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Saturday, January 20, 2001

<  Session 761 (Private)  >

ďRelationships/Creating What You WantĒ

ďThe Objective Imagery Matters NotĒ

ďInteractions Between SoftiesĒ

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Daryl (Ashrah).

Elias arrives at 11:25 AM. (Arrival time is 25 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good day!

DARYL: Hello!

ELIAS: Ah, and we meet in physical proximity!

DARYL: Yes, we do!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!

DARYL: (Laughing) Itís a pleasure, Elias.

ELIAS: And how shall we proceed this day?

DARYL: Well, thereís a bunch of stuff I want to talk to you about. I guess Iíll start with my last session. It was really intense and one of the hardest things Iíve done, but I did make a turn in that session and began to open to discovering myself and my natural flow. I guess one of the things I would like to check with you about is that I notice, as a result of opening somewhat, that Iíve developed an increased interaction with someone that I know and like, and Iím very pleased that that happened, and it was quite a surprise to me!

ELIAS: Ah! Presenting yourself with new imagery and expressions of freedom!

DARYL: Yes, and Iím also, I guess, a little bit scared about what Iím doing. Imagine that Ė me scared! (They both crack up)

ELIAS: Quite an unfamiliar experience that you have created! HA HA!

DARYL: So I guess I would like to talk some about whether or not I am indeed changing out of my old patterns, or whether Iím just doing like a new variation on what I used to do, in terms of relationships.

ELIAS: And express to me, Ashrah, what is your impression, and what do you view that you are creating, and what is the expression of the fear that you are wrestling with presently? (Chuckling) For we both have the awareness that you are wrestling with the fear! Ha!

DARYL: I guess my impression is that I went ahead and started creating exactly what I wanted.

ELIAS: Ah! Terror!

DARYL: (Laughing) In a way, but also really exciting when I feel like I am creating it. But then when I feel like Iím just gonna go and do what Iíve done before, it gets scary. Because for one thing, I donít want to do that, and for another thing, Iím really happy with what Iíve created so far. Iíve also asked myself, am I doing this at a distance to keep myself at a distance from it, instead of doing something more locally where I live?

ELIAS: And your responses to yourself are what?

DARYL: That Iím creating what I want to create, and it just happens to not be where I live.

ELIAS: Now; in examination of your movement into a new freedom and an expression of allowing yourself to create, do you also view the areas in your expression in which you are continuing to reserve your expression, and doubt that you are in actuality creating....

DARYL: Yeah, I feel myself flipping back and forth.

ELIAS: Quite.

Now; let me also express to you that this is quite common. You are moving into an area of expression which is unfamiliar. You are allowing yourself a new expression of freedom, and I may express to you, many individuals in this present time framework are experiencing very similar type of movement, and experiencing very similar confusion, and the bouncing, so to speak, in what you term to be back and forth. This is quite common, for you move in the familiar expressions, but you are discovering within your objective awareness that you also incorporate more choices, and you are allowing yourself to view that you indeed hold the ability to create what you want.

In that, as you allow yourself to create what you want and you move into that expression, the bouncing appears in the moments that you automatically move back into the expression of turning your attention outwardly and placing your attention upon outside situations or individuals, as you are aware.

Now; as you move your attention to the other individual, you also move your attention away from what you are creating and place the attention upon the other individual, for this is familiar, and this creates an expectation that the other individual shall create what you want.

Let me express to you, as I have offered previously in other examples and with many individuals, creating your reality in what you want is the reverse of that action.

As you allow yourself genuinely to continue to focus upon self, and offer yourself permission Ė which presents a challenge Ė to create what you want....

DARYL: Part of me just says, this is just some kind of fantasy, and stop fooling yourself.

ELIAS: Ah! This is the pitfall. That expression, that movement, those thoughts and that communication that you offer to yourself through the emotional expression is the statement that you offer to yourself in validation of what you are creating. It is the doubt. It is the expression to be reminding you that your attention is moving outside of yourself.

DARYL: So if I find myself thinking that, I can reverse course and go back inside.

