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Friday, June 30, 2000

<  Session 653 (Private/Phone)  >

“Exploring Singular Intimacy”

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Tom (Malhai).

Elias arrives at 11:54 AM. (Arrival time is 18 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good morning!

TOM: Good morning! It’s a beautiful day, as always!

ELIAS: As always! (Chuckling)

TOM: So I guess I don’t have a lot prepared. I’m to send greetings from several people. Sena sends her greetings, and Ruther sends her greetings, and Muriel.

ELIAS: Very well, and you may extend my greetings to these individuals also.

TOM: I will do that. I have a question that Michael requested for Varsha. Varsha is from India, and would like to know essence name, family, and orientation.

ELIAS: Very well. Essence name, Enapoy; E-N-A-P-O-Y. (en’ah-pee) Essence family, Sumafi; alignment, Milumet; orientation, common.

TOM: Okay. Then I have a question for Muriel about a dream – the hamburger/fast-food dream that I was participating in, and showing her an ad that was indigo. Do you have a short comment for her on that, or shall I expand on the dream more?

ELIAS: Express to me, what is the inquiry associated with this dream imagery?

TOM: She is wondering what this dream is about, with me showing her an ad, and her asking me about fast-food hamburgers, and me replying that I had something to do with fast-food and hamburgers.

ELIAS: I shall express to you that you may offer to Muriel my inquiry as to what her impression is concerning this imagery, and in this, I am encouraging of her to be listening to self and allowing herself to be noticing what her impression is, associated with this particular imagery that she has presented to herself.

TOM: Okay, I will do that. I didn’t make a lot of notes because I figured we would come up with a subject, and you know what subject that is! (Laughing, and Elias chuckles)

First of all, I am going to ask you about my tone. This intrigues me now, since we talked about Malhaine and Malhai. Has my tone adjusted today again?

ELIAS: In the expression of the familiar, that you recognize as Malhai.

TOM: Okay. I guess I thought maybe we would discuss intimacy – and singular intimacy – today.

ELIAS: Very well.

TOM: And I guess my feeling is, all intimacy is singular. (Laughing) You know where I’m going with this! I guess I should maybe say more. With relationships and the actual creation of singular intimacy – and I know what you meant by that statement – but there seems to be a set mass belief in the method or the way people express this, and I was wondering if you had any comments in that area.

ELIAS: I am understanding of your direction and your curiosity in this subject matter, but within this subject matter, I shall also request to you that you offer an identification of specific direction in which you choose to proceed in this subject matter.

TOM: Okay. (Laughing) Well, within our perceptions and beliefs, it appears that we focus on or view intimacy as the capability of being with only one person, and I guess I see this as a capability that we are restricting.

ELIAS: I am understanding. Continue.

TOM: (Laughing) So, I guess I find it difficult to enter into these relationships because of these restrictions, and I’m not sure if this is something that is just ... how do I express this? (Pause)

In my expression, I guess, I seem to be opposing the mass beliefs that are restricting, and somehow this causes conflict for myself and others, and so I guess this is why I don’t enter into this. I’m more into playfulness ... and I don’t know what I’m asking! (Laughing)

ELIAS: HA HA HA! First of all, I shall establish that we are in agreement objectively – are we not? – that in relation to other individuals, you express your energy in a playful manner, and not necessarily in the expression of seriousness that other individuals may lean into.

TOM: I do, and I guess it’s about my own beliefs and perceptions of, if I do enter this, there are expectations, and it’s that bird again, that huge bird that is very difficult to lift! (Laughing)

ELIAS: And I may express to you that your assessment of the creation of relationships in this type of intimacy is quite correct, for within the expressions of most individuals throughout your physical dimension, as you create these types of intimate relationships in the vein of romanticism, you DO create MANY expectations in relation to your own behaviors and the behaviors of other individuals.

I am not expressing “you” singularly, but “you” generally, as may be identified as any individual in the participation of this particular creation. This is the movement that creates mass belief systems, that there are numerous individuals that align with the same aspects of beliefs and create very similar expressions, and this forms a mass belief system.

And in this, you are correct that as individuals align themselves with the movement of creating a singular, intimate relationship with another individual in romantic capacity, they do express expectations – and behaviors that reinforce those expectations – in that type of creation.

