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Tuesday, January 02, 2001

<  Session 751 (Private/Phone)  >

ďCommunicating with YouĒ

ďBecoming Intimate with YouĒ

ďCreating a Relationship with YouĒ

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Nicky (Candace).

Elias arrives at 3:28 PM. (Arrival time is 20 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good day, Candace!

NICKY: (Laughing) Good day to you! (Elias chuckles) And how is everything out there in cyberland?

ELIAS: As always. (Grinning)

NICKY: As always Ė I wish I could say the same! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!

NICKY: Oh my goodness! Listen, I have limited time here. I only got a thirty-minute thing, which I know youíre aware of, and so Iím looking just to get right to it, so I can get all my things into it.

ELIAS: Very well.

NICKY: This is cool? Okay. I have two questions that I need to make time for at the end, one for Mikah and one for myself, and an explanation, a definition from you on emotions. But Iím gonna give you a list here, and then Iím gonna ask you a question.

ELIAS: Very well.

NICKY: Okay. Iíve had interesting occurrences with my teeth. I have frightful, short-lived pain in my head, and since then, itís like Iím momentarily, periodically disoriented, which I associate with that pain, but Iím not really sure if itís that or just the disorientation that I experience periodically. But the very next day, I set the top of my head on fire.

Then I feel like at times, in moments, like Iím letting myself know that Iím going to be preparing myself for disengagement. Then Iím in a very emotional and withdrawn state. I can talk periodically with people, but most of the time in the past month or so, I would really rather be by myself. Iím just really topsy-turvy at times, and what Iíd like to know is if I could have your help and insight and advice. That would be helpful me now. (Elias chuckles) I know you think itís funny! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Creating quite interesting imagery, are you not?

NICKY: Yes! (Laughing) And itís come to the point where I canít even make sense of anything anymore. Mary and I were just talking, and itís like ... you know, I found the perfect word, I was telling her Ė mitote Ė and itís like, thatís the perfect word! Total chaos in my head! Iíve got five million things in my head! (1)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!

NICKY: Thatís funny too, huh? (Laughing)

ELIAS: Let me express to you first of all, in relation to your withdrawal from other individuals and your creation of movement in what you identify as a desire for aloneness physically, I say to you to allow yourself permission to create that movement.

What you are creating is a struggle. You are fighting with yourself, and in this, the incessant chatter that you are experiencing within you is an expression of continuous battle.

Now; you are creating a movement inwardly, that you desire to be allowing yourself to become intimately familiar with you. Your desire moves in an expression of wanting to create an intimate relationship with YOU.

This is an unfamiliar action, and you are not entirely objectively receiving the message that you are offering to yourself.

The message that you are attempting to be expressing to yourself is that you wish to be creating a relationship with self similar to your identification of a relationship that you may be creating with another individual.

Now; as this is the direction in which you are offering yourself a communication Ė but not entirely objectively receiving Ė you have created a type of association within you which appears to fragment yourself, in a manner of speaking, objectively, in which you view yourself interacting with yourself in a manner as though you were more than one individual.

You create this type of fragmented interaction with yourself, for there is a slight identification underlying in which you do recognize that you wish to be creating this intimate relationship with yourself in like manner to relationships that you create with other individuals. But in a manner of speaking, this concept becomes confused within you, for your association within yourself questions how you may be accomplishing that type of action, for you are one individual.

NICKY: Exactly. That did come across my mind.

ELIAS: Therefore, how may you be creating a relationship with yourself in similar manner to creating a relationship with another individual, as there is no participation of another individual, but merely the one you?

Now; in this confusion, you turn your attention outward and you project energy into interaction with other individuals, this being an expression that you create in an attempt to quell this movement or to satisfy this desire to be creating a relationship, but the word relationship implies in your definition an interaction with more than one entity.

Therefore, in an attempt to be satisfying that definition of that term of relationship, you distract yourself in turning your attention outwardly and interacting with other individuals. But this is not satisfying, for this is not the direction of your attention that you wish to be creating.

In this, the confusion persists. You continue to segment yourself in an attempt to create different entities that shall comply with the term of relationship in your definition, but this creates a contribution to the confusion objectively, and in fatigue of all of this confusion, you view yourself to be retreating in the expression of being alone physically or individually.

And once creating that situation of allowing yourself to be alone with yourself, in a manner of speaking, you allow your thoughts and influences of your beliefs to be expressing to you and influencing your perception of yourself Ė that you are creating an inappropriate and a wrong action, that you are isolating yourself, which complies with psychological beliefs that you hold that this is unhealthy, and that you are retreating within yourself and that this is not good, for this shall incorporate aspects or the beginnings of what you identify or define as depression, and as you incorporate confusion and disorientation, you reinforce the psychological beliefs, in that the action you are choosing Ė to be alone with you Ė is unacceptable.

