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Thursday, June 29, 2000

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ďUncomfortable FamiliarityĒ

ďThe Orientation of SoftĒ

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Daryl (Ashrah).

Elias arrives at 3:33 PM. (Arrival time is 22 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good afternoon!

DARYL: Hi there! (Elias chuckles)

Okay, I guess I want to start out briefly talking about the throat and breathing constriction, but I donít want to spend a lot of time on it.

In the last session, I felt a change actually during the session, where I started, I guess, understanding acceptance a little more and moving more in that direction. Iíve also read your transcript about patience, tolerance, and acceptance, which was really helpful to me, especially the part about tolerance.

Anyway, my breathing problems decreased, and I ended up having like a residual constriction and stuff in my throat, which has been very mild, and Iíve taken that to understand that when it occurs, itís an expression of fear, and I thought I was understanding that pretty well, and then last night I had a short period again of my breathing actually becoming constricted, and I wondered, was that also an expression of fear, or is there something else Iím trying to draw to my attention?

ELIAS: Your assessment is correct. This presentment of fear, as you are aware, continues to express itself within different moments and present itself as an expression in different manners, as you continue to address to all of the elements of this fear and move through this issue in its entirety.

DARYL: Okay. The part last night, did that have anything to do with having a session today?

ELIAS: Partially.

DARYL: Okay, alright. One other thing Iíve noticed in conjunction with that is that I feel the relationship between my throat and the energy entity, and thereís been a change in that. I donít know how to describe it exactly, but itís like the energy seems to be thicker or something, and it seems sour, or something like that, compared to before, and I was wondering what that has to do with.

ELIAS: This is your creation of association with this fear, and moving yourself into an identification of it that is less comfortable and less acceptable, which shall increase your motivation in your continuation of addressing to it.

DARYL: Okay, Ďcause thereís also ... Iíve kind of become conditioned to the other, so Iím not noticing it, and this has kind of gotten my attention again.

ELIAS: Quite, and this is the reason that you are creating this type of expression and identification, for in what you term to be an ongoing process, there is a leaning within individuals to become unmotivated and bored, and at times complacent with their interaction with the same subject matter, so to speak.

Therefore, in your desire to be continuing in your addressing to this particular issue to the point that you have moved through it in its entirety, you create new expressions and different expressions to continue your motivation and to continue holding your attention.

DARYL: Okay. Thatís real helpful. Thank you.

The main thing I wanted to talk about today is something that you touched on last time, when you talked about my lack of acceptance of self within my orientation because it doesnít fit. You mentioned at that time that it influenced my fear, duplicity, lack of trust, lack of acceptance, and my acknowledgment of my abilities and choices, but you also said that you didnít want to overwhelm me with information at that time, and I feel that I could take in a lot of information on that particular subject right now, so I would like you to expound on that for a while.

ELIAS: (Chuckling) The expression may be, ďI am ready now, Elias!Ē

DARYL: Yeah, I am. I feel like Iím ready now, and Iíve even felt like weíve had interaction regarding this for the past couple days, in preparation.

ELIAS: You are correct.

DARYL: Okay. (Elias chuckles) So, lay it on me!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! Very well.

Let me express to you first of all, individuals within your physical focus, yourself also, create expressions and directions that may, in part, seem uncomfortable but become comfortable, in a manner of speaking, for even in the expression of uncomfortableness, there is a familiarity which creates an element of comfort.

As you have moved within your focus and have attempted to be fitting yourself into expressions and directions that are not necessarily objectively compatible, so to speak, with your natural flow of energy in relation to your orientation, you create Ė and have created previously Ė an action of withdrawal.

Now; let me clarify. I am expressing to you presently of actions that were created initially much time framework ago, so to speak, within what you identify as past, and we shall discuss this situation in relation to your identifications of past and present and future, for this may be temporarily, in this situation, an efficient manner in which we may be engaging this subject.

In this, many, many, many years, so to speak, past, you moved in a direction of attempting to be channeling your energy expression in certain directions to be conforming and fitting, so to speak, into the design of objective reality that you perceived to be acceptable, and created a movement in attempting to alter some of your natural expressions, recognizing that they naturally were not the same as other individuals.

But this type of action was not continued within you for what we may express as the majority of time framework, for at a point within your focus, you turned and created a choice Ė that you allowed yourself to be recognizing the extreme difficulty in attempting to be fitting, but not allowing yourself the recognition that your natural expression was acceptable.