ELIAS: Yes, for as you notice that you are moving in that type of an expression, you are offering yourself the opportunity of choice.

If you are not noticing, or if you are allowing yourself to move into the familiar expression and the doubt and turning your attention outside of yourself, you stop allowing yourself to be creating what you want, and you allow the beliefs and the familiarity of attention to dictate to you that you do not hold this ability and that you may not be creating what you want, and you deny yourself your expression, your natural flow, your creation.

DARYL: I even start denying that I want it! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Are you not quite efficient in this expression of duplicity and camouflage, and quite efficient at justifying that familiarity, which holds you in a position of not allowing yourself to move into new freedoms?

DARYL: ĎCause this situation, the way Iíve created it, has those factors kind of built in, like ... I donít know. It could be very useful for learning a lot.

ELIAS: Quite.

You are presenting yourself with many aspects of your own movement, your own associations, your own beliefs, that you may be allowing yourself a genuine examination, and in this also, a tremendous opportunity to practice allowing yourself to create.

In this also, be reminding yourself quite genuinely, it matters not what is created in objective imagery. This is in actuality one of the most difficult obstacles that each of you presents yourselves with, and genuinely the most obvious expression of the unfamiliarity.

In allowing yourself to be creating your reality in what you want, the power of that is expressed through perception. The imagery that is presented outside of you is merely presented as a reflection of what you are creating within you.

Therefore, as you view yourself to be encountering an obstacle or a disappointment, it is not the expression of the other individual that matters. This is merely a reflection to you, offering you information of what you are already creating Ė for you ARE creating that expression Ė and this offers you the opportunity to view the expressions in which you deny yourself your own movement in your own expression of freedom and your own choices.

Your reality, ALL of it, even other individuals, is created by you.

Therefore, as you begin movement more into this new expression, and you remind yourself objectively that you hold the choice to create what you want Ė it is merely a matter of offering yourself permission to be creating that want Ė you may notice the moments in which you move into the automatic familiar expressions and behaviors that are denying your choice.

DARYL: Yes. I hit myself over the head with that last night!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha! (Daryl laughs) But do not chastise yourself in these noticings. Recognize that this is an opportunity, for were you not to be noticing, you also would not offer yourself the choice.

DARYL: I also felt where I would have gone in the past, but I wouldnít go there. I kind of go to the edge of it, and then I go, this is up to me, I donít have to do that, and then I come back to that point in a little while. But I never went there, where I would have gone about a year ago. So that was interesting.

ELIAS: And validating. But it is unfamiliar territory, is it not?

DARYL: It certainly is!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! You may be acknowledging of yourself, for this is in actuality a movement of this shift. For as you allow yourself the evidence, so to speak, in viewing what you are creating and allowing yourself to be creating your wants, you also allow yourself freedom within your movement in all other directions ... and the vastness of reality that may be presenting itself to you! How glorious!

DARYL: Yeah, it is!

ELIAS: (Chuckling) My expression to you, in recognition of what you are experimenting with in your individual creation and your movement Ė and I hold an awareness of what you are attempting to allow yourself to be creating Ė and in this, I may say to you, beware of your own discouragement, for it is your greatest obstacle. View your expression of discouragement as an aspect of the familiar monster, and in that, you may draw your sword and express to it, ďNo, I shall offer myself permission to be creating what I choose regardless.Ē Ha ha ha ha ha!

DARYL: Okay, the next part is kind of related. Iím interested in information that would help me to move along in opening to my natural flow, and Iíve realized through this that I have a lot of beliefs and fears about being in a relationship and losing myself, because I feel like Iím just beginning to open to myself. I have all these patterns of not exactly getting rid of me, but I donít know ... like altering, I would say, altering myself in relationship to another person.

ELIAS: And the familiarity of your own movement and your own expression Ė attempting to become invisible.

DARYL: You would bring that up, wouldnít you? (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!

DARYL: Yeah. (Laughing, and Elias chuckles) I can tell when Iíve achieved true invisibility too! (Laughing)

ELIAS: (Chuckling) Quite, for this is quite familiar!