Now; I shall express to you, what may be helpful and less conflicting within your movement is to allow yourself this time framework and this movement of acquainting yourself with you and all of the diverse aspects of you, allowing yourself to become familiar with your own communications that you offer to yourself through your emotional expressions, through your visual and sensual expressions, through your audio information. There are many avenues of communication that you offer to yourself that are all continuously moving and ARE communicating you to your objective awareness, but you are not paying attention.

You are objectively beginning to notice, but in that noticing, you are also creating a tension within yourself and expressing expectations and judgments upon yourself in which you turn your attention to your thoughts, and in turning your attention merely to your thoughts in the attempt to be overriding all of these other avenues of communication, you are not paying attention to what is being expressed. You are paying attention to the signals, but you are not paying attention to the expressions, the message, the communication.

Now; the manner in which you allow yourself to pay attention and recognize the communication is to allow yourself a calmness, to allow yourself permission to be listening to you.

Let me express to you, Candace, were you to be engaging a new type of relationship with another individual, would you not engage a time framework in which you allow yourself permission to be interactive with that individual?


ELIAS: Yes, you would, and you would allow yourself a devotion of time framework to be interactive with that individual, that you may allow yourself to offer yourself information with regard to that individual. In your terms Ė although you are not learning Ė in your terms and your definitions, you would allow yourself a time framework in which you learn about the other individual. In your terms, you would offer yourself a concentration of your attention to recognize the movements, the behaviors, the preferences, the joys, the sorrows, the expressions of that individual, would you not?


ELIAS: But you do not offer this consideration to yourself.

NICKY: But I donít know how!

ELIAS: The manner in which you create that action is very similar to the manner in which you create the action of creating a relationship objectively with another individual.

NICKY: So engage it the same way?

ELIAS: Yes. Pay attention to you. Allow yourself permission to engage time with you, to listen to you, to explore what is being expressed by you, to notice behaviors, to notice preferences, to notice your communications to you. For you communicate to you in very similar manners that communication is executed between yourself and another individual.

There are many aspects of you, not merely one, and there are many avenues in which different aspects of you communicate to your objective awareness. As you allow yourself a time framework in which you relax and calm yourself and pay attention to your own communications, you allow yourself to become familiar with you.

One of the avenues of communication that you desire to be objectively involved with is your communication between your subjective and objective awarenesses.

NICKY: Yes, thatís a strong one!

ELIAS: And in this, in similar manner to creating a relationship with another individual, you shall be experiencing difficulty in creating a relationship with another individual if you are not paying attention and if you are not listening to the communications of the other individual, shall you not?

NICKY: Right.

ELIAS: How shall you familiarize yourself with this aspect of you if you are not listening to its communication? This is the nature of your desire, Candace. This is also, in this present now, the source of your confusion.

You may be creating an intimate relationship with you, and I may express to you that this intimacy in relationship with you may be expressing much more of a fullness and a fulfillment within you than you may perceive in creating a relationship with another individual.

NICKY: That came across my mind too. I did think exactly that. I thought, oh my goodness, thatís what I want. Itís a strong thing. I wasnít aware that that was the source of the confusion, though.

ELIAS: And this is not bad and this is not wrong.

I may express to you that in this action, in allowing yourself to be paying attention to you and to your communications and creating this intimacy in relationship with you, you also subsequently shall allow yourself a much greater freedom and capacity objectively to be engaging much more of an intimacy with other individuals.

NICKY: Cool. So that was the reason ... I mean, setting my hair on fire had to do with that too? (Elias laughs and Nicky cracks up)

ELIAS: Now; I shall express to you that in this imagery that you have offered to yourself with respect to events concerning this particular physical aspect of your body, your head, this imagery engages twofold information to you.

One aspect of the information is in relation to what we are discussing, in attempting to gain your attention in paying attention to you. As you identify quite strongly the central expression of yourself and you define the central mechanism of yourself to be your mind, you create physical imagery in association with your physical head as your outward identification of your attempt to be communicating to that which you perceive to be you.

The other aspect of imagery that you are presenting to yourself, once again, is in relation to the parallel that you create with Michael.

NICKY: Really, huh?

ELIAS: As Michael has created a physical affectingness in association with an aspect of the nervous system, and is creating a physical affectingness within this same body area of head, you also parallel temporarily in a recognition of that energy and that expression.

Now; you have not created the same type of affectingness in actual physical nerves, but you have created a temporary expression of affecting the functioning of similar nerves, which creates sensations or uncomfortableness within your physical brain.

NICKY: I kinda had an inkling of that one. Can you give me ... let me see where I put it. Michael gave me a brief on your definition of or the definition of emotions, and that they are a communication and not a reaction to things happening?

ELIAS: Correct.