Therefore, you chose to be withdrawing, and in this withdrawal, the underlying element of fear that had already been created, in a type of expression of the sleeping monster, became awakened. For as you withdrew, this monster became bigger and bigger, for this also is a movement contrary to your natural flow of energy.

But you have become so familiar with the expression that you have chosen that the movement into the allowance of your natural expression creates a reinforcement of the fear that you already express, for the movement in your natural flow of energy is so unfamiliar within your objective perception that it is more acceptable, within your reality, to be continuing in the uncomfortable creations and movement of energy than to be moving out of that safety into the unfamiliar expression, which is YOU.

Now; in this, the movement of energy within time frameworks crosses over itself, in a manner of speaking, creating what may be viewed as a confusing grid of energy with what appears to be no boundaries, but merely continuing in the extension of the lines, in a manner of speaking.

For in actuality, you are creating all of this movement now. You are creating all of the past movement and all of the future movement now. This be the reason that I direct your attention so often to viewing and noticing what you are creating within the now, for this is in actuality creating the other time frameworks also, simultaneously.

As you continue to view, in clarity and in sharpness, aspects of the expression of fear that have been expressed pastly, you may also allow yourself the recognition that the reason you identify within a sharpness is that you are continuing to be creating that expression now. Therefore, there continues to be a clarity in relation to that experience in association with the past.

As you alter your expression within the present, and you dissipate the element of fear within the present, and you allow a natural flow of your energy in association with your orientation in the present, the expressions of the past that once held a clearness and a sharpness begin to blur, in a manner of speaking. They lose their sharpness, for the present is altering of the past.

It is not that you are losing, so to speak, your memory of certain actions or feelings or events within the past, but that the present is in actuality changing the actions and the experiences of the past.

This also moves in relation to future. A very similar action is at play, so to speak, in your creation of future.

Now; as you look to your past and you view a clarity and a sharpness in your identification of certain experiences, as I have stated, you may also allow yourself to be identifying that you are continuing to be creating that type of movement presently.

In relation to orientation and what I have expressed to you with regard to becoming comfortable within the uncomfortable Ė for it provides you with familiarity, and this becomes an assessment of safety Ė you may look to experiences that you have created for an extended time framework pastly, and the comfort, being stronger in recognition than the discomfort, holds your attention in the continuation of the non-acknowledgment of your natural movement.

Let me offer to you an example.

Within your focus, you have chosen to be creating a certain expression of lack of interaction with other individuals, correct?


ELIAS: Very well.

This has been a choice that you have engaged, and you have engaged this choice, offering yourself the explanation of that choice: that you experience fear in relation to other individuals, and this creates a tremendous feeling of a lack of safety within yourself, and although you may wish to be interactive with some individuals or you may be wishing to create certain types of relationships with some individuals, you view the uncomfortableness of a lack of interaction to be less threatening and less fearful than the natural flow of your energy.

Now; returning to the identification of past experiences and choices, this situation and direction of attention that you have created has been influenced by your recognition much time framework ago, in a manner of speaking, that your natural expression may not be what you identify as the same as other individuals.

This creates a questioning within self, a doubt within self concerning your abilities, concerning your acceptability in relation to other individuals, and also in relation to your own assessment of self.

And in that identification of a lack of acceptability of self Ė in the identification of your natural flow of energy and the recognition of difference Ė you have chosen to be withdrawing yourself from your natural flow of expression, for you have not offered yourself the recognition objectively of how you may be expressing yourself in your natural flow of energy and expressions, and also fitting into the identification of the sameness with other individuals.

Now; let me express to you, individuals within your physical dimension seek out sameness. YOU seek out sameness. The reason that you seek out sameness is that this expression provides you, within your perception, a validation of self. It is the manner in which you offer to yourself your validation, which offers you your assessment of acceptability of self.

And as you look outside of self for your validation, you create comparisons between yourself and other individuals, between your behaviors and other individualsí behaviors, between your choices and other individualsí choices, and if you are assessing within your perception that they be similar or the same, you offer a validation to yourself, for you have forgotten how to be turning your attention to self and offering yourself your validations within self.

Therefore, you automatically turn your attention outside of self and seek out your validation through this method. As you view any expression outside of yourself that holds difference to yourself, you assess that you must be malfunctioning or that your behavior, your choices, your expressions are unacceptable.

In situations many times with individuals that are creating a manifestation holding the orientation of soft, the individual views many expressions that appear obviously different in their natural expression from their comparison to other individuals.