DARYL: Yes! (Elias chuckles) So, Iím unsure. I know that Iím moving in this area and Iíve opened to it, but Iím unsure how to encourage it, except to notice whatís happening.

ELIAS: This is your greatest tool, allowing yourself to continue to be noticing and paying attention, and as you continue to be noticing, in relation to that noticing, allow yourself also to continue to hold your attention within you.

DARYL: Thatís hard when Iím interacting! (Laughing)

ELIAS: I hold an awareness of the ease of moving your attention away from self in these types of expressions. But this is of ultimate significance and what shall offer you, in a manner of speaking, a strength in allowing yourself to continue movement in a natural flow, without the insertion of tremendous obstacles which are presented by those aspects of you that create the automatic responses.

What I am expressing to you, Ashrah, is to be noticing the moments in which you are experiencing that tension and doubt, those expressions that you offer to yourself in an association with fantasy or that you are not genuinely creating this movement Ė [that] you are delusional! (grinning, and Daryl laughs) Ė and in those moments, recognize that your attention is not held within self. In each of those moments that you are experiencing those expressions, your attention is not within you. This is genuine, for as your attention IS within you and concentrating upon what YOU are choosing, you do not present yourself with those expressions, those doubts, those associations of being delusional.

DARYL: Yeah, I feel powerful.

ELIAS: Quite. That delusional expression is created in association with your attention moving outside of yourself and attempting to be viewing your creation through the perception of another individual, and the individual needs not be in actuality identified, or an actual individual. It may be, in your terms, as vague objectively as merely attempting to be perceiving yourself through the perception of ANY other individual. THAT is the expression of delusion, for all of the other individuals ARE you! Ha ha ha! Therefore, you may not be offering yourself the expression of another individualís perception of you, for it shall be your perception of you regardless! Ha ha ha!

DARYL: (Laughing) Okay. Another thing regarding natural flows is, Iíve felt drawn to doing certain things lately, one of which is being more involved with music again. Is that all part of my natural flow?


DARYL: Because Iíve felt in the past like Iíve cut off avenues, so to speak, and that was one of them, and now I feel like drawn and Iím trying to just go with things like that.

ELIAS: And allow yourself more of an opening to your choices in relation to your own expression of creativity. These are all aspects of your movement presently, allowing yourself to become more familiar with you and your own expression.

As we have discussed, you are quite familiar with the expression of becoming invisible. Therefore, if your attention is being created in a direction of being invisible, you are denying yourself your viewing of you, not merely what you perceive to be other individualsí viewing of you. You are attempting to eliminate your expression from your own view, and in that, how shall you be familiar with you or recognize all of your expressions of creativity, or be exploring you as the being that you are and simultaneously be attempting to eliminate the being that you are? (Chuckling, and Daryl laughs)

These expressions are in opposition to each other, are they not?

DARYL: Yes, they are!

ELIAS: But now, within this present time framework, subsequent to your movement in slaying the monster and moving yourself out of the box that you have created, you are now beginning your exploration.

[This] is the beginning movement in creating a relationship with you, which is in actuality of ultimate significance. For in not creating a relationship with you, you also shall not create the byproduct of creating relationships with other individuals in the manner that you wish to be.

DARYL: Okay. I want to ask you something about my eyes. Weíve discussed them before, and I think I hold a pretty good understanding of why theyíre doing what they do. Iíve also noticed that during my interactions, my eyes start hurting as if I had been doing something very strenuous with them, when in fact I hadnít been doing anything at all, and this has gotten my attention and made me aware that itís still there. Is there some information that Iím missing about that?

ELIAS: This is movement also, very much in conjunction with what you are creating within yourself. You are creating a physical expression through the direction of vision as an outward expression of your own direction.

As you interact with another individual and you are experiencing this physical affectingness of your vision, and it appears to you that your physical eyes are becoming fatigued, and it becomes difficult for your focusing for your physical vision is fatigued, you are mirroring to yourself a communication of what you are in actuality creating inwardly.

