.

But in like manner to your own expression in this inquiry, I am acknowledging of your expression and am expressing to you that you are correct.

In moving into the direction of placing a judgment upon each individual action, expressing to yourself, “I am disappointed with myself, for I may have created this expression better,” you automatically reinforce your belief system of duplicity. You automatically move into the area of discounting of self. You automatically move into the area of discontinuing your motivation, for you have already created the judgment upon yourself and moved into the area of expressing to yourself that there need be no motivation to move into a different type of expression, for you have already created the wrong expression. In this, you reinforce a LACK of movement.

If you are looking to self and you are inquiring of yourself as to the belief system that has motivated your expression, you automatically motivate yourself to be investigating, which is creating automatically of movement, and in this movement you shall move forward, in your terms, in allowing yourself to experience alternative choices which you shall deem to be more efficient.

If you are expressing to yourself, “I have created an expression with this individual. I am wishing that I had not created this expression with this individual,” you shall automatically also offer to yourself, “Oh well, it is done. I may not retract what I have created.” Therefore, your expression moves into the direction of, “I shall be noticing of this action and I shall not repeat this the next time.” Oh, but you will! (Laughter) For you shall not be remembering, for you have not examined the belief system, and the next time shall approach and you shall approach the situation in the very same expression, for the belief system is still within very strong working order, and IT is what is being expressed! But if you are examining the action that you have created and you are expressing to yourself, “Why have I responded to this individual in this manner? What is the belief system that has motivated my response and my action?,” as you identify this belief system to yourself, you may also offer yourself an understanding of your own expression. And in this, as this same situation may present itself once again to you futurely, you have offered yourself the information in this direction and therefore have offered yourself the ability to recall and to be altering of YOUR response and behavior.

Many times in this situation, it is unnecessary for your recall. You shall automatically hold a different response without a thought process, for in the very examination of the belief system and recognition of this and understanding of this, you are automatically altering your own perception, which is also altering of your expression. There be the effortlessness. In the continuation of the belief system and the non-addressing to the belief system, as the situation presents itself once again to you, you must move into the area of much effort to be remembering the previous experience, which you very likely will not. You must expend the energy to be consciously altering your expression, and then you shall be experiencing energy that is in conflict with your expression. For although you may move into an alteration of your outward expression in a similar situation, within you, you shall experience emotional qualities of disliking of your own expression, for you are in conflict with the belief system that is motivating you.

Therefore, as this individual approaches you and expresses, “I am not appreciating of this garment that you are wearing,” your automatic response may be, “Well, I am not appreciating of your expression!” What you have each expressed is a lack of acceptance of self and of another individual, and you have not addressed to the belief system. As this individual approaches you within your next day and expresses, “I am not appreciating of your garment,” you may move into the direction of recalling the previous experience, and you may move into a falseness of your own spirituality, and you may alter your expression and you may express to this individual, “I am accepting that you are not appreciating of my garment, but I am appreciating of my garment, and therefore I am choosing to be wearing it.”

But as you walk away, within you, you are expressing conversation with yourself in your relationship with yourself and you are expressing, “You are an idiot! You are not accepting of my garment!” You are creating conflict and you have not accepted the expression, and you are now expelling much energy, not moving into the area of effortlessness, but expelling much energy in conflicting yourself and continuing to hold to your own belief systems which have not been addressed to.

Now; in this same situation, if this individual is approaching of you and expressing, “I am not appreciating of your garment this day,” and you recognize a responsiveness within yourself that you in your language may identify as a defensiveness, you may be examining of this defensiveness and inquiring of yourself, “What is motivating my response in this area? What am I not accepting within self?” Not within the expression of the other individual! “What am I not accepting within self that is creating of this response within me? Where am I holding to my own energy which is creating of this response?”

In this, let me also offer you all this day a visualization that you may practice. I have offered this once only, but it may serve you each in your practicing of acceptance of self and also of acceptance of other individuals. Let us enter into an exercise presently that you may also practice subsequently.

Each of you now hold an awareness of yourselves. Allow yourselves to relax your energy fields. Your energy field is that energy which surrounds your physical form. Attempt to be not holding in of this energy field around you. To the best of your abilities presently, within each of your individual states in this present now, I instruct you each to attempt to be noticing and viewing your own energy field that surrounds your physical body. Allow yourselves to be connecting with your own energy fields. See your energy field around you. Allow yourself your own visual of your energy that you expel around your physical form in this very relaxed atmosphere.