And I am quite understanding of your shying away from those types of involvements within YOUR reality, for you wish not to be objectively participating in that type of expression, recognizing that you also yourself align with many of these aspects of beliefs, but not wishing to be expressing those aspects in objective terms within your own expression of behaviors.

I shall also express to you that you flirt with this situation quite often, do you not? (Grinning)

TOM: Yes, I do!


In your game with other individuals, you express the energy in an allowance of some exhibitions of intimacy, but only to a point, for you create a division, so to speak, in what you view or perceive to be reasonable safety in your playing and your freedom that you allow yourself within your expression in relation to other individuals. (Chuckling)

TOM: Well, you’re exactly right on that! (Laughing) I seem to pick up energy from Marek, for instance, that after the shift is in place, we allow for many more choices, and this is why, I guess, that maybe I’m restricting my choices, so as not to perpetuate some of the mass beliefs, because I really think that intimacy can be held without the expectations. It’s singular with each individual, but in a manner of speaking, it’s not singular. It’s connecting with everyone, in some respects.

ELIAS: I am understanding, and you are correct.

In this, as I have stated previously in relation to this shift in consciousness, there are many aspects of your reality that you are redefining, and you are altering the actual manifestation of your reality as you widen your awareness and you move into the objective recognition of your beliefs and you allow yourself the expression of acceptance of those beliefs.

But I may also express to you the acknowledgment of the direction of association that you are expressing presently, in the recognition that although you may be moving your perception and understanding into an expression of less separation and less alignment with certain aspects of some of these belief systems, you also interact with and engage individuals in playfulness who have not yet quite moved their awareness and perception in the same manner. They may be occupying their attention in the addressing to other aspects of beliefs, and therefore have not quite allowed themselves movement in the same type of direction that you are allowing yourself within your movement.

Let me also express in relation to that statement a small aside, in an identification to all of you that no one individual is moving more rapidly than other individuals.

None of you need be creating the thought process within yourselves that you must be “catching up” to any other individual. Individuals may, in certain time frameworks, create rapid movement in particular expressions or directions, and that movement may be actualizing more quickly, so to speak, than other individuals’ expressions, but merely in one direction. In other directions, that same individual may not be creating as rapid of movement as other individuals.

Be remembering, none of you are engaging a race. You are all moving within the design of this shift in consciousness. You merely focus your attention in different manners, and allow yourself movement in the directions that hold significance or importance to each of you in any particular time framework.

Now; that being offered, in returning to our discussion of YOUR interaction, you DO draw yourself to other individuals that may be focusing their attention in a different manner and a different type of expression than are you in this subject matter.

In YOUR movement, you are allowing yourself the recognition, more and more, of a lack of separation between individuals, and in YOUR movement of this recognition, you have focused your attention in the expression of relationships. Other individuals may be offering themselves similar information in different subject matter, in different areas, so to speak.

Your choice of subject matter is that of relationships, which you offer to yourself as an example objectively in the recognition of a lack of separation, and therefore also a recognition of the affectingness of these mass belief systems and their expressions, with respect to how individuals interact with each other in intimate relationships and how they are creating expectations and limitations in their interactions with other individuals, and in this, you choose not to be singularly participating in that action.

ALTHOUGH I may also express to you, Malhai, that you also DO align with some of these mass belief systems, and there IS an underlying recognition within yourself as to this alignment, which reinforces your motivation to NOT be participating in singular expressions of intimate relationships, for you recognize the expressions that you yourself may also be expressing in behaviors that ARE in actuality quite in alignment with some aspects of mass belief systems. Therefore, you eliminate this engagement by not participating singularly.

I am not expressing to you right or wrong in these choices. Within your choices presently, you are creating an exploration and an avenue for your movement which is quite beneficial to you and offers you an efficient method, so to speak, in your addressment to your own alignment with certain aspects of beliefs concerning relationships.

TOM: Exactly. (Laughing, and Elias chuckles) These alignments that I do have are probably limiting my choices because of my perceptions of them.

ELIAS: Yes, you are correct, and I shall also express to you an acknowledgment in your choice to be examining those alignments with aspects of this belief system, and allowing yourself, within this time framework, to not be complicating your movement and your thought processes by engaging activities that present the actualization of those expressions in alignment with those aspects of beliefs.

Rather, you have chosen to not be engaging this type of activity in creating singular intimacy in relationships, and therefore offer yourself the ability to be addressing to these aspects of beliefs without complication and without distraction.