Your direction presently that you have chosen is to be offering yourself this relationship with you and concentrating your attention inwardly, recognizing that all of your reality is an aspect of you and what you are choosing and what you are creating, and within your interactions with other individuals, in the moments that you are turning your attention outwardly, your vision becomes fatigued.

DARYL: Oh, okay! I hadnít correlated that.

ELIAS: Let me express to you, all of your senses, your outer senses and your inner senses, are all avenues of communication. Your physical body expression offers another avenue of communication. Your emotions are another avenue of communication. You incorporate MANYavenues of communication, and all of these avenues express to you a message, so to speak, concerning what you are creating.

Many, many, many times, individuals engage conversation with myself in relation to their subjective awareness, and express the confusion concerning their subjective awareness, that it be hidden from them and not expressed in a manner in which they hold the ability to interpret its movement. All of these avenues of communication you have created to allow yourself a clear, recognizable understanding, within your objective awareness, of what you are in the moment creating and the harmony of the subjective and the objective.

In actuality, your objective expressions, your objective imagery, is more abstract than your subjective. Once again, your associations are reverse. You view your objective reality in solidity, in absolutes, in a manner in which you think to yourselves that you hold a tremendous clarity as to the identifications of all that is within your objective awareness.

In actuality, the example of your vision is quite informative as to the actual abstractness of your objective creations, and the directness and clarity of the subjective identification of what you are creating. For within this example, your vision is affected. Your eyes are experiencing fatigue, or your association with the movement and the expression of your eyes is that they be fatigued, and this may be identified or defined through your thought in recognizing this one definition of fatigue, and in relation to the thoughts that you project in that identification, you also create confusion.

The subjective is creating the expression as a communication: You are focusing your attention presently outside of yourself, and this is fatiguing.

DARYL: Okay, thank you. Um....

ELIAS: Let me express to you also, have you not offered yourself an experience recently which is quite similar to this type of communication interaction, that you may hold in your objective awareness more of an understanding of what is in actuality occurring in these experiences? Have you not offered yourself an experience of visual image, and the attempt to be creating a translation into language?

DARYL: Yes. (Laughing)

ELIAS: And which do you view to be more encompassingly expressive and clear?

DARYL: The visual.

ELIAS: Correct, and....

DARYL: Even though it was quite foreign to me.

ELIAS: And in this, the expression of the subjective communication through the action of the vision is clear and precise. The understanding of the objective is abstract and confusing.

DARYL: Yeah, because Iím also feeling like Iím much more aware of subjective interaction and activity going on. Sometimes I feel like I understand the content and sometimes I donít, but I seem to be much more aware of things going on.

ELIAS: And in this also, you may be creating more of an ease in familiarizing yourself with your communications, for you already allow yourself an awareness of your subjective movement.

DARYL: (Sighing) Yeah, Iíve had kind of a wild week, as you know!


DARYL: Iíve been talking to you about that as the week goes on! (Elias chuckles)

Another thing I wanted to check with you about is my bird Dusty, because I have a history of birds choosing to disengage while Iím undergoing major changes, and I have some concern about her choosing to do that because Iím going through some of the changes right now.

ELIAS: And I may express to you, this may be another expression that you shall allow yourself to be noticing and holding an awareness of.

For be remembering, you are creating your reality. Therefore, if you are projecting an expectation and you are concentrating your attention and your energy in a particular expression, this is what you shall create. But you hold choice.

DARYL: Okay. So it isnít like sheís made a choice.

ELIAS: No. But there is a participation between yourself and between the creature, and the creature is compliant with your energy. Therefore, it is also responsive.

This is not to say that you are creating the choices for the creature, for you are not. But you are interactive and you do hold influence, for the creature does not hold beliefs. Therefore, it is merely responsive in compliance with your energy.

DARYL: Well, I know she is very responsive to me, because she helps me with all my mirroring stuff. When I donít have people around, she does it! (Laughing)

ELIAS: (Chuckling) Quite efficient!