(Long pause, and then shouting) YOU ARE ALL INADEQUATE! Now look to your energy fields and view how they have contracted, and view what you experience within you, and view your own uncomfortableness. And why are you uncomfortable? For an energy has been projected to you and has penetrated. It has moved through your energy field. It has been allowed to penetrate your energy field.

Now; in this example, let me express to you: you hold an actual energy field around your physical form. This is a reality. It is real energy. It is tangible. It also functions. In this, let me express to you three words: allowance, penetration, and buffer. Be remembering of these words.

(Softly) I express to you lovingness. Although you have experienced uncomfortableness temporarily, this serves as an example to you as to how you allow other individuals to penetrate energy into your energy field, and this automatically triggers your own belief systems as to protection of yourselves and that another may be hurtful to you, and this triggers other belief systems, that you do not hold the ability to be manipulating energy as efficiently as you deem necessary. This is also a perpetuation of your own issues in duplicity.

Let me express to you that any other individual, any essence, any thing may project any energy to you, and in your acceptance you create an allowance, a recognition that this is an energy ball that another individual expresses to you, and it shall move forcefully toward you, but that you hold an energy field around you which is quite powerful, and this energy field holds the ability to transform any energy which is projected to you. Therefore, as you visualize this ball of energy projecting toward you and it propels forcefully and quickly to you, it also transforms into a bubble as it strikes your energy fields, and this bubble shall pop and dissipate. Therefore, another individual’s expression has not penetrated your energy field, for you have allowed your energy field to be a buffer.

This is not an expression of a lack of acceptance of another individual. This is an expression of the acceptance of yourself and your own ability and also the acceptance of other individuals in the allowance of any of their expressions, recognizing that these are their expressions which are motivated from their belief systems, but this needs not be affecting of you. For if you are accepting of self and of your own abilities and your own energy, the ball transforms to a bubble, and the bubble shall pop as easily and as effortlessly as a physical bubble that touches your finger and pops.

This IS your ability, and you may exercise this continuously. It is merely your belief systems that dictate to you that you shall be hurt or discounted or that you are inadequate or that you may not accomplish, and it is the perpetuation of these belief systems that allows you to accept the penetration of other individuals and the projection of their energy. You may be accepting in the allowance. It is unnecessary for the penetration.

And in this, in what you would term to be the reverse action, you may be remembering of this exercise also and recognizing that your expressions are the very same energy forms that are projected to other individuals, and they may not hold objectively the information that they hold the ability to pop the bubble, and your expression shall penetrate. Therefore, the circle continues.

Are you wishing of questions this day? (Pause)

FEMALE: To clarify that first question, when one is aware that an action has been performed and has said something, one should, instead of judging it, look at it in an inquiring way? Like, “That was interesting how I responded,” and that would be acceptable ...

ELIAS: Correct.

FEMALE: ... to examine and change? Instead of saying, “I shouldn’t have done that,” it’s “Wow, that was interesting! I wonder where that came from?” Is that what you’re saying?

ELIAS: Correct, and not creating of this judgment. But you may be experiencing a feeling within you of a lack of acceptance of your own expression, and if you ARE experiencing this feeling, this is your indication to yourself to be examining what belief system is motivating you in this direction.

RODNEY: I’d like to carry this just a little bit further.

Sometimes I find myself in the presence of someone else and I have a strong feeling inside of me which I sense may be fear because it seems to overpower me. Now, this is an action. It’s not an outward action, but an inward action. There’s a response occurring inside of me that is spontaneous and of ... at least not my conscious making, alright? And you suggest ways that I could mentally hold a question inquiring of why this is happening?

ELIAS: Each time you experience fearfulness, you are creating an objective expression of a lack of trust within self. Therefore, in each given situation that you may be experiencing a fearful emotion, you may inquire of yourself, examining the situation itself, looking to all of the aspects and elements of this particular situation which is perceived to be causing the fearfulness, for in actuality it is merely triggering of a lack of trust that you already hold within yourself.

RODNEY: Can I give you an example? It occurs not infrequently that when I approach the president of my company, I get this sensation. It’s very much located in my chest, and it seems to grip me. I feel this is fear because it does not allow me an easiness of expression, and like you have said, a hallmark of where we want to go is that things should be effortless.

ELIAS: Quite.

RODNEY: Well, I’m certainly not in a frame of mind to express myself effortlessly when I have this feeling in my chest!

ELIAS: Quite.

RODNEY: So, that’s a specific example.

ELIAS: And within this specific example, we shall address to this. In the belief system of relationship, which we have been entering into discussions of, I have also entered into areas of relationships of employers as well as different other types of relationships.