TOM: And without conflict! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Correct. (Chuckling) Let me express to you, I am quite aware of the motivation for the engagement of this subject matter this day!

TOM: (Laughing) Oh, I know you are!


I shall express to you that I have offered information to another individual quite purposefully, in recognition of their beliefs and the affectingness of their own assessment of self and automatic movement in the expression of discounting self, and therefore have expressed information to this individual with respect to your creations, knowing that this is not intrusive to you.

TOM: No, it isn’t. In fact, it’s enjoyable! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!

TOM: That’s the most difficult part with the intimacy issue that I have, is that others seem to discount themselves. They create a lot of ideas that I don’t believe are in my energy, or I don’t feel them in my energy, but they create areas in which they begin to discount themselves if their expectations are not met in certain areas.

ELIAS: Let me express to you, Malhai, the confusion arises and the expression of discounting of self is engaged, for individuals are moving in the expression of familiarity in association with the belief systems which are held concerning relationships.

Now; in this, you project an intensity and a strength of energy in association with other individuals which allows you, in your expression, a type of freedom, and in this, you express an openness of intimacy with other individuals, but you are not attaching a singularity to that intimacy, and in this, you offer yourself an expression of freedom to be playful, which I am recognizing of and may be identifying of.

Other individuals within your physical dimension are quite recognizing, objectively AND subjectively, of the intimacy that you are projecting. This is a familiar expression to you all, and therefore is easily recognized.

The confusion is created or engaged as the individual that is receiving that energy interprets it through the influence of their beliefs associated with the mass expression – that intimacy IS limited to individual expressions in relationships, and that it “should” be expressed singularly between two individuals if it is being expressed in this particular design. Are you understanding?

TOM: Yes, I am.

ELIAS: For there are many expressions of intimacy in relationships, but within this particular direction of expression, this particular type of relationship, you are correct – there are quite specific expectations of behaviors and directions of expressions in association with this type of intimacy in your society.

There are some societies within your physical dimension that do not align with these same types of expressions in mass belief systems, but monogamy is quite strongly expressed and held in mass belief system within YOUR society.

TOM: Oh, very much so! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!

TOM: A lot of the focuses that I view don’t hold that belief. I don’t know – maybe it’s bleed-through.

ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha! Do not credit your choices to other focuses! They merely lend energy to the enhancement, per se, of the choices that you create within THIS focus, but these are your choices and your expressions within this focus. YOU choose to be focusing your attention in this direction.

This offers you an opportunity to explore and experiment with different types of expressions, and you are offering yourself an exhibition of freedom within your reality which is beneficial also, for as you allow yourself to be playful in this type of experience, you may also associate that freedom and playfulness in OTHER directions associated with OTHER beliefs.

TOM: So you’re not going to let me hide behind other focuses then! (Elias cracks up) I know it’s not their choice, but.... (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! Ah, and how wondrously convenient this would be, to be holding the responsibility of your choices with other focuses! Ha ha ha ha ha!

TOM: Ah, yes! Somebody to blame! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Quite! Ha ha ha ha ha!

TOM: But yes, you’ve expressed exactly the energy and my feelings on this whole subject. Because I see that although there is intimacy in every relationship, like you said, it’s expressed differently. But I do project that somewhat in every relationship, I think.

ELIAS: I am in agreement with your identification of your projection of energy.

Let me also express to you that this expression offers an opportunity to other individuals also, and this may also be viewed within yourself as an opportunity to view how you interact with other individuals and how you are affecting of other individuals without a specific intention of being affecting.

Many individuals express the questioning as to how they shall be affecting in relation to this shift in consciousness, and their thought process moves them in the direction of attempting to be identifying in terms of specifics, and a “mission” or a purpose. I have expressed many, many times that the expressions that you offer in relation to this shift in consciousness and how you are affecting may not be so singularly identified.

But in your individual exploration of self and your beliefs and your offering of freedom to yourselves, you are automatically affecting within consciousness, and you may allow yourself to objectively view the affectingness as it is exhibited within the interactions of other individuals.

For in your playfulness and in your expression of intimacy – and your projection of energy in intensity IN that intimacy – you also allow other individuals the opportunity to view their beliefs and their alignment with aspects of mass belief systems and their automatic responses, their automatic behaviors, and their automatic expressions of expectations.