DARYL: Yes, she is! (Laughing, and Elias chuckles)

When we were having the whole election thing go on this past fall, I had an extremely vivid and detailed dream about a woman who lives in Florida who was involved on some level, like as a precinct captain or something, in the elections as a Democrat. It was so vivid and real to me that I wondered if she was another focus of mine. (Pause)

ELIAS: No. In actuality, what you have allowed yourself is an actual participation with movement in relation to that mass event.

In this, you have allowed yourself to be projecting, in a manner of speaking, an aspect of your consciousness into a mergence with another individual to be physically experiencing the participation of this mass event, rather than merely the participation and experience that you naturally offer to yourself through your orientation of soft. In mass events, you naturally, in relation to your orientation, hold an awareness of your participation as being an aspect of what you identify or term to be the whole. But in this experience, you have allowed yourself to move in a different type of expression, allowing yourself an actual projection of energy into a physical participation also.

DARYL: ĎCause it was ... I havenít been aware of a lot of merging objectively. It was much more complete than the one I did, I donít know, 20 years ago, which was just momentary. This was like being inside and knowing her entire relationship with her family.

ELIAS: Quite.

DARYL: And just all the things that were going on with her.

ELIAS: And this is quite understandable, in actuality, for you are allowing yourself much more of an exploration of you, and you are creating a different direction in your movement, moving outside of the attempt of invisibility and moving into the exploration of being, and in this, you are offering yourself experiences of movement and how you may be manipulating your own energy, and presenting yourself with experiences that validate your abilities.

DARYL: Okay. I was also wondering if that individual holds the orientation of common.


DARYL: Okay, because I felt like the perception was different. Okay, thatís interesting too!

ELIAS: Do you not present yourself with much excitement now?!

DARYL: Yes, I have been! (Laughing, and Elias chuckles)

Another thing I want to know about is, I believe that Iíve begun to identify the soft dual response when itís taking place in me to some extent; Iím not saying all the time, but I believe Iím getting better at identifying it, and that just being aware of it has been kind of softening it, so it doesnít get so out of hand so fast! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha! Ah, and notice the immediate association in judgment of control! (Chuckling)

DARYL: Well, it just seems like it can be like a sudden wildfire, and Iím kind of going, what happened here? (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha! But as you allow yourself to be accepting, and RELAX....

DARYL: Relax? Oh, come on! (Laughing)

ELIAS: This continues to present itself as a challenge, does it not? Ha ha ha ha!

DARYL: In every moment!


DARYL: Okay, so just kind of go with the flow a little bit, and notice it, and try not to squash it.

ELIAS: (Humorously) Ah, yes. This is the suggestion of the great and powerful and holy Elias! HA HA HA HA HA!

DARYL: Okay. Also, Iíve been having this problem with my toilet for a couple of years, and its gotten vastly worse in the last month, and I wondered if that also is imagery of a natural flow.

ELIAS: (Chuckling) Or the lack of!

DARYL: Well, yes Ė the lack of! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!

DARYL: The diversion of!

ELIAS: Ah! (Chuckling)

DARYL: So that would be correct then?

ELIAS: Yes. (Chuckling)

DARYL: Okay. Another thing weíve been working on is that Iíve expressed the desire to learn how to have objective communication with you without Michaelís assistance, and weíve been interacting in this, and I must say, weíve been having some fun with it. I wondered if there was anything that you wanted to offer me objectively. I do recognize that Iíve started doing some things a little differently, that I feel are in response to that desire on my part.

ELIAS: Correct, and allowing yourself more of an openness to the interaction. I may express to you simply, allow yourself a continuing expression of playfulness, for I may express to you, I am quite playful!

DARYL: Yes, Iíve been noticing that more and more! (Laughing)

ELIAS: (Chuckling) And you may also be practicing in your relaxation! (Chuckling)

DARYL: Okay! Letís see. (Pause) I guess also, is there anything you would like to add in addition to what weíve already covered about soft/soft interaction? Iíve gone over what youíve told me, and also some information that youíve given to other people, and if there is anything you feel would be useful to add at this time....