Now; as you approach this individual and you begin to experience this feeling, this emotion, which also moves into the area of an actual physical feeling, examine to yourself, “What is the belief system that is motivating this particular response within myself?,” knowing initially that the reason that you are expressing this response is that you are experiencing fear, and fearfulness is the outward expression of the lack of trust of self. Therefore, you already hold some information as to the action that is occurring.

Now you address to the belief system that is attached to this. The belief system is relationship. The aspect of the belief system, the bird within the cage, is that of authority. This is a very powerful aspect of this particular belief system, for you all move into the direction of the alignment with this aspect of this particular belief system. You all hold areas within your focus that you look to certain individuals as being authorities, and what is meant by this particular term of authority is that another individual holds more of an ability than you or holds more power than you or is above you, so to speak, or is more of anything than are you. This is your definition of authority, that any other given individual holds more of an ability in any given area than do you. They are different, they are separate, and they are above you. You outwardly mirror this aspect of this belief system of relationship in your objective expressions of creating situations within your physical forms, within your physical societies, of positions. Certain individuals occupy one position. Other individuals occupy a position of authority. This also is a very strong aspect of this shift in consciousness, which shall be very altering of your very creation of your reality.

I have expressed many times that this shift in consciousness shall alter the entirety of your reality, and one of the very strong alterations shall be the lack of authority, for it is unnecessary and for you shall all recognize that you are all the same. There are no individuals within physical focus that hold any ability that you do not hold! There are no individuals within physical focus that may be creating of any element that you may not create also! But you have created this officially accepted reality for millennium in the direction of looking to certain individuals to be the “guiders,” to express to you how to create your reality and what to create in it, and now you move into the direction of recognizing that YOU create your reality and YOU shall dictate to yourselves how to create it and what to create in it, and not be following of other individuals’ expressions. You may align in agreement with other individuals’ expressions, but it is unnecessary to follow their expressions.

We shall break, and you may continue if you are so choosing.

RODNEY: Thank you.

BREAK 2:50 PM.
RESUME 3:00 PM. (Arrival time is 8 seconds.)

ELIAS: Continuing.

FEMALE: You said the difference between you and I is that you remember. How can I remember? Is there an exercise I may do to help me remember?

ELIAS: You are all moving into your own remembrances as you move into the area of your own acceptance of self. In this, as you continue to be accepting of self and connecting with yourselves and recognizing of your own abilities, you move more and more into the allowance of your own experiences. As you allow yourselves to be accessing and connecting with your other focuses, this also shall move you into more of the direction of your own remembrance. As you offer yourself information as to all of your other focuses within this particular dimension, this offers you much more information in your own remembrance.

Each of your experiences in this area shall add to, so to speak, your own remembrance. Each of these experiences serves as another plank of your bridge that extends from your individual oubliette to essence and the remembrance, and this also is an action of this shift in consciousness. Therefore, I shall be suggesting to you that an initial area to begin, so to speak, would be to be allowing yourself to be connecting with other focuses that you hold within this dimension.

FEMALE: Could you clarify what you mean by other focuses? I’m not quite sure what you mean.

ELIAS: In YOUR terms, you express within your language a focus to be a lifetime. You move in the direction of your perception of linear time. Therefore, you look to your other focuses and you express them to be past lifetimes or future lifetimes. I express these to be other focuses of your essence, for there is no past or future. They are all occurring simultaneously. Therefore, they are sideways to yourself, not before you or behind you. In this, as you are allowing yourself to be connecting with any of these other focuses, you shall also be beginning to offer yourself more of your own remembrance.

FEMALE: Thank you.

ELIAS: You are very welcome.

FEMALE: Elias, if I may ask ... this is on more of a personal note. So much of what you’ve said about the self-acceptance and the trust I know I’ve been working on since I was a child through currently, but I’ve had a lot of difficulty with self-acceptance and trusting myself, to the point of not wanting to misjudge the other person. So therefore, by not misjudging the other person, I will not listen to myself or I will hurt myself with this self-acceptance and allow, like you have said, this penetrating ball of fire, as I see it, to actually penetrate myself and go through the barrier.

What I would like to ask, if I may, on a very personal note: how does one work on this, especially when you’re in a situation that is a daily situation with a person that you have loved who is constantly ... you are allowing them to penetrate? Many times you do have the strength and there is that self-acceptance, for whatever reason it comes in, that you do not allow that ball of fire to penetrate, but it’s something that you have to work on constantly. So therefore, it is a constant internal and external – if you want to say battle - that is ensuing between two people, and then it also falls onto other people in the house. It’s very depleting of one’s energy, and also hurts them emotionally and physically. How do you handle this? What do you do? And can you continue?