Therefore, you create, in a manner of speaking, an environment of exploration, not merely with yourself, but with other individuals.

TOM: That’s part of it – there is no mission. That’s part of having fun in our experiences, isn’t it?

ELIAS: Quite!

TOM: That’s the shift! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Yes, you are correct! Ha ha ha ha ha!

TOM: It doesn’t appear to be as complicated as we seem to make it!

ELIAS: I am quite in agreement with you, that you quite efficiently complicate your reality FAR beyond necessity! Ha ha ha!

TOM: It’s an old habit, an automatic habit. (Elias laughs)

Perception and energy appear to be almost the same thing. Am I saying this correctly? If our perception and our energy is moving, we move things without ... when the acceptance is there, there’s an effortlessness that moves our creations very efficiently, if that’s the correct word.

ELIAS: I am understanding of what you are expressing, and I shall say to you, energy is movement. Your perception may be identified as an instrument.

Your perception is, in a manner of speaking, a tool that you incorporate within this physical reality to be creating of your physical reality. Your energy – or the movement that you create – is, in a manner of speaking, the driving force, so to speak, which moves the mechanics of the perception.

TOM: Okay, I understand. I was thinking of this energy and intensity, and how easily ... for instance, merging with another individual, and how everybody recognizes that and views it through belief systems, which ties in again to intimacy and relationships. Is this something everybody will probably participate in futurely? It depends on individual choice, of course, but will the allowance for it be greater in the future?

ELIAS: As you actualize this shift in consciousness within your objective reality, yes, individuals shall be dropping this veil of separation.

I have stated to you that you are redefining your reality, and in this, as you address to and accept the belief systems that you have established within this reality, you also alter how you are creating your reality. Expressions that may have appeared to hold much importance previously may not be identified in that same intensity as you continue to redefine your reality in the acceptance of your belief systems, recognizing that there is no separation and that much of the perpetuation of the expressions of separations are merely an expression of your LACK of acceptance of self.

For in the genuine acceptance of self and trust of self, there is no longer the necessity for the expression of separation, for there is no threat to your individuality.

TOM: Exactly. It’s like catching more and more glimpses of this shift in full.

ELIAS: Quite, and in this, you are not creating an action of less intensity in experience. You are creating new avenues for your exploration, which creates new expressions of excitement!

TOM: Exactly! (They both laugh) Well, we’ve covered a lot for having nothing really noted like I usually do. This has been very informative. I always enjoy this energy exchange!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! Let me express to you that within conversation, you may be offering yourself more information than in a concentration of listed questions, so to speak, for within conversation, you allow yourself more of a willingness to participate, and to be listening!

TOM: Yes, listening to both of us!

ELIAS: Quite, and not such a preoccupation with the questioning itself! (Chuckling)

TOM: (Laughing) I guess this is probably why I chose to have this discussion, we’ll call it, rather than a session.

ELIAS: Ha ha! And I shall express to you that as you are all moving in relation to this shift in consciousness and you ARE opening to your periphery and you ARE widening your awareness, you are all also beginning the recognition of less and less separation between yourselves and myself and less of a distinction than you have held previously, and allowing yourselves more freedom in your interaction with myself in what you identify as friendship and the recognition of the benefit of that type of interaction rather than the exaltation of the teacher! Ha ha!

TOM: Oh, definitely! (Laughing) A very, very good friend ... as if we could use the term good anymore!

ELIAS: Ha ha ha!

TOM: (Laughing) Excellent. This has been excellent, and I guess this is the way I plan on approaching all future interaction, because the objective energy does ... it seems like we combine an energy that gives me a look, so to speak, into my exploration of self.

ELIAS: I am understanding, and this is the identification of energy exchange; not that one is offered or that one is replaced with another, but that both are mingled together to be creating a new expression.

TOM: Exactly, and a most enjoyable one! I was going to ask about a couple of family names, but I think my impressions are correct, and rather than verify them through this conversation, I’ll just go with them for now.

ELIAS: Very well, and I shall anticipate our future interaction, my friend, in an ongoing expression of playfulness! (Chuckling)

TOM: And I will too, my dear friend! (Laughing)

ELIAS: To you, in tremendous affection and in an expression of fun within energy, au revoir.

TOM: Au revoir.

Elias departs at 12:50 PM.

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