ELIAS: I may express to you, quite in relation to our discussion this day, your most efficient expression, in relation to interaction with another individual holding this orientation of soft, shall be to hold your attention upon you. For as you project your attention outward and hold your attention upon the other individual, as another soft orientation individual, you may be encountering great challenges. For as I have expressed previously, soft individuals, in your terms, hold an expertise in tossing the ball to the other individual, and in that action, what I am expressing is that you are each quite efficient at immediately projecting the reflection to other individuals. You automatically create this action.

DARYL: Iím not clear on what youíre saying.

ELIAS: As you interact with other individuals, regardless of their orientation, as a soft individual, you automatically create a reflection of each individual that you encounter, so to speak. It requires no thought. It requires no communication within yourself. It is an automatic action that is created in association with this particular orientation. You are all quite efficient at creating this immediate reflection to other individuals. Other individuals many times experience an ease in viewing their own expressions through the reflection of you as a soft orientation.

Objectively, for the most part, each of you does not pay attention to that automatic reflecting action that you create. It is an automatic action. But as you encounter each other as soft individuals, allowing yourself an awareness that this is an automatic action that you create, you do not merely receive the reflection. You present the reflection also.

Now; in this, as you turn your attention to the other individual, you no longer are holding your attention upon you and paying attention to the reflection you are presenting yourself with, and you are not paying attention to the reflection you are offering. Therefore, in interaction with another soft individual, it is most beneficial to you to hold your attention within you, for you shall present yourself with much less confusion and much less conflict than you shall move into with this particular orientation and the interactions of it. (Chuckling)

DARYL: Well, that certainly is the theme of the day Ė attention within me! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ah! (Chuckling)

DARYL: One other thing Iím kinda curious about is, Iíve been aware of all this energy around this year, and in objective reality, weíve created an oil shortage. California, where I live, is undergoing rotating blackouts because we donít have enough electricity, and now they are talking about not enough natural gas, and Iím curious. To me, thereís all kinds of energy around, but then reality is saying we donít have enough to get through the next hour. Whatís that about?

ELIAS: And I may express to you, mass expressions are a reflection of the individual expressions, and in this, many, many, many individuals are presenting themselves, in relation to this wave in consciousness addressing to the belief system of duplicity, their identification and definition of their own individual energy, and that they hold Ė or believe themselves to hold Ė a limited supply, and presenting themselves now with the movement into a recognition that they do NOT hold a limited supply of energy.

DARYL: So then different imagery will be expressed objectively?

ELIAS: As the individuals allow themselves the recognition that they do not hold a limited supply of energy within themselves, this shall also be reflected outwardly, in your terms, in mass expression.

DARYL: Now, this is centered geographically in California, and I have always felt that California has a real flair for drama.

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!

DARYL: It likes things extreme, and it also likes getting the attention of a lot of other areas. Is that one reason that itís occurring here most severely?

ELIAS: There are other expressions of this type or similar in other areas also, but you are correct that individuals that draw themselves to this particular physical location have, in your physical terms, congregated in like expression to be creating this drama, and in that expression, you do quite flamboyantly create mass events, so to speak, that shall be quite expressive and in many situations extreme.

DARYL: Okay. (Elias chuckles) Thatís what it seems like alright!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!

DARYL: Okay. Well, our time for today is up, although Iíll get to see you later at the group session.

ELIAS: Ah yes! (Chuckling)

DARYL: So this has been very enjoyable, meeting with you in person, and I really want to, I donít know, keep going with my movement, and I appreciate your assistance and energy in that area.

ELIAS: And I shall continue to be ... and encouraging with you.

DARYL: Okay, and Iím gonna keep talking to you out loud!

ELIAS: Very well! And I shall continue to play!

DARYL: Okay! (Laughing)

ELIAS: HA HA! And I shall express to you, within your physical time framework, until later as we meet! (Chuckling) Adieu, my friend.

DARYL: Adieu.

Elias departs at 12:25 PM.

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