NICKY: Can you ... like can you be brief on exactly what is being communicated? Whether youíre happy or content or angry or hysterical or sad, whatever emotion youíre experiencing, what is the indicator?

ELIAS: The emotion that you feel is the signal, which attains your attention.

Within that signal, as you recognize it to be a communication rather than a reaction, you allow yourself to engage your thoughts in the function in which they have been designed. You incorporate your thoughts as an interpreter or a questioner of the communication. Your thoughts cooperate with your emotional communication.

In this, if you are identifying and defining your emotions to merely be a reaction, you shall create a definition of the emotion itself as a reaction. Therefore, you define in one term happy, sad, disappointed, angry, frustrated, anxious, and this is the extent of the definition that you offer to yourself.

You have merely defined the signal. You have not defined the message, for you are not looking to the message, for you define [that] there is no message. It is merely a reaction, and therefore it may be identified or defined in one term.

But as you recognize that the feeling is the signal, and within the signal is a communication, you no longer merely pay attention to the signal and the defining of the signal, but you allow the function of your thoughts to move beyond merely defining the signal.

And in this, I may express to you, as you recognize that this is a communication, your thought shall automatically move in its function, and it shall define more of what is being expressed than merely the signal.

The automatic function of thought is to translate and define communications. It defines and translates all of your communications. It translates communication that you offer to yourself through senses, inner and outer senses. It also communicates through emotion. It defines what you are communicating to your objective awareness. It is the objective translator. This is its function.

It is not a function of thought to be eliminating or overriding other avenues of communication. But as you do not define certain avenues of communication AS communication, you attempt to incorporate this tool of thought as a method in which you may override certain communications, not merely emotion. You attempt to override communications in many forms through the incorporation of thought.

You deny your visual communication at times through thought, and express to yourselves that you are incorporating trickery through your vision. You attempt to override communications through your audio, your hearing, and you express to yourselves within your thoughts that you have not heard what you have heard. You do not merely engage thought to override the communication of emotion.

You have incorporated, in a manner of speaking, a misuse of the function of thought, and this creates confusion, for thought is a tool that you have designed in objective awareness to be translating and defining other avenues of communication.

NICKY: Wow. Very interesting; very, very interesting. Okay, would it be fair to say then, in a moment of emotion, no matter what it is, that you could bring yourself to recognize that and say to yourself, wait a minute, hold it, what Iím experiencing right now is more than what I think it is?

ELIAS: Correct....

NICKY: Would your thought then ... would you allow yourself to be less restrictive and go beyond just the psychological point of the emotion at the time?

ELIAS: Correct. I may express to you, it is unnecessary that you even incorporate that extensiveness of identification. Merely the identification that you are offering yourself a communication is sufficient, for your thoughts function automatically.

Your thought knows what its function is. It creates this function of interpretation of definition and of translation automatically, for this is its natural function, just as your physical organs function automatically. They know what their function is in design. You need not be thinking and directing of them. They automatically function in the design in which they have been created.

Thought also is a function, and it knows what its function is. YOU have created additional movements with thought, and have created associations of thought which are different from its actual function.

NICKY: Wow. Okay, Iím noticing the time, and Iím gonna have to be going. I have one more question from Mikah, okay? He wants to know if thereís anything that you can offer that he should be aware of, or anything that might be helpful to him before he leaves.

ELIAS: Ha ha ha!

NICKY: You think thatís funny, huh? (Laughing)

ELIAS: You may express to Mikah to relax!

NICKY: Relax?

ELIAS: This may be most helpful! Ha ha ha ha! (Nicky cracks up and Elias chuckles) Ha ha! As always, he is creating tremendous tension Ė ha ha ha! Ė and it may be quite beneficial that he allow himself to be relaxing. Trust!

NICKY: Okay, trust. We were just talking about that word also, trust, and what it means, what it really means. Mary gave a good one, that it was just to be, to just let something be.

ELIAS: Quite. I am in agreement with this definition.

NICKY: Yeah, that was very interesting and very helpful.

Okay, my absolute bestest bag of wind...! (Laughing)


NICKY: I must say adieu! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Very well, my friend, and we shall meet again, and I shall be anticipating interaction with you futurely in physical proximity!

NICKY: So I hear! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha! We shall encounter each other once again in the physical expression!

NICKY: And this is so good! (They both laugh)

ELIAS: I express to you great affection and encouragement in the suggestion that you allow yourself to relax within you, and explore this intimate relationship that you desire to be creating with yourself.

NICKY: Thank you. I very much appreciate your helpfulness.

ELIAS: You are very welcome, my friend. I express to you in great lovingness this day, au revoir.

NICKY: Au revoir.

Elias departs at 4:10 PM.


(1) According to Nicky, the word mitote (mi-toeítay) is an American Indian word that means chaos. She wasnít sure of the spelling.

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