You base your assessment of yourself upon your experiences within this physical manifestation. Therefore, if your experiences are consistently moving in a direction of recognition that your expression is different from other individualsí expressions, you are repeatedly discounting of self, and through the movement of a time framework, individuals may move in the expression of retreat. They may move in the expression of anger. They may move in the expression of fear, complacency. They may create an expression of disengaging their allowance for emotional expression. They may express emotional qualities in extreme.

There are many different types of responses, so to speak, that individuals engage, but the underlying reason, so to speak Ė if you need be offering yourself a reason Ė is that the individual is not comfortable or offering themselves a feeling of safety, and is not expressing an acceptability within self if they are expressing their natural flow of energy.

In this, as I have stated, in many areas within yourself, you have become comfortable in the uncomfortableness of not expressing your natural flow of energy. You allow yourself moments of expression in a natural flow in isolation, so to speak. You allow yourself the safety of your expression in aloneness, but in that aloneness, you are also not allowing yourself to be expressing other aspects of your natural flow of energy.

DARYL: So thatís one reason that I do like being alone, Ďcause I do feel, at times, it frees me up to be me.

ELIAS: Quite, and I am understanding of your choice in this expression, but it also creates a reinforcement of the fear, for you hold yourself in this constraint of your energy, and you only allow a free flow of that energy within certain time frameworks in which you create what you perceive to be an atmosphere of safety, and this atmosphere of safety, within your perception, does not include interaction with other individuals.

DARYL: No, it doesnít. (Laughing, and Elias chuckles)

ELIAS: But as you are aware and may view within yourself, although you may be creating this environment of safety in this aloneness, you also obviously view how that choice creates a reinforcement of the fear, and creates more and more of a separation between yourself and other individuals.

But you continue to hold the desire to be interactive with other individuals. I am not expressing that you hold a desire to be interactive with crowds, but you block yourself from interaction with ANY individuals, and this moves contrary to your natural flow of energy, and you are recognizing of that, for it creates an uncomfortableness within you and within your experience, one that you wish to be altering.

But the fear has been reinforced to a tremendous extent, and in that, as you stand before the entity, so to speak, its girth becomes so very wide that you hold difficulty in viewing around it and what may lie beyond it.

DARYL: I know that I feel pretty inept at trying to be around other people, and I have a tendency to just say, ďThis is boring and I want to get away.Ē But I know a lot of it has to do with just feeling, I think, my difference between them and me, and not knowing how to deal with it.

ELIAS: And this be the reason that I continue to be discussing with you, and expressing to you to turn your attention to self. For as you continue to allow yourself to become more and more familiar with yourself, and you allow yourself to move into the expression of acceptance with self, what you accomplish in this action is the thrust of energy which strikes down the entity of fear to the degree that it becomes very small, and as it becomes very small, you allow yourself the opportunity to clear your vision and view beyond it.

But first, there is importance in the action of offering yourself the expression of acceptability. For if you are not, in a manner of speaking, armed with your knowing of acceptance and acceptability of self, as you encounter difference outside of yourself, you shall automatically move in the familiar expressions of experiencing threateningness and retreating once again into the expression of fear, for this is the manifestation of your lack of acceptance within self.

Therefore, the method, so to speak, to be moving beyond the fear and into the allowance of your natural expression in its fullness is to be first turning your attention to self, and offering that acceptance to self first. (Pause)

DARYL: Okay. Well, I guess I understand, and I am slowly moving in that direction.

ELIAS: Yes, you are, and I shall express to you, as you are also aware, you are not so very slowly creating this movement. You are in actuality creating great strides within your individual movement. (Pause)

DARYL: Okay. (Sighing, and Elias chuckles) I know I am. Itís just quite a long way to go, from where Iíve been to where I want to get to.

ELIAS: Or you may allow yourself, in those types of terms, the recognition of the long way you have come from where you have been!

DARYL: Um-hmm. Now, recently I find myself in a situation where Iíve actually met some people, and then they want to do things, and I have this inclination in many cases to not want to do something. Iíd rather be alone, and as I said before, I feel ... I donít know, like being alone can be a lot more satisfying, and I donít feel bored and uncomfortable and those other things.

Now, in my no-conflict situation, is that to remain being alone until turning my attention to self actually results in a change, rather than trying to kind of force myself to be with people?

ELIAS: Yes. I shall express to you that it is, in a manner of speaking, defeating of your direction to be attempting to be forcing yourself and forcing your energy into expressions that you are uncomfortable with and that merely reinforce the expression of fear.

You are addressing to the expression of fear. You are addressing to this monster. Why shall you offer this monster more sustenance, that it may grow even larger?

DARYL: I guess because mass beliefs say youíre supposed to face your fears and go out and deal with them.