ELIAS: Let me express to you, many individuals move in the direction of creating these types of situations in alignment with the belief systems of relationships, and in this, within the aspects of the belief systems, they comply with many different expressions of relationships that are not always comfortable.

Now; let me also express to you that although certain situations are not comfortable within physical focus, they are all beneficial to you in the accomplishment of your individual value fulfillment. This is not to say that it is necessary for their continuation, for it is only necessary for any individual to be continuing within uncomfortable situations to the point that they access the information that they are presenting themselves with, which you are now moving into the direction of accomplishing. You would not be drawing yourself to this forum and speaking with me if you were not already moving into the direction of accessing your own information and moving away from the creation that you have created pastly. You have offered yourself the opportunity to be within certain situations that are uncomfortable to offer you information that you need be accessing within your particular focus. This also is an element of the remembrance: allowing yourself to be connecting with self.

Now; in this I shall be expressing to you, be remembering of this exercise. Be remembering of your individual experience this day with this exercise, and you may be practicing of this exercise within mundane daily expressions, for this is the point.

The point is not flashes of your fireworks that shall signal the accomplishment of this shift in consciousness! (Humorously) “It has arrived!” The point is to be holding the remembrance of self and the acceptance of self, and THIS shall be affecting and accomplishing of this shift and shall be creating of those firework experiences that you so desperately seek! But those are the byproducts, the natural byproducts of the actual action that is occurring, and the action that is occurring is the acceptance of self.

Many, many, many individuals within physical focus, as influenced by the officially accepted belief systems and reality, move into the direction of assuming personal responsibility for other individuals, and this is one of the very MOST affecting issues that is held within physical focus. And I express to you that you hold quite enough responsibility in merely addressing to self and holding the responsibility of the vastness of self, not to be moving into the direction of personal responsibility for any other individual, for THEY hold the responsibility for themselves.

But also within your officially accepted reality, you have been taught belief systems and have accepted the action of the belief systems and are in compliance with belief systems – from the time, so to speak, of very small, small children – that you are not responsible for your focus and your creations. OTHER individuals are responsible, and there ARE other individuals, such as yourself, that shall assume that responsibility! Therefore, other individuals need not be responsible for themselves and their creations, and they are not creating of their reality – oh no! – for you shall create it for them. Incorrect! You are not creating of their reality for them. They are creating their reality, and you need not hold personal responsibility for their creation, for you hold enough responsibility for your own creation.

And in this allow me to be encouraging to you, in that you have created your uncomfortableness for long enough and you have received your own message, so to speak, have you not? Therefore, it is unnecessary now to be continuing within this particular creation, for you have offered yourself your information, and now you may allow yourself the opportunity of freedom – your own information – to be creating of your own expression in your own creativity, and not be accepting personal responsibility of other individuals and not be allowing a penetration, but allowing your buffer to hold naturally and recognizing that you need not be participating in other individuals’ creations that are creating of uncomfortableness. Individuals draw themselves to other individuals’ creations of uncomfortableness, or that which you term to be negativity, for they are offering themselves information, but as they receive their information, their necessity for participation is no longer. Are you understanding?

FEMALE: Yes, I am.

ELIAS: Your necessity for your participation is no longer, for you have offered yourself the information. You are a glorious creation of your own. Therefore, be accepting of this wondrous expression that you have created in all of its aesthetic beauty.

FEMALE: Thank you.

ELIAS: You are very welcome, and I shall be inviting you to be participating futurely if you are so choosing, and I shall be continuing to be acknowledging of your movement.

Very well. I shall be accepting of another inquiry, and then I shall be disengaging for this afternoon.

MALE: I’m kind of a perfectionist. Being a perfectionist is the same thing as being judgmental!

ELIAS: What shall you be a perfectionist in, as you are already perfect? (Laughter)

MALE: Well, I’m a very detail-oriented person, and little things that are not said or done the way they should be done bother me.

ELIAS: Ah!

MALE: Like, you know, a picture on the wall that’s not straight enough, or parking the car between the lines exactly parallel to the lines ... this kind of a person! (More laughter)

ELIAS: I shall be suggesting to you to be examining of these very strong belief systems, not of perfection, but of the lack of acceptance of free expression!

MALE: Yeah, I thought about that! (Everybody cracks up)

ELIAS: And that all expressions - crooked pictures, lines not aligning – or any different expression – untied shoes – are all examples of perfect enactments of each individual expression, and that it is merely your own belief systems that places judgments upon this and expresses that they are unacceptable or SHOULD be different.