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! And I shall express to you that within your movement, this IS what you are accomplishing, and in not reinforcing the expression of this fear, you ARE accomplishing addressing to it.

DARYL: Okay. ĎCause I go in these little circles, and then I start judging myself for not being with people, and that Iím bad that Iím not going out there and doing that. (Sighing) It doesnít help!

ELIAS: I am understanding, and in this, you create these movements upon your hamster wheel, so to speak, and reinforce this action of duplicity within yourself. I am expressing to you that it is, in your physical terms, unproductive, in relation to your objective, to be forcing your energy in this present time framework.

In actuality, within any time framework, force within energy is not the expression that shall create your desired effect, so to speak.

DARYL: Okay. So maybe I can let go of that a little bit then. (Laughing, and Elias chuckles)

Okay. (Sighing) One thing that I wanted to ask you about briefly is that I had an impression Ė or maybe itís a thought, I donít know Ė that while I do this, that Iím going to end up switching my primary aspect and end up with a different one, and about three weeks ago I felt like something like that has occurred, and I wondered what that is, if Iím identifying that or if Iím distorting something else.

ELIAS: You are allowing yourself to be recognizing actions that are occurring within you, as you are becoming more and more aware of self and noticing your movements and familiarizing yourself with you and more of your individual expressions.

I may express to you that you are exchanging positions of primary aspects in several motions, in actuality. This is not isolated to one movement or one event, so to speak. You have merely allowed yourself a recognition, within a particular moment, of this action occurring.

But I shall express to you also that you are experimenting momentarily, within different time frameworks, with different aspects of self in this primary position, and allowing yourself to be moving into the expression which is the most efficient within your focus, in the movement that you create in addressing to this element of fear. Therefore, your impression is correct.

DARYL: Okay. I also wanted to check with you on information for a couple people, if I could have their essence name, family, alignment, and orientation. The first one is Joan. (Pause)

ELIAS: Essence name, Joel; J-O-E-L. Essence family, Milumet.

DARYL: Really!

ELIAS: Alignment, Sumafi; orientation, soft.

DARYL: Really! That surprises me! Iíve actually met a soft person! (Elias chuckles) And I guess with her, Iíll also ask, have you been in contact with her?


DARYL: Okay, I thought so. Soft, huh? Okay, the second one is Kimbra. (Pause)

ELIAS: Essence name, Laurell; L-A-U-R-E-L-L.

DARYL: Two Lís at the end?

ELIAS: Correct.

DARYL: Okay.

ELIAS: Essence family, Tumold; alignment, Sumari.

DARYL: Sumari, okay.

ELIAS: Now; offer to me impression as to orientation.

DARYL: Soft.

ELIAS: You are correct.

DARYL: Wow. (Elias chuckles) Okay, well thatís ... because Iíve also had the impression that I have not had a lot of relationships with people holding the orientation of soft, especially lately.

ELIAS: You are correct, and I shall also express to you that many individuals that hold this orientation of soft draw themselves to individuals that are not of this orientation.

DARYL: Why is that? An attempt to fit in, or...?

ELIAS: Partially. I shall offer information concerning this action within another engagement, for this may be a subject, so to speak, within itself, for there is much to be offered concerning this particular action that is created within individuals that hold this orientation of soft.

But let me express to you briefly that individuals that hold the orientation of soft objectively are attracted, in a manner of speaking, to other individuals that are soft. They also experience what you may term to be a type of recognition of kinship objectively with other individuals holding this orientation.

But there is also an innate knowing within individuals of this orientation that in intimacy with each other, there is a tremendous expression of mirroring that is created in an intensity that many times may be creating of an objective uncomfortableness, and many individuals that hold this orientation of soft, in a manner of speaking, shy away from this type of interaction, for it is presenting them with intense challenges.

DARYL: Hmm. ĎCause Iíve kind of been drawn to that, but I also know that it scares me.

ELIAS: Quite.

DARYL: But I do feel a draw towards them.

ELIAS: Yes, and this is an aspect of your knowing in relation to your orientation. But as I have stated, I shall be offering more information concerning this subject matter subsequently.

DARYL: Okay. Well, our time for today is up, and I feel like Iíve got a lot to assimilate here.

ELIAS: As always!

DARYL: And I believe I can expect more assistance from you subjectively in doing that also.

ELIAS: And you may.

DARYL: Thatís good.

ELIAS: For I am always with you. To you, in tremendous affection and great encouragement in your movement, au revoir.

DARYL: Au revoir.

Elias departs at 4:34 PM.

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