We shall strike this word “should” from your very language, for it in itself is quite judgmental and not accepting! (Chuckling)

FEMALE: May I just ask a brief question?

ELIAS: You may.

FEMALE: What happens when there is, for want of a better word, and I know this is not going to be the right one, a real....

ELIAS: Ah, ah, ah! Personal invalidation! (Laughter)

FEMALE: Okay, I’ll just say it! We just had an incident where two officers were shot, and we have to look at that incident, and it’s very hard to look at something like that non-judgmentally and to say, “Well, he was expressing himself.” How do you deal with looking at somebody blowing up a building and killing a whole slew of people and know that that person was entitled to his expression? How do you deal with that on an individual basis in a non-judgmental way?

ELIAS: Within the direction of individuality, this be the point of accepting belief systems, for these belief systems also perpetuate actions that you are not accepting of. As you continue to create judgments, you perpetuate the actions that you judge. You create by lending energy to the very actions that you disdain.

FEMALE: In the mass consciousness?

ELIAS: Correct, but the mass is affected by each individual, for there is no mass without individuals! And in this, the very elements that you disdain within physical focus, that you deem to be negative, you lend energy to each time you move into the direction of judgment. Therefore, the point is to be accepting, and in this you may offer yourself more of an ability to move into this direction by recognizing that no action occurs between individuals within physical focus that is not agreed upon. You may not be affecting in any manner - underline entire sentence! – without being in agreement with another individual, for if another individual is not in agreement with your expression, it shall not be accomplished.

Essences are NOT intrusive. Therefore, it is required, so to speak, that there be agreement for ANY action to be accomplished, and in this, even that which you deem to be the most violent or distasteful, they are all beneficial in some manner, for you draw yourselves to the experience to be offering yourselves information in some manner, and they engage the action to be fulfilling their value fulfillment in some manner, and at times also to be lending energy to you for the accomplishment of your value fulfillment in areas that you have drawn information to yourselves. It may not always be very objectively clear to you why you are drawing yourselves to certain situations, but as you allow yourselves to be more aware of self and listening to your own language – your own impulses, your own impressions, your language of essence to self – and as you are moving in the direction of acceptance of self and addressing to your own belief systems, you also offer yourself more of an understanding of these aspects of which I speak.

FEMALE: Thank you.

ELIAS: You are very welcome. Very well. This day I shall be disengaging with you, and I shall be extending the invitation to you all to be engaging futurely if you are so choosing. And I shall impart to you this day a very loving energy, that you may move through your day this day with a surroundingness of this energy, which I extend to you each, and offer you each much lovingness and affection. And I express to you a very fond au revoir.

Elias departs at 3:26 PM.


Endnotes:

(1) The Sapling Story

I will give you a small story which you may contemplate through this week. In this, be thinking of belief systems and of connections. My story incorporates two saplings, both exactly identical, both newly growing; one growing naturally and reaching towards the sun and basking within its rays and drinking naturally of the rain and resting to the moon. The other is looking around and is viewing the sky and is seeing the sun and is saying to itself, “Maybe I should be growing at night. The sun is very hot. It may burn me or it may sap my energy, and the rain is very wet and it gets all over me and I am not sure I am liking of this rain and I am not sure that it is making me grow properly, and maybe I should be investigating where this rain is coming from and I should be analyzing the sunrays to be sure that I am incorporating the proper vitamins, or maybe the moon is more friendly to my growth and I would grow taller if I am growing at nighttime, while this idiot sapling next to me is being stunted by the sun.” And in the morning, the one sapling is stretching its newly formed branches and uncurling its soft leaves and growing within complete trust, and the other sapling in the morning is viewing the same sun and is looking at the beautifully formed other sapling and it is looking like this: (Here, Elias twists his body and face into a grotesque contortion)

Now; this story is about belief systems and the noticing of these belief systems. It is also about trust and connection. It also incorporates proper personal responsibility. The one trusting sapling incorporates a genuine personal responsibility in not trying to change or help the analyzing sapling, but as it grows true and strong and trusting, it radiates an example. It shines in its essence as an example to the other sapling, and as the other sapling unconvolutes itself throughout the day, it notices the straight sapling and it chooses the focus of effortlessness and trust as being easier, for it has been shown an example. Therefore, be all the trusting straight saplings, radiating your example. [session #37, September 13, 1995]

Digests: find out more about the straight little sapling.


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